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Old 09-28-2015, 10:48 AM
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Lol my auto correct changes stuff all the time..if y'all see crazy things that shouldn't be there...that's why!
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I post primarily from my phone; my autocorrect comes up with some wacky stuff.

BoozeFree - I hope you had a good day at womp. Mine was so-so. Parts were good, others were challenging. As I get deeper into recovery and the 12 steps I understand better WHY certain things trigger me, WHAT underlying insecurity they trigger, and HOW to respond instead of react. That really is so freeing - and more than I ever expected from going to a poorly lit church basement to avoid drinking!! In any event, I didn't give myself permission to allow the small bad things to spiral into big worries. I focused on the positive things that happened. That sounds extremely simple - but it's taken this complicated soul some 40 years to be willing to try.

KofC - I like to be busy, too, but I used to use busyness to avoid depression and anxiety. For me, I found that slowly and methodically facing my pain and troubles is teaching me how to peacefully coexist with it. You are doing amazing and on the road to being able to let go and relax. Recovery is a journey.

WWS - Keep doing what you're doing - taking care of yourself. Good work.

Drake - I had a great view of the moon at my house too. Thanks for sharing..... How did things turn out for your neighbor?

Gnik - When I drank every morning was a groggy Monday! Lol! When I stopped drinking I still felt hungover and groggy. When people would talk about how great they felt, I was puzzled. Then I learned it takes some bodies longer than others to heal, and was told to keep holding on. Yesterday, at 7:30 on a Sunday morning, with no exercise or coffee, I felt amazing hauling my kiddo to hockey. This, I realized, must be what the others were talking about all those months ago when I first quit. I'm grateful I hung in there.

Saskia - Your message about letting go is inspirational. I carried it with me all day. Thank you!

I love the discussions surrounding recovery and healing on this thread.
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Old 09-29-2015, 03:09 AM
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Glee I smile every time I see you have posted! Thank you! ((Hug))!
I have to say that my sobriety and recovery process is not a cake walk nor has it been easy for me. 71 days I try to learn something new every day. My coping skills I used to have were in survival mode. I learned those techniques from a bad childhood and they hung around into early adulthood and stuck around due to my addiction and not growing up emotionally due to the addiction.
As bad as I sometimes think I have it I have seen on here some folks have it far worse. I see that my life can change and will change if I work my recovery and believe in myself and apply the changes I need in my life. I see how lucky I am to have the support system and to really have the power of love work in my life. I see now that under all these cloaks I have worn in the past I am a good person and I deserve to have a positive life, addiction free. I want to scoop up these people who are having such a hard time and take them with me. I want to show them if they change their thinking it will change their lives! My heart breaks for them and I pray for anyone on this site who is suffering or struggling. ((Hug)). My words are genuine and I hope you find peace from your demons so you can have a good life. A life you were meant to have.
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Good morning. I had good news from work in that weekends will be rotated mow among four people so I will now have most weekends off after working weekends for over two years now. This will start in three weeks. This has already lifted a lot of stress from me and I feel much better about my job now. It is like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

I know this will help my recovery effort. I can focus more on positive things instead of what can go wrong at work.

You are inspirational Key!

Have a good and sober day everyone.
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Just by posting to others I really believe we can make a difference Key
Glad things look like getting better waywardson

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Originally Posted by waywardson8260 View Post
Good morning. I had good news from work in that weekends will be rotated mow among four people so I will now have most weekends off after working weekends for over two years now. This will start in three weeks. This has already lifted a lot of stress from me and I feel much better about my job now. It is like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

I know this will help my recovery effort. I can focus more on positive things instead of what can go wrong at work.

You are inspirational Key!

Have a good and sober day everyone.
Yeah after dreading most of the summer the return of tv and me working more nights, I got it worked out with my boss that I can leave work 15 minutes early to get home by 8pm on the nights I close if I want. This will make my life so much better...I'd still push for not closing more than 1 day except the co worker that would have to pick up the extra nights is going to school and it's a lot for him. He's also one of the best kids we've ever had. Yeah I know-- tv's not for everyone but I like it and I hate missing my shows.
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Thank you Dee I just try ((hug))
Thank you Wayward! You all keep me pushing forward!
Hope everyone has a good night!
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That's super, WWS!
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Good Evening Undies,

Working on 14 days right now and feel blessed to be sober. A fog has been lifted. Lots of work to do, but I must never have that first drink!

Thankful to still have a marriage (albeit a rocky one), great job and my sanity. Oh, also thankful the Eagles got a win this Sunday

Thank you to all who have helped in my first 2 weeks. Wow, have I done some self-realization and see how powerless and messed up my way of thinking is.

Long road ahead, but I am feeling excited and empowered.
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
Just by posting to others I really believe we can make a difference Key
Glad things look like getting better waywardson

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Quite right! When I have been struggling it has often been the kindness of strangers posting on this site that has pulled me through.

Now I try to repay that in some small ways which is something which also enables me to keep my own recovery in the forefront of my mind. The fact that I'm on Easy Street this week doesn't mean that next week won't throw up a can of worms!!

Stay well all!!!
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Crete! You are an Eagles fan?/Great!!! Pardew and Cabaye will get us into Europe this season! Watch this space!!!

