Class of July 2013 Part 15
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Thanks Snoozums.
It's just causing some anxiety as I have a mortgage and a family to take care of.
And you know how alcohol used to be our go to in times of stress.
But, I'm fine.
Off to the unemployment office tomorrow.
It's just causing some anxiety as I have a mortgage and a family to take care of.
And you know how alcohol used to be our go to in times of stress.
But, I'm fine.
Off to the unemployment office tomorrow.
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Absolutely do Bob . Would be so easy to turn to the bottle in times of stress , I've been there too . Unemployed with 4 kids , hubby out of work . Mortgage to pay , kids to feed .
But you know what! ... all the amount of stressing couldn't help nor change the situation.
It was years before my husband got a job again.
It was hard at times , but we managed . Keeping your sense of humour is paramount ;-) albeit difficult at times .
You have a loving family ;-) you will get through this xxxx
But you know what! ... all the amount of stressing couldn't help nor change the situation.
It was years before my husband got a job again.
It was hard at times , but we managed . Keeping your sense of humour is paramount ;-) albeit difficult at times .
You have a loving family ;-) you will get through this xxxx
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Hi all
Well not good news. BF drank today. First time in 5 months. Hard part is, just like when he was drinking before he is not remorseful. Won't say it's a slip. Won't say he's going back to AA. Won't say when or if he's going to call his sponsor.
To say I'm upset is putting it midly. I'm sorry to say I yelled at him. Which put him in victim mode. He even had the nerve to say he'd talk to me once I finished taking my painkillers. As if they were making me unreasonable about his drinking.
Even worse, I'm super dependent on him now after my surgery since I can't use my hand at all and have to baby it for at least a month. It's tightly wrapped at an angle.
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Not a good day today.
Sorry to hear about your job Bob.....
NCG
Well not good news. BF drank today. First time in 5 months. Hard part is, just like when he was drinking before he is not remorseful. Won't say it's a slip. Won't say he's going back to AA. Won't say when or if he's going to call his sponsor.
To say I'm upset is putting it midly. I'm sorry to say I yelled at him. Which put him in victim mode. He even had the nerve to say he'd talk to me once I finished taking my painkillers. As if they were making me unreasonable about his drinking.
Even worse, I'm super dependent on him now after my surgery since I can't use my hand at all and have to baby it for at least a month. It's tightly wrapped at an angle.
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Not a good day today.
Sorry to hear about your job Bob.....
NCG
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NCGggggggg
I'm so sorry love .Only a few days ago you were on top of the world and all was good .
What triggered him do you think ?
Sorry to hear about your hand ! What happened ? Hope you are ok .
Some guys don't function well when the usual strong one ( you ) is needing help to be looked after . Just a thought !
You must be soooo disappointed . Never fear ...you have us , dear xxxx
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Hi Snoozy -
Not really certain what the trigger was. He's not offering an explanation. We went to a family bbq yesterday. His family. There was drinking, a few a little on the excessive side but no one out of control. Irritating yes. Out of control no. But we've been with this same group, in the same situation, at least a couple of times during the past five months. One time was a multi-day camping trip. So I've no clue if something happned at the bbq to trigger him. He didn't drink at the bbq or after we got home. He drank the day after.
Thanks for the support!
NCG
Not really certain what the trigger was. He's not offering an explanation. We went to a family bbq yesterday. His family. There was drinking, a few a little on the excessive side but no one out of control. Irritating yes. Out of control no. But we've been with this same group, in the same situation, at least a couple of times during the past five months. One time was a multi-day camping trip. So I've no clue if something happned at the bbq to trigger him. He didn't drink at the bbq or after we got home. He drank the day after.
Thanks for the support!
NCG
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Oh NCG, (((BIG HUG))))
I'm sorry that happened. Hopefully he will snap out of it once he sobers up.
I went and signed up for unemployment online.
Everything is online now. Even apply for jobs online.
I have to attend a seminar next Wednesday, 2 hrs. long.
I'm sorry that happened. Hopefully he will snap out of it once he sobers up.
I went and signed up for unemployment online.
Everything is online now. Even apply for jobs online.
