August Sobriety Group Pt 6
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Melissa
I hope you find a way to stay the course.
I think anew makes a good point - for some, cyberspace recovery just isn't enough - sometimes we need the face to face support, the encouragement, and the accountability of real life flesh and blood people.
Maybe thats a way to keep motivated
D
I hope you find a way to stay the course.
I think anew makes a good point - for some, cyberspace recovery just isn't enough - sometimes we need the face to face support, the encouragement, and the accountability of real life flesh and blood people.
Maybe thats a way to keep motivated
D
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Hi.
Dee, I don't know if I'm giving it enough chance... I do know that I'm taking the emotional resources I have about twice as far as they're under warranty for. Sometimes I'm pretty sure this would be easier if I had *any* kind of support in real life. Instead, I'm either disbelieved as not having a problem (how can I?) or not trying hard enough (of course, I must have people apart from AA who support me). I surrender. I don't know what y'all online think of me, but trust me, it's better than what I get in real life--and I'm guessing from remarks that many online don't think much of me, although some are supportive--don't get me wrong, even I know I don't have enough to risk losing what support I do got. But I can't lie either, or at least it's not really me to do so.
Sometimes you have to settle. Sometimes that's all life is, I suppose. I settled for the man I almost married, I settled for having no friends and always, I think it'll get better--I suppose it's high time I learned that it might not.
Brent, the last time I went out, I spent all my money... this time 'round I have learned that I too, can have a Californian friend. They pushed alcohol under the table for finals season, which pushed it conveniently onto my radar. Now I know a person or two in these here dorms... Don't know if that's better or worse.
I don't feel very good about myself, to say the least, but I never do... school has been a series of lowering my standards, and to be honest, I don't want to take this to its end, but as long as I have to beg, plead and cajole to get a sandwich, the truth is it's not that much different than having to beg, plead and cajole to get a drink.
Oh, and the financial aid department lost my scholarships check... I'm supposed to check back with them in February. The irony of it all. So in order to keep up basic survival... I suppose it'll be back to begging, pleading and cajoling some more. And since my professors will be gone for the interim...
Why oh why did I go to school? This has been an excellent lesson in hardship and the lowering of standards... and not much else to be honest. I suppose I get to learn how the middle class lives... at the expense of finding out how absolutely horrible I am and how it's probably better to exclude people like me altogether from the decision making process (I'm sure my classmates have no idea to whom they're addressing these comments-- but in the YouTube era, they should know that it technically no longer matters).
Take care,
TB
Dee, I don't know if I'm giving it enough chance... I do know that I'm taking the emotional resources I have about twice as far as they're under warranty for. Sometimes I'm pretty sure this would be easier if I had *any* kind of support in real life. Instead, I'm either disbelieved as not having a problem (how can I?) or not trying hard enough (of course, I must have people apart from AA who support me). I surrender. I don't know what y'all online think of me, but trust me, it's better than what I get in real life--and I'm guessing from remarks that many online don't think much of me, although some are supportive--don't get me wrong, even I know I don't have enough to risk losing what support I do got. But I can't lie either, or at least it's not really me to do so.
Sometimes you have to settle. Sometimes that's all life is, I suppose. I settled for the man I almost married, I settled for having no friends and always, I think it'll get better--I suppose it's high time I learned that it might not.
Brent, the last time I went out, I spent all my money... this time 'round I have learned that I too, can have a Californian friend. They pushed alcohol under the table for finals season, which pushed it conveniently onto my radar. Now I know a person or two in these here dorms... Don't know if that's better or worse.
I don't feel very good about myself, to say the least, but I never do... school has been a series of lowering my standards, and to be honest, I don't want to take this to its end, but as long as I have to beg, plead and cajole to get a sandwich, the truth is it's not that much different than having to beg, plead and cajole to get a drink.
Oh, and the financial aid department lost my scholarships check... I'm supposed to check back with them in February. The irony of it all. So in order to keep up basic survival... I suppose it'll be back to begging, pleading and cajoling some more. And since my professors will be gone for the interim...
