Weekender Thread 18-21 January 2019
Sober-T- Dragon
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
Posts: 8,761
Hope you don't mind WaterOX, I'm quoting your post from lessgravity's thread "99 problems but a drink ain't one"
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-aint-one.html (99 problems but a drink ain't one)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-aint-one.html (99 problems but a drink ain't one)
Originally Posted by WaterOx
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Next time I am throwing a personal tantrum how I'm not free to drink, I will remind myself that I'm free to do everything else.
Next time I am throwing a personal tantrum how I'm not free to drink, I will remind myself that I'm free to do everything else.
Member
Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Ahhh FOMO, now it makes sense. I used to always worry I was missing out if I wasn’t going out all the time, but now I prefer to stay home. Funnily, when I’m in the moment of FOMO now it’s generally a prediction of future events, worrying about not drinking in the future... because when I actually get to the situation that I was worrying about missing out (like a party or the pub) I actually feel fine not drinking, but I generally want to go home early because I can’t be bothered listening to the progressive drunken babble. I now much prefer not being out in drinking situations.
The Little Alcoholic Monstress That Could
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Northern California
Posts: 1,159
Hey Willow I know what you mean about feeling like you’re missing out. Are used to feel that way all of the time when I was younger. I think I got condition to feel that way too because my mother would always say you’re not going out? Like something was wrong with me or my sister if we weren’t constantly going out to socialize at night or on the weekends. I’m home and cozy in here for a nice sober three day weekend!
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,203
Welcome to Weekenders to any newcomers!
JOMO beats FOMO by KO! Missing out on the social side of drinking might be a little bit harder for young people but then again the mindset that socialising = drinking is less hard wired than it is in older people so it's swings and roundabouts I suppose. The money you save is more useful when you're younger too. I reckon in the little over 4 years I have been sober I have probably saved about £10,000 on booze, say US $12,500 and thats not counting all the additional take-away food, taxi rides etc so it adds up.
I saw this strange sight coming back from my run this morning. It looks like the aftermath of a pillow fight or something.
JOMO beats FOMO by KO! Missing out on the social side of drinking might be a little bit harder for young people but then again the mindset that socialising = drinking is less hard wired than it is in older people so it's swings and roundabouts I suppose. The money you save is more useful when you're younger too. I reckon in the little over 4 years I have been sober I have probably saved about £10,000 on booze, say US $12,500 and thats not counting all the additional take-away food, taxi rides etc so it adds up.
I saw this strange sight coming back from my run this morning. It looks like the aftermath of a pillow fight or something.
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Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Wow it does look like the remnants of a pillow fight Sao 
I used to go out drinking a lot when I was younger, but the last several years I preferred to stay home drinking. Now I still prefer to stay home not drinking
I like being home and I like my own company and reading books
I’m actually not particularly sociable
I used to go out drinking a lot when I was younger, but the last several years I preferred to stay home drinking. Now I still prefer to stay home not drinking
I like being home and I like my own company and reading books
I’m actually not particularly sociable
Walk on
Join Date: Jan 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 68
Last night really sucked. I was laid sober and in a state of depression. I won't go into details because I don't want to trigger anybody. I won't drink or use any drugs though because I know they won't help and in my current situation will actually make things far worse.
Maybe it's because yesterday i actually admitted I had a problem and decided to seek help and quit correctly. But man last night really sucked ass and I understand the reason why I use in the first place is so I don't feel these emotions. I hope this is just a temporary side effect, my depression has gotten really bad on the last 2 years and I am reaching a point thats starting to scare me, because I'm strong and never thought I would feel the way I feel now; what will I be like in another 2 years time is what concerns me. Thoughts that used to scare me before seem rather appealing now, I don't want to get any worse and lose whatever logic I have left which says "you have people here who need you". Nothing tastes good anymore, nothing excites me, the things i used to enjoy I now find boring and everyday is just stress for nothing. The only peace is sleeping or being smashed on intoxicants.
My dad takes medication after having a major mental breakdown last year, it finished himoff mentally and as a result medication is something I would never touch.
I didn't drink or smoke weed though, and I won't do it today either. I know where that path goes and I only just made the conscious choice to climb back out of this pit I got myself into.
Sorry to be a downer. I just don't have anybody else I can talk to about this and it seems better. I hope somebody here understands me, thats all I really want.
Maybe it's because yesterday i actually admitted I had a problem and decided to seek help and quit correctly. But man last night really sucked ass and I understand the reason why I use in the first place is so I don't feel these emotions. I hope this is just a temporary side effect, my depression has gotten really bad on the last 2 years and I am reaching a point thats starting to scare me, because I'm strong and never thought I would feel the way I feel now; what will I be like in another 2 years time is what concerns me. Thoughts that used to scare me before seem rather appealing now, I don't want to get any worse and lose whatever logic I have left which says "you have people here who need you". Nothing tastes good anymore, nothing excites me, the things i used to enjoy I now find boring and everyday is just stress for nothing. The only peace is sleeping or being smashed on intoxicants.
My dad takes medication after having a major mental breakdown last year, it finished himoff mentally and as a result medication is something I would never touch.
I didn't drink or smoke weed though, and I won't do it today either. I know where that path goes and I only just made the conscious choice to climb back out of this pit I got myself into.
Sorry to be a downer. I just don't have anybody else I can talk to about this and it seems better. I hope somebody here understands me, thats all I really want.
Ocean Lover!
Join Date: Apr 2018
Location: You know nothing Jon Snow - UK
Posts: 2,604
Hey Taooo, you’re doing great under difficult circumstances so give yourself a break and show yourself some love and compassion. I suffered a lot with depression whilst drinking so your not alone, I think many of us have or still do suffer with it but it is much easier to handle with a little more sober time.