Also congratulations on 2 weeks. That is surely the hardest part done!
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Welcome, Crete and congrats on 2 weeks! Sounds like you've got the right attitude.

Amp, I also find that in posting to others struggling, I get so much back. It helps to keep me on the straight and narrow.
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Welcome Crete!

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My coping skills I used to have were in survival mode. I learned those techniques from a bad childhood and they hung around into early adulthood and stuck around due to my addiction and not growing up emotionally due to the addiction.
Me too KoC. I think this may be many people in recovery's experience.

In past attempts to get sober, I tended to minimize my problems because I found there were people so much worse off than I was; all that did was send me back to drinking. With regard to other people's problems, I learned the concept called The 3 C's: I didn't Cause it, I can't Control it, and I can't Cure it. Developing my own skills for positive, constructive, responsible living is my priority! I can share it with others, then accept their choices whether or not to listen to my suggestions.

Amp - One time at a meeting, one of the newer people with just a bit more sober time than me was sharing how well his life was going. An old timer said that's great, then reminded him "This too will pass." Fact is, life has its ups and downs. It's important to keep working on recovery, even when things seem to be going smoothly - whether that's working on the issues underlying your alcoholism or sharing your experiences with others.

Thanks for letting me blah blah here! Is the only space I've found where people are talking about recovery at a higher level.
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Really nothing new to report today. Just checking in and saying Hi to everyone. Thanks again for all of your support and encouragement.

Bluefairy- Sometimes at work little things like that make a big difference and sometimes it shows that management values you and wants to keep you around. Hey, but are there any TV shows left that are worth watching? It seems like all of the good ones have gotten the axe.

Welcome Crete and congratulations on two weeks! There is still a long way to go but you have gotten past the hardest part.

Have a great day everybody.
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(((Hug))) Glee! You always put me back into the perspective I need to be on the right track of thinking! So thankful, thank you!
Wayward I'm glad youre here posting! The hardest thing I am learning is it's ok to just "be". It's ok to not have drama going on. It's ok for life to be ordinary. It's ok for me to not have to be awesome (just kidding Lol) everyday. I have to practice this concept of just being able to "be" in the here in now. In my addiction I was so used to things always being in an uproar. It's hard for everything to be good and calm and me not freak out thinking "omg! something is wrong!" It's not...this is when everything is almost right, near perfect, and certainly normal. Thank you for your post in regard to "nothing new to report, really"..it helped me remind myself of all this right now..((hug))
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Crete congrats on 2 weeks. That's great!

Just checkin in really quick before womp. I was so tired yesterday I spent most of the day watching tv and sleeping. Back to the womp land now.
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Really nothing new to report today. Just checking in and saying Hi to everyone. Thanks again for all of your support and encouragement.

Bluefairy- Sometimes at work little things like that make a big difference and sometimes it shows that management values you and wants to keep you around. Hey, but are there any TV shows left that are worth watching? It seems like all of the good ones have gotten the axe.

Have a great day everybody.
It takes a lot of research and trial and error but I find 'em and hey-- I had to watch The Muppets last night at 8 lol. What's funny is I forget my watch and had to rely on a messed up clock on the scale, managed to still get out about 13 till 8, then there was some kind of emergency work being done on the road--traffic backed up and and my road home blocked off--went through alley and flew the rest of the way home (except for annoying person in front of me who was going speed limit and under the last way home) Finally get in the door and son was having trouble switching cable so missed first few minutes anyway lol.

Hopefully the universe got it out of it's system in it's wanting to stop me from primetime... tonight starts with the middle at 8 and I like everything up till 10--mostly Modern family.
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It's been quiet in a lot of the forums. I'm gonna be quiet too. I just think I need a hug ((hug)).....
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Remember how I posted this morning that I practice recovery so I can handle life when it gets bumpy?

This morning my life was going relatively smoothly. The shortly after I posted, my husband informed me that he was laid off. He is the breadwinner and the loss of his income threatens all of our financial security.

It's due to corporate restructuring - there's nothing he did wrong, and there's nothing he could have done to prevent it.

When he told me the news, I cried. I ran all the worst case scenarios in my head. I felt angry at how unfair it is. I wondered if it was going to send me to drink. My husband has issues with alcohol; I wondered if this would this send him deep into the bottle....

Then I put recovery into practice. I took deep breaths to calm down. I stayed in the moment. I said the Serenity Prayer. This put my concerns in perspective. I accepted that life has bumps. I accepted that we are losing our primary income. I remembered that the life I have in mind for myself may not be the one my HP wants for me. I reached out to other alcoholics for support.

I was working at home today. In my job, in a customer service call center, I have to keep an even keel no matter what's going on. When I found my demeanor dropping, I just came right back to the present and added some positivity and buoyancy to my voice.

There's no saying how my husband will handle this obstacle, or how it'll play out for my family. It was pointed out to me that there's opportunity for relationship growth with this challenge. I don't know. I know that I'll do what I need to do; I'll go to work, go to AA meetings, post on SR, reach out to give and receive support, see my friends, take the kids to hockey, exercise, eat my veggies, work hard, and do my best. In this struggle I have an opportunity to be a power of example - instead of a hot mess that needs to be calmed and tamed.

Any other suggestions or support would be wonderful!
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(((KoC))) - big hugs to you!
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