Why oh why did I go to school? This has been an excellent lesson in hardship and the lowering of standards... and not much else to be honest. I suppose I get to learn how the middle class lives... at the expense of finding out how absolutely horrible I am and how it's probably better to exclude people like me altogether from the decision making process (I'm sure my classmates have no idea to whom they're addressing these comments-- but in the YouTube era, they should know that it technically no longer matters).
Take care,
TB
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Good Morning! :)
bdiddy and ANEW...I'm so glad you enjoyed my post about getting our Christmas tree! :) I often times will imagine Thomas Kinkade scenes in my head and it instantly brings me to a good place! I love and appreciate imagery...lived out or imagined :) :) :)
spahlerite...So far no luck finding those Christmas Makit Bakits! Thank you ANEW for remembering the name! I thought it was something like that, but I kept getting Makit and TAKIT in my head! LOL I did find some on eBay, but they are a rip off on there (surprise...surpise)! What did I tell you Brent? I knew I'd find them on there...you can find anything on eBay! LOL
thirty...You are the reason I am posting this morning! I care about you. You are not alone. Life is hard. It doesn't sound like you are enjoying your life one bit, so I have to agree with ANEW. Why don't you think about putting your education on hold for a while? You might benefit from coming back to "real life". I do not think living in college dorms is very reflective of that. As I've shared with you before, college life contributed very little to the person I wanted to become as an adult. I do not think you are in a very healthy environment...at all. You are the author of your life. Noone can hurt you without your permission. You are strong and intelligent...now press into that and start making things happen! YOU CAN DO IT! Don't ever give up! And don't ever settle for less because you *think* it's the best you're ever going to get. That's a total lie. Only *you* get to decide what that is. You have a roof over your head, food, clothing and the opportunity to study something that I hope you are passionate about. If you are not passionate about what you are studying, than why do it? If you are not surrounded by people you enjoy being around, than why live there? Why continue going to school there? TB, stop letting life happen to you. Pick up your pen and start writing an amazing story...the story of YOUR life. YOU CAN DO THIS! I'm sending this off with love, hugs and all kinds of good, positive thoughts :) :) :) (((thirtybubba)))
I'm off to take my own advice. That was as much for me as it was for you! :) We are all in this thing called "life" together...
Hope everyone has a WONDERFUL day!
Love,
bdiddy and ANEW...I'm so glad you enjoyed my post about getting our Christmas tree! :) I often times will imagine Thomas Kinkade scenes in my head and it instantly brings me to a good place! I love and appreciate imagery...lived out or imagined :) :) :)
spahlerite...So far no luck finding those Christmas Makit Bakits! Thank you ANEW for remembering the name! I thought it was something like that, but I kept getting Makit and TAKIT in my head! LOL I did find some on eBay, but they are a rip off on there (surprise...surpise)! What did I tell you Brent? I knew I'd find them on there...you can find anything on eBay! LOL
thirty...You are the reason I am posting this morning! I care about you. You are not alone. Life is hard. It doesn't sound like you are enjoying your life one bit, so I have to agree with ANEW. Why don't you think about putting your education on hold for a while? You might benefit from coming back to "real life". I do not think living in college dorms is very reflective of that. As I've shared with you before, college life contributed very little to the person I wanted to become as an adult. I do not think you are in a very healthy environment...at all. You are the author of your life. Noone can hurt you without your permission. You are strong and intelligent...now press into that and start making things happen! YOU CAN DO IT! Don't ever give up! And don't ever settle for less because you *think* it's the best you're ever going to get. That's a total lie. Only *you* get to decide what that is. You have a roof over your head, food, clothing and the opportunity to study something that I hope you are passionate about. If you are not passionate about what you are studying, than why do it? If you are not surrounded by people you enjoy being around, than why live there? Why continue going to school there? TB, stop letting life happen to you. Pick up your pen and start writing an amazing story...the story of YOUR life. YOU CAN DO THIS! I'm sending this off with love, hugs and all kinds of good, positive thoughts :) :) :) (((thirtybubba)))
I'm off to take my own advice. That was as much for me as it was for you! :) We are all in this thing called "life" together...