If you’re not comfortable with medication just yet why not try using healthy food to try and improve things. Good healthy food is a great medicine and eating the right things can help with a lot of ailments. I found it really helpful so far and it also helps with boredom and giving me something to do as I am researching and cooking much more which keeps my mind active and busy. x
If you’re not comfortable with medication just yet why not try using healthy food to try and improve things. Good healthy food is a great medicine and eating the right things can help with a lot of ailments. I found it really helpful so far and it also helps with boredom and giving me something to do as I am researching and cooking much more which keeps my mind active and busy. x
Walk on
Join Date: Jan 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 68
Originally Posted by MantaLady 
Hey Taooo, you’re doing great under difficult circumstances so give yourself a break and show yourself some love and compassion. I suffered a lot with depression whilst drinking so your not alone, I think many of us have or still do suffer with it but it is much easier to handle with a little more sober time.
If you’re not comfortable with medication just yet why not try using healthy food to try and improve things. Good healthy food is a great medicine and eating the right things can help with a lot of ailments. I found it really helpful so far and it also helps with boredom and giving me something to do as I am researching and cooking much more which keeps my mind active and busy. x
If you’re not comfortable with medication just yet why not try using healthy food to try and improve things. Good healthy food is a great medicine and eating the right things can help with a lot of ailments. I found it really helpful so far and it also helps with boredom and giving me something to do as I am researching and cooking much more which keeps my mind active and busy. x
Thank you for the advice. I actually just jumped back on eating clean too. I used to be an amateur fighter competing in boxing and k1 rules thai boxing. I think a good replacement for my habits would be something productive like gym classes again, or maybe even some yoga.
Hope everybody is doing good.
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Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Hi Tao, like Manta said, good food is key, lots of water too, and I also think regular exercise is crucial. I find my depression gets much worse when I don’t exercise on an almost daily basis, mainly walking and yoga for me, but I think any exercise is good for our mental health.
Hang in there Tommy, you’re doing great! Some days it’s not even one day at a time, it’s one hour at a time. Or 10 minutes at a time. I will not drink right now, I’ll have a cup of tea instead. Or go for a walk. Or have a shower. Or whatever it takes.
Stay strong everyone, and post when you need to. Together we’re stronger.
Hang in there Tommy, you’re doing great! Some days it’s not even one day at a time, it’s one hour at a time. Or 10 minutes at a time. I will not drink right now, I’ll have a cup of tea instead. Or go for a walk. Or have a shower. Or whatever it takes.
Stay strong everyone, and post when you need to. Together we’re stronger.
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Join Date: May 2018
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Originally Posted by MantaLady
I don’t have any FOMO related to booze thankfully. All my drinking was at home alone, so I was consciously missing out on everything anyway lol.
And on that note, it’s 9pm Saturday night here, the cat’s already asleep, and I’m off to bed lol
Ocean Lover!
Join Date: Apr 2018
Location: You know nothing Jon Snow - UK
Posts: 2,604
Interesting Taooo...I went to rehab in Thailand back in June and one of the daily things we did was a session with a thai boxing champion. He was a a gentle and small man when you met him outside the ring but when he was in the ring and kicked the bags the ground shook like and earthquake with the power lol. Lovely chap!
The key pillars that hold up my sobriety are good clean food and not going hungry, exercise whether that is walking or swimming but something every day and mindfulness/meditation. If I flag on any of those 3 things I start to get a bit shaky and become overwhelmed. Sure you will find some things that work for you and sounds like your willing to give some new things a shot! x
The key pillars that hold up my sobriety are good clean food and not going hungry, exercise whether that is walking or swimming but something every day and mindfulness/meditation. If I flag on any of those 3 things I start to get a bit shaky and become overwhelmed. Sure you will find some things that work for you and sounds like your willing to give some new things a shot! x
Ocean Lover!
Join Date: Apr 2018
Location: You know nothing Jon Snow - UK
Posts: 2,604
Sleep tight Willow and enjoy your night in with your furbaby! My cat Alfie and I are having a current standoff re butter! He goes mad for it and if I leave the packet out on the kitchen top he jumps up, knocks the butter off the counter and then drags it behind a unit to chow down on where I can't get to him. I am not imressed and he knows it lol! x
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Join Date: Apr 2018
Posts: 451
ST, you are amazing!
Mariposa, I love your JOMO concept. I'm going to hang on to that for inspiration.
All you KC fans, I'm from New England and hoping for a win on Sunday. I will also be watching. BUT I have loved watching your team this season … they have been really great.
Taoo, I am so sorry about your awful struggle. For just another perspective, my husband has been on a depression medication and it makes a huge improvement in his life. But I do understand your concern with meds … keep us posted on how you're feeling.
I hope you all have a wonderful Saturday. Sober Saturday is my favorite time of the week because I've spent way way way too many Saturday mornings feeling hungover and regretful.
Mariposa, I love your JOMO concept. I'm going to hang on to that for inspiration.
All you KC fans, I'm from New England and hoping for a win on Sunday. I will also be watching. BUT I have loved watching your team this season … they have been really great.
Taoo, I am so sorry about your awful struggle. For just another perspective, my husband has been on a depression medication and it makes a huge improvement in his life. But I do understand your concern with meds … keep us posted on how you're feeling.
I hope you all have a wonderful Saturday. Sober Saturday is my favorite time of the week because I've spent way way way too many Saturday mornings feeling hungover and regretful.
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