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Old 04-03-2016, 11:07 AM
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Hey,

I never drank in the mornings, but I'm still an alcoholic. For 13 years I told myself I didn't have a problem cos I didn't drink in the morning.

Serious trauma made me increase the amount I was drinking, in a big way. So it's best to get it under control now.

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Old 04-03-2016, 11:16 AM
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The truth is. I feel if I'm ment to stop it will happen.

Why is it. That whenever you go to hospital your given that questionnaire asking how much u drink. And the one time I'm actually over drinking I don't get giving the question are.

An ambulance ended up coming our last week separate not drinking related issue. I was steaming. ( you can't tell when I'm drink I speak perfectly fine etc etc) they even did my bloods in hospital. I was so steaming I was being sick while the ambulance was here. Again they were here for another health issue.

They did bloods in hospital. I was so scared they'd know I was drunk. I was do drunk that the next day ( I was there toll next day after noon for a procedure to fix the problem I came in with) so they put me on the ward. The next day I was actually having the shakes.

My bloods came back normal. No one noticed I was drunk out of my face. No one gave me the question are which I would have answered honestly so.. What can I do lol.
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Old 04-03-2016, 11:25 AM
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Note, I'm not implying easing off your efforts at not drinking, just that trauma recovery may be an important peice in moving from abstaining because you know you *should* and are in real danger, towards committing to sobriety because you really *want* it.
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Old 04-03-2016, 11:48 AM
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WD no problemo about the pm thing

But you need to address your alcoholism I know you don't think that but I do, drinking is doing you no favors whatsoever your here on a sobriety forum trying to convince us your not alcoholic when really what I think your doing is trying to convince yourself... I heavily get that I done the same thing I think every alcoholic tried that before accepting their alcoholism

What I'm going to suggest is something you proberly won't do & that's ok if even just 1% of what I'm saying goes through

I'm 33 there's tons of ppl getting wasted at my age but I'm not ask yourself why I'm not

Your going to need a plan you already know this forum cares & has your back but your sobriety starts with you it's your actions your next steps that will determine how tomorrow begins & ends

We'll be there with you, you won't be doing this alone your proberly alcoholic just like me & I hope you address it youl feel a ton better for it

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Old 04-03-2016, 12:09 PM
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Honestly I don't think I'm trying to convince anyone I'm not An alki

I know I still laughed to much I do admit that

I'm trying to stop check that link
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Old 04-03-2016, 12:10 PM
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I thought I was addressing my drinking. Xx
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Old 04-03-2016, 03:27 PM
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I feel if I'm ment to stop it will happen.
Trouble is I waited for over 20 years for that moment to arrive and it never did. I could have easily continued drinking myself right into a grave.

If you think quitting is hard now, it will be exponentially harder 5, 10, 20 years down the line.

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Old 04-08-2016, 09:14 AM
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I've been to my gp. And she prescribed me diazipham. I have not drank in a couple days. Diazipham three times a day.

Today ita 5 pm and I just swallowed one with a sip of baileys. But I know I know shouldn't do both. So I won't have any more. But this is a better step. No booze in a couple of days ( accept actually forgot about two kopper Burges yesterday. But not strong stuff. Nothing day before. .

Staying at my mums for few days. Ex has kids etc.
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Old 04-08-2016, 09:34 AM
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No, no, no wheelingdizzy! Do not mix the diazepam with alcohol. They give that to help you with withdrawal symptoms, it doesn't help with cravings. It should not be mixed with alcohol at all. I haven't caught up completely with your thread, my apologies because I am very sincerely interested in seeing you succeed, it is just that I have been in rehab myself and have not had much emotional energy to spare. Please get some help. I did the whole ambulance thing, hoping someone would notice I was drunk and do something to me/about it. But like with you, they just treated me for the issue I came in for and then sent me on my way. I had to completely stop the wishy washy "cries for help" and legitimately and clearly asked for what I needed. Which I did, finally, with much terror, and ended up in rehab.
It has been great experience for me.
Do you think you could find some time to google rehab centres that specialise in various areas of care? You might find somewhere good that could help you with your physical rehabilitation while also addressing your alcohol problem. I know the centre I am at now deals with a variety of complex issues, including various people with multiple issues, including several with physical/medical (not psychiatric) issues.
Thinking of you.
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Old 04-08-2016, 09:38 AM
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Hi I have just read the first couple of pages with interest.

I also had a spinal injury over a year ago - I wasn't in a wheelchair as they had to operate urgently- but I was in agony and bed bound for months. I was given all the painkillers in the world and I used to knock them back with wine as that killed the pain so much better.

Plus, I felt entitled - I had a serious injury and was in so much pain etc.

I so regret it now as my drinking escalated to ridiculous levels and I'm trying to start my life over again.