Hope everyone has a WONDERFUL day!
Love,
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Melissa- Dang right you can find everything on E-bay! But even if you can find it, it doesn't mean it is going to be reasonably priced. lol.
TB- I am having a hard time understanding what you mean. What do you mean when you say you found a "californian friend?" Keep us posted on what you do. I hope you find the answers to life soon. We are all pulling for you our FRIEND! But there is only so much we can do through the internet. Hugs!
Well, off to a cold day in SD! Where is that dang pus PC? I could sure use a trip somewhere warm. It is -4 here in SD today with snow and wind! Miserable. However, I am going to a meeting tonight where I will get my 30 day chip. Not much, but it sure mans a lot to me! I have not gone this long in probably 10 years. So something must be working.
One day at a time! Hugs everyone.
Brent
TB- I am having a hard time understanding what you mean. What do you mean when you say you found a "californian friend?" Keep us posted on what you do. I hope you find the answers to life soon. We are all pulling for you our FRIEND! But there is only so much we can do through the internet. Hugs!
Well, off to a cold day in SD! Where is that dang pus PC? I could sure use a trip somewhere warm. It is -4 here in SD today with snow and wind! Miserable. However, I am going to a meeting tonight where I will get my 30 day chip. Not much, but it sure mans a lot to me! I have not gone this long in probably 10 years. So something must be working.
One day at a time! Hugs everyone.
Brent
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Originally Posted by bdiddy5522 
However, I am going to a meeting tonight where I will get my 30 day chip. Not much, but it sure mans a lot to me! I have not gone this long in probably 10 years. So something must be working.
One day at a time! Hugs everyone.
Brent
One day at a time! Hugs everyone.
Brent
I carry my 30 day chip in my back pocket--it goes everywhere with me. It is a tangible symbol of my sobriety that I am proud of.
Snow day here! Any fellow midwesterners out there? We're getting quite the winter weather here--everything was shut down today. Although I must say that is isn't that bad--people tend to freak out a little over the first storm of the year. I love a good blizzard, and this one wasn't fierce at all compared to some we've had. We got about 10 inches of snow so far today, but the wind has died down and the snow has lightened considerably.
(much to the dismay of my oldest boy--who is hoping against hope for another day off school!)
Geminids are this weekend (late Sunday night/early Monday morning) for those that are interested! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a clear night!!
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PC - Ugh! How do you stand all that snow????????? It rained really hard here today and lots of roads were flooded. Some people in the office actually said they would have rather had snow. NO way! I hate the cold and the snow. Only 21 more days till I escape all of this cold weather and stress and well, just escape all of it.
KC
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Checking in.
Second time around on day 12, or I've only drank once in just over 4 months. I have to say that this time it has been very simple. When I first quit in August the first 2 weeks or so were pretty difficult. Yesterday I decided to order a variety of books on alcohol from the Book depository. Some are scientific, some are autobiographical and some are well, I don't really know yet. Can't wait to get them and learning more about the problem I have.
Although I have a night out on Saturday I am not even contemplating drinking while the people I am going with are not big drinkers. They'll probably have one or two with their meal and that's it. There wil be no pressure from them to drink. Not really looking forward to it as I think it will be boring but I may surprise myself and open up a whole new world of socialising without drinking, which until now has been a laughable thought.
Other than that I feel really lucky not to mention amazed that after I finish work and come home I am not even thinking about drink. It's not until I wake up the next morning that I am like - wow ,alcohol never even entered my mind last night. My habits have been truely changed. if I am not careful I know they can easily be changed back. But I really hope to take advantage of this chance I have given myself to make my future life a lot better. I really, really do have a chance with my present mindset to be done with alcohol once and for all.
It's pretty quiet on here but there's been a few peaks and troughs since August. I hope everyone is just busy with work and Christmas. Not that I comment much but I enjoy reading about how everyone is getting on.
