One Year & Under Club Part 30
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GF I. Sure once you relax and don't feel self conscious about being sober, you will be as funny as ever. I've seen your humour here, and it makes me laugh!
I used to be the life and soul when I drank, but then at my work I would have everyone in stitches and I would be sober then so I figured, I must be funny sober too!
I used to be the life and soul when I drank, but then at my work I would have everyone in stitches and I would be sober then so I figured, I must be funny sober too!
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Hi everyone. How are folks? I'm pretty tired of my alcoholism tonight. Blah blah blah. Tomorrow I'm meeting FS for an AA meeting (I've been to a lot of them lately) and then we'll have a picnic dinner on my roof. That should be amusing. If we're lucky, a couple of the resident active alcoholics in my building with be up there with their bottles and martini shakers.
I hope everyone's enjoying a healthy, sober day or night.
I hope everyone's enjoying a healthy, sober day or night.
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Gleefan, I used to think I was pretty funny when I drank, too, but now I think I was really more of a loudmouth. I'm still funny and love to laugh but I'm a lot more thoughtful about it. Great job staying sober and I bet you're still funny. You are a good and expressive writer, I know that!
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Yes Cowboy, Poutine is a Quebec national dish and some are really tasty and chichi like revisiting the gravy with foie gras or with lobster and french fries. It's true that people have a poutine at 4 am after the bars...
I haven't had it in year. ANd although it sounds disgusting - fries, cheese and gravy - it's rather good.
I find I'm funnier sober than drunk and so present.
Have a good Sunday tomorrow.
Dottie.
I haven't had it in year. ANd although it sounds disgusting - fries, cheese and gravy - it's rather good.
I find I'm funnier sober than drunk and so present.
Have a good Sunday tomorrow.
Dottie.
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Hope everyone's weekend is going well. We are going through performance reviews at work. My feedback is always the same. I do a great job, but some people find me difficult to work with. In the past I've sat and nodded, but ignored it. Me? Difficult to work with? So not. People are just babies and need to suck it up.
This time I'm actually taking on board that I might actually be difficult to work with sometimes, and asking for some feedback on what I can do to change that. It's really embarrassing to think that people find me difficult or unapproachable. I am not a people person and have no intention of becoming one, but I'm open to constructive criticism and improving my 'soft' skills.
I feel like such a grown up.
This time I'm actually taking on board that I might actually be difficult to work with sometimes, and asking for some feedback on what I can do to change that. It's really embarrassing to think that people find me difficult or unapproachable. I am not a people person and have no intention of becoming one, but I'm open to constructive criticism and improving my 'soft' skills.
I feel like such a grown up.
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Happy birthday Dottie, I hope you have a lovely day. Xx
TL, I feel the best thing you can do to be more approachable at work is to be more patient and to really listen to what the person is saying, and to consider before responding? (Apologies if you do all that already!) I am a touchy feely huggy person so I am all smiles and arm touches and compliments. If I'm giving negative criticism I sandwich it between two positives, then try to remember to later ask the person how they are now dealing with their situation. Not knowing the specifics of your post it is not easy to give more specific advise ( if indeed you even wanted it. - tell me to belt up any time you feel like it!)
TL, I feel the best thing you can do to be more approachable at work is to be more patient and to really listen to what the person is saying, and to consider before responding? (Apologies if you do all that already!) I am a touchy feely huggy person so I am all smiles and arm touches and compliments. If I'm giving negative criticism I sandwich it between two positives, then try to remember to later ask the person how they are now dealing with their situation. Not knowing the specifics of your post it is not easy to give more specific advise ( if indeed you even wanted it. - tell me to belt up any time you feel like it!)
No quitting on yer quit eh!
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Morning all!
First, Happy Birthday DP!!
TL - I used to hate my performance reviews, then when I got promoted to being the boss, I had to give them.... even worse.... after we went through the College's formal review, I only had two questions for my employees, how do you think you can improve, and what can we do to help that...
Carlos - never mind the date, tease the ladies with innuendos lol, what did you think of the Master's? Predictions?
First, Happy Birthday DP!!
TL - I used to hate my performance reviews, then when I got promoted to being the boss, I had to give them.... even worse.... after we went through the College's formal review, I only had two questions for my employees, how do you think you can improve, and what can we do to help that...
Carlos - never mind the date, tease the ladies with innuendos lol, what did you think of the Master's? Predictions?
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Hi9 Undies,
Gilmer, sparks flew, bells were ringing, looked down and my socks were blown off! Yes, that is exactly how I felt when I hit it stiff from 122 last Thursday. That reference is from golf, yardage and my pitching wedge...sadly, not from my date yesterday.
