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Old 08-28-2015, 05:18 AM
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One Year and Under Club Part 48

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http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-47-a-20.html

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Day 55~ Thanks again, everyone! I am about to go in for the procedure in an hour. After not eating for 2 days and drinking all of the prep stuff I feel exactly like I felt when I had a terrible hangover. I am ready to get this over with, eat and deal with the results sober. I'm pretty sure that if I hadn't stop drinking in July and learned a lot from everyone on here... I would be drinking heavily right now. I can't thank everyone enough for the kind words and advice over the last two months. What a journey it has been!
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Good luck Angd! Hope it all goes well! Sending you positive thoughts!
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Angd good luck with your procedure today! Let us know how it goes.

I got up around 4AM to take my friend for her surgical procedure today. Then have to go to work and wait for a call to pick her up after. I've been dealing with some cravings the past few days and probably would've drank yesterday if it wasn't for having to help my friend this morning.
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Angd, thinking of you!

BF, I seemed to have more challenges after each relapse. I'm sending strength your way for getting through the current cravings (((hugs)))!

Happy Friday, Undies and enjoy a sober weekend :-)
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You're in my thoughts and prayers, angd.

BoozeFree -- hope you'll pause long enough to hop on here and give us a chance to help you before you take that first drink if the urges continue. Remember you really don't have to take that first drink no matter what.
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Angd - I'm so happy you were able to go into your procedure sober. I hope all turns out ok for you.

BoozeFree - Sometimes there's no therapy quite as effective as getting outside of yourself! You saw that today with your friend relying on you for a ride. With your cravings ramping up, I hope you seek and find the support you need to stay sober - therapy, AA, a visit to the doctor, what ever it takes not to drink during the tough times.
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Selling alcohol big business in the US. Look at all the bars, brands and types of alcohol, new microbreweries popping up everywhere. My husband and I are saving tons of money not keeping booze in the house or going out for drinks. At DAY 28, I'm starting to really see how stupid people look on tv saying "Party!!!", taking shot after shot, being stupid and then hungover and that's all they did. No adventure, trip, challenge,interesting experience except that same scenario.

PHRD - So true!! There's a group of friends who drank like me that I fractured away from who post their exploits on Facebook - they are drunk at a beach, drunk at a baseball game, drunk at the casino, and so on. Elaborate lengths are taken to get the same old drunk at different venues.

When I was active in my addiction, I was just looking to be happy and have fun. I thought drinking was my ticket. When I stopped drinking and put the effort into joy and happiness that I used to put into drinking, I found happiness and joy.

Keep up the good work Undies!!
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Preliminary result show ulcers and erosions in my small intestines. The doctor thinks it is probably Crohn's disease but I will know more when they get the results back from the biopsy to rule out cancer and get a diagnosis. Many more doctors visit are in front of me in the next few months. Crohn's is something that I will have to live with the rest of my life but it beats the alternative of cancer. I was a crying mess today because I felt like I did this to myself but the doctor was great. He says this is a hereditary thing because of my family history. The good news is that I can't drink at all or I will risk severe complications. So drinking really isn't ever an option anymore!
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Hello and welcome PHRD,

Angd - sending warm thoughts your way

Amp - We were on the same continent - Yay !

Thanks for all your posts everyone, I read them all this week, but life was too hectic to get around to posting.

I'm a week or so off three months and looking forward to breaking through that - I can feel a definite improvement in well being - a very deep layer of negative self belief, just feels like it is slowly starting to give way. I'm not automatically closing down thoughts as they emerge, but challenging them instead.

I am under no illusions that this remains very early days - but nevertheless it is worth noting.

In other news, business is at last picking up ( see June Class for my theories why this may be the case), but again, this is further reward for some serious shovelling over the last six months. Once again, it seems so much less daunting when sober.

Its 3:50am - another long Friday night done and dusted.

Mrs Fradley has left 3/4 of a bottle of Sauvignon Blanc in the fridge. I have no desire to touch it, nor do I feel the need to pour it away.

She has no idea what is going on though as she suggested I have a glass with her earlier today to 'celebrate my abstinence'.

I think this sort of thing is one of the many reasons I love her.

Keep well everyone

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Haha Frad. I shouldn't laugh but seriously? Only a Normie can think like that!! Keep on keeping on mate.

Angd, a lot of people have found a way to live with Crohns by adapting their eating habits, there are many websites and support groups that offer different suggestions, one of which may help you to alleviate the pain. It's good you are recognising that it could have been worse.

