Class of March 2013 Part 10
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Originally Posted by Panache 
Geek you carry on purging your feelings on this thread as much as you like. It is a group discussion, so what may work for some won't work for others and I'm sure none of us are ignorant enough to dismiss that. We are all wired differently.
If one thing SR has taught me, is that everyone's opinion is valued, respected and ought to be heard. The fact that no one gets left behind is sheer testimony to this.
So whether you're angry, hitting a low point or in the highs of euphoria, be confident in posting it on here as there will always be someone in the same situation. That's what happens when you have such an eclectic mix of individually wonderful people.
If one thing SR has taught me, is that everyone's opinion is valued, respected and ought to be heard. The fact that no one gets left behind is sheer testimony to this.
So whether you're angry, hitting a low point or in the highs of euphoria, be confident in posting it on here as there will always be someone in the same situation. That's what happens when you have such an eclectic mix of individually wonderful people.
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Originally Posted by Babs1234
thank you for saying that Panache----I agree 100%---I'm very grateful for a site like this to vent on---and I do respect everyones opinion. Also some of the opinions have really helped me through some tough times and kept me sober ta boot !!!!!
Again, what you say is testimony to the effectiveness of what the people collectively bring here.
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Oh thank Buddha somebody said something. Thanks Panache! I was about ready to yell where's Dee and Toots when we need them!! North!!! Trachy!! Tell a joke or something.
I repeat what I have said before. I don't drink nor will I start drinking because of anything anyone says here. I can choose from those 2 options all by myself. I will not tell anyone what I think they need to do unless asked and even then I will try my best to put it in a way that is just my truth. I will not apologize for me being who I am because it isn't working for someone else. If I need something I will ask for it and those who wish to offer their support and wisdom...thank you...if for whatever reason you don't, thats ok too..thank you for still being here. You are just as important and just as wise.
These are just my guidelines...you all can have your own. It's your right. If I can't relate to what someone shares I will either just let it be or I will try to look at it again to figure out my own lesson in it.
And that's all I got to say about that. xoxo
I repeat what I have said before. I don't drink nor will I start drinking because of anything anyone says here. I can choose from those 2 options all by myself. I will not tell anyone what I think they need to do unless asked and even then I will try my best to put it in a way that is just my truth. I will not apologize for me being who I am because it isn't working for someone else. If I need something I will ask for it and those who wish to offer their support and wisdom...thank you...if for whatever reason you don't, thats ok too..thank you for still being here. You are just as important and just as wise.
These are just my guidelines...you all can have your own. It's your right. If I can't relate to what someone shares I will either just let it be or I will try to look at it again to figure out my own lesson in it.
And that's all I got to say about that. xoxo
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Back to day 1 here all. Had two weeks under my belt, decided it would be a good idea to drink after the football match, felt I 'deserved it', witnessing that match live would be enough to drive anyone to drink. Anyway i'm still proud I did two weeks, i'm back again ready to go. And no, it wasn't me punching the horse, before any of you ask...
Anyway, life in general has been stressful as hell the past week or so, my dissertation deadline is 2 weeks away and I can't switch off, so i'm back off to the docs tomorrow to see if we can change meds again or something. I get so confused overthinking it sometimes. I'm 21, haven't had years of serious alcohol abuse, but I've still abused it and it's caused my life to be pretty unmanageable at times, so it's not an option to drink, I know that.
Anyway, self indulgent post is over, I'll be back in an hour or so after some food (IM STILL EATING THAT SODDING CHILLI!) and a bit more dissertation work to contribute something helpful!
B
Anyway, life in general has been stressful as hell the past week or so, my dissertation deadline is 2 weeks away and I can't switch off, so i'm back off to the docs tomorrow to see if we can change meds again or something. I get so confused overthinking it sometimes. I'm 21, haven't had years of serious alcohol abuse, but I've still abused it and it's caused my life to be pretty unmanageable at times, so it's not an option to drink, I know that.
Anyway, self indulgent post is over, I'll be back in an hour or so after some food (IM STILL EATING THAT SODDING CHILLI!) and a bit more dissertation work to contribute something helpful!
B
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Originally Posted by Mrbeagle
Back to day 1 here all. Had two weeks under my belt, decided it would be a good idea to drink after the football match, felt I 'deserved it', witnessing that match live would be enough to drive anyone to drink. Anyway i'm still proud I did two weeks, i'm back again ready to go. And no, it wasn't me punching the horse, before any of you ask...
Anyway, life in general has been stressful as hell the past week or so, my dissertation deadline is 2 weeks away and I can't switch off, so i'm back off to the docs tomorrow to see if we can change meds again or something. I get so confused overthinking it sometimes. I'm 21, haven't had years of serious alcohol abuse, but I've still abused it and it's caused my life to be pretty unmanageable at times, so it's not an option to drink, I know that.
Anyway, self indulgent post is over, I'll be back in an hour or so after some food (IM STILL EATING THAT SODDING CHILLI!) and a bit more dissertation work to contribute something helpful!
