Class of September 2015
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Southern California
Posts: 554
Hey team, and Hey Arryckha I remember you from the March 2014 class!
I've been drinking over the last 3 weeks and feel terrible both physically and mentally. I'm back on day one and would like to join this class if you'll have me.
needtostopthis: I'm in the same boat with anxiety. I drink to "medicate" the anxiety away. But that takes more and more alcohol each time to keep it at bay. Sometimes listening to a calming meditation helps me...
Does anyone have any other non-drinking/non-drugging way to deal with anxiety?
I need to recover, and I thank you all for all that you've done with your posts!
I've been drinking over the last 3 weeks and feel terrible both physically and mentally. I'm back on day one and would like to join this class if you'll have me.
needtostopthis: I'm in the same boat with anxiety. I drink to "medicate" the anxiety away. But that takes more and more alcohol each time to keep it at bay. Sometimes listening to a calming meditation helps me...
Does anyone have any other non-drinking/non-drugging way to deal with anxiety?
I need to recover, and I thank you all for all that you've done with your posts!
Member
Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: York, UK
Posts: 15
I tend to go for a long walk when I'm feeling anxious...although that's not always possible. I also try to identify the things that are making me anxious and which are things I have some control over and which I don't. I find if I can do even a small thing about one of the things it helps...or failing that I do something like wash up dishes or some other small self care thing.
I also play the ukulele a bit...and just strumming on that a bit can help....or even trying to learn a new tune is a good distraction.
I also play the ukulele a bit...and just strumming on that a bit can help....or even trying to learn a new tune is a good distraction.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,462
Originally Posted by saoirse 
Me too betterlife. Its an escape from the things that exhaust me in life, but they aren't as exhausting if I'm not drinking. Hardest thing is relearning how to relax. I'm bored with drinking and my drinking self, but drink because I'm bored. So I'm formulating a plan. This is a good time because with the kids back in school the routine gets switched up. This weekend will be difficult. 3 days off, holiday weekend.
While I'm stressed out at work, knowing there is alcohol waiting for me at the end of the day seems calming, like a relief. Today I thought of it many times and how it must serve as a bridge for me to help me relax after a long day. But, if I'm not working, I start drinking so much earlier. So there always seems to be a reason. Sigh.
I just hate how I can be so gung-ho about sobriety and then - wham- it's like I don't care- all I want to do is drink and won't even give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I will say, my two best defenses are food and SR. Once I read and/or eat something satisfying the craving seems to dissipate. So I need to PROMISE myself I will do that EVERY TIME.
Thanks for all the great posts.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 1,021
Hello September members. I hope everyone is doing well with their sober journeys.
I came across this article today; I found it inspirational and encouraging, perhaps you will too:
6 Reasons Why I Don't Drink Alcohol Anymore
I came across this article today; I found it inspirational and encouraging, perhaps you will too:
6 Reasons Why I Don't Drink Alcohol Anymore
orangutan
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 5,970
DAY 3
Headaches as usual when I first stop , I know I can expect this to go on for a while yet from previous dry outs, otherwise good.
Big thankyou to all the board members who took time to stop by to give support to this group.
Stay strong September.
Headaches as usual when I first stop , I know I can expect this to go on for a while yet from previous dry outs, otherwise good.
Big thankyou to all the board members who took time to stop by to give support to this group.
Stay strong September.
Administrator
Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,444
some great support going on here guys - welcome to all the newcomers to this thread 
these two links are a great start, and help, in devising a recovery plan. I encourage everyone to take a look
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...SMA12-4474.pdf
No matter how many times you've tried this before, if you keep trying and keep adding things to your plan, you will get there.
You can never lose the fight if you don't stop fighting
D
these two links are a great start, and help, in devising a recovery plan. I encourage everyone to take a look
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...SMA12-4474.pdf
No matter how many times you've tried this before, if you keep trying and keep adding things to your plan, you will get there.
You can never lose the fight if you don't stop fighting
D
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: California
Posts: 266
Originally Posted by forabetterlife
Same for me. I have things that exhaust me in life too but add to that sneaking to buy and drink alcohol, hiding empties, sleeping poorly, nights lost to just being lazy and buzzed, forgetfulness, and of course, feeling awful from drinking the day/night before and everything is just so much harder.
