Class of July 2013 Part 61
I am sure she will be thrilled to be home. ❤️
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Aaaw Bob, he’s gorgeous. He’s grown up so much. ❤️ Be lovely to have your daughter home for Christmas xx
Sending love and wishing everyone, PJ, Snoozy, Dee, CW, Leshar, Croutie, Pete, Suze, Bob, a Merry Christmas. xxxx
Sending love and wishing everyone, PJ, Snoozy, Dee, CW, Leshar, Croutie, Pete, Suze, Bob, a Merry Christmas. xxxx
Happy Holidays to all Julyer Buddies. Member
Join Date: Mar 2018
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Hey Merry Christmas to all! Orphan Christmas for me, but I’m ok with it. Little roast and some veg, and a brownie and cream for dessert. Watched some movies and painted.
About to put on the traditional “National Lampoon” movies.
Love to all.xx hugs for those who are missing loved ones.
About to put on the traditional “National Lampoon” movies.
Love to all.xx hugs for those who are missing loved ones.
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A repeated post for xmas day.
I awoke feeling like shite, as is oft on xmas with no immediate family. I attempted to stay in bed and languish in self misery, but the recovery tools kicked in, so I scrubbed my living space, did washing and dishes and had a shower and felt human. Then the xmas ldinner with 2 friends who are in the club we all are in- all sober. All with broken families and lots of sadness- but my incessant babbling and energy and a walk on a lovely beach got us all much lighter in mood- reminiscing about funny comedy shows that are bad, with simple- but healthy food and lots of stories. We all felt much better for making an effort.
So like every day- the lesson for me is to mindfully appreciate what I have today, not the ruminate over what was- or may have been. I am grateful for the friends and the day. My youngest son sent me a message last night and I sent my oldest a message mid morning instead of playing the 'your turn' game. He responded- so I am grateful for the contact.
Nearly 9 at night on xmas day here. I hope all have a safe, happy and peaceful xmas.
I awoke feeling like shite, as is oft on xmas with no immediate family. I attempted to stay in bed and languish in self misery, but the recovery tools kicked in, so I scrubbed my living space, did washing and dishes and had a shower and felt human. Then the xmas ldinner with 2 friends who are in the club we all are in- all sober. All with broken families and lots of sadness- but my incessant babbling and energy and a walk on a lovely beach got us all much lighter in mood- reminiscing about funny comedy shows that are bad, with simple- but healthy food and lots of stories. We all felt much better for making an effort.
So like every day- the lesson for me is to mindfully appreciate what I have today, not the ruminate over what was- or may have been. I am grateful for the friends and the day. My youngest son sent me a message last night and I sent my oldest a message mid morning instead of playing the 'your turn' game. He responded- so I am grateful for the contact.
Nearly 9 at night on xmas day here. I hope all have a safe, happy and peaceful xmas.
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Oh bugger on the snow, Bob.
PJ, I’m glad you got through the day! I happened across an excellent book on how kids blame us for certain things (of course sometimes justified), but also that we are an easy punching bag for the things they are failing to do in their own life. Given how tenuous things are with my kids, I’d say, even though there’s distance, at least in your case there seems a modicum of decency on the interaction. Small mercies in other words.
Of course I know nothing of your circumstances, I guess I’m just saying even though the communication and contact is limited, it’s better there’s some, and let’s hope it’s an indicator that one day that channel might open up wider due to greater understanding.
Having been on both sides, as a child of an alcoholic, I got through the day and almosssst made it. Then got really sad about my Mum (also an alcoholic) just as I was going to sleep. I don’t even think she was drinking that much, if at all before she died. But I did not want to see her. It’s complicated, but maybe the pain of her failing of both herself and me, was just too much to face. I guess what I’m saying is PJ, maybe there’s not even anger as such from your kids, just not wanting to deal or trust again.
Again, I don’t mean to pry or say what I think is the case, but I have no regrets about not seeing my Mum. I feel sad for her and the choices she made and wish things were different. It also doesn’t mean I don’t miss her terribly and love her very much. It just had to be from afar when she was alive. I think it is good you texted. We humans are complicated, and all you can do is respect their wishes and know deep down they of course love you. If they didn’t, it wouldn’t hurt so much perhaps to be hesitant to see you.
PJ, I’m glad you got through the day! I happened across an excellent book on how kids blame us for certain things (of course sometimes justified), but also that we are an easy punching bag for the things they are failing to do in their own life. Given how tenuous things are with my kids, I’d say, even though there’s distance, at least in your case there seems a modicum of decency on the interaction. Small mercies in other words.
Of course I know nothing of your circumstances, I guess I’m just saying even though the communication and contact is limited, it’s better there’s some, and let’s hope it’s an indicator that one day that channel might open up wider due to greater understanding.
Having been on both sides, as a child of an alcoholic, I got through the day and almosssst made it. Then got really sad about my Mum (also an alcoholic) just as I was going to sleep. I don’t even think she was drinking that much, if at all before she died. But I did not want to see her. It’s complicated, but maybe the pain of her failing of both herself and me, was just too much to face. I guess what I’m saying is PJ, maybe there’s not even anger as such from your kids, just not wanting to deal or trust again.
Again, I don’t mean to pry or say what I think is the case, but I have no regrets about not seeing my Mum. I feel sad for her and the choices she made and wish things were different. It also doesn’t mean I don’t miss her terribly and love her very much. It just had to be from afar when she was alive. I think it is good you texted. We humans are complicated, and all you can do is respect their wishes and know deep down they of course love you. If they didn’t, it wouldn’t hurt so much perhaps to be hesitant to see you.
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Hi everyone, I'm so glad everyone had a good Christmas. We just had a quiet one . Lunch at Mum at Dad's with my brother Brendan. Was perfect. Messaged all my kids and got 2 replies . I know what you mean about playing that your turn next text game. Better to just text when we feel it right PJ.
I love your post too Crois , I got a lot out of it.
love to you all Xxxx
I love your post too Crois , I got a lot out of it.
love to you all Xxxx
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