Class of October 2019 Part 2
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hate to sound Hippyish but all you can do is 'do you'.
You can't make anyone else work on themselves if they're not prepared to do that or they don;t think they're a part of the problem.
A lot of people find that their loved ones eventually embark on a journey of growth as well - I hope it will be that way for you and Hubby
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hate to sound Hippyish but all you can do is 'do you'.
You can't make anyone else work on themselves if they're not prepared to do that or they don;t think they're a part of the problem.
A lot of people find that their loved ones eventually embark on a journey of growth as well - I hope it will be that way for you and Hubby
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Hello Octsobers!
Day 15 here. I'm mostly fine but I got whammied with a craving in the late afternoon. I read somewhere, maybe here, to see what you were thinking or feeling just before the craving hit. I was tired from long hours at work and I think i was looking for a way to switch off. It was really strong and I nearly asked a co-worker if they wanted to go for a drink, but I didn't want to start counting my days over (I count them on a wall calendar with a sharpie) and got on with my day. It passed like it was never there. I'm glad I didn't give in.
Day 15 here. I'm mostly fine but I got whammied with a craving in the late afternoon. I read somewhere, maybe here, to see what you were thinking or feeling just before the craving hit. I was tired from long hours at work and I think i was looking for a way to switch off. It was really strong and I nearly asked a co-worker if they wanted to go for a drink, but I didn't want to start counting my days over (I count them on a wall calendar with a sharpie) and got on with my day. It passed like it was never there. I'm glad I didn't give in.
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Originally Posted by taplow 
Day 3. I'm having a piece of cake during a walk in the park. I hope you're all doing well.
Smiling big time dear taplow.
And sending love to everyone.
And goodnight Dee!
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I have deleted the account I had created to cyber-spy on this person. My job needs to be focusing on creating the life I want and feeling contentment with that rather than directing my thoughts to someone who doesn't deserve any of my headspace.
A very positive step forward.....huge self-care.
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Originally Posted by loulou1981
Hi all, new to this thread. Day 16 for me. 👋
Query.....Is it normal to still have night sweats?? How long should I expect them to last?
Sleep itself is ok but last night was bloody awful & it's cold here in the UK & I always sleep with the window open, think my hubbie wondered what he was sleeping next to, it was awful!!!🙈
Query.....Is it normal to still have night sweats?? How long should I expect them to last?
Sleep itself is ok but last night was bloody awful & it's cold here in the UK & I always sleep with the window open, think my hubbie wondered what he was sleeping next to, it was awful!!!🙈
sHaven't read what anyone else said in response to this yet.
I know as women there can be more than one reason for night sweats....I have had some that really mirrored my early days in recovery.
We are all different.....but maybe a check up is a good idea. I think I would do that.
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Originally Posted by MagnumCat
This probably doesn't have anything to do with sobriety and you can all ignore this. I just need to get it out. My husband says he doesn't want our family to be so dysfunctional anymore. I told him that I'm doing what I can (starting a one year IOP on Monday) and that he needs to do his part. It takes two to fight! He doesn't think that he has a part. He wants me to write him a list of what I want him to change. I told him that I can't change him. He needs to figure out his part and do what he needs to do. I've told him a hundred times what I think needs to be changed, but I guess he doesn't hear me. I think he needs to go to his own counselling. A week ago I asked him to give me a chance to go through my counselling before we made any decisions. He thinks I should be perfect now, although he doesn't trust a thing I do. He seems to be giving up before he gives me a chance. Any suggestions??
sIt would be good if you could perhaps do counselling together, I think.
Honestly, that's what I would do if it could be worked out.
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Originally Posted by Zura
I don't have any suggestions I'm sorry. You have my very deep sympathy though. I personally have found it very difficult to initiate change on my own in any relationship or family situation, as we are individually only one part of the dynamic. The only advice i would give is hang on to your sobriety no matter the circumstances and work on yourself as that is the only part you can control, particularly if you are newly sober....sorry i am not much help. Everything improves with sobriety i'm told so you've got a lot of improvements to look forward to that may have amazing flow on effects to all your life challenges.
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Good day all.
I hope everyone finds the strength to focus on sobriety today. I'm not too good with advice but I know sobriety is where everything starts. All bets are off without that.
A rainy day 9 on my end. Paperwork waiting on the desk, and that's a trigger. It's really kind of stupid the things that trigger me.
A day to be careful, avoid the easy way out. And so, I'll make a cup of tea, count my blessings, and get to it.
Stay well everyone.
I hope everyone finds the strength to focus on sobriety today. I'm not too good with advice but I know sobriety is where everything starts. All bets are off without that.
A rainy day 9 on my end. Paperwork waiting on the desk, and that's a trigger. It's really kind of stupid the things that trigger me.
A day to be careful, avoid the easy way out. And so, I'll make a cup of tea, count my blessings, and get to it.
Stay well everyone.
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Good morning Octsobers. 😊
Day 8. I am so happy to have a full week in. Last week at this time I had to drive my daughter to work and honestly I felt like death warmed over. This morning i got up before the sun, read my morning devotion and made a big breakfast for my family. I am now on my second mug of tea, plus have dishes and laundry going. I love how when I am sober I slowly get the house back into shape. Which is a huge motivator for me to stay sober. Drinking it is all just so overwhelming.
I wish that I could comment more on all of your posts. I just don't quite feel like I can contribute much at this point. But know that I look forward to reading everything and send my love to each of you with each post I read.
Hope you all have a fantastic sober day. I will stick close today.
Day 8. I am so happy to have a full week in. Last week at this time I had to drive my daughter to work and honestly I felt like death warmed over. This morning i got up before the sun, read my morning devotion and made a big breakfast for my family. I am now on my second mug of tea, plus have dishes and laundry going. I love how when I am sober I slowly get the house back into shape. Which is a huge motivator for me to stay sober. Drinking it is all just so overwhelming.
I wish that I could comment more on all of your posts. I just don't quite feel like I can contribute much at this point. But know that I look forward to reading everything and send my love to each of you with each post I read.
Hope you all have a fantastic sober day. I will stick close today.
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Hi everyone. I drank on vacation. I'm back now. I'm ending day 3. I'm still here and it is still October and my body feels a lot better with no alcohol in it again. I have a lot to think about but for now that's all I have the energy to say.
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