One Year and Under Club Part 48
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Gleefan,
You have a great attitude. Good for you for not losing control. Just ride that wave.
I was fired in feb2012 from a 20yr career. I got lazy and deserved it. First thing I did was buy vodka.
I was an every day drinker up to that point. After that, I became an all day drinker within a week or two. I spent all my money, all my 401k, maxed out all my credit cards before I found a job. I was reckless and drunk all the time.
I would give ANYTHING to redo the last couple years. I made such a huge mess, it's unbelievable.
Drinking did only made things worse. Much much worse. Just don't let that demon into your situation. Talk to hubby and let him know you believe in him. That this was meant to be and that the future will be BETTER than the past.
You have a great attitude. Good for you for not losing control. Just ride that wave.
I was fired in feb2012 from a 20yr career. I got lazy and deserved it. First thing I did was buy vodka.
I was an every day drinker up to that point. After that, I became an all day drinker within a week or two. I spent all my money, all my 401k, maxed out all my credit cards before I found a job. I was reckless and drunk all the time.
I would give ANYTHING to redo the last couple years. I made such a huge mess, it's unbelievable.
Drinking did only made things worse. Much much worse. Just don't let that demon into your situation. Talk to hubby and let him know you believe in him. That this was meant to be and that the future will be BETTER than the past.
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I'm sorry your husband got laid off Glee. I think for what it's worth you're doing all the right things.
It's ok to feel fear or to think why me or to think all manner of what ifs - we just can't let those thoughts fester.
I hope you find this is one of those ends that is actually a beginning
D
It's ok to feel fear or to think why me or to think all manner of what ifs - we just can't let those thoughts fester.
I hope you find this is one of those ends that is actually a beginning
D
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Bluefairy I love modern family! One of my top favorite shows. I think I've seen every episode. Cam always makes me laugh.
Glee it's very inspiring to see how you're handling the situation. I hope your husband is able to find another work opportunity soon.
Womp flew by. I was thrown a handful of tasks all at once and got everything done quickly and correctly. Something that def wouldn't have happened if I was stil drinking.
Glee it's very inspiring to see how you're handling the situation. I hope your husband is able to find another work opportunity soon.
Womp flew by. I was thrown a handful of tasks all at once and got everything done quickly and correctly. Something that def wouldn't have happened if I was stil drinking.
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Glee, that sounds really hard. Losing a job is always a tough blow. I remember losing mine when my son was under a year old... It turned out to be the best thing that could have happened as, instead of continuing to work in a dead end job, I took the plunge and started my own business which, 12 years later, is very successful, gives me satisfaction and brings in far more money than my old job ever could have.
A lot of those clouds end up having silver linings and a lot of stuff happens for a reason even when we don't get it straight off.
Sending you positive thoughts!
A lot of those clouds end up having silver linings and a lot of stuff happens for a reason even when we don't get it straight off.
Sending you positive thoughts!
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Good morning. Today and tomorrow is my " weekend". Thurs and Fri are my days off for the next couple of weeks and then I will get some real weekends. I can't wait!
I know weekends are the time when I usually get those cravings so I will be ready with all of the tools I have learned to cope and get through them.
I know weekends are the time when I usually get those cravings so I will be ready with all of the tools I have learned to cope and get through them.
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Thanks Undies
When I drank I thought I needed to throw myself at everything, demand answers, and predict others responses. I felt angry, tense, and worried most of the time. I thought that was how to guarantee success, but truth is it never prevented the bumps in the road from appearing.
Thanks to all of you and the people in AA, I've developed a different approach of doing my best today, like BoozeFree referenced above.
I'll catch up with all the posts later, just wanted to send a huge thank you for your kind words before I head into work. I needed to see that.
When I drank I thought I needed to throw myself at everything, demand answers, and predict others responses. I felt angry, tense, and worried most of the time. I thought that was how to guarantee success, but truth is it never prevented the bumps in the road from appearing.