B
Anyway, life in general has been stressful as hell the past week or so, my dissertation deadline is 2 weeks away and I can't switch off, so i'm back off to the docs tomorrow to see if we can change meds again or something. I get so confused overthinking it sometimes. I'm 21, haven't had years of serious alcohol abuse, but I've still abused it and it's caused my life to be pretty unmanageable at times, so it's not an option to drink, I know that.
Anyway, self indulgent post is over, I'll be back in an hour or so after some food (IM STILL EATING THAT SODDING CHILLI!) and a bit more dissertation work to contribute something helpful!
B
I'll message you now with some updates and reply to your last one.
Never punch the horse in the face and start waking
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Ben, if you are waiting for Newcastle success before you quit drinking sweetheart,......... Erm speechless!!!
Not for long tho! Sort yourself out young lad, you have made a start, now get with the programme!
Seriously Ben, you know alcohol is a problem so no, it was not a good idea to drink after the game. There will be lots of time you need comfort, there will be times you want to celebrate. You say you don't have years of alcohol abuse as if you have something to apologise for. you are so with it to recognise so early on that you have a problem and so brave to admit it and want to deal with it. Man alive! It took me decades and a life put on hold.
Get your meds sorted out, get your dissertation under way and get whatever help you need to stay focussed and stay sober. Does your doctor know about your drinking? If not, tomorrow is the perfect time to approach it and get what help he can give. Make sure he takes you seriously.
Be strong wee man, you are one of us, and we will be here, if you are ready.
Not for long tho! Sort yourself out young lad, you have made a start, now get with the programme!
Seriously Ben, you know alcohol is a problem so no, it was not a good idea to drink after the game. There will be lots of time you need comfort, there will be times you want to celebrate. You say you don't have years of alcohol abuse as if you have something to apologise for. you are so with it to recognise so early on that you have a problem and so brave to admit it and want to deal with it. Man alive! It took me decades and a life put on hold.
Get your meds sorted out, get your dissertation under way and get whatever help you need to stay focussed and stay sober. Does your doctor know about your drinking? If not, tomorrow is the perfect time to approach it and get what help he can give. Make sure he takes you seriously.
Be strong wee man, you are one of us, and we will be here, if you are ready.
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Originally Posted by tootsl1
Ben, if you are waiting for Newcastle success before you quit drinking sweetheart,......... Erm speechless!!!
-apologies none football folk)
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Originally Posted by tootsl1
Ben, if you are waiting for Newcastle success before you quit drinking sweetheart,......... Erm speechless!!!
Not for long tho! Sort yourself out young lad, you have made a start, now get with the programme!
Seriously Ben, you know alcohol is a problem so no, it was not a good idea to drink after the game. There will be lots of time you need comfort, there will be times you want to celebrate. You say you don't have years of alcohol abuse as if you have something to apologise for. you are so with it to recognise so early on that you have a problem and so brave to admit it and want to deal with it. Man alive! It took me decades and a life put on hold.
Get your meds sorted out, get your dissertation under way and get whatever help you need to stay focussed and stay sober. Does your doctor know about your drinking? If not, tomorrow is the perfect time to approach it and get what help he can give. Make sure he takes you seriously.
Be strong wee man, you are one of us, and we will be here, if you are ready.
Not for long tho! Sort yourself out young lad, you have made a start, now get with the programme!
Seriously Ben, you know alcohol is a problem so no, it was not a good idea to drink after the game. There will be lots of time you need comfort, there will be times you want to celebrate. You say you don't have years of alcohol abuse as if you have something to apologise for. you are so with it to recognise so early on that you have a problem and so brave to admit it and want to deal with it. Man alive! It took me decades and a life put on hold.
Get your meds sorted out, get your dissertation under way and get whatever help you need to stay focussed and stay sober. Does your doctor know about your drinking? If not, tomorrow is the perfect time to approach it and get what help he can give. Make sure he takes you seriously.
Be strong wee man, you are one of us, and we will be here, if you are ready.
The last time Newcastle won a trophy, a man named Neil was prancing about in a daft suit on the moon!
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Originally Posted by tootsl1
Sass, you are one of the few with a right to be somewhat self concerned right now, dealing as you are with your own health issues. X!
S
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Originally Posted by Northlander
Sassy, my friend, good luck with the surgery and I hope you shrink your liver like a bar mitzvah balloon with a fast leak.
Still and all, no drinkies and no smokies for yours truly, so 40+ days free from booze and 76 days free from cancer sticks.
Still and all, no drinkies and no smokies for yours truly, so 40+ days free from booze and 76 days free from cancer sticks.
Congrats on the "no drinkies, no smokies" for a good long time!
Hugs,
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Originally Posted by tootsl1
So, quick question, do any of you know anything about Massachusetts or Maine?
Hubby just asked how I'd feel about moving there for a couple of years for his work!!
