One Year and Under Club Part 61
Living and Loving Life at Last
Join Date: Aug 2012
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Nice to meet you Joy, please become a regular, we love new faces here!
Carlos good to see you are still around sweetie! X ( for those who don't know, I mean as long term sober still offering support!! )
Carlos good to see you are still around sweetie! X ( for those who don't know, I mean as long term sober still offering support!! )
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Join Date: Oct 2018
Location: New Mexico
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I'm approaching the time frame when, in the past, I have fallen away from my commitment to sobriety -- between 8 and 12 months. It has happened to me twice, and I do not want to repeat that again. I think I see differences in how I am handling myself today, with more engagement in my acts to remain sober, but still I feel it is a perilous time for me that I wanted to share.
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Join Date: May 2018
Location: Where I’ve longed to be all my life…..here, now.
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Love to all, big hugs to Guener😊
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Hi. Welcome.
A quick drive by.
Love to all, big hugs to Guener😊
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Join Date: Nov 2016
Location: Anywhere USA
Posts: 2,100
Hello Guerner, I can really relate to where you are in your recovery. Each time I slipped it was after the 6 month time frame. My physical issues were going away, bp was better, my heart wasn't jumping all over my chest, into my throat. My AV wasn't nagging at me every hour. Feeling strong , feeling good!~ I would have one drink, and down the slide I would go.
Keep your goals close to you all the time, remember what life was like when you were drinking, how much better it is sober.
you can do this!
badge
Keep your goals close to you all the time, remember what life was like when you were drinking, how much better it is sober.
you can do this!
badge
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Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: UK
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Hi Guener and all.
I can really relate to that too, have to be careful of things not becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy by thinking things will always happen at a certain stage of sobriety or even life in general. Last December I went on 'auto-pilot' (I've learnt since that this is called vertigo in Rational Recovery) and didn't have the tools to resist.
In 7 hours I went from 6+ months of sobriety to being seriously ill and vomiting blood
and being too ill to enjoy Christmas food. Even with that mind my AV is now rearing it's ugly little head, earlier whilst browsing Amazon I clicked on a bourbon I used to like, I didn't search for it but was in the christmas gift offers link. When I first saw it I try to ignore but my AV said 'scroll back and have a look, read the reviews, there's no harm in looking'. And I did and I got anxious and sweaty doing it, crazy!
Feeling a bit better now I've shared that.
My best wishes to all
John
I can really relate to that too, have to be careful of things not becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy by thinking things will always happen at a certain stage of sobriety or even life in general. Last December I went on 'auto-pilot' (I've learnt since that this is called vertigo in Rational Recovery) and didn't have the tools to resist.
In 7 hours I went from 6+ months of sobriety to being seriously ill and vomiting blood
and being too ill to enjoy Christmas food. Even with that mind my AV is now rearing it's ugly little head, earlier whilst browsing Amazon I clicked on a bourbon I used to like, I didn't search for it but was in the christmas gift offers link. When I first saw it I try to ignore but my AV said 'scroll back and have a look, read the reviews, there's no harm in looking'. And I did and I got anxious and sweaty doing it, crazy!Feeling a bit better now I've shared that.
My best wishes to all
John
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Join Date: May 2018
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Thanks Guener, Badge and John for sharing. It really really helps to read your posts.
I waver between this:
Yippee for 7 months sober (today)
and feeling, hmmmm I’m doing so well, surely I could just have a Christmas drink.... hmmmmm....
NO! I recognise it’s the AV talking and I have to put it back in it’s cage and lock the door!
Reading your posts reminds me of the slippery slope of “just one drink”. I KNOW it will never be “just one drink”....
So it has to remain “No thank you, I don’t drink”.
I waver between this:
Yippee for 7 months sober (today)
and feeling, hmmmm I’m doing so well, surely I could just have a Christmas drink.... hmmmmm....
NO! I recognise it’s the AV talking and I have to put it back in it’s cage and lock the door!
Reading your posts reminds me of the slippery slope of “just one drink”. I KNOW it will never be “just one drink”....
So it has to remain “No thank you, I don’t drink”.
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Posts: 1,533
Hey Guys, checking in. My son got his results from Harvard for admission and he has been deferred and will know at the end of March. He is bummed but at least he wasn't denied "yet"...
Feeling myself finally after a horrible choice to drink on Friday... I figured I had 10 drinks in 6 hours. Based on a BAC chart that would have put me high at .19. OMG~ Besides the typical black out and massive hangover I'm o.k. Sticking close to you guys. I've never tried this thread before since I joined SR in 2013, so I'm hoping to find more reinforcement here. And this has to be my last horror story about drinking. Please!! stupid stupid stupid!!
Feeling myself finally after a horrible choice to drink on Friday... I figured I had 10 drinks in 6 hours. Based on a BAC chart that would have put me high at .19. OMG~ Besides the typical black out and massive hangover I'm o.k. Sticking close to you guys. I've never tried this thread before since I joined SR in 2013, so I'm hoping to find more reinforcement here. And this has to be my last horror story about drinking. Please!! stupid stupid stupid!!
