Class of February 2017 Support Thread Part 4
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: PA
Posts: 588
Vipe - ride it out. Treat your mental health like any other ailment - treat it hard and often and don't cheat!
I'm happy to report a hangover free morning and a decent night of sleep. Step one is complete. I promised to come back Sunday with good news and I still intend to keep that promise.
I'm happy to report a hangover free morning and a decent night of sleep. Step one is complete. I promised to come back Sunday with good news and I still intend to keep that promise.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Northeast, US
Posts: 2,073
My biggest starting gate hurdle is finding a way to make my own money. I need to get away from my nutjob father and his nutjob ideas. He pulls the rug out from under me every time I'm about to launch. With my own money, that I can make online or remotely from any location I can move around and answer to no one. People do it with Programming, web site building, and a zillion other things. I really have no idea how to get into a work world I've never been in.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: NM
Posts: 144
Hang tough Viper. Keep pushing forward because you already know the path behind is one you are not fond of. Congrats axe keep fighting. Dau the only thing to figure out is if she really needs you or if she needs a drinking buddy. I realize it feels way more complex but it is something to keep in mind. My work is just starting to calm down a bit however the wife and I have decided to try to market the house as soon as we can which means a ton of work at home to get done. We are hoping to be able to downsize homes as we will have a 2nd in college in the fall. Checking my calendar I see today is 60 days for me. Felt kinda crappy but very happy about that number. Hope everyone has a good rest of the week.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2016
Posts: 118
Day 50
Feeling a little bit better than ok. Work has been going alot better since I've been sober, although I'm not working ad many hours. But I'm more productive and tolerant of the people I work with.
Another thing I've noticed is that I only have to take my trash bins to the curb once a month, instead of once a week. I feel like captain planet, haha.
Not super motivated, but doing well. Talk to you guys tomorrow.
Another thing I've noticed is that I only have to take my trash bins to the curb once a month, instead of once a week. I feel like captain planet, haha.
Not super motivated, but doing well. Talk to you guys tomorrow.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Northeast, US
Posts: 2,073
Hangin' tough. Already less crazy, and a bit more energy even though I came home directly after morning coffee shop and oatmeal and crawled into bed for 2 hours.
The repair shop with my car... well I picked it up the other day to a screeching in the steering, brought it back 2 days later and the steering pump is blown. Had it replaced with a remanfactured one. On turning the wheel at a stand still or slow speed, it's incredibly hard to turn. Sooooo now it's gotta go back. This was such a stressful event and so much money to begin with. Anyway the mechanic texted and said to go to his alignment guy first and bring it back and he'd fix it. I did that today after he texted. Hopefully this will all be over soon.
I just watched a new episode of Nature on Public Television. Wildlife of Puerto Rico. OMG. Parrots, turtles, etc. The beaches. Paradise. Nothing stopping me from going there. I'm a US CItizen. I can stay there forever.
Well I'm having some cookies and I'm going to flip the channels.
Unless I want to post from bed, talk tomorrow.
-V
The repair shop with my car... well I picked it up the other day to a screeching in the steering, brought it back 2 days later and the steering pump is blown. Had it replaced with a remanfactured one. On turning the wheel at a stand still or slow speed, it's incredibly hard to turn. Sooooo now it's gotta go back. This was such a stressful event and so much money to begin with. Anyway the mechanic texted and said to go to his alignment guy first and bring it back and he'd fix it. I did that today after he texted. Hopefully this will all be over soon.
I just watched a new episode of Nature on Public Television. Wildlife of Puerto Rico. OMG. Parrots, turtles, etc. The beaches. Paradise. Nothing stopping me from going there. I'm a US CItizen. I can stay there forever.
Well I'm having some cookies and I'm going to flip the channels.
Unless I want to post from bed, talk tomorrow.
-V
Meow
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: The Great Lakes State
Posts: 1,585
Hi all. Another day done. Made a very nice chicken noodle for soup in my Instant Pot tonight. May try making yogurt in it this weekend. 
Hope everyone keeps on truckin' (blast from the past lol) in the right direction!
Hope everyone keeps on truckin' (blast from the past lol) in the right direction!
Member
Join Date: Jun 2016
Posts: 118
Day 51
Hanging in there, 3 day weekend, woohoo. Tomorrow is going to be yardwork all day, I thinks it's the only day that it's not going to rain. Then hopefully spring cleaning sat/sun, have cobwebs on the ceilings in every room, ugh. Swab the decks. Fun...fun...
Talk to you all tomorrow.
Talk to you all tomorrow.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Northeast, US
Posts: 2,073
Checking in. Been a rough one. I listened to my friend beg for help on my phone last night and today, and I really don't know what to do. Also I had a pretty good day until I got home at 3:30 and just crashed for 1.5 hours. Gosh. Still going.
Maybe I'll post later before bed.
V
Maybe I'll post later before bed.
V
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 1,174
Just keep on going Vipe.
Are you the only contact this person has.....its not a burden you can share or split with anyone else?
Easter long weekend. Like four Sundays in a row for me. Not so great, days just a bit too quiet. Have to get real busy and just ignore out the door.
Today is my Day 67. A milestone of sorts in that I fell off at this point last time I was sober. So, get through today and its into new territory.
Sober holidays everybody.
Later
Are you the only contact this person has.....its not a burden you can share or split with anyone else?
Easter long weekend. Like four Sundays in a row for me. Not so great, days just a bit too quiet. Have to get real busy and just ignore out the door.
