Class of July 2013 Part 61
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Originally Posted by Croutie 
Snoozy love, sometimes what we think clears the air, rights the wrong, sets the record straight is more about us trying to unburden ourselves....to make the hurt and pain we feel and have caused others go away.
Sounds good on paper, but in fact it’s so much more complicated than that. Declarations bring along the need for explanations.....and sometimes it’s just such a hurtful subject matter that it takes a long time to recover from the information given.
At this point please try and be a selfish little Wendy and spend all of your time on yourself. You’ve shared the hidden truth with your daughter and now you have to let her absorb and deal with the information in her own way.
Now it’s time to move onto the “Wendy” project. Give yourself the attention and love and I think the results will be amazing. You’ve unburdened your heart and now you can start to heal it.
The best thing you can do for any of your relationships is heal yourself. Do the necessary work to get yourself in a better place.
You’re such a special, loving person and a safe, fulfilling and happy life awaits you.....but you’ve got to do a little work for it...
You can do it of that I’m sure.
Sending you love and support Sweetie.
Croutie
Sounds good on paper, but in fact it’s so much more complicated than that. Declarations bring along the need for explanations.....and sometimes it’s just such a hurtful subject matter that it takes a long time to recover from the information given.
At this point please try and be a selfish little Wendy and spend all of your time on yourself. You’ve shared the hidden truth with your daughter and now you have to let her absorb and deal with the information in her own way.
Now it’s time to move onto the “Wendy” project. Give yourself the attention and love and I think the results will be amazing. You’ve unburdened your heart and now you can start to heal it.
The best thing you can do for any of your relationships is heal yourself. Do the necessary work to get yourself in a better place.
You’re such a special, loving person and a safe, fulfilling and happy life awaits you.....but you’ve got to do a little work for it...
You can do it of that I’m sure.
Sending you love and support Sweetie.
Croutie
Thanks everyone xxx I appreciate you all. My Psych just left fro our home visit. I'm feeling positive x
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Originally Posted by Calmerwaters
You too, Wendy. Glad you had your visit. One day, hour, sometimes minute, at a time.xx
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I can't imagine anyone is annoyed love. 
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Just love and we are all absolutely here for you.
It's all about getting healthy again one day at a time.
With all of us on your side.
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sJust love and we are all absolutely here for you.
It's all about getting healthy again one day at a time.
With all of us on your side.
s ❤️❤️❤️
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Originally Posted by SnoozyQ
Thanks Crois I am hating myself right now, maybe tomorrow will be different . I know I annoy you so much , but I'm trying. I really am
You have to protect you from the AV. That’s your one job, really - the rest works itself out from there.
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Originally Posted by Calmerwaters
No no, not annoyed. Sad for you. That you aren’t valuing yourself enough. That’s the tragedy, Wendy. I’ve said it all along. You give so much love and care to others, but struggle to do it for yourself.
You have to protect you from the AV. That’s your one job, really - the rest works itself out from there.
You have to protect you from the AV. That’s your one job, really - the rest works itself out from there.
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Hello Julyer Buddies 
I hope everyone is feeling ok?
Christmas is a bit different, covid-style, over here. The good news is the vaccine is being rolled out. It’s looking good for the near future that this will be a virus able to be controlled.
Love to all. Take care and be safe xxxx
I hope everyone is feeling ok?
Christmas is a bit different, covid-style, over here. The good news is the vaccine is being rolled out. It’s looking good for the near future that this will be a virus able to be controlled.
Love to all. Take care and be safe xxxx
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I have been absent of late. Usual stuff- pain, brain, insane....also end of year and finishing art assignments, practical and papers...this has been a real kicker - but I got my final results today and received a credit for both the history and the drawing subjects.
Given the last 2 drawing subjects I scraped through the first, and a solid pass for number 2- a credit shows more improvement. My brain is still physically healing from the burns trauma, the booze, the 23 surgical procedures and the huge amount of life saving drugs and anaesthetics I had. The slowly improving grades show my brain is still healing. This was ahlf the reason I pursued this visual arts Bachelor- to brain train. Also a concrete way of showing myself comittment to my recovery.
So I am satisfied, but am determined to do more of the same work in the break, so as not to lose momentum.
My prayers and support to all.
Forgive this post going in other threads- if you read around.
Given the last 2 drawing subjects I scraped through the first, and a solid pass for number 2- a credit shows more improvement. My brain is still physically healing from the burns trauma, the booze, the 23 surgical procedures and the huge amount of life saving drugs and anaesthetics I had. The slowly improving grades show my brain is still healing. This was ahlf the reason I pursued this visual arts Bachelor- to brain train. Also a concrete way of showing myself comittment to my recovery.
So I am satisfied, but am determined to do more of the same work in the break, so as not to lose momentum.
My prayers and support to all.
Forgive this post going in other threads- if you read around.
Magsie
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Bob, I can just imagine Toby playing in the snow as you’re shoveling it away. 
PJ, congratulations on your art exams. You push through and get it done.
Have a good weekend Julyer buddies, keep safe.
Love to all xxxx
PJ, congratulations on your art exams. You push through and get it done.
Have a good weekend Julyer buddies, keep safe.
Love to all xxxx
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Hey PJ. Thanks for the update! It’s mot repetitive to me cos I rarely read around the site these days. I applaud you for pushing through on getting this study completed. Just pushing through on the mental drain itself can be enough on getting a qualification.
I’ve started getting heavily back into art too, and will wait for the post Christmas sales to get a new camera. I told myself all sorts of reasons why buying art materials was indulgent, but then asked myself exactly when would be the right time? I don’t know why I deny myself pleasures. Maybe it goes back to the alcoholism thing. I’ve always struggled with perfectionism, and making the next right choice.
Love to all. Seems staying in Melbourne for Xmas was the right choice for me. Love to all.
I’ve started getting heavily back into art too, and will wait for the post Christmas sales to get a new camera. I told myself all sorts of reasons why buying art materials was indulgent, but then asked myself exactly when would be the right time? I don’t know why I deny myself pleasures. Maybe it goes back to the alcoholism thing. I’ve always struggled with perfectionism, and making the next right choice.
Love to all. Seems staying in Melbourne for Xmas was the right choice for me. Love to all.
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Originally Posted by venuscat
He is just so beautiful Bob. ❤️
❤️He got a nice bath this morning before the holidays.
I'll be picking my daughter up tonight. She's flying in from Florida.
She's in for a big surprise with all the snow and cold here.
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