BeFree, it's good you are recognising the cravings, perhaps it's time to find an AA meeting near you and see about getting a sponsor. I feel that you have all the experience behind you, what I believe you need now is to have accountability to someone? Sending hugs your way love, you can beat this x

Stay strong this weekend Undies. You are all doing great.
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Lots of good advice here BFree - you can beat this, but I'll second Toots in thinking maybe doing a little more can't hurt?

Thinking of you angd and wishing you the best

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(((Angd)))! I have the max version of UC so understand the issues. Happy for you that it's not worse but also know just how miserable this can be. I've never had any luck with special diets and have been told that works primarily for those with IBS. It never hurts to try, though. After about 10 years of on and off active disease I finally went into remission on the right meds and that was 15 years ago. Huge relief!

Fradley, you sound great! I like your approach of confronting thoughts instead of closing them down. IMHO that gets our brains in practice to confront the AV whenever it occurs.

Have a lovely day, Unders!
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Thanks for the advice Saskia and toots! I have witnessed the pain that ulcerated colitis has caused my brother and how he has spent many years in and out of the hospital. They tried all kinds of meds. He also wasn't an alcoholic but loved to drink his beer back in the day. He is only 30 (diagnosed at 24) and can only tolerate the occasional whisky and Dr. Pepper. He was one step away from having his colon completely remove until they put him on Humara. He is in remission right now and has gained 30 lbs of muscle in the last 4 months. None of the diets he tried really helped either.

I am so glad that he lives right across the street from me. I guess I woke up today being thankful that so many of my relationships have been repaired since last November, when I first made the attempt to quit. I have had more sober days in a year than drinking ones. I guess this health scare is just one more push to keep up with my healthy living and cutting out the alcohol for good. Even though I haven't had cravings in two months, it feels good to know that I can't pick up if a weak moment comes or I know that I will be in severe pain and do more harm to my gut. Somehow this is oddly comforting.

Well, I am off to try and catch up on work at school. I have to keep my job for now and health insurance; therefore I need to find a way to reduce my stress. If anyone has any natural ideas about what has worked for them, I would love to hear them. I am wishing everyone a happy, healthy sober day/night. ((hugs to all you))). We can and we will beat this disease! xoxo
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I'm sorry you have Crohn's, Angd, but glad you now have a firm diagnosis--and I, too, am very happy it's not cancer. I'm praying that medication gives you some real relief.
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Ang, sorry to hear about the health troubles, but your attitude is quite uplifting, and if you keep this positive attitude, I think you can get through it and manage.

Obviously, it will be a ton easier sticking to a special diet when alcohol isn't involved since I know for myself at least, I don't eat healthy things when drinking and lose track of what I ate.

I'm up early on a Saturday AM here in NYC. Going to go for a nice long jog, then catch up on some work, which is a bit frustrating since August is usually my slow season, but I was dealing with some difficult clients this week who were making me do lots of things which didn't really have much benefit for me. Yesterday, I had a craving in the late afternoon when I could see the light at the end of the tunnel for the work week. But I just took a deep breath and realized that today would be miserable if I drank last night since I wouldn't get my planned jog in, I'd have no motivation to do the 2-3 hours of work needed so that I'm back on track for Monday, and being hungover at the 4PM baseball game today (Mets/Red Sox) would be miserable. So, glad to report it's a nice hangover free morning and I'm just catching up on posts and reading the newspapers right now, then a jog, catching up on work, and then the Mets/Red Sox game.

Happy Saturday everyone!
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This is maybe where we fall out NYMets but Go RedSox!! ( I spent last year in Boston and went to a few games!! ) x
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Well, yes, this corner of the country is Red Sox Nation, after all
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Angd - I'm sorry for your health issues, but glad they serve as an incentive to stay sober. Life is a lot easier to face sober. Keep up the good work.

Mets - It sounds like you've got a good sober routine going. Keep up the good work, and keep remembering why you're doing it - and that there's no going back to moderation.

Where I live in CT the loyalty is divided between NY and Boston teams. My parents are NY fans and my husband and kids are Boston fans. I bet if I grew up going to games I'd care but they are two hours in either direction.
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Good morning, Undies!

The start of a brand new week. I'm feeling much gratitude for being sober. No regrets whatsoever and life is so much simpler and better :-)
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