Class of June 2019 part 2
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We need to keep it simple.....literally......for example:
I am grateful for another sober day
I am grateful to have food in my fridge
I am grateful to be able to go to work without a hangover
I am grateful that I feel better every day
I am grateful that I have a boat, and even though I have to sell (maybe), I have wonderful memories of all of the time my family spent together on her. (maybe
).
Honestly, I used to do things like:
Grateful to be sober
Grateful for my beautiful Venus
Grateful for SR
Grateful to be alive
Grateful to enjoy the smell of coffee again.
I do believe it does change your mindset.....I used to wake up every day feeling so sad and ashamed and fearful when I was drinking, and now that I started that habit in sobriety, it has become automatic....every morning I do this in my head. And I am very very grateful.
Grateful for my sobriety and SR, and all of you. 
s
Grateful for my beautiful husband.
Grateful for my gorgeous house and garden (well it's gorgeous to me).
Grateful to have made a firm decision career-wise and to have taken action.
Grateful for love and friendship.
I always do 5....no idea why.
s
I am grateful for another sober day
I am grateful to have food in my fridge
I am grateful to be able to go to work without a hangover
I am grateful that I feel better every day
I am grateful that I have a boat, and even though I have to sell (maybe), I have wonderful memories of all of the time my family spent together on her. (maybe
).Honestly, I used to do things like:
Grateful to be sober
Grateful for my beautiful Venus
Grateful for SR
Grateful to be alive
Grateful to enjoy the smell of coffee again.
I do believe it does change your mindset.....I used to wake up every day feeling so sad and ashamed and fearful when I was drinking, and now that I started that habit in sobriety, it has become automatic....every morning I do this in my head. And I am very very grateful.
Grateful for my sobriety and SR, and all of you.
sGrateful for my beautiful husband.
Grateful for my gorgeous house and garden (well it's gorgeous to me
).Grateful to have made a firm decision career-wise and to have taken action.
Grateful for love and friendship.
I always do 5....no idea why.
s
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ha ha....well, you know, donuts or something.
And I am not working right now either, and even though I really really really want and need to be earning money again, I am so grateful to have this time for me.
And I am not working right now either, and even though I really really really want and need to be earning money again, I am so grateful to have this time for me.
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Good morning from California.
Day 20 here and I think I have the day 20 doldrums.
Feeling so much better physically but mentally a little off.
Very grateful for my many many blessings but also feel like I am processing my whole life, relationships, friendships, work decisions ect.
It's like my brain won't shut off.
Wondering if I am still detoxing chemically or if my brain is just making up for lost time.
Grateful to SR and all you wonderful people.
Have a great and healthy day.
Day 20 here and I think I have the day 20 doldrums.
Feeling so much better physically but mentally a little off.
Very grateful for my many many blessings but also feel like I am processing my whole life, relationships, friendships, work decisions ect.
It's like my brain won't shut off.
Wondering if I am still detoxing chemically or if my brain is just making up for lost time.
Grateful to SR and all you wonderful people.
Have a great and healthy day.
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It's an individual process though.....really. s
I know that marijuana takes a lot longer than that to leave your system....for me it was always both. I think I needed at least 4 weeks odd before I knew I was finished detoxing.
sI know that marijuana takes a lot longer than that to leave your system....for me it was always both. I think I needed at least 4 weeks odd before I knew I was finished detoxing.
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I think one of the hardest parts after the initial few days of getting sober is when you get to the 20/30 day mark, where you are waking up fresh everyday. What was fantastic at first rather then the usual hangovers becomes the norm. Just need to remember how much better this life without alcohol, without hangovers, without stupidly, and considerbly more money is. Keep your head up Melski, we are all in this together, and will get through it together.
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Yes, and thanks for all the support and reminders. Perhaps it's these feelings that sent me to the bottle in the first place.
The pink cloud does wear off but we then have more wonderful and scary choices and the responsibility that comes with it.
So grateful for you all.
The pink cloud does wear off but we then have more wonderful and scary choices and the responsibility that comes with it.
So grateful for you all.
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Day 18 here. Feeling better but I am still falling short in my:
1) House cleaning and organizing
2) Eating healthy meals
3) Finding a job or a way to earn money as self-employed
4) Lifting weights at gym
5) Daily meditation
I dont know whether to "force myself" or to be patient and give myself more time. Im in such a hurry to get perfect NOW even though I was drinking for years and barely made any progress then.
In the past i found that if I push myslef too hard that it actually becomes a demotivator and creates stress and oftentimes leads to picking up a drink. So its a precarious balance. But all day long I complain about my physique and how it is the reason for all my problems and yet i am unable to summon up the motivation to get started working out again and drinking the protein shakes and swallowing all the horse pill supplements.