See ya
Second time around on day 12, or I've only drank once in just over 4 months. I have to say that this time it has been very simple. When I first quit in August the first 2 weeks or so were pretty difficult. Yesterday I decided to order a variety of books on alcohol from the Book depository. Some are scientific, some are autobiographical and some are well, I don't really know yet. Can't wait to get them and learning more about the problem I have.
Although I have a night out on Saturday I am not even contemplating drinking while the people I am going with are not big drinkers. They'll probably have one or two with their meal and that's it. There wil be no pressure from them to drink. Not really looking forward to it as I think it will be boring but I may surprise myself and open up a whole new world of socialising without drinking, which until now has been a laughable thought.
Other than that I feel really lucky not to mention amazed that after I finish work and come home I am not even thinking about drink. It's not until I wake up the next morning that I am like - wow ,alcohol never even entered my mind last night. My habits have been truely changed. if I am not careful I know they can easily be changed back. But I really hope to take advantage of this chance I have given myself to make my future life a lot better. I really, really do have a chance with my present mindset to be done with alcohol once and for all.
It's pretty quiet on here but there's been a few peaks and troughs since August. I hope everyone is just busy with work and Christmas. Not that I comment much but I enjoy reading about how everyone is getting on.
See ya
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Thanks Sphal. I appreciate your kind words from someone who has been there, done that! See you sober again tomorrow!
Midton- Congrats on your sobriety again. I know you will whip this thing. You are a great motivation for all of us!
As for me, I went to my meeting and picked up my 30 day chip. It was great. I am not sure how other meetings do it, but they make it a pretty big deal at ours. One person presents it and talks to the group about us and what we have overcome. Then I get a chance to say anything I want. Everyone claps, etc. Just an amazing feeling.
After the meeting, I volunteered to clean up the coffee pots and stuff. 3 guys followed me out (one of who brought me to my first meeting, and is the one who has cancer) and they said it is time to get a sponsor and start the steps. I said GREAT, how do I start! haha. The guy with cancer had offered to be my sponsor before, but I kind of felt bad asking him to do that since he will be starting his chemo-therapy on January 4th. He said again tonight that he wants to be my sponsor, but to have a back up. Another guy standing there whom I have met quite a few times said "I will be your back-up" So there I was, wanting to get started, but not knowing how or where to start. These guys took the guess work out of it for me, and the first guy said "talk to you tomorrow and we will get started."
So that is that. I will be starting the steps tomorrow as he said he would give me a call. Unbelievable how the power of God works in this program. It has been so easy for me. I have NO idea what I am doing, but people are just taking my hand and guiding me. Someday I will pass this gift on to someone else. This is how the program works.
I guess that is all for tonight. Oh, and my wife called and talked to a lady from Al-anon to see what that is all about. I don't know much about it, and neither does my wife. But my wife is so willing to support me that she will do whatever she can to help. I am not sure she needs it, but she feels like she should be doing something, so she is checking that out. The lady is dropping some stuff off at our house tomorrow for her. Again, AMAZING!!!!!
God bless, and hugs to you ALL!
Midton- Congrats on your sobriety again. I know you will whip this thing. You are a great motivation for all of us!
As for me, I went to my meeting and picked up my 30 day chip. It was great. I am not sure how other meetings do it, but they make it a pretty big deal at ours. One person presents it and talks to the group about us and what we have overcome. Then I get a chance to say anything I want. Everyone claps, etc. Just an amazing feeling.
After the meeting, I volunteered to clean up the coffee pots and stuff. 3 guys followed me out (one of who brought me to my first meeting, and is the one who has cancer) and they said it is time to get a sponsor and start the steps. I said GREAT, how do I start! haha. The guy with cancer had offered to be my sponsor before, but I kind of felt bad asking him to do that since he will be starting his chemo-therapy on January 4th. He said again tonight that he wants to be my sponsor, but to have a back up. Another guy standing there whom I have met quite a few times said "I will be your back-up"
So there I was, wanting to get started, but not knowing how or where to start. These guys took the guess work out of it for me, and the first guy said "talk to you tomorrow and we will get started." So that is that. I will be starting the steps tomorrow as he said he would give me a call. Unbelievable how the power of God works in this program. It has been so easy for me. I have NO idea what I am doing, but people are just taking my hand and guiding me. Someday I will pass this gift on to someone else. This is how the program works.
