Dazed, please don’t take this the wrong way... but you probably have so much anxiety because your entire focus is on him and his drinking. All your posts are so extremely focused on his actions, his drinking, his life. Listen, I know... I was so focused/obsessed with my ex. But that could be the root of all this anxiety. Maybe try to stop focusing so much. I know... easier said than done... but try walking away. Don’t watch or listen to him as much. It takes a long time but I’m fairly certain your anxiety will improve once you start changing your focus. Even this thread went from YOUR anxiety straight back his drinking.