"30 Days and Under Part 3"... Come & encourage them!
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WiFi, I'm so happy you are back with us. Today is all that matters, really.
Have you guys joined the "I stopped drinking in November" thread? Even it if wasn't November, it would be great to have you there. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post3697001
Wow, is it two weeks sober for me already? I guess so! I stopped drinking on a Wednesday, made it to Friday, then I chugged down a bottle of wine in an hour. That was my last drink - November 16th. So today I have 14 days sober. Whoopie!
I feel very clear in the head this morning. I had a great night's sleep without waking up in the middle of the night with a dry mouth like I used to from drinking. I like how bright and chipper I feel. Chipper to the point of probably being annoying, sorry you guys.
Hugs,
June
Have you guys joined the "I stopped drinking in November" thread? Even it if wasn't November, it would be great to have you there. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post3697001
Wow, is it two weeks sober for me already? I guess so! I stopped drinking on a Wednesday, made it to Friday, then I chugged down a bottle of wine in an hour. That was my last drink - November 16th. So today I have 14 days sober. Whoopie!
I feel very clear in the head this morning. I had a great night's sleep without waking up in the middle of the night with a dry mouth like I used to from drinking. I like how bright and chipper I feel. Chipper to the point of probably being annoying, sorry you guys.
Hugs,
June
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All good here,just had a huge chinese take away at least 1500 calories taking me up to at least 4000 calories today...I hope that I've put some weight on this week as I have been eating like a beast...Gym day tomorrow,shoulders and legs session,really looking forward to it....Take care....Steve...
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I already weighed too much when I stopped drinking, but now that I have stopped there is no way I will diet. I am eating tons of tootsie roll pops, and all my clothes are way too tight. I don't care, though. When I get confident in my sobriety, then I will start on eating healthy. One thing at a time works better for me.
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MidnightBlue,when I was drinking I only weighed 115lbs because I would never eat...I'm 5 foot 10 inches tall so I really looked like a skinny mess...I have always been interested in body building so when I quit I decided to bulk my body up a bit...I'm now sitting at 142lbs and my target weight is 160 for now...Hence the reason I'm eating so much....All the money I used to spend on booze now gets spent on food lol.....
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Hi, again all)
I had a good workout in the gym - legs and back mostly, plus cardio.
Junebug - congrats on 2 weeks! Keep it up and watch out for addictive voice)
Forme - anxiety is a nasty thing, glad to hear you are feeling better now. Dee posted this link on some thread, maybe you'll find some useful information here to be prepared if anxiety strikes you again Calm Clinic for Your Anxiety & Panic « Calm Clinic) Take care).
SoberJim - congrats in Sober Friday! IMHO drinking Fridays are grossly overestimated. It's something that is formed in our heads my usual patterns of life and media. But it's up to us to build a new pattern)
Rochele - Sorry to hear about your situation. I can totally relate to you concerns - drinking&driving has been always taboo for me. Be strong and stay sober. As my favourite saying says: "All passes and this will pass too".
And my best wishes to all.
I had a good workout in the gym - legs and back mostly, plus cardio.
Junebug - congrats on 2 weeks! Keep it up and watch out for addictive voice)
Forme - anxiety is a nasty thing, glad to hear you are feeling better now. Dee posted this link on some thread, maybe you'll find some useful information here to be prepared if anxiety strikes you again Calm Clinic for Your Anxiety & Panic « Calm Clinic) Take care).
SoberJim - congrats in Sober Friday! IMHO drinking Fridays are grossly overestimated. It's something that is formed in our heads my usual patterns of life and media. But it's up to us to build a new pattern)
Rochele - Sorry to hear about your situation. I can totally relate to you concerns - drinking&driving has been always taboo for me. Be strong and stay sober. As my favourite saying says: "All passes and this will pass too".
And my best wishes to all.
