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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 6,069
I came away from a trip to TWO hospitals one day thinking the same thing - they did nothing!
In retrospect, I think I just didn't know what to do. In one case, I was so blasted I'm not even sure if I registered.
I'm not sure what you asked for when you went to the hospital, so here are my expert (from too much experience) tips:
1. Go to any hospital and report that you are drinking, cannot stop, and are considering suicide. If you can't bring yourself to say the suicide part (I couldn't, because it would have been a lie and Lord knows I don't lie - unless I'm hiding booze, sheesh, groan), then tell them you have no will to live. It will come out to be the same thing. You will not be left in the waiting room - you will get a bed right away. Might be in the ED, but that's ok. Then, STAY. That was hard as hell for me once I started sobering up, but it had to be done.
2. Go to the ER of any hospital with a detox unit. Tell them you need to be admitted for detox. You'll likely need to wait for awhile, but on a Tuesday evening it shouldn't be too terribly long. (Weekends are a completely different story, naturally).
3. Call your favorite local rehab (or get your wife to call) and tell them you need to be admitted as soon as possible. You might need to wait a day or two for a bed to become available.
4. Call any rehab hotline (you know there's one on the main page of this site) and tell them you need to get to rehab. This one is not from my personal experience, but I know a person who did that and was on her way the very next morning.
Jeff, I'm glad you went to the hospital.
Please go back.
Or get to rehab.
We're terribly worried about you and I'm sure your wife is as well.
O
In retrospect, I think I just didn't know what to do. In one case, I was so blasted I'm not even sure if I registered.
I'm not sure what you asked for when you went to the hospital, so here are my expert (from too much experience) tips:
1. Go to any hospital and report that you are drinking, cannot stop, and are considering suicide. If you can't bring yourself to say the suicide part (I couldn't, because it would have been a lie and Lord knows I don't lie - unless I'm hiding booze, sheesh, groan), then tell them you have no will to live. It will come out to be the same thing. You will not be left in the waiting room - you will get a bed right away. Might be in the ED, but that's ok. Then, STAY. That was hard as hell for me once I started sobering up, but it had to be done.
2. Go to the ER of any hospital with a detox unit. Tell them you need to be admitted for detox. You'll likely need to wait for awhile, but on a Tuesday evening it shouldn't be too terribly long. (Weekends are a completely different story, naturally).
3. Call your favorite local rehab (or get your wife to call) and tell them you need to be admitted as soon as possible. You might need to wait a day or two for a bed to become available.
4. Call any rehab hotline (you know there's one on the main page of this site) and tell them you need to get to rehab. This one is not from my personal experience, but I know a person who did that and was on her way the very next morning.
Jeff, I'm glad you went to the hospital.
Please go back.
Or get to rehab.
We're terribly worried about you and I'm sure your wife is as well.
O
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Join Date: Dec 2019
Posts: 2,426
Jeff, many people in my real life group have gone through rehab and they say amazing things about it. Judges and attorneys and cops - folks not easily duped by things. I think you are a tough customer but I think good rehabs fit tough customers well. Can you tap one of your cop friends for a recommendation? Being cops they ALL have been involved with addiction themselves - either themselves, their family, their friends or their colleagues. They could probably cast the net for you and come up with great recommendations. Being cops, they won't flinch to help you with that.
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Eastern PA
Posts: 165
I am thinking rehab could be a great decision for you. I was in the same vicious drinking cycle and just went not knowing what to expect. It was the best experience and decision. Will have 5 years sober this November. Just do it.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,809
Originally Posted by thomas11 
rehab might be next on the docket. Not doing so good on my own.
You CAN break this pattern. Rooting for you!
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: NC
Posts: 1,737
Jeff,
I reluctantly admitted myself into rehab in 2009, it was without a doubt the best decision I have ever made. Find a place with a good reputation and commit to your recovery like your life depends on it - you won't regret it.
Good Luck!
I reluctantly admitted myself into rehab in 2009, it was without a doubt the best decision I have ever made. Find a place with a good reputation and commit to your recovery like your life depends on it - you won't regret it.
Good Luck!
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,044
Hi Jeff,
I really hope you were either able to find a rehab, or go back to the hospital and get the help you need. I have followed your story for a while, and I know you want sobriety. You seemed to find fulfillment with your job, and although things weren't perfect you were doing well, lately, your posts have resembled past posts when you were struggling.
You know you can do this, you know sobriety is worth it. Everyone here knows you are worth it, make sure you remember that piece.
Looking forward to hearing an update.
Delilah
I really hope you were either able to find a rehab, or go back to the hospital and get the help you need. I have followed your story for a while, and I know you want sobriety. You seemed to find fulfillment with your job, and although things weren't perfect you were doing well, lately, your posts have resembled past posts when you were struggling.
You know you can do this, you know sobriety is worth it. Everyone here knows you are worth it, make sure you remember that piece.
Looking forward to hearing an update.
Delilah
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