My wife didn't come home tuesday:( and :)
take it one day at a time....and now you, please start al anon..and well, over analysing is not going to help either...this is now her recovery and you need yours, as well as the kids...
best of luck to you all...
best of luck to you all...
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I hope I don't get a workbook to do, I am supposed to start calcII in March...lol.
I wanted to mention how awesome the military support has been. I asked for help this tuesday, bt yesterday, I had 3 social workers and 2 doctors working to help us. These are good docs, military docs, not money grubbing civilian docs. All my appointments were walk in, they just cancelled and rescheduled their previous patients. They have been awesome, and are helping me with the paperwork to get stationed where I can support my family the best I can, be it near family, or military treatment facilities. A HUGE weight off of myshoulders. I can continue my career, perhaps on a new path, but I can finish my service, and take care of my family!!
I also managed to win the battle of having my wife's prior facility removed from the Tricare sponsored doctor list. It takes a bit of time, but with my recorded conversation and their answers to my questions, it is most likely to be a quick process. I know its a small win, but its a start. If I can do that in a week, what can I accomplish in a year?
I also managed to win the battle of having my wife's prior facility removed from the Tricare sponsored doctor list. It takes a bit of time, but with my recorded conversation and their answers to my questions, it is most likely to be a quick process. I know its a small win, but its a start. If I can do that in a week, what can I accomplish in a year?
How much longer till you are done with your service? Retiring?
If you got that hospital off the Tricare list in a week, I suspect you will be running the post in a year.
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I am so glad you have a diagnosis for your wife. Now, you know.
And knowledge is power.
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OK, here's an example. The tattoos. You "forbid" her to have any that show because it might "eliminate a future job position." Don't get me wrong, I agree with you a hundred percent. BUT, it is her choice to make. You can certainly express your opinion about it, but the notion of "forbidding" something like that is what I would expect a parent to say about a teenage child, not a person talking about his/her partner.
She's an adult. She has the right to make choices, even if they are ones you consider foolish. You can live with the results or not, but you don't have the right to give her orders.
I'm glad you are keeping an open mind about making some good, healthy changes in yourself. It will be a good growth experience.
She's an adult. She has the right to make choices, even if they are ones you consider foolish. You can live with the results or not, but you don't have the right to give her orders.
I'm glad you are keeping an open mind about making some good, healthy changes in yourself. It will be a good growth experience.
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That is one of the reasons I miss the Army so much. I had fantastic support form the medical and addiciton specialists. I became visible again.
How much longer till you are done with your service? Retiring?
If you got that hospital off the Tricare list in a week, I suspect you will be running the post in a year.
:ghug3
I am so glad you have a diagnosis for your wife. Now, you know.
And knowledge is power.
Beth
How much longer till you are done with your service? Retiring?
If you got that hospital off the Tricare list in a week, I suspect you will be running the post in a year.
:ghug3
I am so glad you have a diagnosis for your wife. Now, you know.
And knowledge is power.
Beth
OK, here's an example. The tattoos. You "forbid" her to have any that show because it might "eliminate a future job position." Don't get me wrong, I agree with you a hundred percent. BUT, it is her choice to make. You can certainly express your opinion about it, but the notion of "forbidding" something like that is what I would expect a parent to say about a teenage child, not a person talking about his/her partner.
She's an adult. She has the right to make choices, even if they are ones you consider foolish. You can live with the results or not, but you don't have the right to give her orders.
I'm glad you are keeping an open mind about making some good, healthy changes in yourself. It will be a good growth experience.
She's an adult. She has the right to make choices, even if they are ones you consider foolish. You can live with the results or not, but you don't have the right to give her orders.
I'm glad you are keeping an open mind about making some good, healthy changes in yourself. It will be a good growth experience.
But big picture, I understand what you are saying, and I am going to work on it...I promise
I have 297 days, 20 hours, 10 minutes and 30 seconds until retirement.
I have 6 years left to retirement. Not that I am counting the days or anything
I think you gotta wait til you are a year out to call yourself a shortimer.
Then you can start with "364 days and a wake up).
or later, (maybe this is just an enlisted thing )
i am so short i can blouse my underwear!
i love that one.
