Originally Posted by MagnumCat

This probably doesn't have anything to do with sobriety and you can all ignore this. I just need to get it out. My husband says he doesn't want our family to be so dysfunctional anymore. I told him that I'm doing what I can (starting a one year IOP on Monday) and that he needs to do his part. It takes two to fight! He doesn't think that he has a part. He wants me to write him a list of what I want him to change. I told him that I can't change him. He needs to figure out his part and do what he needs to do. I've told him a hundred times what I think needs to be changed, but I guess he doesn't hear me. I think he needs to go to his own counselling. A week ago I asked him to give me a chance to go through my counselling before we made any decisions. He thinks I should be perfect now, although he doesn't trust a thing I do. He seems to be giving up before he gives me a chance. Any suggestions??