bobdrop

Good morning all. Day 5 here.

Thinking of you coder. Well done Red. RAL-We seem to be in a similar place mentally. I used to be able to string together months without even thinking about it much. Now, it feels like I think about things 24/7 just getting to day 5. Congrats on a week to you. You too Zura.

Hopingwishing

Great work!

Hopingwishing

ReadyAtLast

Thanks Bob. Congrats on day 5.

venuscat

Withdrawal is hard and the nightsweats are really hard. s
And that's when the thought attacks come....and boy do they get nutso....they sure did for me.

The stigma is going away with substance abuse disorder.....I know it will take a long time for people to see this differently, but they will. The point is you are sick love.....and working on getting better. Maybe she cares about you? Or maybe she is just nosy. Or maybe she thinks it's cool gossip....well she has a problem if that's what she thinks.

Ultimately, if (sorry guys) you had female issues which were private, no one would expect you to reveal anything. And nor should you have to now. I really wish she would mind her business. ❤️

venuscat

Fantastic dear RED!!!

Congrats on 7 days darling RAL!!!

5 days is awesome dear Bob!!!

Onions dear Zura....wow.....200......your stuff really grew huh? Fantastic.

And love to everyone.

venuscat

How are you dear Coder? ❤️❤️

Jewel72

Me too. This is why we can’t go back...ever. Every time we return to alcohol, it gets a tighter grip on us. I have seen that, in my own life, over this past year and it is frightening.

Day 5 for me also.

Sober369 Karen, Thinking of you.

ReadyAtLast

Had meal. No one drank.then had a walk now back. Everyone is drinking now. I'm on water.

venuscat

With you dear RAL. s

venuscat

Also hoping we see Karen.

I keep thinking about a woman I knew in AA years ago who was sober for 20 years and 'slipped' at Christmas and just could not stop drinking again. At the time, I couldn't understand it. I can now....she tried for a few months and then said she was not coming back to AA and please leave her alone. So we did.

It still hurts my heart even all of these years later....she was so gripped by the obsession and compulsion of this illness again virtually instantly and she just gave up her life. I have no idea how long she lived, I kind of didn't want to know.

ReadyAtLast

God this is so difficult. I'm so tense and bored and feel really awkward. Just wish everyone would go or I could go. I wont drink but just frustrated. Some unexpected guests arrived and showing no signs of going. Counting the hours 😥

venuscat

Can you make some herbal tea and and put some ice in it? I am thinking raspberry iced tea would be lovely and soothing and smells great. s

Gosh this is tough....being stuck in a Christmas party....we are right here with you honey. s

JustTony

I hear those of you that are finding it tricky.

I took Mrs JT for lunch at a lovely local Italian restaurant today. I’m watching my diet so it was tough to see her dive into the bread with her sauces and eat a carb-tastic pasta extravaganza - all washed down with a large glass of wine. She knows I’m not bothered about one glass of anything really but it is tough to sit there feeling overweight (due to alcohol) and therefore denying yourself..

I suppose what I was really a bit down about was not being ‘normal’ like my wife.

venuscat

Do you think you might be being a little hard on yourself Tony?
You have already lost a lot of weight....
I don't think weight loss should equal punishment, just my thoughts. s xx

And Rose honey.....come chat....I miss getting to interact with you as much and everyone here will love you as much as I do. s

JustTony

I think that’s part of my overall problem VC. I’m an all or nothing character. This is the root to virtually all my problems but also most of my successes. I do feel trapped by the polarising way that my mind governs my life.

venuscat

I am also all or nothing and it is exhausting for me.
I am doing my best to change....being a perfectionist and going all out is no better for me than being paralyzed because I can't be.

How to find the middle ground....perhaps someone will come along and tell us. s

venuscat

Still with you every minute RAL....sending get out vibes to your guests. s

ReadyAtLast

Thank you. Still here. Still sober.calmed down a bit. The evening wont last forever 😀

JustTony

Keep going RAL. You’ll feel amazing later and so proud tomorrow.