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Well, for a temporary light hearted thread jack, I am enlisted. In the Navy, we call them never again days. I will never again have a March 1st in the Navy...and so on. We also have what we call the happiness factor. As your days in gets larger than your days left, you become happier. We even have a complex calculator that tells you your happiness level based on professions. For example, right now I am a clown. When you first come in, you are an accountant. You get the idea. In your last year, you become a Walmart greeter..."Hi, Welcome to Walmart", can't think of any happier job than that
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a complex calculator that tells you your happiness level based on professions. For example, right now I am a clown. When you first come in, you are an accountant. You get the idea. In your last year, you become a Walmart greeter..."Hi, Welcome to Walmart", can't think of any happier job than that
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I have duty on Monday, so I will get them off the puter and PM you tuesday evening, or maybe I will post them here...good for a laugh at least (unless you are an accountant or IRS auditor)
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This is the best I could do from memory, I know kindergarten teacher was number ten, that is the love it or hate it halfway point.
I couldn't remember 18, so I put in Real Estate agent. Some of the others may be swapped around one or two positions but you get the idea.
The number represents how many years you have left.
1. Walmart Greeter
2. McDonalds Fry Cook
3. Paper Boy
4. Toll Booth Operator
5. Wedding Singer
6. Clown
7. Stop/Slow Sign Holder
8. Truck Driver
9. Mailman
10. Kindergarten Teacher
11. Verizon Wireless Technical Support
12. Airline Stewardess
13. Walmart Customer Service
14. Border Patrol
15. CNN Reporter
16. Claims Adjuster
17. Sweat Shop Supervisor
18. Real Estate Agent
19. IRS Auditor
20. Accountant
I couldn't remember 18, so I put in Real Estate agent. Some of the others may be swapped around one or two positions but you get the idea.
The number represents how many years you have left.
1. Walmart Greeter
2. McDonalds Fry Cook
3. Paper Boy
4. Toll Booth Operator
5. Wedding Singer
6. Clown
7. Stop/Slow Sign Holder
8. Truck Driver
9. Mailman
10. Kindergarten Teacher
11. Verizon Wireless Technical Support
12. Airline Stewardess
13. Walmart Customer Service
14. Border Patrol
15. CNN Reporter
16. Claims Adjuster
17. Sweat Shop Supervisor
18. Real Estate Agent
19. IRS Auditor
20. Accountant
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Back on topic, tonight's visit was good. She kept thanking me for taking her in, and for everything have done. I tried to emphasize that she didn't need to thank me, she chose to stay there, and that is all she needs to focus on right now.
I tried to point out that is what being husband and wife means, doing whatever it takes to help the other one.
She is back on board the ship again
We were supposed to go on a cruise in March. The doctor said that is a good idea that we still go, that it would be good for us...but cautioned to stay away from the booze...duh!!
I tried to point out that is what being husband and wife means, doing whatever it takes to help the other one.
She is back on board the ship again
We were supposed to go on a cruise in March. The doctor said that is a good idea that we still go, that it would be good for us...but cautioned to stay away from the booze...duh!!
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1-20 are hilarious. Thank you very much Marlin. I'm going to share it at work
Sweet pic. Thanks for sharing. I truly hope she gets herself better. I would just like to suggest that when she gets out she may want to seek out a second opinion on the BPD diagnosis.
Sweet pic. Thanks for sharing. I truly hope she gets herself better. I would just like to suggest that when she gets out she may want to seek out a second opinion on the BPD diagnosis.
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That is the hard part about BPD, it is kind of a long term history diagnosis. But from everything I have read, symptoms, history, behavior, it fits perfect. Plus, if its wrong, there are no meds involved, its all therapy based treatment.
Lovely pic, nice family.
One suggestion, Marlin, you may want to take it down. Your wife might not appreciate having her photo posted on this forum without her permission. Most of us feel embarrassed enough as it is.
If you can't edit at this point, you can pm one of the mods and ask him/her to take it down.
Think about it.
One suggestion, Marlin, you may want to take it down. Your wife might not appreciate having her photo posted on this forum without her permission. Most of us feel embarrassed enough as it is.
If you can't edit at this point, you can pm one of the mods and ask him/her to take it down.
Think about it.
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