Class of September 2016 Part 4
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Originally Posted by Windancer 
Greetings!
49 sober days today ....I think, anyway. tekink??? lol
49 sober days today ....I think, anyway. tekink??? lol
yup, today is day 50 but it's not quite over! come next monday I'll be in uncharted territory. I've not gone longer than 8 week without a drink. At that time I thought I'd be OK just drinking on vacation. Of course when vacation was over the drinking continued on.
it was a long day today but overall OK. I stayed busy and ate well but I wish I had some ice cream right now.
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Hi all,
Does anyone else keep having 'Flashbacks' to things they did while drunk? I keep going back over things and CRINGING! Rambling lat a colleague I didn't even know that well as we travelled back from a meeting on a train and I got increasingly wasted and loud, puking in public, stupid drunk texts.
And that's just the stuff I can remember, which is only a tiny percentage of what actually happened, I'm sure. Ugh.
Can't stop beating myself up about this.
Does anyone else keep having 'Flashbacks' to things they did while drunk? I keep going back over things and CRINGING! Rambling lat a colleague I didn't even know that well as we travelled back from a meeting on a train and I got increasingly wasted and loud, puking in public, stupid drunk texts.
And that's just the stuff I can remember, which is only a tiny percentage of what actually happened, I'm sure. Ugh.
Can't stop beating myself up about this.
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I might have said this here or somewhere else, but after a while beating yourself up over things you cannot change just gets self indulgent.
I'm not saying that to put you down or dismiss your pain SSOH but a lot of us would recognize the behaviour of dealing with something we cannot fix - and winding ourselves up so much that we drink over it.
It's the ghost of old behaviours,
If you can make amends make amends - when the time is right for all parties.
Then move on.
If you can't make amends do the next best thing - live 'right'.
There's nothing we can do about past events or mistakes, but there's an amazing amount we can can do with each new day.
It would be a shame to miss that because we were facing the other way
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I'm not saying that to put you down or dismiss your pain SSOH but a lot of us would recognize the behaviour of dealing with something we cannot fix - and winding ourselves up so much that we drink over it.
It's the ghost of old behaviours,
If you can make amends make amends - when the time is right for all parties.
Then move on.
If you can't make amends do the next best thing - live 'right'.
There's nothing we can do about past events or mistakes, but there's an amazing amount we can can do with each new day.
It would be a shame to miss that because we were facing the other way
D
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Good morning folks.
Thanks Dee. I've also spent time cringing over things I've done or said while drinking (there is no shortage there!) Your advice makes a lot of sense. I will try to remember that going forward.
Day 13 here. I've lost 6 pounds since starting to quit two months ago, and I have made no other changes than quitting drinking. Just goes to show that those extra pounds are just the booze!
I was doing more organizing yesterday when I ran across something I thought was lost many years ago - our family home movies. I dug out a vcr last night and hooked it up to a dvd recorder so that I can transfer the tapes to dvd's. They start when my daughter is about six months old. I've got both my children's first steps, my newborn son in the hospital, Christmases, family parties, and on and on. They are particularly poignant because my son passed away four years ago. It was a very emotional night, and one where two months ago I would have sat there sobbing through several bottles of wine while watching them. Instead I was completely present.
I've only got a couple of hours done so far and there is still lots to go. I was messaging with my daughter last night and if I am able to get them on dvd's I will make a copy for her to give to her dad for Christmas.
Have a good one everyone
Thanks Dee. I've also spent time cringing over things I've done or said while drinking (there is no shortage there!) Your advice makes a lot of sense. I will try to remember that going forward.
Day 13 here. I've lost 6 pounds since starting to quit two months ago, and I have made no other changes than quitting drinking. Just goes to show that those extra pounds are just the booze!
I was doing more organizing yesterday when I ran across something I thought was lost many years ago - our family home movies. I dug out a vcr last night and hooked it up to a dvd recorder so that I can transfer the tapes to dvd's. They start when my daughter is about six months old. I've got both my children's first steps, my newborn son in the hospital, Christmases, family parties, and on and on. They are particularly poignant because my son passed away four years ago. It was a very emotional night, and one where two months ago I would have sat there sobbing through several bottles of wine while watching them. Instead I was completely present.
I've only got a couple of hours done so far and there is still lots to go. I was messaging with my daughter last night and if I am able to get them on dvd's I will make a copy for her to give to her dad for Christmas.
Have a good one everyone
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Originally Posted by Dee74
There's nothing we can do about past events or mistakes, but there's an amazing amount we can can do with each new day.
It would be a shame to miss that because we were facing the other way
D
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Thank you so much everyone!!! I am proud that I have gotten this far. Huge difference between me now and me a couple months ago. Thinking of it that way it's amazing really ... I can just imagine how I'll feel with many more months or years of sobriety.
And, go for the gold CAGY! 55 days is pretty awesome
I am proud that I have gotten this far. Huge difference between me now and me a couple months ago. Thinking of it that way it's amazing really ... I can just imagine how I'll feel with many more months or years of sobriety. And, go for the gold CAGY! 55 days is pretty awesome
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Originally Posted by SomeSortOfHuman
I will try to remember this! I think a certain amount of reflection on things done while drunk is helpful, as it exposes that drinking was not in fact fun after all. When tempted by a drink, I try to remember that this is where it leads. But I agree that too much of this thinking becomes counter-productive and backward-looking...
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Hey Martin. I'm on my third "day 14" since starting to quit in early September. I still find things that feel a little triggering. For example today at bowling someone needed changed so she said well I may as well go buy a beer to get change and I though "yum" but managed to put it out of my mind. Also a local winery was vandalized and they had to dump $3million worth of wine, so of course the news and social media is full of people talking about what a shame it is that all that wine had to be wasted. Sigh. But I am hanging in there and feel that I am at my strongest day 14 yet.
How about you?
How about you?
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Originally Posted by HelenofTroy
Hey Martin. I'm on my third "day 14" since starting to quit in early September. I still find things that feel a little triggering. For example today at bowling someone needed changed so she said well I may as well go buy a beer to get change and I though "yum" but managed to put it out of my mind. Also a local winery was vandalized and they had to dump $3million worth of wine, so of course the news and social media is full of people talking about what a shame it is that all that wine had to be wasted. Sigh. But I am hanging in there and feel that I am at my strongest day 14 yet.
How about you?
How about you?
I have been offered beer a few times but have said no. I have been in many shops over the past two weeks and just got a non alcoholic drink. The shop I usually bought beer from must be worried about me, they haven't seen me in ages
I am starting to feel a bit better in terms of drinking, I know it is pointless and if I have some beer now even though I will feel good for a bit I will feel much worse the next day and probably have another meltdown. I am enjoying seeing little improvements in my recovery and don't want to have to start again.
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