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Tigger, you're in my prayers tonight. You know how to contact me, and I'm not far away, if I can help you in any way tonight or this week. Can also help with the attorney consultation. Please continue to keep us posted in any way you can. We are here for you and anything you need.
You are so strong! And when you need more strength, God will provide it.
Sleep well.
You are so strong! And when you need more strength, God will provide it.
Sleep well.
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Originally Posted by transformyself 
He had been passive aggressive for the duration of our marriage, but it escalated into emotional and verbal abuse.
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Omgosh, did I just have a light bulb moment.
My A was totally passive aggressive and I didn't realize it until just now.
It's unbelievable. And becoming more and more apparent that his behavior never would have changed..... atleast not before it really took me down.
My A was totally passive aggressive and I didn't realize it until just now.
It's unbelievable. And becoming more and more apparent that his behavior never would have changed..... atleast not before it really took me down.
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Thank you everyone!
Tigger has asked me to tell you that she is having "SR withdrawals" LOL but does not have internet access at the moment.
I do want to clarify that Tigger made the decision to leave, it would NEVER be my place to tell her what to do or make that kind of decision for anyone other than myself...it just wasn't apparent on the thread that there were phone conversations ongoing between posts...and some confusion as to which way we were communicating at times...what wasn't on the thread was that she was leaving, but having some difficulties in connecting with where she was going....and etc.
Enough of me, now....it is her story.
Tigger, WHAT A STRONG WOMAN YOU ARE! You did it by yourself! LOL and a big hug!
Tigger has asked me to tell you that she is having "SR withdrawals" LOL but does not have internet access at the moment.
I do want to clarify that Tigger made the decision to leave, it would NEVER be my place to tell her what to do or make that kind of decision for anyone other than myself...it just wasn't apparent on the thread that there were phone conversations ongoing between posts...and some confusion as to which way we were communicating at times...what wasn't on the thread was that she was leaving, but having some difficulties in connecting with where she was going....and etc.
Enough of me, now....it is her story.
Tigger, WHAT A STRONG WOMAN YOU ARE! You did it by yourself! LOL and a big hug!
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Thank God for her safe leaving and knowing she is out of that situation.
Dear Live, having you in phone contact must have been such a support and blessing for Tigger, and I give 3 cheers for a job well done.
Please keep us up to date if you can, Liveand she will be in our thoughts til we know all is well.
Prayers for you all
God bless
Dear Live, having you in phone contact must have been such a support and blessing for Tigger, and I give 3 cheers for a job well done.
Please keep us up to date if you can, Liveand she will be in our thoughts til we know all is well.
Prayers for you all
God bless
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Originally Posted by transformyself
yes, LTD, I know this.
I can always count on you to uber edit anything I may have missed.
I can always count on you to uber edit anything I may have missed.
I was raised to believe that abuse was hitting. Nothing else. I stayed in an abusive situation for a long time because I didn't know it was abuse. I thought it was normal.
I just wanted to point this out in case there are others out there like me, who don't recognize emotional abuse because it has been an accepted part of life for so long.
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Very late here, but Live, please send hugs and prayers to Tigger and tons of positive strength for me. Also, she mentioned ties in ny. Not sure if this is where she lives, but if she needs anything locally and is here, pm me and I will give you my number to give her.
((((tigger))))
((((tigger))))
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Tigger checked in. She is okay and is getting things in order. She misses SR but does not yet have access. Won't tomorrow either, I don't think....she is very busy, as well.
She is thinking of all of you, misses you and sends her prayers and thanks. She cares how you are doing.
I think she is one very strong lady! Tigger, you are the bomb and you will prevail!
She is thinking of all of you, misses you and sends her prayers and thanks. She cares how you are doing.
I think she is one very strong lady! Tigger, you are the bomb and you will prevail!
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I had to look up passive-aggressive. I've heard it all my life but never really looked into what exactly it was:
In other words, jerks.
People with this disorder resent responsibility and show it through their behaviors, rather than by openly expressing their feelings. They often use procrastination, inefficiency, and forgetfulness to avoid doing what they need to do or have been told by others to do.
Some common symptoms of passive-aggressive personality disorder include:
Acting sullen
Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
Being inefficient on purpose
Blaming others
Complaining
Feeling resentment
Having a fear of authority
Having unexpressed anger or hostility
Procrastinating
Resisting other people's suggestions
A person with this disorder may appear to comply with another's wishes and may even demonstrate enthusiasm for those wishes. However, they:
Perform the requested action too late to be helpful
Perform it in a way that is useless
Sabotage the action to show anger that they cannot express in words
Some common symptoms of passive-aggressive personality disorder include:
Acting sullen
Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
Being inefficient on purpose
Blaming others
Complaining
Feeling resentment
Having a fear of authority
Having unexpressed anger or hostility
Procrastinating
Resisting other people's suggestions
A person with this disorder may appear to comply with another's wishes and may even demonstrate enthusiasm for those wishes. However, they:
Perform the requested action too late to be helpful
Perform it in a way that is useless
Sabotage the action to show anger that they cannot express in words
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Originally Posted by Still Waters
In other words, jerks.