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Originally Posted by stevie88 
MidnightBlue,when I was drinking I only weighed 115lbs because I would never eat...I'm 5 foot 10 inches tall so I really looked like a skinny mess...I have always been interested in body building so when I quit I decided to bulk my body up a bit...I'm now sitting at 142lbs and my target weight is 160 for now...Hence the reason I'm eating so much....All the money I used to spend on booze now gets spent on food lol.....
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You guys are making me feel like a monster! I fluctuate between around 220-230. I'm probably around the 230 mark right now 'cause I've been going hard in the gym lately and increasing my weights on my upper body quite a bit.
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Hi all,
Back from my meeting enjoying another sober Saturday... I hope everyone is doing well!!! JJay, don't feel bad... I'm at 220 and I have gained about 40 of that since I fell off the wagon in August...
I'm not sure how to get rid of this beer gut as I have never had one until recently... Any advise is appreciated!
With love,
Wifi
Back from my meeting enjoying another sober Saturday... I hope everyone is doing well!!! JJay, don't feel bad... I'm at 220 and I have gained about 40 of that since I fell off the wagon in August...
I'm not sure how to get rid of this beer gut as I have never had one until recently... Any advise is appreciated!
With love,
Wifi
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Not being sarcastic by this remark cause it is true. Quitting alcohol took weight off of me and it has stayed off. Also I think not sitting around drinking every night means I am moving around more and changing my metabolism.
When I quit, I ate a lot of sweets at first. Then I heard that eating sweets brings on cravings so I tried to eat less sweets. But I still do.
When I quit, I ate a lot of sweets at first. Then I heard that eating sweets brings on cravings so I tried to eat less sweets. But I still do.
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Hi everyone-
Observations from my day 35:
Went out to dinner tonight w friends. Interesting. I didn't drink, of course, and felt no urge to, but the interesting thing was that my drinking came up as a topic.
Not in a bad way at all, they were simply curious why I had stopped. i told them it was for "health reasons" and kinda left it at that. They were cool w it, joking about how it's hard to not drink this time of year. But none of them really drink to excess, rarely have I seen any of them totally drunk.
One of them actually also didn't drink either, the others had 2 beers.
(I hope I become less obsessed with how much others are drinking as time goes on!)
Overall, it was a fun dinner with lots of laughs.
Observations from my day 35:
Went out to dinner tonight w friends. Interesting. I didn't drink, of course, and felt no urge to, but the interesting thing was that my drinking came up as a topic.
Not in a bad way at all, they were simply curious why I had stopped. i told them it was for "health reasons" and kinda left it at that. They were cool w it, joking about how it's hard to not drink this time of year. But none of them really drink to excess, rarely have I seen any of them totally drunk.
One of them actually also didn't drink either, the others had 2 beers.
(I hope I become less obsessed with how much others are drinking as time goes on!)
Overall, it was a fun dinner with lots of laughs.
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EternalQ - Alcohol has TONS of calories and they're all "empty calories" meaning that there is little to no nutritional value whatsoever. It's basically all sugar (which turns to fat). Yuck.
Ended up crashing on the couch for 3 hours this afternoon. My body and mind definitely needed that catch up on rest. After that I visited a friend on her dinner break at work. Then I wanted to surprise my sis, bro-in-law and 3 month old niece with a visit but my sis was out for a "girl's night" and my niece was asleep. Hadn't seen my bro-in-law for a while so we caught up, watched some tube and talked football. Felt good to finally get out of the house. Catch up with an old friend and my BIL who are both awesome, supportive and amazing.
Gonna make some homemade pizza and find a movie to watch. Huzzah!
Ended up crashing on the couch for 3 hours this afternoon. My body and mind definitely needed that catch up on rest. After that I visited a friend on her dinner break at work. Then I wanted to surprise my sis, bro-in-law and 3 month old niece with a visit but my sis was out for a "girl's night" and my niece was asleep. Hadn't seen my bro-in-law for a while so we caught up, watched some tube and talked football. Felt good to finally get out of the house. Catch up with an old friend and my BIL who are both awesome, supportive and amazing.