Thanks to all of you and the people in AA, I've developed a different approach of doing my best today, like BoozeFree referenced above.
I'll catch up with all the posts later, just wanted to send a huge thank you for your kind words before I head into work. I needed to see that.
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Gleefan, I was let go suddenly about three years ago so I know how stressful and difficult that is. It sounds like you are handling this well and I hope Your husband is too and can find something else soon.
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Well done BeFre and very one else reaching milestones.
GF I know you have the fortitude and ability to weather any storms, but I hope for plain sailing and hubby gets another job quickly.
GF I know you have the fortitude and ability to weather any storms, but I hope for plain sailing and hubby gets another job quickly.
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Originally Posted by KeyofC 
It's been quiet in a lot of the forums. I'm gonna be quiet too. I just think I need a hug ((hug)).....
Originally Posted by gleefan
Remember how I posted this morning that I practice recovery so I can handle life when it gets bumpy?
This morning my life was going relatively smoothly. The shortly after I posted, my husband informed me that he was laid off. He is the breadwinner and the loss of his income threatens all of our financial security.
It's due to corporate restructuring - there's nothing he did wrong, and there's nothing he could have done to prevent it.
When he told me the news, I cried. I ran all the worst case scenarios in my head. I felt angry at how unfair it is. I wondered if it was going to send me to drink. My husband has issues with alcohol; I wondered if this would this send him deep into the bottle....
Then I put recovery into practice. I took deep breaths to calm down. I stayed in the moment. I said the Serenity Prayer. This put my concerns in perspective. I accepted that life has bumps. I accepted that we are losing our primary income. I remembered that the life I have in mind for myself may not be the one my HP wants for me. I reached out to other alcoholics for support.
I was working at home today. In my job, in a customer service call center, I have to keep an even keel no matter what's going on. When I found my demeanor dropping, I just came right back to the present and added some positivity and buoyancy to my voice.
There's no saying how my husband will handle this obstacle, or how it'll play out for my family. It was pointed out to me that there's opportunity for relationship growth with this challenge. I don't know. I know that I'll do what I need to do; I'll go to work, go to AA meetings, post on SR, reach out to give and receive support, see my friends, take the kids to hockey, exercise, eat my veggies, work hard, and do my best. In this struggle I have an opportunity to be a power of example - instead of a hot mess that needs to be calmed and tamed.
Any other suggestions or support would be wonderful!
This morning my life was going relatively smoothly. The shortly after I posted, my husband informed me that he was laid off. He is the breadwinner and the loss of his income threatens all of our financial security.
It's due to corporate restructuring - there's nothing he did wrong, and there's nothing he could have done to prevent it.
When he told me the news, I cried. I ran all the worst case scenarios in my head. I felt angry at how unfair it is. I wondered if it was going to send me to drink. My husband has issues with alcohol; I wondered if this would this send him deep into the bottle....
Then I put recovery into practice. I took deep breaths to calm down. I stayed in the moment. I said the Serenity Prayer. This put my concerns in perspective. I accepted that life has bumps. I accepted that we are losing our primary income. I remembered that the life I have in mind for myself may not be the one my HP wants for me. I reached out to other alcoholics for support.
I was working at home today. In my job, in a customer service call center, I have to keep an even keel no matter what's going on. When I found my demeanor dropping, I just came right back to the present and added some positivity and buoyancy to my voice.
There's no saying how my husband will handle this obstacle, or how it'll play out for my family. It was pointed out to me that there's opportunity for relationship growth with this challenge. I don't know. I know that I'll do what I need to do; I'll go to work, go to AA meetings, post on SR, reach out to give and receive support, see my friends, take the kids to hockey, exercise, eat my veggies, work hard, and do my best. In this struggle I have an opportunity to be a power of example - instead of a hot mess that needs to be calmed and tamed.
Any other suggestions or support would be wonderful!
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