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Old 06-18-2018, 03:09 AM
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Little update

Iím trying to get back on my feet and Iím trying to understand how to cope with my state of mind to avoid another relapse and worse. Iím sorry I didnít respond to any of you lovely people on my other thread. Iím so embarrassed I want to pretend this never happened.

Each month I hit my lowest at some point and it lasts for days, Iím depressed, suicidal, paranoid and hopeless, Iím acting on impulse and then I self-harm, and then I drink, and then I want to die. I donít know how to stop this vicious cycle. Iím starting to wonder if I might actually be bipolar.

Iím 3 days sober today and feeling good and hopeful and happy again - which is not that great because thatís when denial hits and I feel like all these terrible things Iíve done just never happened, or that it couldnít possibly be me.

Itís good to be here, I love and appreciate this community so much, and Iím sorry about my craziness...

I want a sober life and I want to get better.

Going to a meeting tonight.

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Old 06-18-2018, 03:18 AM
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Glad you found your way back to us Snufkin!

Originally Posted by Snufkin View Post
that’s when denial hits
Recognizing that this will almost certainly happen (again) is a very positive sign. You know there will be some obstacles ahead. Now we need a plan to deal with them. You've got a meeting lined up for today - that's a great start!

You post like someone who wants to get better, you recognize there will be obstacles, and you're making plans to get around those obstacles.

Keep up the great work!
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Old 06-18-2018, 03:18 AM
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If you think you might be bipolar, maybe seeing a Dr is a good idea Snuf?

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Old 06-18-2018, 03:22 AM
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I’m seeing a pdoc and my GP every three weeks to review my meds, but I’m not entirely honest with them about anything really, especially my drinking. They can’t help if I don’t talk. I have to do something about it.
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Old 06-18-2018, 04:51 AM
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sorry you're have a rough time of it Snufkin. I held back from telling my Dr what was going on with me for a long time, right up until I ended up in rehab. once I did open up, I was able to get some therapy & meds to help me.

funnily enough, Doctors can help you better when they know what you need help with

here's a Moomin to look after you too:

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Old 06-18-2018, 05:02 AM
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Ohh thank you Andy! Aww I love the illustration so much! I need a caring moomin in my life.

You’re right, I need to learn how to open up and get help I need...
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Old 06-18-2018, 05:03 AM
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but Iím not entirely honest with them about anything really, especially my drinking. They canít help if I donít talk. I have to do something about it.
ya know,snufkin( where did your avatar come from,btw? seems i remember that character from childhood books.) it took ya a lot of courage to walk into that meeting. you can use that same courage to open up to your doctor. it would be brave of ya to do that.
do you have any phone numbers from members yet? if you do, use that courage to make a call to them now and then- even if ya just say,"hi. im only calling to do something new and different and say hi."
even if its just to say,"i know ya dont live that far away, but hows the weather over there?"
did you happen to get a big book yet? when i was early in recovery i had quite a problem with the mental obsession( personally this happened about a month in- i was too dam miserable for the first month to even want to drink, but after a month- oh booy!). many,many times i just sat and read the big book. many times i had to reread what i read because i couldnt remember what i read because my mind was all over the place.
and many days i didnt drink one minute at a time. quite often it was down to one second at a time.
there were days all i could do is read the BB,pray, and not drink one second at a time.
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Old 06-18-2018, 05:15 AM
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Snufkin! So glad you're okay-ish.

It took me a good six months before I felt anywhere close to normal. After the first month I felt stable most of the day - but there is no denying how hard it is and how many layers there are to the healing.

I hope you'll give your anxiety and your body time to settle down. I wish I could tell or somehow show you how much better it gets if you give continuous sobriety a chance.

Read everything that you think might apply - wherever you can find it. I think I read every website and a ton of books. Throw all your intelligence and drive at this and you will be rewarded with a life you can't imagine right now. You can save yourself.

Much love, and thanks for posting. I makes my day to know you're still in the fight.
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Old 06-18-2018, 05:56 AM
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Thank you all for your support and kind words, your friendship is everything to me. I canít believe I joined SR almost a year ago and youíre still not giving up on this messed up soul.

I donít want to ever end up in the ER again and I know that I will if I drink. Itís sad that thereís a part of me that craves this self-destruction.
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:01 AM
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So happy you’ve come back!
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:05 AM
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Snuf, I know it's hell scary to be completely honest with a doc about all the issues.

But let them help!

Focus on what you want - healthy, sober fullfilling life. Docs hear all kinds of stories every day. They won't be shocked.

Glad you are back.
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:08 AM
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Tomsteve, I got a few numbers, but my BB study leaves much room for improvement... I want to get serious about this. Yesterday though I had a little problem with one guy from AA, he was very inappropriate and creeped me out a little, so I think I’m gonna stick with women’s meetings from now...
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:12 AM
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I liked womens' meetings more myself...The basic program of AA can't really let you down if you read the book, do what it suggests and accept that the people in AA are as flawed as we are.

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Hi Snufkin
My Mother in Law did not disclose to her doctors about her alcoholism. They were focused on treating her other ailments and prescribed her things she should not have been combining with alcohol. Some encouragement here to disclose. Remember that alcoholism is common so it will not shock them. I am having the same issue with disclosure about my drinking...it begins with those forms you fill out when you sit in the waiting room. Let's both be brave and let the doctor's know all about ourselves so they can truly help. So glad you are back fighting the good fight here. You deserve a sober life.
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:14 AM
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yyyyyeaaahhh there can be some weird ones in AA. id think it could be wise to stick to womens meeting and attend any others with another member from that womens meetings until ya get further along and get the strength to tell creepers,"bugger off!"
which youre allowed to protect yourself.
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I am glad that you are back and posting, Snufkin.

Opening up to your doctors and creating a partnership with them could be so beneficial.

Early times in sobriety and recovery are challenging; it can be an emotional and physical roller coaster. It can take the body, mind and spirit some time to heal. It took me many months but, take heart - I am more than a bit older than you; you have the gift of youth on your side.

However long it takes, it worth every second and every effort.

Stay with us. We are 100% on your side.
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Old 06-18-2018, 06:33 AM
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Glad to see you back Snufkin🙂
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Glad you’re back Snufkin! You are stronger than you give yourself credit for and a beautiful soul too, you just need to learn to see yourself the way we do xx
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Took tons of courage to come back and post with such honesty, Snufkin.

I'm so happy you checked in with an update.

Please remember you can always count on us for support.

We understand ... no judgment.
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