Take a Break this weekend - Weekenders 04 - 07 March 2022
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Hi Weekenders. I have been away for a bit. Trying to catch up now with you and work. I went to see my mother last week who is in hospice and the day we arrived I found out that my brother had died. It was a shock. He was 65. He did have COPD and emphysema but we did not expect to lose him so soon. Anyway, I had to plan the memorial, write his obituary and inform my other siblings, his daughter and my mother. I was surprised to learn that I was my brother's emergency contact and not my other brother who lives in the same town and is very close. It just doesn't feel real. Now I am back home and trying to put one foot in front of the other. I spoke with him on the phone a day before we think he died. He seemed fine. He was on oxygen and short of breath but he had been like that for a while. You just never know when you might lose someone. So tell your loved ones you love them and treasure every moment.
I understand fully about letting your loved ones know you love them. 
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CBS I am very sorry for your loss, you have a lot of difficult stuff going on. Do take of of you too.
Least I hope your Dr is able to help today. I know when on blood thinners you bleed more so bruising often looks dramatic and worse than it normally would. But with the clot as well it is good to be seen by a medic.
I have a painter coming to paint my lounge next week. I have been driving myself mad trying to choose a colour and have spent a small fortune on testers. In fact I have nearly painted the walls myself in a patchwork design with all the different colours I have tried. Desperate to get it right as I will be living with it for the next 20 years or so and can't afford to change it if I don't. It is very hard to make decisions when you are full of self doubt and alone. I need a second opinion, maybe a third fourth and fifth too.
Least I hope your Dr is able to help today. I know when on blood thinners you bleed more so bruising often looks dramatic and worse than it normally would. But with the clot as well it is good to be seen by a medic.
I have a painter coming to paint my lounge next week. I have been driving myself mad trying to choose a colour and have spent a small fortune on testers. In fact I have nearly painted the walls myself in a patchwork design with all the different colours I have tried. Desperate to get it right as I will be living with it for the next 20 years or so and can't afford to change it if I don't. It is very hard to make decisions when you are full of self doubt and alone. I need a second opinion, maybe a third fourth and fifth too.
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Kaily, for my lounge I go for the bland choice of having three walls painted white with a feature (patterned wallpaper) wall. It saves me from having to trying to choose what colours to use.
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It's another lovely day outside. It really does feel like spring is arriving with sunshine and flowers starting to bud. Though, as usual, I imagine winter will have one last visit to make...
It looks like my problem with accessing the SR forums is down to one of the browsers (Firefox) as I can access it with no problems at all on Edge. It must be something in the FF settings that is causing the problem.
It's another lovely day outside. It really does feel like spring is arriving with sunshine and flowers starting to bud. Though, as usual, I imagine winter will have one last visit to make...
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Our Florida weather this week is very early spring like, but this weekend is supposed to dip into the 20s F for another shot of winter. Getting a bit of rain, which is good because there have been some wildfires.
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Kaily, I hope the lounge painting goes perfectly. Bold action does not come easily to me either. I start researching online and get analysis paralysis, and have heightened anxiety with no action. I notice though, that like some other things that have plagued me for ever, it's not as bad since I came out of the fog of the drunk-sick-drunk-sick routine.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Welcome, Scott! I'm also in Western Wisconsin. I'm ready for spring... maybe next week it will hit 50! Fingers crossed.
Sorry about your brother CBS. That must have been a shock.
I have been thinking more about the impermanence of life this week, especially. I think having my friend nearly kill himself with his drinking got me in a contemplative mood. On Sunday, I texted my older daughter to ask if we could all get together for dinner or something soon. We live blocks apart but our busy lives get in the way, and sometimes I go months without seeing her and her partner and my granddaughter in person. Covid didn't help. She told me that she's been thinking about that too, because her father (my first ex-husband) had a stroke over the weekend. He's going to be mostly fine, they think, but it could easily have been much worse. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.
My friend texted me yesterday that he is still in the hospital, but entering residential treatment tomorrow or Friday. His heart issues have mostly gone away since he was admitted last week. They think the heavy drinking for days on end caused the irregular heartbeat that landed him in the ICU for a bit. I'm glad he's getting help. He has also apologized for his BS. I accepted the apology, and told him I will be glad to continue sending him good vibes while he gets his life back together, hopefully.
Sorry about your brother CBS. That must have been a shock.
I have been thinking more about the impermanence of life this week, especially. I think having my friend nearly kill himself with his drinking got me in a contemplative mood. On Sunday, I texted my older daughter to ask if we could all get together for dinner or something soon. We live blocks apart but our busy lives get in the way, and sometimes I go months without seeing her and her partner and my granddaughter in person. Covid didn't help. She told me that she's been thinking about that too, because her father (my first ex-husband) had a stroke over the weekend. He's going to be mostly fine, they think, but it could easily have been much worse. Tomorrow is not guaranteed.
My friend texted me yesterday that he is still in the hospital, but entering residential treatment tomorrow or Friday. His heart issues have mostly gone away since he was admitted last week. They think the heavy drinking for days on end caused the irregular heartbeat that landed him in the ICU for a bit. I'm glad he's getting help. He has also apologized for his BS. I accepted the apology, and told him I will be glad to continue sending him good vibes while he gets his life back together, hopefully.
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Originally Posted by Cityboy 
Kaily, I hope the lounge painting goes perfectly. Bold action does not come easily to me either. I start researching online and get analysis paralysis, and have heightened anxiety with no action. I notice though, that like some other things that have plagued me for ever, it's not as bad since I came out of the fog of the drunk-sick-drunk-sick routine.
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