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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI 
Congrats on day 6 Sohard, looks to me like you are doing a lot of positive things to keep this going. What is the "first major challenge" you reference in your previous email?
Admittedly, even once it got relatively easy to be with her at nights not having wine, I still missed it. I could lie, but what would be the point.
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Yes, the old habits and feelings we have die hard. Perhaps instead of viewing it as a challenge, you could simply view it as an opportunity to be with your mother. Alcohol or no alcohol, many people don't have the luxury of being around loved ones with all the things happening in the world, and many people have lost family members to the pandemic as well. Plan out some activities ahead of time and enjoy the company.
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Yes, the old habits and feelings we have die hard. Perhaps instead of viewing it as a challenge, you could simply view it as an opportunity to be with your mother. Alcohol or no alcohol, many people don't have the luxury of being around loved ones with all the things happening in the world, and many people have lost family members to the pandemic as well. Plan out some activities ahead of time and enjoy the company.
Again, I really appreciate this. I feel a little bit of a nervous weight off (just a little). Yes, I need to think of it POSITIVELY. I am not being deprived...I am getting time. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Day 7 is Coolio 😎! I've sent you a PM with an infographic which I found on SR, which I found beneficial when I last 'wanted' to drink. Sadly, it's contained within a commercial site, which is obviously against SR rules. I don't have time to cut, paste and credit now! Take care, and stay strong.
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Originally Posted by Tatsy
Day 7 is Coolio 😎! I've sent you a PM with an infographic which I found on SR, which I found beneficial when I last 'wanted' to drink. Sadly, it's contained within a commercial site, which is obviously against SR rules. I don't have time to cut, paste and credit now! Take care, and stay strong.
You write that you buy a whole bottle of vodka, pour some into a glass, then pour the rest of the bottle away - to stop you drinking it. If your Mum knew you'd reached that stage, would she still want you to drink with her?
This thread of yours is on the 'Best of SoberRecovery'. You posted almost a year ago, on 18 January 2020 when visiting your Mum: https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...p-quickly.html (Please help quickly...)
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Drinking but I plan to start again tomorrow. I’m trying to pull myself out of the well. I disappeared for a good five months (thank you Obladi for caring enough to get me back) But it’s just hard. I had a disagreement with a friend and this is all I could think to do. I know that that’s just a stupid excuse my addiction used. But it’s so early in the game I was excited for the excuse. More than being upset about the big disagreement, I was thrilled because this gave me the drinking excuse. Truth.
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I made five days and then seven days. I don’t know how that is supposed to jump to a lifetime. I have to believe it’s possible in order for it to be possible, but I don’t believe it’s possible. But I know I can believe that. I’ve done it before. I’m just trying to get there now.
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actually, you don’t have to believe it’s possible in order for it to be possible.
tons of things are possible without us believing they are
maybe it’s more like having to believe it’s possible so that this belief gets you motivated to put in the actions to make it happen?
and, you know, all lifetimes are built up of five days or seven days or one day and then adding another
tons of things are possible without us believing they are
maybe it’s more like having to believe it’s possible so that this belief gets you motivated to put in the actions to make it happen?
and, you know, all lifetimes are built up of five days or seven days or one day and then adding another
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Yup, luv. It is hard, really hard. You didn't put up much of a fight though, did you?
It is perfectly natural that a part of you wants to drink. No amount of trying or hoping or getting ready to be strong is going to have any impact on that part. You know this. I know you know this.
Are you at mom's now?
It is perfectly natural that a part of you wants to drink. No amount of trying or hoping or getting ready to be strong is going to have any impact on that part. You know this. I know you know this.
Are you at mom's now?
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Congrats on a week SoHard. shows you can be sober.
I think finis post is especially good. I don't have to necessary believe something to take the correct next steps, you know?
Many days I remember 'no drinking for you today' was the best I could muster...it added to the total and got me to where I am today, where I know lifetime recovery is possible, and nothings a good enough excise to drink again.
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I think finis post is especially good. I don't have to necessary believe something to take the correct next steps, you know?
Many days I remember 'no drinking for you today' was the best I could muster...it added to the total and got me to where I am today, where I know lifetime recovery is possible, and nothings a good enough excise to drink again.
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Start again and come up with a plan to do a specific series of concrete actions when tempted to get past acute cravings.
Make a cup of tea, walk ten minutes, write stream of consciousness in a journal, take a shower etc. . .
You don’t have to believe anything to try harder, but do believe you are worth it.
We do
Make a cup of tea, walk ten minutes, write stream of consciousness in a journal, take a shower etc. . .
You don’t have to believe anything to try harder, but do believe you are worth it.
We do
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Good morning, friend
I dearly hope yesterday was a momentary lapse. You do not need to keep doing this, though when I was in that place I felt there was no other option. It's not true - there is another option. For me, I finally just needed the grit to hang on no matter what. That was so very uncomfortable - impossible to describe to someone who doesn't share our condition.
Dump what's left and take hold, woman. There's a lot of hands reaching out here that you can hang onto with all your might.
xo
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I dearly hope yesterday was a momentary lapse. You do not need to keep doing this, though when I was in that place I felt there was no other option. It's not true - there is another option. For me, I finally just needed the grit to hang on no matter what. That was so very uncomfortable - impossible to describe to someone who doesn't share our condition.
Dump what's left and take hold, woman. There's a lot of hands reaching out here that you can hang onto with all your might.
xo
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Originally Posted by fini
actually, you don’t have to believe it’s possible in order for it to be possible.
tons of things are possible without us believing they are
maybe it’s more like having to believe it’s possible so that this belief gets you motivated to put in the actions to make it happen?
and, you know, all lifetimes are built up of five days or seven days or one day and then adding another
tons of things are possible without us believing they are
maybe it’s more like having to believe it’s possible so that this belief gets you motivated to put in the actions to make it happen?
and, you know, all lifetimes are built up of five days or seven days or one day and then adding another
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Originally Posted by Obladi
Good morning, friend
I dearly hope yesterday was a momentary lapse. You do not need to keep doing this, though when I was in that place I felt there was no other option. It's not true - there is another option. For me, I finally just needed the grit to hang on no matter what. That was so very uncomfortable - impossible to describe to someone who doesn't share our condition.
Dump what's left and take hold, woman. There's a lot of hands reaching out here that you can hang onto with all your might.
xo
O
I dearly hope yesterday was a momentary lapse. You do not need to keep doing this, though when I was in that place I felt there was no other option. It's not true - there is another option. For me, I finally just needed the grit to hang on no matter what. That was so very uncomfortable - impossible to describe to someone who doesn't share our condition.
Dump what's left and take hold, woman. There's a lot of hands reaching out here that you can hang onto with all your might.
xo
O
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Start again and come up with a plan to do a specific series of concrete actions when tempted to get past acute cravings.
Make a cup of tea, walk ten minutes, write stream of consciousness in a journal, take a shower etc. . .
You don’t have to believe anything to try harder, but do believe you are worth it.
We do
Make a cup of tea, walk ten minutes, write stream of consciousness in a journal, take a shower etc. . .
You don’t have to believe anything to try harder, but do believe you are worth it.
We do
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