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Old 06-12-2018, 03:19 AM
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Originally Posted by Gilmer View Post
Would it have been clearer if I had said, I almost croaked?
It would have meant dictionary and google for me)
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Old 06-12-2018, 03:20 AM
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Almost croaked is not funny Ms Gilmer....
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Old 06-12-2018, 03:21 AM
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“Croaked” is a crasser and more ridiculous word.
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Old 06-12-2018, 03:22 AM
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Okay. Let’s just say that I was very, very perturbed!
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:15 AM
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We have to be careful who's image we use to compare ourselves. I remember out of collage, other 'friends' successes, persons whom (at the time) I considered 'beneath' me, would consume my thoughts. How could they be doing better than me? I'm failing.
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:21 AM
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Very true.

I honestly find, though, that the more sober and “recovered” I got, the more satisfied with my performance and surroundings I became, and the less conscious of other people’s business (and paranoid) I became.
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:30 AM
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Might interest some :
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Jiddu_Krishnamurti

"Throughout life, from childhood, from school until we die, we are taught to compare ourselves with another; yet when I compare myself with another I am destroying myself..........You are actually what you are and to understand what you are, this process of comparison must come to an end. If I am always comparing myself with some saint or some teacher, some businessman, writer, poet, and all the rest, what has happened to me — what have I done? I only compare in order to gain, in order to achieve, in order to become — but when I don’t compare I am beginning to understand what I am. Beginning to understand what I am is far more fascinating, far more interesting; it goes beyond all this stupid comparison."
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:33 AM
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It's perfect Vinny. Thank you.

I always do my best to compare myself only to the me I was yesterday....my only aim is to be a better version of myself. ♥
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:35 AM
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Thank you, Vinny.

This is a great and profound piece of writing.
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:37 AM
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Originally Posted by venuscat View Post
It's perfect Vinny. Thank you.

I always do my best to compare myself only to the me I was yesterday....my only aim is to be a better version of myself. ♥
That is my goal too, Venus.

But when I lose my focus the old habits sneak in and in no time the old scenario of comparison runs in my head.
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:40 AM
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Of course love....we are human.
We just keep trying and learning....and maybe find ways to get past the personal frustrations that stand in our way, or that we THINK stand in our way. ♥
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Old 06-12-2018, 04:41 AM
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MantaLady ~ how are you doing love?
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Old 06-12-2018, 05:32 AM
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MB I like your avatar

Hope to hear from our dear Snufkin soon....

Great insights and reminders you guys!
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Old 06-12-2018, 05:45 AM
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Thank you, Purple.

I think it's kind of time to reboot the operating system, run anti-virus and delete the old files.
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Old 06-12-2018, 05:50 AM
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Wow, you guys. That was a couple pages of great conversation.

I like Theodore Roosevelt's take on it, too:

"Comparison is the thief of joy."
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Old 06-12-2018, 05:51 AM
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MidnightBlue, we do truly love you. Deep thinkers have more to sort through, I think. Too much time in my head is not always a good thing. As long as I make sure to get out of the house and into Nature and clear my thoughts every day for an hour, I'm good - but if I don't do that, nothing flows.

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Old 06-12-2018, 06:13 AM
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Thank you, Bim.

My head can be dangerous place for sure.
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Old 06-12-2018, 06:18 AM
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There is a lot to be said for meditation or even walking meditation. Letting thoughts come and go without judging them is a skill!

I try not to grab onto a thought, just let it come and go. I definitely need to get out and away from noise and conversations in order to be able to do that for the rest of the day. Sometimes I'll spend too much time reading or I'll watch a movie, and I get stuck in a thought. Time to go outside! Take a walk.

If I start spinning it's because I've grabbed onto something and started judging it or my reaction to it.
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Old 06-12-2018, 06:25 AM
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More Jiddu :

"Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life — perhaps the greatest, and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody, that is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy — if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation."
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Old 06-12-2018, 06:28 AM
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It's raining cats and dogs again. Big fat ones.

It's been almost half a year since the New Year's day.

And I feel like nothing changes.



Never mind.
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