Gonna make some homemade pizza and find a movie to watch. Huzzah!
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Rock it out 30s!
I totally obsessed about what other people were drinking, lol. In my case it was such an alkie habit.
My six months sobriety goal was to run a half marathon, 20k. That was my original "cover story" for quitting. Everyone accepted it which made things easier.
A last thought: I kicked my AV's lying ass out the door and fought for my Recovery. Get mad, get educated, get creative, get powerless, get purposeful--find and use your recovery tools. You will get stronger.
I totally obsessed about what other people were drinking, lol. In my case it was such an alkie habit.
My six months sobriety goal was to run a half marathon, 20k. That was my original "cover story" for quitting. Everyone accepted it which made things easier.
A last thought: I kicked my AV's lying ass out the door and fought for my Recovery. Get mad, get educated, get creative, get powerless, get purposeful--find and use your recovery tools. You will get stronger.
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Hey everyone
Just checking in on my day 29. I've been a bit of a dry drunk the last couple of days. My mood fluctuates so much. Always has, but now I don't numb it. I hold a lot of anger so I need to work on that. I also think I can't listen to the grateful dead for awhile. Anyone listen to certain music that triggers a powerful desire to get all lit up?
JJay - I feel you on the family skepticism. I was nodding out at home over thanksgiving and my mother turns to me and says "youre all liquored up, huh?"
I was thinking WTF!!!! I'm not even drinking! It totally pissed me off for a moment and then I shrugged it off.
Just because we change our behavior, it's unreasonable to expect everyone to change their view of us immediately. It's good they don't actually, becaue that would be too easy.
Thats all I got. Love to everyone
H
Just checking in on my day 29. I've been a bit of a dry drunk the last couple of days. My mood fluctuates so much. Always has, but now I don't numb it. I hold a lot of anger so I need to work on that. I also think I can't listen to the grateful dead for awhile. Anyone listen to certain music that triggers a powerful desire to get all lit up?
JJay - I feel you on the family skepticism. I was nodding out at home over thanksgiving and my mother turns to me and says "youre all liquored up, huh?"
I was thinking WTF!!!! I'm not even drinking! It totally pissed me off for a moment and then I shrugged it off.
Just because we change our behavior, it's unreasonable to expect everyone to change their view of us immediately. It's good they don't actually, becaue that would be too easy.
Thats all I got. Love to everyone
H
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Hi Hman , Congrats on day 29!! I too have music that triggers cravings, but over time that is improving.
Frances, thanks again for such helpful posting! I agree, fight for your sobriety like a Mama (or Papa) Lion protecting its cub. Until it can protect itself, it is OUR job to do it. Or how else will it reach maturity?
When I was beginning sobriety I knew there was this part of me that was immature and wanted its' bottle. This part kicked, screamed, tantrumed, acted coy, pushed limits, got over tired, whined, had melt downs, and used every other manipulation a self centered toddler would use when denied something she wants that was bad for her.
We have to respond like good parents and set firm limits, be consistent, gentle but firm. We have to say no again and again and pick her up and carry her out of situations where she will not behave. Even when we would rather stay. We have to not bring her to social situations where she is too immature to behave appropriately. We have to stay home and care for her even if we want to be out having fun. Eventually this part grows up enough that she can be trusted if we stay in strong but loving connection and communication with her. If we turn our backs and ignore her or holdher responsible before she is mature enough, then acting out will surely ensue!!
Today, we will be good stewards to our sobriety, and not give her any more then she can handle at this tender age!!!
Frances, thanks again for such helpful posting! I agree, fight for your sobriety like a Mama (or Papa) Lion protecting its cub. Until it can protect itself, it is OUR job to do it. Or how else will it reach maturity?
When I was beginning sobriety I knew there was this part of me that was immature and wanted its' bottle. This part kicked, screamed, tantrumed, acted coy, pushed limits, got over tired, whined, had melt downs, and used every other manipulation a self centered toddler would use when denied something she wants that was bad for her.