Hubby just asked how I'd feel about moving there for a couple of years for his work!!
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Toots i've got family in Boston, they absolutely love it over there. Hoping to save up some dosh to visit. Sounds like it could be a great trip for you and your hubby.
Horrible news what has happened there today however, nowhere is safe these days.
Horrible news what has happened there today however, nowhere is safe these days.
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Originally Posted by tootsl1
So, quick question, do any of you know anything about Massachusetts or Maine?
Hubby just asked how I'd feel about moving there for a couple of years for his work!!
Hubby just asked how I'd feel about moving there for a couple of years for his work!!
I am from New England it's just gorgeous. I just got back from Boston and can't get enough of that city (still in shock). My niece lives there (she's safe) and I visit whenever I can. Maine is beyond beautiful. Some of the most beautiful coastline in the country. It gets super cold but I think you'd like both. Sounds exciting!!!!
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Originally Posted by Mrbeagle
Anyway, self indulgent post is over...
We are all here to share and be as self indulgent in our posts about our drinking issues as we need to be. My goodness, that's what this site is for!!
I relate to you Geek, I'm glad you're here and I appreciate all the intimate details you have shared thus far. Know you are helping me by sharing you.
Can we all please get back to being self indulgent now??
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Thank you everyone for your posts,heck this gives me food for thought. If it was only about me and hubby, it would be a really exciting opportunity too good to miss. Unfortunately there are many other considerations, not least My sweet avatar!
We have adult children ( who never stop being your kids) a 7 year old grandson we see all the time.
We have ageing parents with health issues
I would have to give up the job I love
So you see, really not straight forward!
I will need to sleep on it.
At least I will make the decision sober!!
r. 
We have adult children ( who never stop being your kids) a 7 year old grandson we see all the time.
We have ageing parents with health issues
I would have to give up the job I love
So you see, really not straight forward!
I will need to sleep on it.
At least I will make the decision sober!!
r.
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Hello my friends: I have not had a chance to catch up on 2 days of posts but I will.
I just need to get this off my chest because less than 2 minutes ago I was chilling a beer in the freezer as well as a nice frosty mug. Today was actually less stressful than usual and driving home from work I decided, then and there, in the car, that I was drinking that 16 oz beer I've been hiding in my closet. I put it in the freezer 45 minutes ago and that was that- I was doing it. Just one beer, I deserve it. I really don't have a problem, I just needed to stop for a while to lose some weight. Right? Wrong. I thought of my 40 + days of not drinking, how good I feel when I wake up, how much better every single thing in my life is when I don't drink. One beer? I already was telling myself that I could always just run out for another four pack if I "needed" to.
I'm not doing it. I dumped the beer, I'm drinking some hot tea and I'm spilling my guts to all of you because I know you understand and realize how big of a deal this is. I also thought of all of you and how we are all struggling in our own way and I want to stay strong, to be able to help people someday, and not go back to day one.
Why today? I don't know. All I can think of is that part of me does not feel deserving of how good things are going and how good I feel, that I want to sabotage it, subconsciously. I found out some really good financial news today (I'm a single mother, a teacher, and totally live paycheck to paycheck)..maybe that's part of it too- a celebration.
Sorry this is so long-winded and self-absorbed. I'm glad I somehow pulled through, but I'm scared out my mind that I gave my addicted self that much power. I'm going to put on my PJ's, read, watch TV and probably break down and cry to myself. I know it's a good thing that I stopped myself, but right now it doesn't feel so good.
I just need to get this off my chest because less than 2 minutes ago I was chilling a beer in the freezer as well as a nice frosty mug. Today was actually less stressful than usual and driving home from work I decided, then and there, in the car, that I was drinking that 16 oz beer I've been hiding in my closet. I put it in the freezer 45 minutes ago and that was that- I was doing it. Just one beer, I deserve it. I really don't have a problem, I just needed to stop for a while to lose some weight. Right? Wrong. I thought of my 40 + days of not drinking, how good I feel when I wake up, how much better every single thing in my life is when I don't drink. One beer? I already was telling myself that I could always just run out for another four pack if I "needed" to.
I'm not doing it. I dumped the beer, I'm drinking some hot tea and I'm spilling my guts to all of you because I know you understand and realize how big of a deal this is. I also thought of all of you and how we are all struggling in our own way and I want to stay strong, to be able to help people someday, and not go back to day one.
Why today? I don't know. All I can think of is that part of me does not feel deserving of how good things are going and how good I feel, that I want to sabotage it, subconsciously. I found out some really good financial news today (I'm a single mother, a teacher, and totally live paycheck to paycheck)..maybe that's part of it too- a celebration.
Sorry this is so long-winded and self-absorbed. I'm glad I somehow pulled through, but I'm scared out my mind that I gave my addicted self that much power. I'm going to put on my PJ's, read, watch TV and probably break down and cry to myself. I know it's a good thing that I stopped myself, but right now it doesn't feel so good.
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