While I'm stressed out at work, knowing there is alcohol waiting for me at the end of the day seems calming, like a relief. Today I thought of it many times and how it must serve as a bridge for me to help me relax after a long day. But, if I'm not working, I start drinking so much earlier. So there always seems to be a reason. Sigh.
I just hate how I can be so gung-ho about sobriety and then - wham- it's like I don't care- all I want to do is drink and won't even give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I will say, my two best defenses are food and SR. Once I read and/or eat something satisfying the craving seems to dissipate. So I need to PROMISE myself I will do that EVERY TIME.
Thanks for all the great posts.
While I'm stressed out at work, knowing there is alcohol waiting for me at the end of the day seems calming, like a relief. Today I thought of it many times and how it must serve as a bridge for me to help me relax after a long day. But, if I'm not working, I start drinking so much earlier. So there always seems to be a reason. Sigh.
I just hate how I can be so gung-ho about sobriety and then - wham- it's like I don't care- all I want to do is drink and won't even give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I will say, my two best defenses are food and SR. Once I read and/or eat something satisfying the craving seems to dissipate. So I need to PROMISE myself I will do that EVERY TIME.
Thanks for all the great posts.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,444
Push through it need..you'll be glad tomorrow.
remember some of the tips from this link?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
Hang in there...think of why you want to change
D
remember some of the tips from this link?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
Hang in there...think of why you want to change
D
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Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Canada
Posts: 7,837
Originally Posted by forabetterlife
Same for me. I have things that exhaust me in life too but add to that sneaking to buy and drink alcohol, hiding empties, sleeping poorly, nights lost to just being lazy and buzzed, forgetfulness, and of course, feeling awful from drinking the day/night before and everything is just so much harder.
While I'm stressed out at work, knowing there is alcohol waiting for me at the end of the day seems calming, like a relief. Today I thought of it many times and how it must serve as a bridge for me to help me relax after a long day. But, if I'm not working, I start drinking so much earlier. So there always seems to be a reason. Sigh.
I just hate how I can be so gung-ho about sobriety and then - wham- it's like I don't care- all I want to do is drink and won't even give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I will say, my two best defenses are food and SR. Once I read and/or eat something satisfying the craving seems to dissipate. So I need to PROMISE myself I will do that EVERY TIME.
Thanks for all the great posts.
While I'm stressed out at work, knowing there is alcohol waiting for me at the end of the day seems calming, like a relief. Today I thought of it many times and how it must serve as a bridge for me to help me relax after a long day. But, if I'm not working, I start drinking so much earlier. So there always seems to be a reason. Sigh.
I just hate how I can be so gung-ho about sobriety and then - wham- it's like I don't care- all I want to do is drink and won't even give myself a chance to talk myself out of it. I will say, my two best defenses are food and SR. Once I read and/or eat something satisfying the craving seems to dissipate. So I need to PROMISE myself I will do that EVERY TIME.
Thanks for all the great posts.
Chronic relapser here too xx
Urban Hermit
Join Date: Aug 2015
Posts: 1,586
Wow September 2 and already 73 posts in this thread.
Welcome to all the newcomers and relapsers who have made the decision to make September the month you stop and stay stopped. I'm in the August 2015 class and can't say enough about the the great support and friendship here. I have also found it helpful to post in the 24-hour support thread, and don't forget about the Tuesday and Friday chat meetings.
The early days are hard, but it does get better. You can do this!
Welcome to all the newcomers and relapsers who have made the decision to make September the month you stop and stay stopped. I'm in the August 2015 class and can't say enough about the the great support and friendship here. I have also found it helpful to post in the 24-hour support thread, and don't forget about the Tuesday and Friday chat meetings.
The early days are hard, but it does get better. You can do this!
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Posts: 2,049
Originally Posted by needtostopthis
My head is hurting so bad. I want to drink. This sucks.
I'm suffering bad depression fueled by binge drinking. This crap is so not worth it honey !