We have to respond like good parents and set firm limits, be consistent, gentle but firm. We have to say no again and again and pick her up and carry her out of situations where she will not behave. Even when we would rather stay. We have to not bring her to social situations where she is too immature to behave appropriately. We have to stay home and care for her even if we want to be out having fun. Eventually this part grows up enough that she can be trusted if we stay in strong but loving connection and communication with her. If we turn our backs and ignore her or holdher responsible before she is mature enough, then acting out will surely ensue!!
Today, we will be good stewards to our sobriety, and not give her any more then she can handle at this tender age!!!
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Hi, all. Good night/morning to everyone.
I slept till noon again, apparently my body was exhausted after this sleepless week and catching up now.
Samwitch - glad to hear you had a sober dinner with friends and enjoyed it. Way to go! And congrats on Day 35!
WiFi - As JJay said, alcohol not only contains a lot of empty calories and sugar, it also triggers uncontrolled apppetite tremendeously, and makes us eat a lot of junk food which is associated with it (we don't eat green salad and cucumbers with beer, don't we?))). So, just quitting beer and junk food will be a great first step to get rid of beer gut.
Eternal - great post as usual. To protect sobriety till it can protect itself.
Hman - congrats on Day 29. A lot of music can trigger my urge to have a glass but it's getting easier. Usually when I listen to some music I wish to go back to those memories it awakens and experience again same emotions, be happy, whatever. I'm trying not to romaticize it, I have a lot of emotions to live through in future.
Best wishes to all. I'll check in later.
I slept till noon again, apparently my body was exhausted after this sleepless week and catching up now.
Samwitch - glad to hear you had a sober dinner with friends and enjoyed it. Way to go! And congrats on Day 35!
WiFi - As JJay said, alcohol not only contains a lot of empty calories and sugar, it also triggers uncontrolled apppetite tremendeously, and makes us eat a lot of junk food which is associated with it (we don't eat green salad and cucumbers with beer, don't we?))). So, just quitting beer and junk food will be a great first step to get rid of beer gut.
Eternal - great post as usual. To protect sobriety till it can protect itself.
Hman - congrats on Day 29. A lot of music can trigger my urge to have a glass but it's getting easier. Usually when I listen to some music I wish to go back to those memories it awakens and experience again same emotions, be happy, whatever. I'm trying not to romaticize it, I have a lot of emotions to live through in future.
Best wishes to all. I'll check in later.
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12.20 Sun. Freezing 2c white and frosty
Good afternoon Under 30s, wishing you all a happy and sober Sunday.
Oh my goodness, so many posts, so little time!
I did start posting last night, but I was soooo tired I had to call it a day. York was beautiful and there are a couple of pics on the Newby bus if anyone has time for a quick look. There is the most amazing cathedral there and some magnificent old buildings with beautiful atchitecture. The Christmas market was too busy though, so many people, we just had to walk with the flow. I didn't succumb to the temptation of all the offers of hot mulled wine they were giving out, it would be such a waste of all these happy sober days if I did that. I didn't even want to!
I had a good nights sleep after my long day yesterday so catching up on a bit of housework today. It's really, really cold this morning, white and frosty, but it's better than that persistent rain. Got a load of washing in, another load in the tumble dryer and I've got some turkey steaks defrosting for dinner later. I'm soooo much more productive now I'm sober.
Hi FreezingD, I'm glad you're feeling better and you did really well will those little boys yesterday, I bet your fiancee was happy with you. Concentrate on staying sober and everything else will fall into place.
Wifi I appreciate your honesty and your courage in facing up to what happened yesterday. Right like I've said many, many times, 'falling down isn't failing, staying down is failing'. Learn from it, draw a line under it and move on. You need to plan ahead for your danger times, change your routine from the usual. Buying booze has become a bad habit and habits can be broken, but you have to work at it and plan some coping strategies. I've had more day ones that hot dinners, so I know these things can be done. Don't worry too much about your weight yet, concentrate on staying sober for now, the rest can come later.
