Class Of November 2011 Pt 6
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Class Of November 2011 Pt 6
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OK, so today I was upright! I made it to work and trudged through. I felt better as the day went by. No fevers. Had some nausea but the phenergan helped a ton.
Marine, glad to hear that you are improving! That's great news.
Darren, Congrats and good job on the step work. I am on step three. Not difficult, just have to remind myself to put God first in everything. Not sure what his purpose was for my feeling like poop for two weeks. Maybe to appreciate my health more. I got that point.
IP, hows it going? Hope you are well.
Hi Dee and Bimm, Catfry and Vantrina.
Marine, glad to hear that you are improving! That's great news.
Darren, Congrats and good job on the step work. I am on step three. Not difficult, just have to remind myself to put God first in everything. Not sure what his purpose was for my feeling like poop for two weeks. Maybe to appreciate my health more. I got that point.
IP, hows it going? Hope you are well.
Hi Dee and Bimm, Catfry and Vantrina.
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Sounds like Tres and Marine are on the mend and Darren is off to a good start on his new job (congrats).
Mom and step-dad visited this past week and we had a great time. Didn't do much, but still had fun talking and chatting about little stuff. I had a long talk with my Mom about how she waits on her husband hand and foot. I tried to impress upon her that it was not in his best interest to do everything for him and that he needs to be encouraged to do what he is able to do for himself. They are both 87 and if something happens to my Mom I think she is creating a big baby who will be unable to care or do the simplest tasks for himself....I don't think I was getting through to her, but so it goes.
We have a few days off and then my B-I-L and wife will be here most of next week. Then I have eye surgery scheduled the following week.
We are expecting temps of 100+ the next few days, so i will be easy to locate....next to the A/C vents.
Mom and step-dad visited this past week and we had a great time. Didn't do much, but still had fun talking and chatting about little stuff. I had a long talk with my Mom about how she waits on her husband hand and foot. I tried to impress upon her that it was not in his best interest to do everything for him and that he needs to be encouraged to do what he is able to do for himself. They are both 87 and if something happens to my Mom I think she is creating a big baby who will be unable to care or do the simplest tasks for himself....I don't think I was getting through to her, but so it goes.
We have a few days off and then my B-I-L and wife will be here most of next week. Then I have eye surgery scheduled the following week.
We are expecting temps of 100+ the next few days, so i will be easy to locate....next to the A/C vents.
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Hey Everyone
Fun to see that we have a "Page Six"…good for us.
Struggling this week…not with sobriety, but with a loss of what I considered a close and dear friendship. The same friend I have had issues with all year.
In addition to the rampant inconsistencies, most disturbing is that my "dearest friend" has made it clear that they can't really be friends with me if I am not drinking. I'm blown away by this, yet in other ways I keep thinking that maybe our time together is truly over; perhaps we have served whatever greater purpose we were meant to serve together. I guess.
This is an intelligent, mature, friend who is obviously showing me another side…and who clearly and disturbingly values alcohol more than our relationship. Don't want to dwell. Suffice to say I am grieving. Been reading articles on grief, trying to detach, take care of myself. But…I am sad and upset on a multitude of levels.
I understand about letting go and people being on their own life paths and all of that. Doesn't make it easier. For me, it is a significant loss & I am having a challenging time realizing that letting go is my only option. ((sigh))
Thanks for letting me vent.
Wishing you all a good, happy, and sober day.
Fun to see that we have a "Page Six"…good for us.
Struggling this week…not with sobriety, but with a loss of what I considered a close and dear friendship. The same friend I have had issues with all year.
In addition to the rampant inconsistencies, most disturbing is that my "dearest friend" has made it clear that they can't really be friends with me if I am not drinking. I'm blown away by this, yet in other ways I keep thinking that maybe our time together is truly over; perhaps we have served whatever greater purpose we were meant to serve together. I guess.
This is an intelligent, mature, friend who is obviously showing me another side…and who clearly and disturbingly values alcohol more than our relationship. Don't want to dwell. Suffice to say I am grieving. Been reading articles on grief, trying to detach, take care of myself. But…I am sad and upset on a multitude of levels.
