Class of July 2013 Part 61
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Wendy, I second what Dee says. Truly shocking, and a huge thing to deal with. But you will.
Drinking would be the weak way out. I’m sorry, but it’s the truth. If a 6 year old kid can endure abuse, you can go without a drink. I’m not going to sugar coat it. It’s not an excuse to drink, it’s a reason to stand up and deal with reality. Yes, you’ve had a lot of tests in life.
You might feel guilt that it happened on your watch and possibly during a time you abused alcohol, but stand up now, be a leader in this and don’t be making more drama by drinking. That’s the last thing you or your family need.
Drinking would be the weak way out. I’m sorry, but it’s the truth. If a 6 year old kid can endure abuse, you can go without a drink. I’m not going to sugar coat it. It’s not an excuse to drink, it’s a reason to stand up and deal with reality. Yes, you’ve had a lot of tests in life.
You might feel guilt that it happened on your watch and possibly during a time you abused alcohol, but stand up now, be a leader in this and don’t be making more drama by drinking. That’s the last thing you or your family need.
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Dee , thank you so much. You ALWAYS know what to say to me to make me feel better.
i really appreciate this , thanks xxx I’m still nauseated . I was going to ask you to delete the post, but you know what, if it can help someone in the same position I’m in then it’ will be worth it xx
i really appreciate this , thanks xxx I’m still nauseated . I was going to ask you to delete the post, but you know what, if it can help someone in the same position I’m in then it’ will be worth it xx
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Thank you Crois and Mags . No I didn’t drink at all when he was a little boy. He would have been about 18 .
that what I can’t come to terms with. I was totally accessible, clear headed and coherent at ALL times .
youre right, if she endured this at 6 I can endure not drinking. But so much of me just wants to put my hands over my ears and go blah blah blah .
my poor baby sister, I am jusy dying inside for her . Now I know why she has tried to commit suicide 3 times. But all were a call for help.
we will get through this together and I’m sorry but I was just writing it then going to delete it, but Shaun said send it Wend, they are your friends you might just get what you need here.
so I did .
thanks for your wonderful responses , I’m so very grateful
xxxxx
that what I can’t come to terms with. I was totally accessible, clear headed and coherent at ALL times .
youre right, if she endured this at 6 I can endure not drinking. But so much of me just wants to put my hands over my ears and go blah blah blah .
my poor baby sister, I am jusy dying inside for her . Now I know why she has tried to commit suicide 3 times. But all were a call for help.
we will get through this together and I’m sorry but I was just writing it then going to delete it, but Shaun said send it Wend, they are your friends you might just get what you need here.
so I did .
thanks for your wonderful responses , I’m so very grateful
xxxxx
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Shaun is right, Wendy. Surely we are your friends after 7 years of warts and all! xx
I’m very proud of you for stepping up to acknowledge your sister. Many would just defend their child in some way, which I can also understand. Something horrible has happened and unfortunately even your son was a child when it started, it sounds very complicated. Sending love. Amd thank you for sharing what must have been a difficult topic to tackle. Big hugs.xx
I’m very proud of you for stepping up to acknowledge your sister. Many would just defend their child in some way, which I can also understand. Something horrible has happened and unfortunately even your son was a child when it started, it sounds very complicated. Sending love. Amd thank you for sharing what must have been a difficult topic to tackle. Big hugs.xx
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Originally Posted by Mags1 
Wendy, I agree with Dee and CW. Terrible shock for you all and what you and your family are going through love. 
We’re here to support you.
We’re here to support you.
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Sending love and support to you Wendy.....(is there an echo in here?). You are stronger than you know.
You have weathered many storms and you will get through this one. It was a terrible thing that happened, there is no denying that.....but now you have the chance to help with the healing.
Much love and many big hugs,
Croutie
Thinking of ALL you Julyers and Dee and sending love and hugs...
You have weathered many storms and you will get through this one. It was a terrible thing that happened, there is no denying that.....but now you have the chance to help with the healing.
Much love and many big hugs,
Croutie
Thinking of ALL you Julyers and Dee and sending love and hugs...
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Hey Wendy, just offering my support.
Now that this have come to light. Now the healing can begin.
I will pray for peace in your heart during this time.
Take care and know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers sincerely.
Now that this have come to light. Now the healing can begin.
I will pray for peace in your heart during this time.
Take care and know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers sincerely.
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Hiya Julyer Buddies
I heard from Wendy yesterday saying she wasn’t doing too good in reply to my messages.
Wendy, when you read this, we have nothing but love for you. No judgements. I know how hard it was to stay stopped drinking. Drinking causes more anxieties and stress. You can’t see things clearly with booze and it only numbs the pain for a few hours, as Dee mentioned before.
Thinking of you Wendy love, hoping and praying for you love.
Have a good weekend, keep safe. xxxx
I heard from Wendy yesterday saying she wasn’t doing too good in reply to my messages.
Wendy, when you read this, we have nothing but love for you. No judgements. I know how hard it was to stay stopped drinking. Drinking causes more anxieties and stress. You can’t see things clearly with booze and it only numbs the pain for a few hours, as Dee mentioned before.
Thinking of you Wendy love, hoping and praying for you love.
Have a good weekend, keep safe. xxxx
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I’m sorry but there’s always going to be an excuse to drink.
What I don’t understand Wendy is why would you do this to yourself? This is the last thing everyone needs in your family, including you, but particularly your parents?
We all care for you here, but I am not going to condone this relapse. I remember you posting once when another member passed here years ago and you wished you’d done more for them. Except we can’t - only you need to be ready. Alcohol kills people Wendy. This is no game. Would you play Russian Roulette? Because that’s what you did by drinking again.
I am at a loss to know why you drank at this time. Truly when people say the alcoholic mind is selfish and all about the addiction. I know it, I’ve lived it.
I can never, ever, understand how you feel about what’s happening with your sister and son, Wendy. But I can understand about the drinking and using weak excuses to do it. I call bs. I’m sorry. It’s shocking reason /excuse to put your parents and family through more drama.
I hope you find a way out, but picking up a drink? No, after years on this site, you knew better mate.
What I don’t understand Wendy is why would you do this to yourself? This is the last thing everyone needs in your family, including you, but particularly your parents?
We all care for you here, but I am not going to condone this relapse. I remember you posting once when another member passed here years ago and you wished you’d done more for them. Except we can’t - only you need to be ready. Alcohol kills people Wendy. This is no game. Would you play Russian Roulette? Because that’s what you did by drinking again.
I am at a loss to know why you drank at this time. Truly when people say the alcoholic mind is selfish and all about the addiction. I know it, I’ve lived it.
I can never, ever, understand how you feel about what’s happening with your sister and son, Wendy. But I can understand about the drinking and using weak excuses to do it. I call bs. I’m sorry. It’s shocking reason /excuse to put your parents and family through more drama.
I hope you find a way out, but picking up a drink? No, after years on this site, you knew better mate.
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