I guess that is all for tonight. Oh, and my wife called and talked to a lady from Al-anon to see what that is all about. I don't know much about it, and neither does my wife. But my wife is so willing to support me that she will do whatever she can to help. I am not sure she needs it, but she feels like she should be doing something, so she is checking that out. The lady is dropping some stuff off at our house tomorrow for her. Again, AMAZING!!!!!
God bless, and hugs to you ALL!
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Originally Posted by bdiddy5522
The guy with cancer had offered to be my sponsor before, but I kind of felt bad asking him to do that since he will be starting his chemo-therapy on January 4th.
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I echo what Midton said...you letting him sponsor you, is a gift to him.
Our group does it much like yours does Brent...that is the component to my recovery I was missing before. I need that face to face fellowship and support from people who
realize that 30 days can feel like a lifetime.
Our group does it much like yours does Brent...that is the component to my recovery I was missing before. I need that face to face fellowship and support from people who
realize that 30 days can feel like a lifetime.
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Originally Posted by KC1
PC - Ugh! How do you stand all that snow????????? It rained really hard here today and lots of roads were flooded. Some people in the office actually said they would have rather had snow. NO way! I hate the cold and the snow. Only 21 more days till I escape all of this cold weather and stress and well, just escape all of it.
KC
KC
Got the Christmas tree finished last night. I mentioned to hubby that this is the first time in I don't know how many years that I decorated the tree without a beer in hand.
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So I just got a call from my sponsor. Feels weird to say. He asked me if I had read the part in the Big Book about calling my sponsor every day to ask him what color of underwear he is wearing? haha. I guess that means I am supposed to check in with him quite a bit, huh?
So we are meeting for a cup of coffee this afternoon. No idea what to expect, but I am sure it will be another stop to my life of sobriety. I will keep you all posted.
Midton & Anew- Yeah, I think you are exactly right. He is obviously wanting to sponsor me for whatever reason. I never asked, but he volunteered twice, so apparently he wants to
Feels weird to say. He asked me if I had read the part in the Big Book about calling my sponsor every day to ask him what color of underwear he is wearing? haha. I guess that means I am supposed to check in with him quite a bit, huh?So we are meeting for a cup of coffee this afternoon. No idea what to expect, but I am sure it will be another stop to my life of sobriety. I will keep you all posted.
Midton & Anew- Yeah, I think you are exactly right. He is obviously wanting to sponsor me for whatever reason. I never asked, but he volunteered twice, so apparently he wants to
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Just got back to the office from my first official meeting with my sponsor. We had coffee and just talked. He got to know me better, and who I am and where I am coming from. We didn't do much more that just chit chat. As always, he had some great wisdom and encouragement to share with me. I asked him, now what? He said: "don't drink, go to meetings, get a sponsor, and work the steps." He said I am where I should be at. So, I just told him that I am following his lead and will do what he suggests. He said we need to meet at least once a week, and talk everyday.
So that is where I am at. I feel good about where I am, and I will not drink today. Let's see what happens tomorrow, but I have a pretty good feeling about it.
I hope you all have a great day, and talk with you all later.
So that is where I am at. I feel good about where I am, and I will not drink today. Let's see what happens tomorrow, but I have a pretty good feeling about it.
I hope you all have a great day, and talk with you all later.
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Sounds like you have the right sponsor!
That is pretty much the way it has worked for me too. Why I ever feared going to AA
and the program, is beyond me now.
It is truly the most liberating aspect of my recovery.
That is pretty much the way it has worked for me too. Why I ever feared going to AA
and the program, is beyond me now.
It is truly the most liberating aspect of my recovery.
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