I understand about letting go and people being on their own life paths and all of that. Doesn't make it easier. For me, it is a significant loss & I am having a challenging time realizing that letting go is my only option. ((sigh))
Thanks for letting me vent.
Wishing you all a good, happy, and sober day.
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That really sucks Vantrina, I'm so sorry your friend is such a douchebag. Yup, sometimes friendships just run their course. You're better off if she's that shallow. She is giving up exploring a whole new level of your relationship. That's really sad. My best friend and I have both quit drinking in the last year; me eight months ago, she finally about a month ago. We are legendary drinking buddies. It is weird and a big adjustment but we're not giving up. I'm sorry your friend is proving herself not capable of such depths. It is a leap to change yourself to be friends with someone and she can't do it. HER LOSS. This is a case of you growing beyond the friendship. The space she leaves in your life will be replaced by something else, something healthier. This year is all about adjustments, remember? Some more painful than others, unfortunately.
How is it going with your hubby? Any better?
Hi Bimm, good to hear from you. I am jealous of your heat, we are still stuck in spring weather. One thing I have learned from my grandparents who are that age is that they are pretty much stuck in their ways and it takes a LOT to change them. We have more or less given up trying to inform them on their health and diet, etc. The only person who gets through to them is their doctor.
Looking forward to a road trip home to visit family and my best friend. It is Canada Day long weekend. Can't wait to get out of the city for a few days!
How is it going with your hubby? Any better?
Hi Bimm, good to hear from you. I am jealous of your heat, we are still stuck in spring weather. One thing I have learned from my grandparents who are that age is that they are pretty much stuck in their ways and it takes a LOT to change them. We have more or less given up trying to inform them on their health and diet, etc. The only person who gets through to them is their doctor.
Looking forward to a road trip home to visit family and my best friend. It is Canada Day long weekend. Can't wait to get out of the city for a few days!
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Sorry to hear about your friend Vantrina. That does hurt. But I think its probably for the best right now. Most all of my friends don't call or text me anymore. I'm OK with that. A couple of close friends still keep in touch.
Bimm, your family visit sounds nice. Its so important to enjoy them. I wish I had more family time but we are all far spread across the States.
I am loving the dogs. I have NO idea about training. I need to watch some videos or something. Going from no dogs to two is such a difference! My hubby does not believe in crating them while we are at work. We have been keeping them in our spare bedroom. We came home yesterday and they had ripped open the comforter, sheets and mattress pad. There was stuffing all over. Looked like they had a big party in there. Nothing was significant or expensive, so its OK. I think we may have to crate them....however, today they did just fine.
Bimm, your family visit sounds nice. Its so important to enjoy them. I wish I had more family time but we are all far spread across the States.
I am loving the dogs. I have NO idea about training. I need to watch some videos or something. Going from no dogs to two is such a difference! My hubby does not believe in crating them while we are at work. We have been keeping them in our spare bedroom. We came home yesterday and they had ripped open the comforter, sheets and mattress pad. There was stuffing all over. Looked like they had a big party in there. Nothing was significant or expensive, so its OK. I think we may have to crate them....however, today they did just fine.
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Originally Posted by InParticular 
...This is a case of you growing beyond the friendship. The space she leaves in your life will be replaced by something else, something healthier. This year is all about adjustments, remember? Some more painful than others, unfortunately.
Hope you have a fun holiday weekend.
Dee & Tres, thank you.
The friendship hug emoticon made me smile and was very much appreciated. Guess we all learn who is meant to remain in our lives over time.New day today. Hanging w/hubby on my day off. (He is supportive and reminds me that any adult who is bothered by me "not drinking" is not worth being around. Feeling better today and determined not to stay stuck wallowing.
Tres, love hearing about the dogs. Thinking it is a transitional time for everyone. I mean you now have two new family members! Lucky dogs.
I'm sure you will be all settled in and into the groove of a routine in no time.Marine, how are you doing?
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Yeah Marine, how are you?
You're welcome Vantrina, I'm glad I could say something to make you feel better. Your hubby is right; it's the basic truth-if she doesn't see your worth beyond drinking then she wasn't your friend to begin with. Sad but her problem.
Eight months for me today!
The depression is back but I think it's because the weather has been so crap, I got vitamin D supplements and hopefully those help. Also the weekend in the sun will do me good.