It attracts needy people, old men, alcoholics, jerks...
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Originally Posted by Still Waters
I had to look up passive-aggressive. I've heard it all my life but never really looked into what exactly it was:
In other words, jerks.
In other words, jerks.
In truth, my mother was the passive-aggressive role model. I learned from the best. I don't consider myself a jerk. I learned as a child that the best way to get what you want is to guilt people into doing things your way. I thought it was just how things were done. My husband probably learned a lot of the same lessons in his home. (I know his parents, lol)
Once we know better, we do better.
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Tigger wants you all to know that she is EXUBERANT and doing the happy dance!
And she says she knows it is because of all YOUR prayers.
I am anxious for her to be able to get on here and tell you all herself.
And she says she knows it is because of all YOUR prayers.
I am anxious for her to be able to get on here and tell you all herself.
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Hi Live Angel and to my SR family -
Here is an update on today's progress,
This morning a former police woman; Chris who works at the shelter drove me to my house. There we met a county cop. AH wasn't home. I arrived armed with a list of exactly what I wanted to get. I recited the list and my path through the house to Chris to be able to be quick & efficient. Shelter advised to get anything I'd want if he were to destroy tings I loved, or burn down the house, also anything of value that could be sold should financial trouble or ruin become a reality.
He wasn't home when we arrived. Only place he ever goes is on a liquor run. So I started at the far end od the house and got my WALLET which was of utmost importance, work clothes, jewelry. Into the living room and got my children's baby pictures and artwork, the kitchen for prescription meds and out the door. Whirlwind. Took about 5 or 10 minutes. AH had arrived and cop kept him talking in the garage.
In the garage, AH was saying to cop: 'i don't know why she's doing this' blah blah. On Live's sage advise I didn't look at him or talk to him. Chris kept herself physically between AH and me. When I needed strength I looked into her eyes, and she was there.
We left. I was ELATED! We had done it with no trouble, exactly as planned. I felt invincable! Never shook or shed a tear. WOOO HOOO!
You know that he was going to try to contact me, though. Since I haven't responded to his calls or texts, he tried my sister on the east coast. Called, she didn't answer. Emailed. She forwarded it to me. Dr. Jeckle said he looooved me, had never raised his voice to me (HA), to let him know if I needed money. Then Mr. Hyde said he could find me if he wanted to but he wouldn't (my hero - barf), that he wanted the shelter womans phone number. Then dr Jeckle said to he loves me with all his heart and always has. Then Mr. Hyde said he'll be waiting for me (in my house that he's supposed to leave) if I decide I love him again.
.......received via phone email...live
Here is an update on today's progress,
This morning a former police woman; Chris who works at the shelter drove me to my house. There we met a county cop. AH wasn't home. I arrived armed with a list of exactly what I wanted to get. I recited the list and my path through the house to Chris to be able to be quick & efficient. Shelter advised to get anything I'd want if he were to destroy tings I loved, or burn down the house, also anything of value that could be sold should financial trouble or ruin become a reality.
He wasn't home when we arrived. Only place he ever goes is on a liquor run. So I started at the far end od the house and got my WALLET which was of utmost importance, work clothes, jewelry. Into the living room and got my children's baby pictures and artwork, the kitchen for prescription meds and out the door. Whirlwind. Took about 5 or 10 minutes. AH had arrived and cop kept him talking in the garage.
In the garage, AH was saying to cop: 'i don't know why she's doing this' blah blah. On Live's sage advise I didn't look at him or talk to him. Chris kept herself physically between AH and me. When I needed strength I looked into her eyes, and she was there.
We left. I was ELATED! We had done it with no trouble, exactly as planned. I felt invincable! Never shook or shed a tear. WOOO HOOO!
You know that he was going to try to contact me, though. Since I haven't responded to his calls or texts, he tried my sister on the east coast. Called, she didn't answer. Emailed. She forwarded it to me. Dr. Jeckle said he looooved me, had never raised his voice to me (HA), to let him know if I needed money. Then Mr. Hyde said he could find me if he wanted to but he wouldn't (my hero - barf), that he wanted the shelter womans phone number. Then dr Jeckle said to he loves me with all his heart and always has. Then Mr. Hyde said he'll be waiting for me (in my house that he's supposed to leave) if I decide I love him again.
.......received via phone email...live
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hello, dearie!!!
love you!
You know, I STILL am dense. It wasn't until I was replying to your email and signed it your girlfriend, that it struck me...all those times you said he was griping about you going to al-anon and your girlfriends,...I will now bet that I know the tone and implications of the "your girlfriends" LOL
Well, gal....you have got a harem!!!!!!!!!!!HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
With some studs thrown in! LOL
Now, I AM jealous! WOOOOOOOOO
love you!
You know, I STILL am dense. It wasn't until I was replying to your email and signed it your girlfriend, that it struck me...all those times you said he was griping about you going to al-anon and your girlfriends,...I will now bet that I know the tone and implications of the "your girlfriends" LOL
Well, gal....you have got a harem!!!!!!!!!!!HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
With some studs thrown in! LOL
Now, I AM jealous! WOOOOOOOOO
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