Hi Jjay, you're doing amazing, almost on three weeks! I know the job is only seasonal but give it your all and you should be in with a good change of getting more work there, make an impression! Good to hear you managed a bit of socialising this week end with your BIL, I think you needed that.
By the way is that you on your avatar? If it is I wish I was a bit younger!! LOl. Can't believe that about your jacket!!
E.Q re your post '
Also there were times I did not leave the house so that I wouldn't buy alcohol. I drove different routes to and from work to avoid liquor stores and bars. I refused all invites where there was drinking the first couple MONTHS. Instead I said yes to plays, movies, hikes, and suddenly realized the family and friends that I had that weren't drinkers were much more interesting then I had realized!!
That's it exactly, that's what you need to do and that's what worked for me. Now the people who I thought were boring because they weren't interesting in getting blotto , really are much more interesting than I ever was when I drinking. Now I listen to them and have got to know them. Some good people.
Steve, good advice given there for Wifi from you!
Newby and another brilliant post there, confirming that changing the routine and planning ahead is the key. Love the hair cut line!! ha ha Your poor neighbour, there but for the grace of God, goes I!
Frances another thoughtful post from you and many congratulations on 21 months, what an inspiration that it. Just for you I've borrowed E.Q's infamous banana boys with their new dance routine.
Midnight, your ex sounds like I was!!! Phew no more thank goodness. Some good ideas there for Jjay, I do that sort of thing anyway! You're sounding really good I must say so keep on going and I'm really happy that you got some rest at last, you needed it.
Hi Rochele and welcome,, day nine is good and we're happy to have you as a member at any time, Keep reading and posting, loads of support here for you! How are you coping with your husband still drinking like that, can't be easy. Plan ahead and keep sharing, stay strong and focused, don't let anyone or anything get in the way of your recovery.
Forme, good to hear from you, stay focused and keep going, we're all in this together.
Sjim, I'm proud of you, I knew you could do it, in fact I know you can do it, I know you will do it! You're stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Hi June and congrats on 2 weeks. You're right, concentrate on your recovery and then in a few more weeks ( after Christmas say) start a healthy eating regime. Your recovery is top priority.
Hi Samwich, you did well at the meal and that's what I tell people too by the way, no need to make a big deal out of it, I'm a fairly quiet person and don't like being the centre of attention, but I know other people do it differently, different horses for different courses as they say!
Hi Hman, ooh your almost upon day 30, that has gone so fast. You're right about what you say about other peoples opinions of us, we can only blame ourselves for that, actions speak louder than words, so lets show them!
O.M.G I've got writers cramp now, time for a brew me thinks then a few more posts.
See you all later
Stay safe and sober
*****
JUST FOR TODAY, I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things I can correct and accept those I cannot.
Good afternoon Under 30s, wishing you all a happy and sober Sunday.
Oh my goodness, so many posts, so little time!
I did start posting last night, but I was soooo tired I had to call it a day. York was beautiful and there are a couple of pics on the Newby bus if anyone has time for a quick look. There is the most amazing cathedral there and some magnificent old buildings with beautiful atchitecture. The Christmas market was too busy though, so many people, we just had to walk with the flow. I didn't succumb to the temptation of all the offers of hot mulled wine they were giving out, it would be such a waste of all these happy sober days if I did that. I didn't even want to!
I had a good nights sleep after my long day yesterday so catching up on a bit of housework today. It's really, really cold this morning, white and frosty, but it's better than that persistent rain. Got a load of washing in, another load in the tumble dryer and I've got some turkey steaks defrosting for dinner later. I'm soooo much more productive now I'm sober.
Hi FreezingD, I'm glad you're feeling better and you did really well will those little boys yesterday, I bet your fiancee was happy with you. Concentrate on staying sober and everything else will fall into place.