Today is my Day 67. A milestone of sorts in that I fell off at this point last time I was sober. So, get through today and its into new territory.
Sober holidays everybody.
Later
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,445
Vipe - I had a relationship much like yours once.
I tied myself in knots and hurt myself trying to fix things.
By the end, when my friend was begging me for help, I had to accept I couldn't help her and that she needed more help than I was capable of giving.
There's no disgrace in that.
D
I tied myself in knots and hurt myself trying to fix things.
By the end, when my friend was begging me for help, I had to accept I couldn't help her and that she needed more help than I was capable of giving.
There's no disgrace in that.
D
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Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 611
PurpleCat, I didn't know yogurt could be homemade. Makes sense, I guess -- I've made mayonnaise, and butter is doable.
Good to hear of milestones -- even if they come with baggage, it's still progress. I've been reading some of the newcomers threads to remind me how things not all that long ago.
I heard on a podcast a few nights ago how memories become less accurate the more they're called up. Like how each time you remember something, it becomes corrupted a bit. Or, it becomes idealized. The podcast went into the science of it all -- mice, blue squares, electroshock, etc. Me, I don't remember the night sweats, the weird poop, the puffiness, the shaky hands, the anxiety, I just remember the good feeling.
Good to hear of milestones -- even if they come with baggage, it's still progress. I've been reading some of the newcomers threads to remind me how things not all that long ago.
I heard on a podcast a few nights ago how memories become less accurate the more they're called up. Like how each time you remember something, it becomes corrupted a bit. Or, it becomes idealized. The podcast went into the science of it all -- mice, blue squares, electroshock, etc. Me, I don't remember the night sweats, the weird poop, the puffiness, the shaky hands, the anxiety, I just remember the good feeling.
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Northeast, US
Posts: 2,073
Hi kids,
Yes I am really one of the only contacts she has. At least I'm the only one who really gets it. And we were so close. Like 2 peas in a pod for 5 years. She's such a wonderful person. This is brutal. Dee is so right about there being nothing I can do. When I put her out of my mind I start picturing MY future.
Last night I found a cheap volunteer abroad organization with things all over the world. Africa, South America etc. It's a little frustrating that to go work at an animal orphanage they want qualifications like being a Vet Tech, veterinary experience, 3 years of web design, or something. I mean, I'm paying *them*. I'm sure I can handle it. I guess that's where the expensive programs come in. $5000 for 2 months at an animal orphanage but then I have experience and a letter of recommendation. So screwed up that we so many rich kids and retirees that you need to pay to volunteer and have a ton of experience to get in. It's hip now. I've wanted to do this 15 years ago. Prices were 1/4 what they are now. There's a way around it. For sure.
Ok working on 4 I think. Let's see if I can make it without a nap.
V
Yes I am really one of the only contacts she has. At least I'm the only one who really gets it. And we were so close. Like 2 peas in a pod for 5 years. She's such a wonderful person. This is brutal. Dee is so right about there being nothing I can do. When I put her out of my mind I start picturing MY future.
Last night I found a cheap volunteer abroad organization with things all over the world. Africa, South America etc. It's a little frustrating that to go work at an animal orphanage they want qualifications like being a Vet Tech, veterinary experience, 3 years of web design, or something. I mean, I'm paying *them*. I'm sure I can handle it. I guess that's where the expensive programs come in. $5000 for 2 months at an animal orphanage but then I have experience and a letter of recommendation. So screwed up that we so many rich kids and retirees that you need to pay to volunteer and have a ton of experience to get in. It's hip now. I've wanted to do this 15 years ago. Prices were 1/4 what they are now. There's a way around it. For sure.
Ok working on 4 I think. Let's see if I can make it without a nap.
V
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 1,174
Off we go.....Saturday morning.
Novelty and relaxed bliss of waking up, rested and without a hangover , never lessens. Especially Saturday mornings.....
Usual Sat morning, coffee, read newspaper to see what's happened...clean up kitchen and get into it. Learning a new computer prog...so work through a bit of that after breakfast.
Grey Easter weekend.....Sat morning ok, but the long quiet afternoons are the harder bit.
Take care all, its just a quiet cruise through a sober weekend.....
Later
Novelty and relaxed bliss of waking up, rested and without a hangover , never lessens. Especially Saturday mornings.....
Usual Sat morning, coffee, read newspaper to see what's happened...clean up kitchen and get into it. Learning a new computer prog...so work through a bit of that after breakfast.
Grey Easter weekend.....Sat morning ok, but the long quiet afternoons are the harder bit.
Take care all, its just a quiet cruise through a sober weekend.....
Later
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Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 252
Sober Day # 69 after being dependent on wine, daily, for years.
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Hi Class,
Hope you are all well.
Had a very upsetting conversation with a family member today. For the first time in a long long time I was able to see clearly how dysfunctional our relationship has been.
Also, hubby is out tonight, so I am home alone and upset.
My very first thought was that I wanted a glass of wine.
Isn't that something? That devious AV----always waiting for a moment to sneak in! I didn't drink though.
I don't drink.
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Hi Class,
Hope you are all well.
Had a very upsetting conversation with a family member today. For the first time in a long long time I was able to see clearly how dysfunctional our relationship has been.
Also, hubby is out tonight, so I am home alone and upset.
My very first thought was that I wanted a glass of wine.
Isn't that something? That devious AV----always waiting for a moment to sneak in! I didn't drink though.
I don't drink.
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