The lifting weights itself is not so bad, its the "religious meal plan and calorie counting" and the disgusting 3 milkshakes per day that I find most unpleasant.
1) House cleaning and organizing
2) Eating healthy meals
3) Finding a job or a way to earn money as self-employed
4) Lifting weights at gym
5) Daily meditation
I dont know whether to "force myself" or to be patient and give myself more time. Im in such a hurry to get perfect NOW even though I was drinking for years and barely made any progress then.
In the past i found that if I push myslef too hard that it actually becomes a demotivator and creates stress and oftentimes leads to picking up a drink. So its a precarious balance. But all day long I complain about my physique and how it is the reason for all my problems and yet i am unable to summon up the motivation to get started working out again and drinking the protein shakes and swallowing all the horse pill supplements.
The lifting weights itself is not so bad, its the "religious meal plan and calorie counting" and the disgusting 3 milkshakes per day that I find most unpleasant.
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Day 23 for me!
I'm just enjoying life. Getting up and making the most of everyday. Today, people did annoy me but I left work and left those issues at the door. See, had I gone home and had a drink, those issues would all end up plastered over social media where work colleagues would see and probably wonder why I was ranting and about who?!?
Tonight I'll make some lunch and get a shower. Busy day tomorrow but another step close to my weekend which seems twice as long as before!
I'm just enjoying life. Getting up and making the most of everyday. Today, people did annoy me but I left work and left those issues at the door. See, had I gone home and had a drink, those issues would all end up plastered over social media where work colleagues would see and probably wonder why I was ranting and about who?!?
Tonight I'll make some lunch and get a shower. Busy day tomorrow but another step close to my weekend which seems twice as long as before!
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Lovely post Venus thank you
So glad to be at home. Intended to potter about and sunbathe and do housework but tooth pain was bad again overnight so called dentist. Managed to get an appointment, had work done and got meds. It feels so much better already, thankfully.
So glad to be at home. Intended to potter about and sunbathe and do housework but tooth pain was bad again overnight so called dentist. Managed to get an appointment, had work done and got meds. It feels so much better already, thankfully.
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Oh linners many commiserations. I have had numberless days 1s and frankly until 11 days ago I thought that was how it was always going to be. But now I dare to think otherwise and so should you. Really hope this is your very last day 1. Sending warmest wishes.
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Originally Posted by Purina 
Day 18 here. Feeling better but I am still falling short in my:
1) House cleaning and organizing
2) Eating healthy meals
3) Finding a job or a way to earn money as self-employed
4) Lifting weights at gym
5) Daily meditation
I dont know whether to "force myself" or to be patient and give myself more time. Im in such a hurry to get perfect NOW even though I was drinking for years and barely made any progress then.
In the past i found that if I push myslef too hard that it actually becomes a demotivator and creates stress and oftentimes leads to picking up a drink. So its a precarious balance. But all day long I complain about my physique and how it is the reason for all my problems and yet i am unable to summon up the motivation to get started working out again and drinking the protein shakes and swallowing all the horse pill supplements.
The lifting weights itself is not so bad, its the "religious meal plan and calorie counting" and the disgusting 3 milkshakes per day that I find most unpleasant.
1) House cleaning and organizing
2) Eating healthy meals
3) Finding a job or a way to earn money as self-employed
4) Lifting weights at gym
5) Daily meditation
I dont know whether to "force myself" or to be patient and give myself more time. Im in such a hurry to get perfect NOW even though I was drinking for years and barely made any progress then.
In the past i found that if I push myslef too hard that it actually becomes a demotivator and creates stress and oftentimes leads to picking up a drink. So its a precarious balance. But all day long I complain about my physique and how it is the reason for all my problems and yet i am unable to summon up the motivation to get started working out again and drinking the protein shakes and swallowing all the horse pill supplements.
The lifting weights itself is not so bad, its the "religious meal plan and calorie counting" and the disgusting 3 milkshakes per day that I find most unpleasant.
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It took me about a month to get some energy back.
I might not have been strictly detoxing still but I was definitely healing from a bad diet, irregular eating, bad sleep, and pretty bad health all round.
D
I might not have been strictly detoxing still but I was definitely healing from a bad diet, irregular eating, bad sleep, and pretty bad health all round.
D
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Day 21 for me and a happy 4th of July everyone!
No physical cravings happening and slept nine hours last night....
May go to hot yoga this morning but right now just enjoying sitting on the couch with my dog and coffee.
Nice to have a day off mid week.
I may just make it a pajama day which will honestly be a first.
Even when drinking I always felt like I couldn’t rest, had to anxiously keep moving, staying ahead of something, who knows what.
Next week I need to attend my first work event where people will be drinking.
This is a weekly event which I often avoid but have to be at this one because my team is hosting.
Intellectually I know there are many people there who don’t drink and no one cares but I am nervous about the pressure.
