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Old 09-18-2016, 09:31 AM
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What a great honor to your brother, Ken. Thanks for sharing.

Feel better Babs - wishing that the blahs pass quickly for you.
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Old 09-18-2016, 09:57 AM
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That's a wonderful tribute, Ken!

Babs, feel better soon
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Old 09-18-2016, 01:46 PM
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OK, now I'm all messed up.

I went to see my former lady friend. She can't stay off the oxygen more than 15 minutes. Home bound.

And still stunningly beautiful. I told her as much. I should have married her 20 years ago. I told her so. One of the great regrets of my life will be that I didn't marry her.

We talked about history. That she was 11 years older, that my mother kinda freaked meeting her.

I realized today that shouldn't have stopped us.

Hell of a woman.

To this moment, I want her.
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((((Trach))))

Thank God you got to her now.
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Please forgive me if I have failed to appreciate the depth of your pain, Trach.

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Old 09-18-2016, 06:39 PM
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Yes, Gilmer.

Thank God I got to her now. There was happiness in her eyes today. If I can keep it there, I'll have done my job.

We made a mistake. Talked about it today.

We should have been together the last 20 years.
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Old 09-18-2016, 08:44 PM
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Please don't get stuck in what might have been Trach.

You both have now...even with the circumstances, I think that's a gift?

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Old 09-19-2016, 12:58 AM
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Yeah Trachy, what Dee said. Regret for things we cannot change is such a negative drain on our emotions, and will throw a cloud over the precious moments you have left. You can't change the past but you can own the present and form the future.
Be grateful that you have this opportunity to make a few more memories together, and be supremely grateful that sobriety allows you it.
You are both in my thoughts.
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Thanks, folks.

After a good sleep, I'm better.
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I have often found sleep to be a real gamechanger.

Glad you're well, Trach.
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Trachy, what Dee and Toots said. The two of you have now.
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I can only agree with what the others say--enjoy your time now.
(((((Trach))))
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Old 09-19-2016, 08:16 AM
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Ken, that's a beautiful tribute.

Babs, sorry about the blahs. Par for the sober course though. I'd rather have some blahs sober than the highs and lows of drinking.

Trachy... I can't think of another way to say this. Your situation is beautifully sad. You wouldn't have found her again if you weren't sober. Your sobriety put this whole chain in motion. We all have regrets in life. I have not one, but two "ones that got away." One I don't see anymore. The other lives right here and is one of my best friends. We work in the same field and have the same friends. Sometimes it's hard to take, but I'd rather have her in my life than not at all.

Do I wish it had worked out with her? For a very long time, it broke my heart that we broke up. I did a lot of "shoulda, woulda, coulda." We had drama from her ex, the timing was bad, and oh yeah: I was an alcoholic. I wished for a long time that could have been different.

But after a while, I realized that was very counterproductive. It didn't help either of our situations. So I moved on.

Enjoy your time with your lady friend, Trachy. Don't sweat the past, it happen d for a reason. Beating yourself up would go nowhere, it's out of your control. Thank your hp for bringing you together now if you can.
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Old 09-20-2016, 12:29 AM
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....and you wouldn't have your wonderful wife We! Things happen for reasons we don't always understand.

Bud I too meant to mention your brothers wonderful tribute, it must be a source of comfort to his widow. How is the situation with the hotel & SS?
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Old 09-20-2016, 02:07 PM
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Trach, when do you start your new job?
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Old 09-20-2016, 02:17 PM
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Depends on the licensing process. Got to get two licenses first. Shooting for mid to late October. Complications abound. I can't get out of my lease without major cost until November. I've found no place to live there yet. :
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Budd, that is a great tribute.
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Old 09-21-2016, 02:25 AM
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Happy 5 month soberversary, Babs!
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Old 09-21-2016, 03:27 AM
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WOW 5 months is fantastic! Congrats Babs
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