Anxiety
Member
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: W Washington
Posts: 11,589
he left the house for three hours and SAID he went to an AA meeting.
why would you believe that anymore than anything else he has said?
turn down the volume on what you hear from his "show"
watch only the actions.
more will be revealed.
why would you believe that anymore than anything else he has said?
turn down the volume on what you hear from his "show"
watch only the actions.
more will be revealed.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 868
Originally Posted by Hawkeye13 
Is the clock running on the 45 days already? Documented eviction notice, etc.?
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 868
Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
he left the house for three hours and SAID he went to an AA meeting.
why would you believe that anymore than anything else he has said?
turn down the volume on what you hear from his "show"
watch only the actions.
more will be revealed.
why would you believe that anymore than anything else he has said?
turn down the volume on what you hear from his "show"
watch only the actions.
more will be revealed.
Member
Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 395
Dazed, please don’t take this the wrong way... but you probably have so much anxiety because your entire focus is on him and his drinking. All your posts are so extremely focused on his actions, his drinking, his life. Listen, I know... I was so focused/obsessed with my ex. But that could be the root of all this anxiety. Maybe try to stop focusing so much. I know... easier said than done... but try walking away. Don’t watch or listen to him as much. It takes a long time but I’m fairly certain your anxiety will improve once you start changing your focus. Even this thread went from YOUR anxiety straight back his drinking.
Member
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,434
My favorite SR expression is "not my circus, not my monkeys" and I think this applies here.
You are moving forward and he is trying anything to distract and reset.
Frankly, if my spouse had filed for divorce due to my drinking, I would have found an inpatient program and already be there showing through my actions I was serious.
One crummy meeting (maybe) ain't much action, especially given how bad it got.
LC is correct you are really still focusing on him.
I also think your anxiety may really be coming from your occupation of a ringside seat to his shiteshow, where the act changes every few hours.
No longer your circus, no longer your monkey--you are more important now.
You are moving forward and he is trying anything to distract and reset.
Frankly, if my spouse had filed for divorce due to my drinking, I would have found an inpatient program and already be there showing through my actions I was serious.
One crummy meeting (maybe) ain't much action, especially given how bad it got.
LC is correct you are really still focusing on him.
I also think your anxiety may really be coming from your occupation of a ringside seat to his shiteshow, where the act changes every few hours.
No longer your circus, no longer your monkey--you are more important now.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 868
Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
My favorite SR expression is "not my circus, not my monkeys" and I think this applies here.
You are moving forward and he is trying anything to distract and reset.
Frankly, if my spouse had filed for divorce due to my drinking, I would have found an inpatient program and already be there showing through my actions I was serious.
One crummy meeting (maybe) ain't much action, especially given how bad it got.
LC is correct you are really still focusing on him.
I also think your anxiety may really be coming from your occupation of a ringside seat to his shiteshow, where the act changes every few hours.
No longer your circus, no longer your monkey--you are more important now.
You are moving forward and he is trying anything to distract and reset.
Frankly, if my spouse had filed for divorce due to my drinking, I would have found an inpatient program and already be there showing through my actions I was serious.
One crummy meeting (maybe) ain't much action, especially given how bad it got.
LC is correct you are really still focusing on him.
I also think your anxiety may really be coming from your occupation of a ringside seat to his shiteshow, where the act changes every few hours.
No longer your circus, no longer your monkey--you are more important now.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
Dazed, read through the Quackers threads...he has a script, and it's whack-a-doodle.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-quackers.html (QUACKERs....)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 2)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-3-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 3)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-4-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 4)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-quackers.html (QUACKERs....)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 2)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-3-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 3)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-4-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 4)
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 868
Originally Posted by LifeChangeNYC
Dazed, please don’t take this the wrong way... but you probably have so much anxiety because your entire focus is on him and his drinking. All your posts are so extremely focused on his actions, his drinking, his life. Listen, I know... I was so focused/obsessed with my ex. But that could be the root of all this anxiety. Maybe try to stop focusing so much. I know... easier said than done... but try walking away. Don’t watch or listen to him as much. It takes a long time but I’m fairly certain your anxiety will improve once you start changing your focus. Even this thread went from YOUR anxiety straight back his drinking.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2019
Posts: 868
Originally Posted by biminiblue
Dazed, read through the Quackers threads...he has a script, and it's whack-a-doodle.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-quackers.html (QUACKERs....)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 2)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-3-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 3)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-4-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 4)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-quackers.html (QUACKERs....)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-2-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 2)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-3-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 3)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-part-4-a.html (QUACKERs.... Part 4)
Member
Join Date: Apr 2017
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 821
Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
I know it. Sick isn’t it?
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
