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Originally Posted by Gilmer 
Would it have been clearer if I had said, “I almost croaked?” 
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We have to be careful who's image we use to compare ourselves. I remember out of collage, other 'friends' successes, persons whom (at the time) I considered 'beneath' me, would consume my thoughts. How could they be doing better than me? I'm failing.
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Very true.
I honestly find, though, that the more sober and “recovered” I got, the more satisfied with my performance and surroundings I became, and the less conscious of other people’s business (and paranoid) I became.
I honestly find, though, that the more sober and “recovered” I got, the more satisfied with my performance and surroundings I became, and the less conscious of other people’s business (and paranoid) I became.
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Might interest some :
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Jiddu_Krishnamurti
"Throughout life, from childhood, from school until we die, we are taught to compare ourselves with another; yet when I compare myself with another I am destroying myself..........You are actually what you are and to understand what you are, this process of comparison must come to an end. If I am always comparing myself with some saint or some teacher, some businessman, writer, poet, and all the rest, what has happened to me — what have I done? I only compare in order to gain, in order to achieve, in order to become — but when I don’t compare I am beginning to understand what I am. Beginning to understand what I am is far more fascinating, far more interesting; it goes beyond all this stupid comparison."
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Jiddu_Krishnamurti
"Throughout life, from childhood, from school until we die, we are taught to compare ourselves with another; yet when I compare myself with another I am destroying myself..........You are actually what you are and to understand what you are, this process of comparison must come to an end. If I am always comparing myself with some saint or some teacher, some businessman, writer, poet, and all the rest, what has happened to me — what have I done? I only compare in order to gain, in order to achieve, in order to become — but when I don’t compare I am beginning to understand what I am. Beginning to understand what I am is far more fascinating, far more interesting; it goes beyond all this stupid comparison."
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Originally Posted by venuscat
It's perfect Vinny. Thank you.
I always do my best to compare myself only to the me I was yesterday....my only aim is to be a better version of myself. ♥
I always do my best to compare myself only to the me I was yesterday....my only aim is to be a better version of myself. ♥
But when I lose my focus the old habits sneak in and in no time the old scenario of comparison runs in my head.
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Of course love....we are human. 
We just keep trying and learning....and maybe find ways to get past the personal frustrations that stand in our way, or that we THINK stand in our way. ♥
We just keep trying and learning....and maybe find ways to get past the personal frustrations that stand in our way, or that we THINK stand in our way. ♥
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MidnightBlue, we do truly love you. Deep thinkers have more to sort through, I think. Too much time in my head is not always a good thing. As long as I make sure to get out of the house and into Nature and clear my thoughts every day for an hour, I'm good - but if I don't do that, nothing flows.
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There is a lot to be said for meditation or even walking meditation. Letting thoughts come and go without judging them is a skill!
I try not to grab onto a thought, just let it come and go. I definitely need to get out and away from noise and conversations in order to be able to do that for the rest of the day. Sometimes I'll spend too much time reading or I'll watch a movie, and I get stuck in a thought. Time to go outside! Take a walk.
If I start spinning it's because I've grabbed onto something and started judging it or my reaction to it.
I try not to grab onto a thought, just let it come and go. I definitely need to get out and away from noise and conversations in order to be able to do that for the rest of the day. Sometimes I'll spend too much time reading or I'll watch a movie, and I get stuck in a thought. Time to go outside! Take a walk.
If I start spinning it's because I've grabbed onto something and started judging it or my reaction to it.
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More Jiddu :
"Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life — perhaps the greatest, and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody, that is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy — if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation."
"Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life — perhaps the greatest, and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody, that is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy — if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation."
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It's raining cats and dogs again. Big fat ones.
It's been almost half a year since the New Year's day.
And I feel like nothing changes.
Never mind.
It's been almost half a year since the New Year's day.
And I feel like nothing changes.
Never mind.
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