We leave this afternoon. I love road trips
You're welcome Vantrina, I'm glad I could say something to make you feel better. Your hubby is right; it's the basic truth-if she doesn't see your worth beyond drinking then she wasn't your friend to begin with. Sad but her problem.
Eight months for me today!
The depression is back but I think it's because the weather has been so crap, I got vitamin D supplements and hopefully those help. Also the weekend in the sun will do me good.
We leave this afternoon. I love road trips
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Hi - i am still here! Just busy with work. Not travelling still is busy in the office and I am beginning to think even busier than when on the road.
Sorry about the friend Vantrina. But your hubby is right. Not worth it. I know how you feel as I have lost a lot of my married friends since my husband died. It's hard. Last week I met three "girlfriends" who are part of couples that my husband and I were so close to, we all went on vacation together many, many times! I only see them two times a year now. I had not told them about my leg so it wasn't till they saw me walking in on crutches that they knew. They were concerned, listened to me tell the tales of crawling around the house on my butt, etc but I have not heard a word from any of them since. Oh well. I don't let it get to me any more. I just keep trying to make new friends.
I got the leg cast off and am wearing the foot cast and am allowed to just wear my sandals as long as I don't feel pain in my toes. That is the part the doc is concerned about...more than the leg. Weird I have a broken leg and it is not in a cast. Modern medicine I guess.
iP congrats on the 8 months!
Tres- have fun with the dogs! Wish I had a pet but my usual schedulebwontwork with a pet.
Bimm- how you liking the new kitchen?
Heat wave here so I am staying in for rest of the weekend.
Bye for now.
Sorry about the friend Vantrina. But your hubby is right. Not worth it. I know how you feel as I have lost a lot of my married friends since my husband died. It's hard. Last week I met three "girlfriends" who are part of couples that my husband and I were so close to, we all went on vacation together many, many times! I only see them two times a year now. I had not told them about my leg so it wasn't till they saw me walking in on crutches that they knew. They were concerned, listened to me tell the tales of crawling around the house on my butt, etc but I have not heard a word from any of them since. Oh well. I don't let it get to me any more. I just keep trying to make new friends.
I got the leg cast off and am wearing the foot cast and am allowed to just wear my sandals as long as I don't feel pain in my toes. That is the part the doc is concerned about...more than the leg. Weird I have a broken leg and it is not in a cast. Modern medicine I guess.
iP congrats on the 8 months!
Tres- have fun with the dogs! Wish I had a pet but my usual schedulebwontwork with a pet.
Bimm- how you liking the new kitchen?
Heat wave here so I am staying in for rest of the weekend.
Bye for now.
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Hey everyone. Hot here too.
I FINALLY after two weeks feel healthy! That was horrible and miserable. The nausea would not go away. Part of it could be the zoloft I started. I go off of it now for two weeks, so we shall see. I do feel a difference in my mood and anxiety.
I ran three miles today and got a ton of stuff done. Had a great eve and day with the dogs in the lake. They LOVE the water. They swam, jumped off the dock, played catch all day. They are pooped out tonight.
Marine, my hubby broke his big toe playing racquetball. He has to wear this ugly looking sandal for two weeks. Its not slowed him down though. He was jumping off the dock last night with the dogs.
They seem to be really bringing some happiness to our family. I know they are happy too.
Have a good night all. 8 Months for me tomorrow!
Spent the eve with our usualdrinking friends tonight. I had no cravings at all. We were the first to leave, because I was just tired...plus tired of watching some of them act stupid.
I FINALLY after two weeks feel healthy! That was horrible and miserable. The nausea would not go away. Part of it could be the zoloft I started. I go off of it now for two weeks, so we shall see. I do feel a difference in my mood and anxiety.
I ran three miles today and got a ton of stuff done. Had a great eve and day with the dogs in the lake. They LOVE the water. They swam, jumped off the dock, played catch all day. They are pooped out tonight.
Marine, my hubby broke his big toe playing racquetball. He has to wear this ugly looking sandal for two weeks. Its not slowed him down though. He was jumping off the dock last night with the dogs.
They seem to be really bringing some happiness to our family. I know they are happy too.
Have a good night all. 8 Months for me tomorrow!