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Join Date: Nov 2016
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Hello Joy and welcome from Eastern Oregon. Congrats on your sons accomplishments! To me just being able to apply to Harvard is a big deal. Just imagine yourself in 3 months being able to be by his side and sober regardless of whether or not he is accepted! that would be a great goal for you I would think.
Whats done is done, I am glad you are okay, do you have plans, or ideas of how you want to change things around? As hard as it is try not to beat yourself up to much, I have spent way to much of my sober time with regrets and anxiety over things long past and forgotten by others. Easier said than done.
Lots of support here, stay close
Badge
Whats done is done, I am glad you are okay, do you have plans, or ideas of how you want to change things around? As hard as it is try not to beat yourself up to much, I have spent way to much of my sober time with regrets and anxiety over things long past and forgotten by others. Easier said than done.
Lots of support here, stay close
Badge
Living and Loving Life at Last
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Congratulations Willow! I agree with Badge, your folks are smiling down on you.
John, I'm sorry you had such a slip last year, and sorry AV is trying it's best to get you to drink again.
After the early months of recovery when we 'settle' into a more sober routine, it is easy to forget the problems we had with drink, especially when our AV is telling us we really can't be an alkie because we've gone 'x' number of months sober. Coming here is a constant reminder that actually we do have a problem.
Joy if quitting was easy, there would be no AA, no SR or any of the other way to help us quit. It took me a decade of knowing my drinking was a problem, of making bargains, of lying, hiding and cheating to reach my personal rock bottom. I've said before here I don't know what was different about the day that I finally did take my last drink, I only know that, fates willing, it will remain that way. I come here as a reminder of why I no longer drink, and of what I have gained in sobriety.
I feel it is important especially this time of year, to find your gratitudes in sobriety. To look at how sobriety will help you find a better way of living, to remember the worst of what drinking has done to you in the past.
One important thing to get past in the first year is changing your way of thinking. You are not 'giving up' drinking, it is no loss, it is a poison that controlled you and would continue to destroy any semblance of a decent life you had. My drinking increased in the last 18 months of my active drinking days, to the extent I truly was not in control even though on the face of it, I seemed to be. I know that if I had continued, I would not be living the life I live now.
In sobriety, you gain so much. Clear thinking helps you to make better decisions. You can chose to do things that aren't based on where you can get a drink. You have more money and more time, you can begin to be the person you were meant to be before drink complicated everything.
Sobriety doesn't make life better. But it does give you the chance to do that for yourself. All alcohol does is steal your life. It has stolen enough from every one of us, don't allow it to steal a single moment more.
John, I'm sorry you had such a slip last year, and sorry AV is trying it's best to get you to drink again.
After the early months of recovery when we 'settle' into a more sober routine, it is easy to forget the problems we had with drink, especially when our AV is telling us we really can't be an alkie because we've gone 'x' number of months sober. Coming here is a constant reminder that actually we do have a problem.
Joy if quitting was easy, there would be no AA, no SR or any of the other way to help us quit. It took me a decade of knowing my drinking was a problem, of making bargains, of lying, hiding and cheating to reach my personal rock bottom. I've said before here I don't know what was different about the day that I finally did take my last drink, I only know that, fates willing, it will remain that way. I come here as a reminder of why I no longer drink, and of what I have gained in sobriety.
I feel it is important especially this time of year, to find your gratitudes in sobriety. To look at how sobriety will help you find a better way of living, to remember the worst of what drinking has done to you in the past.
One important thing to get past in the first year is changing your way of thinking. You are not 'giving up' drinking, it is no loss, it is a poison that controlled you and would continue to destroy any semblance of a decent life you had. My drinking increased in the last 18 months of my active drinking days, to the extent I truly was not in control even though on the face of it, I seemed to be. I know that if I had continued, I would not be living the life I live now.
In sobriety, you gain so much. Clear thinking helps you to make better decisions. You can chose to do things that aren't based on where you can get a drink. You have more money and more time, you can begin to be the person you were meant to be before drink complicated everything.
Sobriety doesn't make life better. But it does give you the chance to do that for yourself. All alcohol does is steal your life. It has stolen enough from every one of us, don't allow it to steal a single moment more.
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One important thing to get past in the first year is changing your way of thinking. You are not 'giving up' drinking, it is no loss, it is a poison that controlled you and would continue to destroy any semblance of a decent life you had. My drinking increased in the last 18 months of my active drinking days, to the extent I truly was not in control even though on the face of it, I seemed to be. I know that if I had continued, I would not be living the life I live now.
In sobriety, you gain so much. Clear thinking helps you to make better decisions. You can chose to do things that aren't based on where you can get a drink. You have more money and more time, you can begin to be the person you were meant to be before drink complicated everything.
Sobriety doesn't make life better. But it does give you the chance to do that for yourself. All alcohol does is steal your life. It has stolen enough from every one of us, don't allow it to steal a single moment more.
In sobriety, you gain so much. Clear thinking helps you to make better decisions. You can chose to do things that aren't based on where you can get a drink. You have more money and more time, you can begin to be the person you were meant to be before drink complicated everything.
Sobriety doesn't make life better. But it does give you the chance to do that for yourself. All alcohol does is steal your life. It has stolen enough from every one of us, don't allow it to steal a single moment more.
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