We met at 2 pm on a beautiful day to stroll and enjoy one of the cooler sections of the city, then visit the sports museum. She is 5'11" and wore heels, so in my sneakers (i left my heels from the 80's disco era at home) she was "ever so slightly" taller than me...very weird though. Stopping for a beverage was iced coffee, hint of non fat hazelnut, and one fake sweetener. The gentleman in me said to make it two. Tasted like mud and tossed it after a few sips. The tour of the sports museum was fun but included an abundance of talk about fitness and nutrition. While important to me, no where near that level. I could go on, but you get the picture.
Hey, I am a guy and the pic she sent me last week from her recent fitness competition was, well, again, you get it. The day was capped by an exchange of I'm sure uncomfortable texts last evening about our good time.
So, I guess it is back to the drawing board.
CONGRATS on a week clean and sober BF and BABS. Hey BF, I posted a pic of my tatt....
Hey TL, great attitude for moving forward. I was never much a fan of those evaluations though. In sales I only wanted to be left alone with a quota that was realistic and a rope to hang my own self if I didn't achieve it. Tell me that attitude doesn't have type a alkie written all over it.
Dottie and ACB, I am still laughing as I read about that stuff you eat. If I am pronouncing the word properly, we said but chased that same thing in college...kidding
Courage, enjoy that picnic in the sky with your feet still on the ground! If what we had here yesterday was heading east, it will be a beautiful, sunny day. In my best "Silence of the Lamb's", "It rubs the lotion on"
GF, loved your story of understanding control and letting go. Totally the Serenity Prayer. There have been times that I say it over and over...and then again. For me, in those types of situations, it really helps. Was going to tell you that things are heating up on the NHL thread. There was even talk of kids without shirts...but I saw that you made an appearance.
DG, DQ, nuff said.
Toots, sounds great, fire my up, please. After yesterday, I would enjoy a shot of gravy!
Hey have a good one guys and gals. No slippage, okay?
Carlos xx
Gilmer, sparks flew, bells were ringing, looked down and my socks were blown off! Yes, that is exactly how I felt when I hit it stiff from 122 last Thursday. That reference is from golf, yardage and my pitching wedge...sadly, not from my date yesterday.
We met at 2 pm on a beautiful day to stroll and enjoy one of the cooler sections of the city, then visit the sports museum. She is 5'11" and wore heels, so in my sneakers (i left my heels from the 80's disco era at home) she was "ever so slightly" taller than me...very weird though. Stopping for a beverage was iced coffee, hint of non fat hazelnut, and one fake sweetener. The gentleman in me said to make it two. Tasted like mud and tossed it after a few sips. The tour of the sports museum was fun but included an abundance of talk about fitness and nutrition. While important to me, no where near that level. I could go on, but you get the picture.
Hey, I am a guy and the pic she sent me last week from her recent fitness competition was, well, again, you get it. The day was capped by an exchange of I'm sure uncomfortable texts last evening about our good time.
So, I guess it is back to the drawing board.
CONGRATS on a week clean and sober BF and BABS. Hey BF, I posted a pic of my tatt....
Hey TL, great attitude for moving forward. I was never much a fan of those evaluations though. In sales I only wanted to be left alone with a quota that was realistic and a rope to hang my own self if I didn't achieve it. Tell me that attitude doesn't have type a alkie written all over it.
Dottie and ACB, I am still laughing as I read about that stuff you eat. If I am pronouncing the word properly, we said but chased that same thing in college
...kidding Courage, enjoy that picnic in the sky with your feet still on the ground! If what we had here yesterday was heading east, it will be a beautiful, sunny day. In my best "Silence of the Lamb's", "It rubs the lotion on"
GF, loved your story of understanding control and letting go. Totally the Serenity Prayer. There have been times that I say it over and over...and then again. For me, in those types of situations, it really helps. Was going to tell you that things are heating up on the NHL thread. There was even talk of kids without shirts...but I saw that you made an appearance.
DG, DQ, nuff said.
Toots, sounds great, fire my up, please. After yesterday, I would enjoy a shot of gravy!
Hey have a good one guys and gals. No slippage, okay?
Carlos xx
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Thanks for your post Carlos. I needed a dose of you. I'm sorry that the date with the trainer didn't work out, but kind of glad. You need a woman, not a "hard body." Real women have too much else going on to devote themselves to the cult of physical perfection. I hope you find someone.