No one will give me or what I am doing a second thought so why is this stressful?
I have a lot of choice in my life and most of my friends and activities do not involve alcohol but when faced with it I project judgment I guess.
Anyway, I will get through it but need a plan for my anxiety around it.
There were times a few months ago when I avoided alcohol at the event but was so stressed after work that I drank when I got home.
Sigh, well thanks for reading and have a great day.
No physical cravings happening and slept nine hours last night....
May go to hot yoga this morning but right now just enjoying sitting on the couch with my dog and coffee.
Nice to have a day off mid week.
I may just make it a pajama day which will honestly be a first.
Even when drinking I always felt like I couldn’t rest, had to anxiously keep moving, staying ahead of something, who knows what.
Next week I need to attend my first work event where people will be drinking.
This is a weekly event which I often avoid but have to be at this one because my team is hosting.
Intellectually I know there are many people there who don’t drink and no one cares but I am nervous about the pressure.
No one will give me or what I am doing a second thought so why is this stressful?
I have a lot of choice in my life and most of my friends and activities do not involve alcohol but when faced with it I project judgment I guess.
Anyway, I will get through it but need a plan for my anxiety around it.
There were times a few months ago when I avoided alcohol at the event but was so stressed after work that I drank when I got home.
Sigh, well thanks for reading and have a great day.
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For me dear melski, it would just simply be that I know my AV will say go for it, have a drink. Or would have....in the early days. I was one of those who chose to not socialise around alcohol at all for the first month....actually, I still remember the date when I went to my first family function where there would be booze in March 13 (I was about 6 weeks sober), and I was nervous, so I took SR with me via phone and my BF was on Skype live for me. I got through that night sober, and that gave me the courage (and more tools) to do it again. So it got easier....and I was proud of myself and able to poo poo any silliness from my AV.
If you want to go, take us with you, maybe even one of us via text (I volunteer if we are ina compatible time-zone) and have an exit strategy. That's what I would do.
If you want to go, take us with you, maybe even one of us via text (I volunteer if we are ina compatible time-zone
) and have an exit strategy. That's what I would do.
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Day 24- I am wrecked!
i don't know if maybe the pink cloud is disappearing on me or it's a combination of that and just my routine catching up with me but physically, I'm feeling a bit worn out.
I have been getting up early and making the utmost of everyday, but tonight, it's not even 9.30pm, and I could easily go to bed!
It's probably just I've been so busy but yeah, could go with a nice 8hours sleep....but I know that won't happen lol
I'm still positive tho, I'm still enjoying the sober mornings and the great routine me.and the dog now have. Looking forward to a few afternoon naps this weekend though to recharge the batteries!!
i don't know if maybe the pink cloud is disappearing on me or it's a combination of that and just my routine catching up with me but physically, I'm feeling a bit worn out.
I have been getting up early and making the utmost of everyday, but tonight, it's not even 9.30pm, and I could easily go to bed!
It's probably just I've been so busy but yeah, could go with a nice 8hours sleep....but I know that won't happen lol
I'm still positive tho, I'm still enjoying the sober mornings and the great routine me.and the dog now have. Looking forward to a few afternoon naps this weekend though to recharge the batteries!!
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Melski - I recognise that syndrome of not drinking at an event but then drinking when you (I) got home. I did that a lot, even if it was very late when I got home. I think that's a thing to really plan for by not having anything to drink in the house, or anyone around when you get home who is willing to go and buy you a bottle. Otherwise I can't add anything to what Venus has said.
Day 13 for me. Didn't expect anything to derail me yesterday and yet I got close to having a glass of wine. I was with my son and granddaughter in the evening, helping out. When she was in bed he said he'd bought a half bottle of very good wine so we could have a glass together. That seemed like such a nice (and inoccuous) idea I found myself thinking 'why not?' Lovely summer evening, glass of wine before I went home. I've never quite told him the whole story of why I'm always saying I'd like to drink less so I did. He was surprised and I'm not sure he completely believed me but I left it at that and the moment passed. Couldn't have anticipated that he'd offer me a glass because he's not really a drinker. Pays to be prepared for all eventualities. Glad I got past that moment.
Day 13 for me. Didn't expect anything to derail me yesterday and yet I got close to having a glass of wine. I was with my son and granddaughter in the evening, helping out. When she was in bed he said he'd bought a half bottle of very good wine so we could have a glass together. That seemed like such a nice (and inoccuous) idea I found myself thinking 'why not?' Lovely summer evening, glass of wine before I went home. I've never quite told him the whole story of why I'm always saying I'd like to drink less so I did. He was surprised and I'm not sure he completely believed me but I left it at that and the moment passed. Couldn't have anticipated that he'd offer me a glass because he's not really a drinker. Pays to be prepared for all eventualities. Glad I got past that moment.
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