Well done for not having booze for a couple of days xx
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Old 04-08-2016, 11:37 AM
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please don't mix alcohol with your medication you had a few days why not reach out here anytime you get cravings ?
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Old 04-12-2016, 12:26 PM
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Originally Posted by Meraviglioso View Post
No, no, no wheelingdizzy! Do not mix the diazepam with alcohol. They give that to help you with withdrawal symptoms, it doesn't help with cravings. It should not be mixed with alcohol at all. I haven't caught up completely with your thread, my apologies because I am very sincerely interested in seeing you succeed, it is just that I have been in rehab myself and have not had much emotional energy to spare. Please get some help. I did the whole ambulance thing, hoping someone would notice I was drunk and do something to me/about it. But like with you, they just treated me for the issue I came in for and then sent me on my way. I had to completely stop the wishy washy "cries for help" and legitimately and clearly asked for what I needed. Which I did, finally, with much terror, and ended up in rehab.
It has been great experience for me.
Do you think you could find some time to google rehab centres that specialise in various areas of care? You might find somewhere good that could help you with your physical rehabilitation while also addressing your alcohol problem. I know the centre I am at now deals with a variety of complex issues, including various people with multiple issues, including several with physical/medical (not psychiatric) issues.
Thinking of you.
Hey I hope your doing okay and please don't worry about not coming on my post self care is the most important and I'm glad you took some time for yourself. Unfortunately with kids and uni rehab isn't an option. But I'm hoping to go cold Turkey from Saturday onwards. I want to get healthy

Are you back home . I hope ur doing okay
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Old 04-12-2016, 12:31 PM
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Hi I have just read the first couple of pages with interest.

I also had a spinal injury over a year ago - I wasn't in a wheelchair as they had to operate urgently- but I was in agony and bed bound for months. I was given all the painkillers in the world and I used to knock them back with wine as that killed the pain so much better.

Plus, I felt entitled - I had a serious injury and was in so much pain etc.

I so regret it now as my drinking escalated to ridiculous levels and I'm trying to start my life over again.

Well done for not having booze for a couple of days xx
Hey daisy I'm so sorry about the pain you went through xx

Gosh yiu must have been in agony after surgery. Were you drinking before your spinal injury? Or do you feel the injury triggered it?

I'm not on a couple of days no drink lol now. I'm on day one again lol.

Haven't had anything today. And I won't tommorow xx

How are you doing now?
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Old 04-12-2016, 12:33 PM
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I took the diazipham for three days. And it was time for me to stop because the effects only first two days and I loved it. Third day it didn't make me fall asleep which then tempted me to take it with drink. I don't need anything else to make me be tempted to be stupid.

So that's it with diazipham.

My plan is to have no booze tommorow. I will take one day at a time.

I know I will drink on Saturday. I admit that.

But I want to stop after that.
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Old 04-12-2016, 12:35 PM
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please don't mix alcohol with your medication you had a few days why not reach out here anytime you get cravings ?
Hi sober. How are you doing?

And I won't be taking thst medication again as It seems that's the urge I have when taking it which isn't good. So for myself it is best if I don't take it..

Il come on here if I havs a craving thanks. As I'm wanting to go cold Turkey after Saturday.

Nothing today. Done.
Hope nothing tommorow. Which is Wednesday.
Nothing thusday I hope.
Nothing Friday I hope.
But i will drink Saturday.

If I can aim for that this week I know I should aim for no drink at all but got to start somwere.
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Old 04-12-2016, 12:51 PM
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Hey I hope your doing okay and please don't worry about not coming on my post self care is the most important and I'm glad you took some time for yourself. Unfortunately with kids and uni rehab isn't an option. But I'm hoping to go cold Turkey from Saturday onwards. I want to get healthy

Are you back home . I hope ur doing okay
I leave tomorrow morning. I also thought that with the kids and work it would be impossible for me to leave for 28 days. I absolutely refused to even consider it as an option because in my mind it simply was not possible. As it turns out the world kept on turning in my absence. It wasn't easy to get everything set up and organised for my absence, nor was it easy to explain to certain people (work stuff, other moms at school, the kids) where exactly I was going, I had to fudge around a bit and come up with an explanation for that. But I did it and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. after all you have been through you certainly deserve some deep, patient, kind care to help you through this. Give it a thought. If you have any more questions just feel free to ask.
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Old 04-16-2016, 02:36 PM
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Hey are you okay? Just a "." I can see?
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Old 04-16-2016, 02:37 PM
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Good news

I stuck to my goals and exceeded them. As you know I said I was going to drink today for sure. So not drinking thoae other days excited to drink on Saturday.. Saturday came.. I decided not to drink..
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Old 04-16-2016, 02:40 PM
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Tuesday
Wednesday
Thusday
Friday
Saturday


ALL NO DRINKING DAYS.
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