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Old 02-27-2016, 10:54 PM
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Originally Posted by GardenGal View Post
p.s. and thanks D, for the book tip! I'm an avid reader [when sober], so I will check it out.
Also wanted to ask if Strailya means you're from Oz. I went last year, and I LOVED IT. We saw the elusive cassowary! I want to go to New Zealand as well. I grow a lot of Australian plants. The hummingbirds like them.
Yep I'm an Aussie born and bred GardenGal - I'm definitely lucky

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Old 02-27-2016, 11:00 PM
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Ccc, my son also has Asperger's. We got an official diagnosis after 4 teachers insisted. My husband fought the whole way, but now accepts. I honestly believe my mother has it too, and much more severely. My husband also shows signs. I have always been quite sociable, so it's certainly not easy for me. You and I have a lot in common! And as has been said, likewise, my grandma detested my mother; in fact, wouldn't even raise her for the first several years [her g-ma did].

Yep, not easy to grow up in a dysfunctional family. All my parents ever did was fight. While it was very hard on me when they split up [mainly because then I knew my dad wasn't going to be around to protect me!], it was also a relief.

I've considered divorce a few times, but we are trying to work it out. My husband's family is even more dysfunctional, and most of this he never told me until we started couples counseling a few years ago. Sigh.

OK, nighty-night everyone. I cooked a nice dinner, and I feel like I might finally sleep better. I was always into cooking, but the meals don't turn out as nice after a couple of bottles of wine!

Talk to y'all tomorrow. p.s. and thanks D, for the book tip! I'm an avid reader [when sober], so I will check it out.
Also wanted to ask if Strailya means you're from Oz. I went last year, and I LOVED IT. We saw the elusive cassowary! I want to go to New Zealand as well. I grow a lot of Australian plants. The hummingbirds like them.
GG - there's do much of it around. The cycle has to be broken.

My ex husband fought my suspicions for years too. Even after the diagnosis from the best child development specialist in the country he still didn't believe it for years. And even now I'm not entirely sure hes completely convinced. Sigh.

We actually separated and divorced over it along with other things.

Yes....lol.....Dee means Australia. I'm from New Zealand, which is not a state of Australia like most people think lol. We're a separate country. Much smaller greener more humid a bit cooler. Australia is mostly very hot and dry and deserty. Both beautiful countries though.

Those cassowary birds are dangerous. I saw one at a petting zoo out in blacktown way in Sydney. I got quite up close it to and it looked mad in the eyes lol
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:03 PM
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SH I really hope you get a good sleep tonight. You sound a bit fed up with it. It will improve.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:33 PM
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I'm from New Zealand, which is not a state of Australia like most people think lol. We're a separate country.
For now...

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Old 02-27-2016, 11:49 PM
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NEVER ever mate lol

I don't want end up saying fush and chups thanks lol

Opps or that us that says that?
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:53 PM
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It's 9pm here and I'm winding day 9 up sober which I'm proud of after having a very emotionally taxing day. I'm hoping into bed with a cup of decaf tea to watch a movie on my laptop. Then have my melatonin tablet. Then lights out.

Night all :-)
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:55 PM
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Jump back in, friend. Don't let a slip get you down !!
God knows I've fallen, tripped, slipped, or just layed down and quit out of shame, in the past.
I've laid out my family story on here before, and frankly, it was antitheraputic for me to do it. Bipolar, suicides , addictions. My childhood life on some ways had good times, and horrors, and lately I've thought about what a bad troublesome child I was because of it. I took a path in life to change all that ( and it did change), although I carried the deep chunks knocked out of me as a "whole" person, into adulthood.
Thinking about this and the upcoming rest of my own life, really all of the sudden just revealed to me a reason for some real resolve about not damaging myself any worse by slowly killing myself drinking. The thing will be to hang on to this obvious truth, when cravings come calling.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Cococo View Post
NEVER ever mate lol

I don't want end up saying fush and chups thanks lol

Opps or that us that says that?
Yep...that's you lot love.
Glad to hear you sounding so chipper after today.

Love to all of you ~ Februbuddies. That's what we call ourselves in the '13 class.
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Old 02-27-2016, 11:59 PM
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Haha im up at 2:50 am- SOBER, laughing because y'all are sending quips back and forth at 8:50 pm on the other side of the globe ! I've just never paid attention to the times.
Sober this time of morning....... So different it's weird.
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Old 02-28-2016, 12:18 AM
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Day 7 done ! Busy busy day! goodnight all
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Old 02-28-2016, 01:51 AM
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Just kidding Cococo

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Got through day 2. My hours are pretty darn odd right now, and my nerves are still rattled, but sure better than yesterday. Fighting off a depression episode, which is common for me, in the wake of a bender. An oddity of my deeper funks, is that I don't fight the drinking urges, and my body doesn't ask for it. Temporary reprieve of sorts from craving, but being down in the dumps.

