Class of May 2021 Support thread Part 3
Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 2,742
Hi everyone, I was able to catch up a bit on your posts.
my brain isn’t quite sharp so I don’t really have much to say. My power went out last night and it was hot and you could hear the neighbors getting irritated. Big trigger for me. I took the dog to a friends house to stay cool but he was a terrible houseguest. We left at 1:30am and I’m still so exhausted. But I gotta get up and have a day
my brain isn’t quite sharp so I don’t really have much to say. My power went out last night and it was hot and you could hear the neighbors getting irritated. Big trigger for me. I took the dog to a friends house to stay cool but he was a terrible houseguest. We left at 1:30am and I’m still so exhausted. But I gotta get up and have a day
Well that isn't a fun night at all. 
Member
Join Date: Nov 2020
Posts: 338
I have been up and doing a few things around the house. No garage cleaning, but that will get done at some point. Not today.I am going to stop now.
Venus, I just put Queen Bees in my que, it looks like I have something to watch this afternoon.
Phoebe, I am so glad you had a good time with your daughter. I am sure it puts your mind at ease to see her routine and surroundings too. I am going to hate it if my daughter decides to leave. We discussed what would happen and she decided to marry. We can make plans for the future, but as the saying goes, Man plans and God laughs. I know she will always be close but I would definitely need to hire some help if she does move out.
Plenny, I am sorry about your power but it sounds like you handled it nicely. Get away from the triggers. Get some rest also. HALT, one of those can get you in a hot minute.
Kittencat, we are getting plenty of storms here also. They are rarely very bad, usually in December or January we get a tornado alert here. It is strange. The hurricanes are what do us in. We do get plenty of thunderstorms, which my daughter used to hate. After being here a month she just came out of her bedroom and said she had to get over her fear, went back into her room and has never complained about them again.
My pain level is not bad right now, I am sitting with an ice pack at the moment. It got pretty intense with a few things I did, so I had to back off. I am not ready to drive yet at all so I did some on line shopping! I did find my husband a nice Father's Day gift, a card, and deal on rolls of wrapping paper. I don't need to leave the house to shop! It is very convenient. I have also came to depend on it during the pandemic.
Now I guess, I should go rest. I have been up since 3am and AV will do its best to get to me this afternoon, I am sure.
OneThing
Venus, I just put Queen Bees in my que, it looks like I have something to watch this afternoon.
Phoebe, I am so glad you had a good time with your daughter. I am sure it puts your mind at ease to see her routine and surroundings too. I am going to hate it if my daughter decides to leave. We discussed what would happen and she decided to marry. We can make plans for the future, but as the saying goes, Man plans and God laughs. I know she will always be close but I would definitely need to hire some help if she does move out.
Plenny, I am sorry about your power but it sounds like you handled it nicely. Get away from the triggers. Get some rest also. HALT, one of those can get you in a hot minute.
Kittencat, we are getting plenty of storms here also. They are rarely very bad, usually in December or January we get a tornado alert here. It is strange. The hurricanes are what do us in. We do get plenty of thunderstorms, which my daughter used to hate. After being here a month she just came out of her bedroom and said she had to get over her fear, went back into her room and has never complained about them again.
My pain level is not bad right now, I am sitting with an ice pack at the moment. It got pretty intense with a few things I did, so I had to back off. I am not ready to drive yet at all so I did some on line shopping! I did find my husband a nice Father's Day gift, a card, and deal on rolls of wrapping paper. I don't need to leave the house to shop! It is very convenient. I have also came to depend on it during the pandemic.
Now I guess, I should go rest. I have been up since 3am and AV will do its best to get to me this afternoon, I am sure.
OneThing
Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 2,742
Power is back
good to hear your pain is subsiding One Thing
i got triggered again today because my sponsor didn’t think to invite me to their pool get together yesterday and I had been thinking about a pool all day, and I’m trying to be a sober adult about it but I have a complex involving feeling invisible and when I feel that way I want to obscure myself in drink. She doesn’t know this. Because every time I share that info it complicates matters even more and then they feel guilty then they invite me to things and I say no and they get confused
on the flip side a couple friends invited me to an evening just for me in which we will eat cheese for dinner
so that’s what I’m dealing with right now I don’t know. Just not in a great place mentally
good to hear your pain is subsiding One Thing
i got triggered again today because my sponsor didn’t think to invite me to their pool get together yesterday and I had been thinking about a pool all day, and I’m trying to be a sober adult about it but I have a complex involving feeling invisible and when I feel that way I want to obscure myself in drink. She doesn’t know this. Because every time I share that info it complicates matters even more and then they feel guilty then they invite me to things and I say no and they get confused
on the flip side a couple friends invited me to an evening just for me in which we will eat cheese for dinner
so that’s what I’m dealing with right now I don’t know. Just not in a great place mentally
Member
Join Date: Nov 2020
Posts: 338
I am sorry Plenny, I know how that feels. I spend too much time by myself. I do get invited to most everything, that I know of, but I have to say no a lot of times because of my back or neck. I do feel pretty invisible also by not having good roots where we live now. I have had so much done over the last 3 years. It has been a long journey, health wise, two steps forward and one step back. I am better then I was, so I keep going forward.
Wine:30 once again! AV is very loud this afternoon. I never got my nap and I am exhausted. I tried and was just about asleep when my husband called during his lunch. It was so sweet of him and he had no idea he was disturbing me. The 3 hour difference is a killer.