I'm not doing particularly well, and my alcoholism is trying to sabotage me further. On top of a kind of mild bout of depression brought on no doubt by last week's stress and being alone which lead me to ruminate on the past, I now seem to be suffering from this allergy thing I've had, ever since I moved to the east coast. My way of getting allergies is not to cough or sneeze. Instead my face swells up & my eyes and airways swell shut. I'm supposed to have one of those pens for anaphylaxis but of course I don't because I'm an alcoholic. And tomorrow I have a doctor's appointment (not for the allergies) that I've all but convinced myself will go badly.
So I'm dwelling in the past, worrying about the future, and the present is a little bit sucky. I believe I can and will handle get through this day without a drink, but I'd be lying to you if I said I hadn't started to talk to myself about buying a pint.
I'm not doing particularly well, and my alcoholism is trying to sabotage me further. On top of a kind of mild bout of depression brought on no doubt by last week's stress and being alone which lead me to ruminate on the past, I now seem to be suffering from this allergy thing I've had, ever since I moved to the east coast. My way of getting allergies is not to cough or sneeze. Instead my face swells up & my eyes and airways swell shut. I'm supposed to have one of those pens for anaphylaxis but of course I don't because I'm an alcoholic. And tomorrow I have a doctor's appointment (not for the allergies) that I've all but convinced myself will go badly.
So I'm dwelling in the past, worrying about the future, and the present is a little bit sucky. I believe I can and will handle get through this day without a drink, but I'd be lying to you if I said I hadn't started to talk to myself about buying a pint.
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Dotty- Happy Birthday!!
Courage- You can do this. Here's for that AV: :uzi:
Carlos- Maybe it's a sign that you're still like 2 months from legal dating age?
Well, my plan for the day is to do a few things around the house and get my taxes done. I'm dreading the taxes part. Other than that, things are going well and my house is looking better each day.
Courage- You can do this. Here's for that AV: :uzi:
Carlos- Maybe it's a sign that you're still like 2 months from legal dating age?
Well, my plan for the day is to do a few things around the house and get my taxes done. I'm dreading the taxes part. Other than that, things are going well and my house is looking better each day.
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Courage, have courage, you can and will win this round.
Talking of fight, MB how are you doing??
Carlos, I could have told you a fitness obsessed lady wasn't for you! ( basically avoid any obsessed people, you will always come second in their thoughts unless it is you they are obsessed with, in which case run, fast!!!
You need a woman who is fit enough to chase, but slow enough to catch, slim enough to get your arms around but soft enough to rest your head on, intelligent enough to talk to but not enough to make you feel stoopid. Pretty enough to escort out, but not so beautiful you daren't let her out of your sight. Curvy enough to need two hands to describe her, not too curved you can't buy off the rack lingerie for her. Strong enough to carry you when you need her support, soft enough to cry at old movies. It's a shame I'm married already!!!
Talking of fight, MB how are you doing??
Carlos, I could have told you a fitness obsessed lady wasn't for you! ( basically avoid any obsessed people, you will always come second in their thoughts unless it is you they are obsessed with, in which case run, fast!!!
You need a woman who is fit enough to chase, but slow enough to catch, slim enough to get your arms around but soft enough to rest your head on, intelligent enough to talk to but not enough to make you feel stoopid. Pretty enough to escort out, but not so beautiful you daren't let her out of your sight. Curvy enough to need two hands to describe her, not too curved you can't buy off the rack lingerie for her. Strong enough to carry you when you need her support, soft enough to cry at old movies. It's a shame I'm married already!!!
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Courage glad you posted and didn't get that pint. Maybe a funny movie or something to distract yourself for a bit instead?
Dottie happy 2nd bday! Hope you do something fun today!
Carlos sorry the date didn't turn out so great. I'm all for trying to eat and be healthier but not when it consumes someone's entire life and that's all they wanna chat about.
Last night I went to my aunts for pizza and played basketball with my 8 yr old cousin for a good hour or so. Felt nice to be out and not cooped up in the house with a beer in hand. This morning grabbed some Starbucks and headed to the park with my dog followed by washing my car. Now I can relax for a few hours before the dreaded brides maid dress fitting. Fingers crossed it's some what cute lol. I know there will prob be champagne served but no thanks just wanna get n and out of there as fast as possible!!!
Dottie happy 2nd bday! Hope you do something fun today!
Carlos sorry the date didn't turn out so great. I'm all for trying to eat and be healthier but not when it consumes someone's entire life and that's all they wanna chat about.
