AllieKat

As Kenny Chesney says One is one too many and one more is never enough

Olivia2011

Love Chesney's "Wild Child" song too.

Casey - go check out that convention next
month !

Allie - the moderating thing sux. Been there, done that. Just wished so badly that it could be done too!

Odisnow

Wow reading over some of the recent posts makes me want to travel! The Caribbean, Italy, and camping oh my! I am jealous. Just here to check in for the start of my day. Already lost a few pounds on day 5 so that's exciting. I've gained over 10 pounds since my last longer period of sobriety which ended about 7 months ago, I'm only 5 foot tall so that really shows on my small frame and my hips lol. I'm treating myself to a haircut and color today, I'm hoping a new look along with working out will help me like the look of sobriety even more. I'm kind of nervous about today's end, we are having friends over for a Bon fire and cookout. This is the exact situation that led me to trying to moderate last time. My boyfriend is a drinker and our friends are all drinkers too so there will no doubt be lots of alcohol present tonight. My boyfriend has been warned not to offer me alcohol plus he is all for me being sober but I'm still nervous. He seems to quickly forget how horrible my past binge was and that it all started with just a couple beers. I will probably be checking in a little throughout the party to keep things in perspective. I'm enjoying reading all of your posts and I am looking forward to getting to know all of you better!!

AllieKat

It could work but hubby is so mean sometimes when he's drinking...

Dee74

There are some good tips here you could adapt odisnow

Crying Out Now: Thanksgiving Survival Guide

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Odisnow

Thanks Dee! I read through the tips and will be reading it again closer to party time. I know that I can do this! Like one of the tips says, I have never woken up saying "man I wish I would have drank last night". But I have said the opposite way too many times!

Dee74

I believe you can do this too odisnow


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AllieKat

Can I ask a question? We have a local AA here but I'm scared to go because I might run into people I know. Is it really that anonymous that people won't say anything if they see me there?

Dee74

The way I've always heard it is if you run into people you know there, they're there for the same reason as you?

I never went the AA route - but I didn't ever seem to worry much how it looked when I was falling over drunk in bars etc, y'know?

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AllieKat

Yes Dee I get that. But still it's scary ya know? How do I get past that fear? I have wanted to go for so long..,

Dee74

Sure I didn't mean to suggest it's not scary.

I've heard of some people calling the local AA office and having someone meet them outside the meeting...others take a friend along (assuming it's an open meeting that admits non alcoholics...

I hope you'll hear some good AA intro stories here.

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AllieKat

Dee I'm freaking out because I know I can't do this without my husband doing it too. Clearly I don't want to get divorced.., help!

Dee74

Many people here have partners who still drink Allie - it's hard, yes but it's not impossible. I've seen it done

You just need a lot of support and a willingness to use it

There's a lot of support here - and in other places like AA if you decide to go

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AllieKat

I'm so scared to go to AA Dee.

AllieKat

I'm so confused right now

Dee74

You don't have to make any decisions today AllieKat

You climb a mountain one step at a time - and it's ok to sit for a while to consider your strategy.

Try not to overwhelm yourself - we live our lives one day at a time, not all at once

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AllieKat

I'm sorry Dee. Sometimes I think that being on my own would make this easier. And that is so awful.

Dee74

I can promise you you're not the first person to think that.

Maybe if you made a thread you'd get more responses from people who've been in your position before?

Like I said - don't rush any decisions
Try and not freak out.

I'm off to bed on this side of the world - night

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Odisnow

Hey Allie my boyfriend is a drinker and I can say that a positive thing you might experience as you stay sober longer is that he may drink less. That's what happened for me last time I got sober. Also a suggestion on the aa meetings, I don't go and never have but it may be a little less scary for you to try to go to an aa meeting in a different town than you live in at first. There will be less chance of seeing someone you know and it will give you a chance to feel it out without the added stress. That's what someone suggested to me when I was considering going. Hope that helps!

Surrender2win

Allie, my husband is an active alcoholic. There are quite a few of us on here. It is hard at times, but like Dee said, it's not impossible. You have to think of yourself first. Take one day, one hour, or one minute at a time. Maybe he will even join you someday. Stay close to SR and post often. It helps