Now if I drank, that sure would mess up my sleep tonight and probably make me pretty cranky. I am already looking forward to my 7pm pill. I have been up all day, sitting in my chair with lots of ice packs, but not lying flat. I don't think I really need to lay flat so much anymore. I think drinking and mixing it with that pill would be a disaster. It is best if I don't drink! That settles that.
I need to go rummage through the freezer and find something easy to fix. Some plain baked chicken breast, rice, and a veg sounds easy enough to me. I have some good lemon pepper seasoning, so decision made.
I have to get on here in the afternoon and talk about this stupid AV. It takes a lot of it's power away. It means I have made a commitment to stay sober for these few hours.
Have a good evening all! I look forward to sleep!
OneThing
Wine:30 once again! AV is very loud this afternoon. I never got my nap and I am exhausted. I tried and was just about asleep when my husband called during his lunch. It was so sweet of him and he had no idea he was disturbing me. The 3 hour difference is a killer.
Now if I drank, that sure would mess up my sleep tonight and probably make me pretty cranky. I am already looking forward to my 7pm pill. I have been up all day, sitting in my chair with lots of ice packs, but not lying flat. I don't think I really need to lay flat so much anymore. I think drinking and mixing it with that pill would be a disaster. It is best if I don't drink! That settles that.
I need to go rummage through the freezer and find something easy to fix. Some plain baked chicken breast, rice, and a veg sounds easy enough to me. I have some good lemon pepper seasoning, so decision made.
I have to get on here in the afternoon and talk about this stupid AV. It takes a lot of it's power away. It means I have made a commitment to stay sober for these few hours.
Have a good evening all! I look forward to sleep!
OneThing
Administrator
Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,444
Hi Plenny not being invited to things and feeling invisible was one of my issues too - on the one hand I took everything way too personally, on the other it turned out I needed better friends.
Some sponsors like to keep it ‘professional’ maybe yours is like that, or maybe just clueless.
Head to a pool yourself when you can and cool off
D
Some sponsors like to keep it ‘professional’ maybe yours is like that, or maybe just clueless.
Head to a pool yourself when you can and cool off
D
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 5,554
Plenny. I often feel invisible or ignored by people. I’m often the fringe friend. I might be close to one person and they do include me, occasionally, into their group. But, I haven’t felt like I have my own strong core friends in several years. One group I had all bought homes in the same town, and we ended up in a very different suburban area. We just gradually got dropped because they all found it inconvenient to come here, and all just hung together daily up there where they live. Even in the group, I was brought into it by my college friend, but it’s all her HS friends. My daughter seems to find herself on the outside of things too. We are a bit shy about taking the initiative in friendships. Anyway, it does hurt to feel left out, even if it’s unintended.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 5,554
So, I meet a new primary care doctor tomorrow afternoon. I’m nervous. I might have been able to stay with the man who’s seen me a couple of times since my January blood pressure and ER episode, but, I was already on the waitlist for this new to the practice female dr. I’m generally more comfortable with a woman physician for the female specific issues and exams that come up, as nice as this guy has been. I just haven’t had a male dr ever since age 29, other than a couple of specialists and surgeons. So, I signed up for a physical when I got a message that she had started seeing patients. I’m nervous because I’m starting over and embarrassed by my health issues. I feel very much a failure for being overweight, diabetic, etc...
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 5,554
Originally Posted by Dee74 
If the new doctor is a good fit hopefully they'll help you work through that 'failure' stuff, Phoebe
D
D
Member
Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Oh Phoebe, big hugs to you and your inner little girl 
❤️
Onething I’m so glad your pain has settled down somewhat. Keep strong against the AV, it’s a liar and a cheat.
I have a work dinner on this Friday and today they’ve been talking about getting plastered on Friday night
I haven’t been out with them before and it’s something I can’t avoid, but I have no intention of drinking. I will be designated driver which will help keep the AV in check.
Today is day 30
❤️Onething I’m so glad your pain has settled down somewhat. Keep strong against the AV, it’s a liar and a cheat.
I have a work dinner on this Friday and today they’ve been talking about getting plastered on Friday night
I haven’t been out with them before and it’s something I can’t avoid, but I have no intention of drinking. I will be designated driver which will help keep the AV in check.Today is day 30
Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 2,742
Originally Posted by venuscat
Does that mean your sponsor told you about the pool thing and apologised? I bet she invites you next time love ❤️
❤️ thanks everyone for your different takes. It really helped me see better.
It’s funny how when I feel those triggers I cognitively know the truth and think about the situation rationally but the physical emotional feeling that was triggered persists and it comes from such a place of hurt and loneliness from when I was a child
Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 2,742
Oh Phoebe. I really feel that. Thank you for understanding.
about your health issues, I’d say beating yourself up will only make you feel worse. You have given yourself a chance to reset. It’s pretty cool
I was just listening to the No Proof podcast on Spotify and one of the interviewees was talking about getting her dental health back together in sobriety and feeling that shame but also being very affirmed and validated that she made this right choice. Now she can tackle her issues without it being this insurmountable pile of tasks like it was when she was drinking
about your health issues, I’d say beating yourself up will only make you feel worse. You have given yourself a chance to reset. It’s pretty cool
I was just listening to the No Proof podcast on Spotify and one of the interviewees was talking about getting her dental health back together in sobriety and feeling that shame but also being very affirmed and validated that she made this right choice. Now she can tackle her issues without it being this insurmountable pile of tasks like it was when she was drinking
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
