24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 405
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Originally Posted by Plenny 
Sorry for yet another long post and thank you Suze for addressing that we didn’t really used to do this on this thread, I’ve often felt self-conscious and wondered if I’m putting out too much on the 24 hour or if it’s ok.... I have been helped immensely by this thread and I hope it IS ok because seeing all of your stories and having solidarity with you is truly magical.
I promise one of these days I will lighten up a little. I just keep having epiphanies
I promise one of these days I will lighten up a little. I just keep having epiphanies
♥♥♥And may I have 24 more please? Yes... Excellent.
Ooodles of love to everyone....thinking of yukonm and her 11 years.....wow huh???????????
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Originally Posted by yukonm
Signing up for 24 hours drink and drug free. 7:04am in Jacksonville, Florida!!
Congratulations to all those celebrating milestones today!!
Including ME!! Celebrating 11 years today. I am very grateful for my life.
Congratulations to all those celebrating milestones today!!
Including ME!! Celebrating 11 years today. I am very grateful for my life.
And so HAPPY for you.
And thank you so much for ALWAYS being here and being such a beautiful power of example.
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+ 2 candles.....it was too pretty not to use
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24 more please! Thoughts and prayers with everyone today!! Just one more day! Plenny, keep posting, your posts are important and you don’t know who else you’re helping in sharing your story. Please love yourself enough today, once you love you all the other stuff will fall into place and keep grounded, knowing that you can’t change the other person, not ever; that change needs to come from them. You can guide and support for sure but do not risk your own serenity and health. We’ll support you along the way for sure!
77 days today... feeling a bit groggy this morning, have a sore throat and a stuffy nose... hoping it’s the ragweed but thinking it’s going to be a cold cause all of my close friends are sick and I’ve been spending ample time with them. I’ve been taking my vitamins since getting sober, so I’m hoping it won’t drag me down for too long if it is a bug!
Congrats to the Milestoners!! Such an encouragement to me to keep on living one day at a time cause they do add up when we don’t pick up!! ❤️ To those of you struggling, please be good to yourself just for today, it does really get better - look at Nick!! Being able to dump some of the messy stuff and have the weight lifted- how freeing that is!! ❤️ Much love people!
77 days today... feeling a bit groggy this morning, have a sore throat and a stuffy nose... hoping it’s the ragweed but thinking it’s going to be a cold cause all of my close friends are sick and I’ve been spending ample time with them. I’ve been taking my vitamins since getting sober, so I’m hoping it won’t drag me down for too long if it is a bug!
Congrats to the Milestoners!! Such an encouragement to me to keep on living one day at a time cause they do add up when we don’t pick up!! ❤️ To those of you struggling, please be good to yourself just for today, it does really get better - look at Nick!! Being able to dump some of the messy stuff and have the weight lifted- how freeing that is!! ❤️ Much love people!
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Thanks Suze and Sundlower. Sunflower, I would love to gain some clarity, I thank you again for your long distance reiki
Suze, I’m also a person with fairly serious issues. I am not happy in the way I want to be in this relationship. I’m not being taken out to dinner, or showered with compliments or going on vacations and “living life” and seeing progress towards buying a house. I have never found happiness in the past looking for these things either.
I’m in a relationship with my drinking buddy. A really hilarious and special and talented person who is so twisted up in his brain that he can’t see his own potential. It is something I am familiar with as well. If he doesn’t treat his drinking and depression, I fear we will never be able to build a life together.
This is someone I know understands my life and history on a level that most people would never be able to. Trying to fall in love with people who were not as sufficiently damaged as me in the past has been fruitless and painful and they all left me behind like trash on the curb.
I wanted so badly to say “Come to a meeting with me” but I know I can’t engineer his recovery. I told him already to get a new job (which he knows he needs to do). He needs to feel worthy and like he is accomplishing things and using his skills. He is in a toxic relationship with his alcoholic boss. He is stuck in a place professionally that is hard to explain here.
I’m very sad that I have to think of not being together. By the way, I was not as clear as I should have been about why we are talking about moving in together. I can afford a nicer house that we could share all on my own. I can afford a nicer house for myself too. I want to try moving in to his little house because we have wanted to try to coexist for a long time. Please don’t forget that along with all of these problems is a lot of true love running underneath. This is not easy.
Suze, I’m also a person with fairly serious issues. I am not happy in the way I want to be in this relationship. I’m not being taken out to dinner, or showered with compliments or going on vacations and “living life” and seeing progress towards buying a house. I have never found happiness in the past looking for these things either.
I’m in a relationship with my drinking buddy. A really hilarious and special and talented person who is so twisted up in his brain that he can’t see his own potential. It is something I am familiar with as well. If he doesn’t treat his drinking and depression, I fear we will never be able to build a life together.
This is someone I know understands my life and history on a level that most people would never be able to. Trying to fall in love with people who were not as sufficiently damaged as me in the past has been fruitless and painful and they all left me behind like trash on the curb.
I wanted so badly to say “Come to a meeting with me” but I know I can’t engineer his recovery. I told him already to get a new job (which he knows he needs to do). He needs to feel worthy and like he is accomplishing things and using his skills. He is in a toxic relationship with his alcoholic boss. He is stuck in a place professionally that is hard to explain here.
I’m very sad that I have to think of not being together. By the way, I was not as clear as I should have been about why we are talking about moving in together. I can afford a nicer house that we could share all on my own. I can afford a nicer house for myself too. I want to try moving in to his little house because we have wanted to try to coexist for a long time. Please don’t forget that along with all of these problems is a lot of true love running underneath. This is not easy.
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