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Old 01-02-2016, 01:18 AM
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Lightbulb Psst...wanna know why I'm always recommending recovery plans?

Cos otherwise, sometime sooner or later, you're going to be blindsided by an event, a person, a feeling, a situation or a stressor...and the urge to drink or use will be there.

If you haven't given much thought to what you might do in response, there's always the danger you'll revert to the default - which, for people like us, is drink/use.

Make a plan

It may take a little time and some deep thought, but it's really not that difficult

Here are some helpful free links and ideas

http://www.npaihb.org/wp-content/upl...r-recovery.pdf

[MIRROR] https://web.archive.org/web/20180728...0/SMA-3720.pdf


https://web.archive.org/web/20150927...SMA12-4474.pdf

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-recovery.html

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html

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Thank you, Dee.

Absolutely agree.
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I have a notebook each year that I carry around and use to keep track of stuff going on, finances, my diet etc. I think there will be a new category this year - finding happiness!
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Thanks Dee. I am going to do this
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Old 01-02-2016, 04:15 AM
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You speak the truth, Dee.
I remember my AV trying to discourage me,
every time I heard "what will you do differently?"
or "do you have a plan, this time?"
After a roller coaster 2015 of several binges
and a maximum of only 90 consecutive days of sobriety,
I finally know what I have to do.
It only took 5000 times, but now I've got it.
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Dee, I agree 100%. My plan is saving my life.
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Old 01-02-2016, 04:30 AM
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Strange as it seems now, for many years I would try to quit by not drinking and then hoping I would not feel like drinking again.

Well, golly - I was addicted to alcohol. OF COURSE I would feel like drinking again. When that feeling came I would react to it by hoping it would go away. When it didn't in a few hours or days, I was back to drinking.

Hope: it's a great thing, but it isn't a PLAN.

The next time I feel like drinking I will _________________ instead.
Fill in the blank. That's the simplest short-term plan I know. It works if you use it.
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Thanks Dee!!!
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Old 01-02-2016, 05:45 AM
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I've found that making these recovery plans does not only help with staying sober but many of the same strategies can be applied to a great variety of challenging situations and problem areas in my life. Different kinds of obsessions for sure, but basically anything that requires self restraint and overcoming obstacles imposed by internal current. It's also an interesting way to learn about ourselves when we tinker with the methods, what works, what's less effective. Great form of personalized treatment.
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Old 01-02-2016, 06:16 AM
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Originally Posted by lunar View Post
You speak the truth, Dee.
I remember my AV trying to discourage me,
every time I heard "what will you do differently?"
or "do you have a plan, this time?"
After a roller coaster 2015 of several binges
and a maximum of only 90 consecutive days of sobriety,
I finally know what I have to do.
It only took 5000 times, but now I've got it.
It only took you 5000 times? You got off lucky!!
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Old 01-02-2016, 08:05 AM
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Yep. The plan.

I quit twice without a plan and relapsed. Third time's a charm 'cuz it's gonna have a plan.
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Old 01-02-2016, 08:12 AM
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I'm in over my head. I need a plan. Thank you.
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Old 01-02-2016, 08:13 AM
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To add, the thoughts are going to come. You are going to want to drink in early sobriety. The Plan isn't to make those thoughts go away - it's to recognize that a thought is just a thought and has no power over your actions. The more times you execute a Plan and just don't drink at those times, the less frequently the thoughts to drink appear.

The first six months are the hardest. Protect yourself and your sobriety like it is a newborn baby - because it is! It's delicate. If you drop it, you may kill it.
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Old 01-02-2016, 08:39 AM
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That first link especially is great.

If I had gotten to read something like that 15 years ago when I got out of rehab, it would have helped so much!

I will be passing it on.
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Originally Posted by miamifella View Post
That first link especially is great.

If I had gotten to read something like that 15 years ago when I got out of rehab, it would have helped so much!

I will be passing it on.
I couldn't even read the first one without crying...and I thought I was doing Ok! !!! It's like they know me...the bit where it said what help do u need, and it said 'hold me' my chest just tightened up and tears sprung out... sigh.....
Thanks dee I am going to do this!
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Thanks for the reminder Dee.
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This!!! As with pretty much anything - having a plan in place will exponentially increase your chance of success and keep you accountable.

Plans give you a framework to work with - more than likely you will need to adjust/tweak your plan as you go through your journey to sobriety. That is perfectly fine.
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Thank you Dee!
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