Spent the eve with our usualdrinking friends tonight. I had no cravings at all. We were the first to leave, because I was just tired...plus tired of watching some of them act stupid.
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Hey Everyone,
Ridiculously hot already this a.m.
Marine, glad to hear you are on the mend; am sorry to hear that not one of the ladies you went out with followed up with you afterwards. InParticular's words sprang to mind with a twist: ...This is a case of you growing beyond the friendship…" Clearly, they are not able to go beyond themselves at this point in their lives…. Doors close, new ones open, right? You sound good, so hang in and happy healing.
Inpartic, congratulations on eight months. Eight months! Cool beans. Have fun on your trip.
Tres, sounds like you are feeling better. Glad to hear that. Congratulations and cool beans to you on hitting eight months! Hoping to hear some puppy stories btw.
Darren, Bimm, and Dee, hope you are staying cool and comfortable wherever you are.
Went to a party at a friend's house yesterday afternoon. Drank water out of a wine glass all day and night and was f.i.n.e. Great assortments of wines, beers, and mixed drinks, but no Pelligrino or sparkling water in the house. Next time I'm bringing my own. One other person was drinking water and coffee. Really had a fun and relaxing time; actually allowed my mind a break from ruminating over recent disappointments. Felt good.
Off to the gym or, if I can stand the heat, the pool club to swim. Have been channeling my energies into working out…takes the edge off, elevates my mood, and has had a positive impact on my body.
Have a happy sober day today ninjas.
Ridiculously hot already this a.m.
Marine, glad to hear you are on the mend; am sorry to hear that not one of the ladies you went out with followed up with you afterwards. InParticular's words sprang to mind with a twist: ...This is a case of you growing beyond the friendship…" Clearly, they are not able to go beyond themselves at this point in their lives…. Doors close, new ones open, right? You sound good, so hang in and happy healing.
Inpartic, congratulations on eight months. Eight months! Cool beans. Have fun on your trip.
Tres, sounds like you are feeling better. Glad to hear that. Congratulations and cool beans to you on hitting eight months! Hoping to hear some puppy stories btw.
Darren, Bimm, and Dee, hope you are staying cool and comfortable wherever you are.
Went to a party at a friend's house yesterday afternoon. Drank water out of a wine glass all day and night and was f.i.n.e. Great assortments of wines, beers, and mixed drinks, but no Pelligrino or sparkling water in the house. Next time I'm bringing my own. One other person was drinking water and coffee. Really had a fun and relaxing time; actually allowed my mind a break from ruminating over recent disappointments. Felt good.
Off to the gym or, if I can stand the heat, the pool club to swim. Have been channeling my energies into working out…takes the edge off, elevates my mood, and has had a positive impact on my body.
Have a happy sober day today ninjas.
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This heat is getting really ugly. Another day @ 100+...ugh!
The next batch of company, B-I-L and wife, arrive this evening. They are fun and easy to please, which make them my perfect type of guests. Not a lot planned, but may head over to the casino and/or take a tour into one of the local caves. can't believe that we've lived here over 3 years and haven't made over thee yet. Since the temperature in the cave is a constant 52 degrees this might be the perfect week to get over there.
I haven't heard much from my "wine drinking buddies" since going sober. That hurts a bit, but life moves on and I find joy and contentment in other activities as all of us have.
Stay sober so i don't have to track y'all down and kick your a$$.
'Talk" with everyone later in the week.
The next batch of company, B-I-L and wife, arrive this evening. They are fun and easy to please, which make them my perfect type of guests. Not a lot planned, but may head over to the casino and/or take a tour into one of the local caves. can't believe that we've lived here over 3 years and haven't made over thee yet. Since the temperature in the cave is a constant 52 degrees this might be the perfect week to get over there.
I haven't heard much from my "wine drinking buddies" since going sober. That hurts a bit, but life moves on and I find joy and contentment in other activities as all of us have.
Stay sober so i don't have to track y'all down and kick your a$$.
'Talk" with everyone later in the week.
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Just learned that a friend was killed last night in a hit and run accident. He was riding his bike home after a night out with friends. The driver of the car was drunk and was the bartender at the bar my friend had just left. Why do people drink and drive?
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