Wifi I appreciate your honesty and your courage in facing up to what happened yesterday. Right like I've said many, many times, 'falling down isn't failing, staying down is failing'. Learn from it, draw a line under it and move on. You need to plan ahead for your danger times, change your routine from the usual. Buying booze has become a bad habit and habits can be broken, but you have to work at it and plan some coping strategies. I've had more day ones that hot dinners, so I know these things can be done. Don't worry too much about your weight yet, concentrate on staying sober for now, the rest can come later.
Hi Jjay, you're doing amazing, almost on three weeks! I know the job is only seasonal but give it your all and you should be in with a good change of getting more work there, make an impression! Good to hear you managed a bit of socialising this week end with your BIL, I think you needed that.
By the way is that you on your avatar? If it is I wish I was a bit younger!! LOl. Can't believe that about your jacket!!
E.Q re your post '
Also there were times I did not leave the house so that I wouldn't buy alcohol. I drove different routes to and from work to avoid liquor stores and bars. I refused all invites where there was drinking the first couple MONTHS. Instead I said yes to plays, movies, hikes, and suddenly realized the family and friends that I had that weren't drinkers were much more interesting then I had realized!!
That's it exactly, that's what you need to do and that's what worked for me. Now the people who I thought were boring because they weren't interesting in getting blotto , really are much more interesting than I ever was when I drinking. Now I listen to them and have got to know them. Some good people.
Steve, good advice given there for Wifi from you!
Newby and another brilliant post there, confirming that changing the routine and planning ahead is the key. Love the hair cut line!! ha ha Your poor neighbour, there but for the grace of God, goes I!
Frances another thoughtful post from you and many congratulations on 21 months, what an inspiration that it. Just for you I've borrowed E.Q's infamous banana boys with their new dance routine.
Midnight, your ex sounds like I was!!! Phew no more thank goodness. Some good ideas there for Jjay, I do that sort of thing anyway! You're sounding really good I must say so keep on going and I'm really happy that you got some rest at last, you needed it.
Hi Rochele and welcome,, day nine is good and we're happy to have you as a member at any time, Keep reading and posting, loads of support here for you! How are you coping with your husband still drinking like that, can't be easy. Plan ahead and keep sharing, stay strong and focused, don't let anyone or anything get in the way of your recovery.
Forme, good to hear from you, stay focused and keep going, we're all in this together.
Sjim, I'm proud of you, I knew you could do it, in fact I know you can do it, I know you will do it! You're stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Hi June and congrats on 2 weeks. You're right, concentrate on your recovery and then in a few more weeks ( after Christmas say) start a healthy eating regime. Your recovery is top priority.
Hi Samwich, you did well at the meal and that's what I tell people too by the way, no need to make a big deal out of it, I'm a fairly quiet person and don't like being the centre of attention, but I know other people do it differently, different horses for different courses as they say!
Hi Hman, ooh your almost upon day 30, that has gone so fast. You're right about what you say about other peoples opinions of us, we can only blame ourselves for that, actions speak louder than words, so lets show them!
O.M.G I've got writers cramp now, time for a brew me thinks then a few more posts.
See you all later
Stay safe and sober
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JUST FOR TODAY, I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things I can correct and accept those I cannot.
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Morning 30 days & under peeps
Congrats to all the b-days I love coming on here and seeing everyone putting one foot in front of the other and staying sober/clean 24 hours at a time.
I heard this awhile back and it helped or I should say heps me when I remember to read it and it goes a little something like this,"When it feels like God is smashing you to pieces,
have faith that He is carving you into a beautiful sculpture."
Have a great day all.
Congrats to all the b-days I love coming on here and seeing everyone putting one foot in front of the other and staying sober/clean 24 hours at a time.
I heard this awhile back and it helped or I should say heps me when I remember to read it and it goes a little something like this,"When it feels like God is smashing you to pieces,
have faith that He is carving you into a beautiful sculpture."
Have a great day all.
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