I have to attend a seminar next Wednesday, 2 hrs. long.
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Hi everyone, I know its been a long time. Bob, sorry to hear that you are going through a major change . I know that job stuff is scary. I am sending positive wishes your way. Cherish your sobriety. Leshar. I do that binge eating too. It really gets me down. Feels like a hangover. I find sugar is very addictive, unless your suffering from a broken heart.
Hey Snoozy and Crois, I missed you ladies.
The summer has gotten away from me and already here I am sending the girl back to school. I have thought of you all often, but never got to the site because of all the fun. Now its back to routine, and back to basics. I miss you and need you. I am going through heavy stuff right now. I just wanted to find my soft place to land and surround myself with positive people who know the struggle. So here I am. So far, my sobriety is in check. 15 months. I am so grateful for that.
Hey Snoozy and Crois, I missed you ladies.
The summer has gotten away from me and already here I am sending the girl back to school. I have thought of you all often, but never got to the site because of all the fun. Now its back to routine, and back to basics. I miss you and need you. I am going through heavy stuff right now. I just wanted to find my soft place to land and surround myself with positive people who know the struggle. So here I am. So far, my sobriety is in check. 15 months. I am so grateful for that.
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Hi Nikki. 
Glad you stopped in to say hello.
I have been quite busy these last couple weeks searching out the job scene here in my home state.
You know it's strange. I thought if anything was going to drive me to drink it would be the stress of being jobless.
But, this hasn't happened. I keep thinking about how much more terrible it would be to function so badly when I need to stay sharp.
Glad you stopped in to say hello.
I have been quite busy these last couple weeks searching out the job scene here in my home state.
You know it's strange. I thought if anything was going to drive me to drink it would be the stress of being jobless.
But, this hasn't happened. I keep thinking about how much more terrible it would be to function so badly when I need to stay sharp.
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Hi all, hi NCG. I'm sorry to hear about what is going on with your boyfriend. That must be so disheartening, especially when you're dealing with pain and distress after your surgery.
Hi, Nikki, yes, I'm binge eating now daily, like I used to drink daily. I don't know what to do. I'm barely coping. I told the play manager yesterday that I needed to bow out of the play and she was very upset. She said they wouldn't find anyone now and it would mean cancelling if I give up. I'm terribly torn. I'm in anguish about it. I hate myself for getting into these predicaments. I drove home from the meeting last night and even thought about drinking. I binged on icecream and chocolate instead and woke feeling horrible. I hate my life but seem powerless to eke out something better.
Loneliness and having no self esteem or direction in life is crushing and I don't know what to do.
Don't expect anything from you guys, just wanted to post.
Hi, Nikki, yes, I'm binge eating now daily, like I used to drink daily. I don't know what to do. I'm barely coping. I told the play manager yesterday that I needed to bow out of the play and she was very upset. She said they wouldn't find anyone now and it would mean cancelling if I give up. I'm terribly torn. I'm in anguish about it. I hate myself for getting into these predicaments. I drove home from the meeting last night and even thought about drinking. I binged on icecream and chocolate instead and woke feeling horrible. I hate my life but seem powerless to eke out something better.
Loneliness and having no self esteem or direction in life is crushing and I don't know what to do.
Don't expect anything from you guys, just wanted to post.
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Leshar I think it's time again to reach out to your Dr or counsellor.
It upsets and concerns me seeing you like this for so long.
Something needs to change - and unfortunately while we can, and will offer, support noone can make changes but you..y'know?
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It upsets and concerns me seeing you like this for so long.
Something needs to change - and unfortunately while we can, and will offer, support noone can make changes but you..y'know?
D
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Leshar: How much longer does the play run ? I don't know how big your part is, but maybe you could take some action to find a replacement?? If you find your self having to finish, just keep you eye on the prize, the Finale. I am so sorry you are still struggling. At least you did not drink. That is a saving grace. I too am in a sad place and intend to seek counseling.
Bob: This weather is killing me. The pool we attend just closed and now comes the 90 degree weather, after fall like weather all August. Ughh.
Bob: This weather is killing me. The pool we attend just closed and now comes the 90 degree weather, after fall like weather all August. Ughh.
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