Were in your corner --
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Hogwarts
Posts: 3,233
Needtostop I'm right there with you on the headache. Hang in there. I've never had a headache that alcohol didn't make worse.
Got a bit of a head cold too. Yuck.
Getting though day 3 feels really good though. I'm glad I will wake up to day 4 tomorrow a little more clear headed.
Got a bit of a head cold too. Yuck.
Getting though day 3 feels really good though. I'm glad I will wake up to day 4 tomorrow a little more clear headed.
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 1,462
Welcome to those who just joined I love that this thread is so busy, let's try to keep it this way.
Every post is helpful in some way to someone, no matter how long or short, good mood or bad mood, just checking in or a rant or a celebration or needing support. I know I stop short of posting too often thinking no one cares or I feel like I keep saying the same things or I don't have time.
It's just me being self conscious and making
Excuses.
The truth is that once I back away from SR for one reason or another, it's usually the beginning of the end. Slowly my mindset changes. I start thinking once again that I'm making too big of a deal out of all this and I can drink from time to time. I buy a bottle of wine. I may not open it for a day or two to "prove" my willpower. Then I decide to open it and it feels like such a relief to stop fighting the battle. But a part of me also feels ridiculous doing this again - after all I've said and written and promised myself . I drink 1/2 bottle one night and feel ok the next day, not great but ok. See? No big deal. But it is. Because the cycle begins.
I'm heading to bed looking forward to a good sober sleep. My favorite reward
I love that this thread is so busy, let's try to keep it this way. Every post is helpful in some way to someone, no matter how long or short, good mood or bad mood, just checking in or a rant or a celebration or needing support. I know I stop short of posting too often thinking no one cares or I feel like I keep saying the same things or I don't have time.
It's just me being self conscious and making
Excuses.
The truth is that once I back away from SR for one reason or another, it's usually the beginning of the end. Slowly my mindset changes. I start thinking once again that I'm making too big of a deal out of all this and I can drink from time to time. I buy a bottle of wine. I may not open it for a day or two to "prove" my willpower. Then I decide to open it and it feels like such a relief to stop fighting the battle. But a part of me also feels ridiculous doing this again - after all I've said and written and promised myself . I drink 1/2 bottle one night and feel ok the next day, not great but ok. See? No big deal. But it is. Because the cycle begins.
I'm heading to bed looking forward to a good sober sleep. My favorite reward
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Southern California
Posts: 554
time2rise,
I really liked the link that you posted earlier. Thanks. Very common sense.
needtostopthis,
we're hear for you. Talk it out on the board. have you been hydrating? That's one of the main causes of headaches.
Night all. I'll say a prayer for you all. Day 1 in the books and I didn't drink! Feeling (physically) a bit sick...
I really liked the link that you posted earlier. Thanks. Very common sense.
needtostopthis,
we're hear for you. Talk it out on the board. have you been hydrating? That's one of the main causes of headaches.
Night all. I'll say a prayer for you all. Day 1 in the books and I didn't drink! Feeling (physically) a bit sick...
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: California, USA
Posts: 277
Hi everyone! Just dropping in from the August 2015 group to wish everyone here the very best. These monthly support threads are a wonderful way to bond with people who have quit at around the same time as you. It's a wonderful journey you will undertake together. We're so glad you have chosen sobriety! Welcome!
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Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Kansas
Posts: 139
Hello-I'd like to join sept sober. I've been on here before, drifted and have been killing myself daily. I need this to stop. I'm going to lose my son, my family, my boyfriend if I don't.
I make it to day 3 and then my av says "you feel fine! You can get a drink. You don't have a problem" and then it's a bottle of vodka every day. My last drink was at noon but I was pretty well drunk until 3 or 4pm. It's the first night in weeks I haven't been drunk. And of course I can't sleep. I have ambien but am afraid to take some since I was drinking earlier today. This is so hard.
I make it to day 3 and then my av says "you feel fine! You can get a drink. You don't have a problem" and then it's a bottle of vodka every day. My last drink was at noon but I was pretty well drunk until 3 or 4pm. It's the first night in weeks I haven't been drunk. And of course I can't sleep. I have ambien but am afraid to take some since I was drinking earlier today. This is so hard.
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