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Marchia in Aeternum
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Nons, once I read this What Happens to Your Body Within an Hour of Drinking a Coke I quit drinking sodas.
I've loved iced tea for a long time and drink it unsweetened. Sometimes 1/2 and 1/2 with sweetened or with lemonade. Artificial sweeteners monkey with your system in different ways but monkey they do.
I've loved iced tea for a long time and drink it unsweetened. Sometimes 1/2 and 1/2 with sweetened or with lemonade. Artificial sweeteners monkey with your system in different ways but monkey they do.
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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Originally Posted by ScrewdUpInDe 
One more pickup line .... please
This ones for Jen.
Free massages!
This ones for Jen.
Free massages!
You know- the first one was an accident, I didn't realize what kind of place I was in, then the guy started getting a little carried away, and my first reaction was to tell him to stop- but I was bored so I just kinda let it happen.....
Then I had to pay and it was awkward.
But a new kind of deviance was then born! Haha
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SU- my neighbour is clever- he invited me over for a massage haha.
I have to create a bit of distance with him though, he's been trying to get me to be his girlfriend for a while and I keep telling him no.
He pretends to accept it, but he's been kinda doing some lashing out at me passively aggressively so I think he's getting frustrated.
I'm gonna do my usual pushing away.
I've been straight with him from the start though.
I have to create a bit of distance with him though, he's been trying to get me to be his girlfriend for a while and I keep telling him no.
He pretends to accept it, but he's been kinda doing some lashing out at me passively aggressively so I think he's getting frustrated.
I'm gonna do my usual pushing away.
I've been straight with him from the start though.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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We have pure leaf here, Jen. I usually make my own iced tea - but I'll pick up Pure Leaf if I'm out running around and get thirsty. I have a machine that's kinda like a coffee maker that makes iced tea. You brew tea into a pitcher full of ice, so it's cold right away. Pretty slick.
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My best friend studies psychology and she thinks that I always run into this type of situation because I fall into the " avoidant/ dismissive" category, so it apparently this makes others try to 'win' with me.
When it doesn't work they lash out at me.
But I'm not playing a chase me game, I mean it.
If I want to be with someone, they'll know it without a doubt.
He's not mean, but he is getting frustrated and annoyed with me.
When it doesn't work they lash out at me.
But I'm not playing a chase me game, I mean it.
If I want to be with someone, they'll know it without a doubt.
He's not mean, but he is getting frustrated and annoyed with me.
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Originally Posted by MLD51
We have pure leaf here, Jen. I usually make my own iced tea - but I'll pick up Pure Leaf if I'm out running around and get thirsty. I have a machine that's kinda like a coffee maker that makes iced tea. You brew tea into a pitcher full of ice, so it's cold right away. Pretty slick.
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Join Date: May 2014
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Originally Posted by Tetra
But one thing is becoming clear: mom and dad have been involved in every aspect of my life and have an opinion about everything I do. And I can't live my life consistently seeking my parents approval if I ever want to truly grow up.
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Originally Posted by Jsbodhi
You're also not seeing him behind their backs- you're just seeing him.
It's none of their business what you do- could you imagine me trying to get my mothers approval for the stuff I do?
It's none of their business what you do- could you imagine me trying to get my mothers approval for the stuff I do?
Giving up is NOT an option.
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But you should see my mom's kitchen. Even more stuff. It's ridiculous, actually. Everyone always gives us cooking stuff for gifts because they know we love to cook. And my mom gives me her older things when she buys the newest and best. They always work just fine.
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This is a list of the some of the avoidant dismissive behaviours and I do or have done almost all of them.
Not very nice, but I wasn't even really aware of it.
Saying (or thinking) “I’m not ready to commit”—but staying together nonetheless, sometimes for years.
Focusing on small imperfections in your partner: the way s/he talks, dresses, eats, or (fill in the blank) and allowing it to get in the way of your romantic feelings.
Pining after an ex-girlfriend/ boyfriend.
Not saying, “I love you”—while implying that you do have feelings towards the other person.
Pulling away when things are going well (e.g., not calling for several days after an intimate date).
Forming relationships with an impossible future, such as with someone who is married.
“Checking out mentally” when your partner talks to you.
Keeping secrets and leaving things foggy—to maintain your feelings of independence.
Not very nice, but I wasn't even really aware of it.
Saying (or thinking) “I’m not ready to commit”—but staying together nonetheless, sometimes for years.
Focusing on small imperfections in your partner: the way s/he talks, dresses, eats, or (fill in the blank) and allowing it to get in the way of your romantic feelings.
Pining after an ex-girlfriend/ boyfriend.
Not saying, “I love you”—while implying that you do have feelings towards the other person.
Pulling away when things are going well (e.g., not calling for several days after an intimate date).
Forming relationships with an impossible future, such as with someone who is married.
“Checking out mentally” when your partner talks to you.
Keeping secrets and leaving things foggy—to maintain your feelings of independence.
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Originally Posted by MLD51
I'm about to try out the new pressure cooker. Beef stroganoff in 30 minutes. I'll report back. If it doesn't blow up in my face, that is.
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