The real danger ahead, is when I am no longer in a funk, and where I go from there. I don't wanna repeat the cycle.
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Old 02-28-2016, 02:18 AM
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Hi everyone.
I am in Australia too, in the south. Not very deserty where I am X
My son has autism and it can be heartbreaking at times. He is the love of my life and I worry about him endlessly.
Another sober weekend for me. I am starting to quite enjoy it. I have definitely been eating like a pig though!
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Old 02-28-2016, 02:48 AM
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Yep...that's you lot love.
Oh yeah you lot say feesh and cheeps lol
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Good morning everyone! A whole week for me if I make it through today, and I plan to. I got to the place where the noon meeting is held yesterday and there was no parking! It's in a downtown area. I was so ticked off. Had to go back to work without going to my meeting. I work again today. This job is a killer.
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I turned up to my meeting this morning feeling sorry for myself because I couldn't see getting through the rest of the day sober as an option. Someone in the meeting turned up drunk - he thought he was on top of the world but really everyone was irritated by him. He kept interrupting peoples' shares, including someone who had relapsed but turned back up to a meeting anyway, which is really harmful in this persons' recovery! It made me remember that my drinking causes harm to others as well as myself. I can't take that one drink because I know I won't stop, the one drink will turn into one bottle, then one trip to the supermarket for a lot more bottles. I need to stop thinking too far ahead, so I'm focusing on staying sober for the rest of the day.

Coco - Hope that sleep made you feel better about everything. My mum tried to kick me out when I was getting sober because she got frustrated at my withdrawal! She didn't like things being about something other than her. There's no use being angry over it, you have to focus on yourself and your health right now. You did the right thing and took care of yourself by changing your email address and phone number!

CuteNGay - That's your first week of sobriety down! Well done!!

Flaco - Well done for getting through Day 2. The first few days are the hardest, keep focusing on what you want from your sobriety. I find it helpful to set goals (still small goals at the moment) so it feels like I'm getting my life back together. I have a tendency to look for a quick fix so I found it helpful to make a few visible changes.

Karen - Think about how brilliant it'll feel to be able to say one week sober! Just focus on making it through the day. I once walked in the pouring rain to get to a meeting, turned up absolutely drenched, and it had been called off so I had to walk back home! I was not happy. It put me off going to meetings for a while and then I started drinking again. Don't let it put you off!
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Morning all! 4 am here Day 9. Slept in fits. Might make a visit to a walk in urgent care, my lungs hurt badly. Blerch. I usually don't catch the stuff going around.

Going to try coffee and healthy breakfast and see how that goes. It doesn't help to have concerned cats glued to my face all night .

JL, I am very proud of you! Flaco, back on the horse, don't beat yourself up.

I am very sorry to those of you struggling with family. It is very hard because the default should be nurturing parents, and when that isn't the case the children certainly pay the price. If Dee recommends a book, then it's worth reading for sure. Dee our wise man!

Take care all
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Hi OT

Please don't drink. You would just have to start on day 1 again. Please stay strong.

What day are you on now?

Ive got to read every single post when doing our class tally list, and I have seen a very common theme! It appears that once our classmates reach that 3 week mark they seem SUPER happy and strong with very few cravings. Not every single classmate, but the majority. OT, you aren't far away love to things being easier.

Thanks for the support. Youre right, I have to focus on my recovery and block out everything else that's going to affect that.

That's not cool really, showing up really drunk at a AA meeting. I know actively drinking alcoholics should be allowed to go because the meeting might snap them into action, but still.......everybody sober has to put up with up it. It would irritate me.
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This class is the greatest. "We'll get it done, then live in fun!" Keep the messages coming. They are a great help.
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Morning all! 4 am here Day 9. Slept in fits. Might make a visit to a walk in urgent care, my lungs hurt badly. Blerch. I usually don't catch the stuff going around.

Going to try coffee and healthy breakfast and see how that goes. It doesn't help to have concerned cats glued to my face all night .

JL, I am very proud of you! Flaco, back on the horse, don't beat yourself up.

I am very sorry to those of you struggling with family. It is very hard
because the default should be nurturing parents, and when that isn't the case the children certainly pay the price. If Dee recommends a book, then it's worth reading for sure. Dee our wise man!

Take care all
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You get to the doctor Today, hon. I want to hear how it went, and what youre taking (kale juice- WTH). Lol !!
Honest, please get to feeling better, and I hope Sunday and are good in the SD area. God I dont miss that LA traffic though, whew !
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