Last night I went to my aunts for pizza and played basketball with my 8 yr old cousin for a good hour or so. Felt nice to be out and not cooped up in the house with a beer in hand. This morning grabbed some Starbucks and headed to the park with my dog followed by washing my car. Now I can relax for a few hours before the dreaded brides maid dress fitting. Fingers crossed it's some what cute lol. I know there will prob be champagne served but no thanks just wanna get n and out of there as fast as possible!!!
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Well Courage, you know the drill. Call someone, hit a meeting, go help another suffering alcoholic, focus on just today, give it away, let it go…etc. Funny thing though, all you really have to do is NOT PICK UP today and it will get better. Maybe not even today, but it does get better when we don’t drink.
Honestly, if it were possible, I would love to "hook-up" for a meeting today. Hope we get to do that some day! I do think you will feel better if you hit one.
So what are you making to eat for your picnic? I am sooo hungry today for some reason?
Cowboy, missed your Masters question on cross post earlier. I don’t even know what happened yesterday yet. My guess is that Bubba came back to the field and still has like a two shot lead? I hope it’s an exciting finish. I will be fixated and ready around 4 pm though. Till then, I will either start my herb garden today, hit the range, or play just 9…which is near sacrilege though.
[ Typical baberaham lincoln talk, getting me all dressed up and no place to go. 
Well, I do have one more thing to say to Courage...
...teehee
Honestly, if it were possible, I would love to "hook-up" for a meeting today. Hope we get to do that some day! I do think you will feel better if you hit one.
So what are you making to eat for your picnic? I am sooo hungry today for some reason?
Cowboy, missed your Masters question on cross post earlier. I don’t even know what happened yesterday yet. My guess is that Bubba came back to the field and still has like a two shot lead? I hope it’s an exciting finish. I will be fixated and ready around 4 pm though. Till then, I will either start my herb garden today, hit the range, or play just 9…which is near sacrilege though.
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Originally Posted by tootsl1 
You need a woman who is fit enough to chase, but slow enough to catch, slim enough to get your arms around but soft enough to rest your head on, intelligent enough to talk to but not enough to make you feel stoopid. Pretty enough to escort out, but not so beautiful you daren't let her out of your sight. Curvy enough to need two hands to describe her, not too curved you can't buy off the rack lingerie for her. Strong enough to carry you when you need her support, soft enough to cry at old movies. It's a shame I'm married already!!!
Well, I do have one more thing to say to Courage...
...teehee
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No, on second thought I won't play just 9 today. That would be like going on a golf date with Toots. What happens if I want to play the back side?
Hey, you set that up. Plus, I was kind, I could have said....
Hey, you set that up. Plus, I was kind, I could have said....
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Originally Posted by IWLSAST
No, on second thought I won't play just 9 today. That would be like going on a golf date with Toots. What happens if I want to play the back side? Hey, you set that up. Plus, I was kind, I could have said....
Hey, you set that up. Plus, I was kind, I could have said....Dottie - happy 2nd sober bday!
Babs and BFree - congrats on your week! That's a wonderful accomplishment. Keep racking up those days!
ABC and TL - feedback is difficult for me, too.
Gilmer - great job in your class.
Courage - Sorry you're feeling sick and depressed. I know clinical depression isn't easily brushed aside with a change of scenery, a movie, a book, a cup of coffee, a workout, or what ever you like to do. When I'm sick, my anxiety disorder ramps up, and there isn't any amount of deep breathing that's capable of calming that storm.
Else - thanks for the lovely compliment on my posts.
Toots - thanks for the feedback on being funny in drunkenness vs sobriety. Pain and self hatred has historically motivated my humor.
DG - You sound so happy.
Your house renovations are sparking my interest in freshening things up a bit for springtime in mine. I'm feeling the lure of white spray paint....I'm very seriously considering buying a houseplant. Don't laugh at me for deeply weighing this decision! It's not a huge expense, obviously, but it is a big responsibility, especially since I've historically had a case of black thumb. I'm distracted and lazy, qualities that do not lend to plants getting watered on time. I am giving myself a challenge -- if I can stay on top of my household chores for a month, I will buy myself a plant. I promise NOT to post statuses of whether I washed the dishes before the sink overflowed, or how long the shower curtain has my two kids' dirty handprints on it, or whether the living room rug needs to be vacuumed. Because I overlook that stuff!
It's turning into a gorgeous afternoon to watch baseball practice. I have steaks for the grill tonight. This will be the second time I've had steak without Cabernet. I don't plan on buying it, but I thought about it when I took out the steaks to thaw. I'm sure y'all can relate.
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