Class of May 2024 Support Thread Part 1
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So, I walk into the pharmacy this morning searching for my ‘Value Pack’ lol of Nicorette gum. Day 39 no smokes. I’m having trouble finding it.
I’m then approached by a random woman customer who starts giving me unsolicited advice about how to stop smoking, and how I should use the one’s HER doctor recommended. I tell her that the ones I’m buying work for ME.
She continues with a lecture about how I’m just putting a “bandaid on it”, and I need to set a date to stop the gum. Says it’s just as bad as smoking.
I remained calm, and said that I understood where she was coming from, but that there was a vast difference between the gum, and tobacco smoking. Gum doesn’t deliver tar to my lungs.
I had to reiterate that THESE ONE’S WORK FOR ME! And what works for one, doesn’t necessarily work for another.
She didn’t like it. Insistent.
I felt like smoking 🤯
I didn’t smoke, and feeling happy with myself for not smoking, and not even using much gum.
She’s lucky she didn’t walk out with a “bandaid” on her head. lol
Rant over.
I’m then approached by a random woman customer who starts giving me unsolicited advice about how to stop smoking, and how I should use the one’s HER doctor recommended. I tell her that the ones I’m buying work for ME.
She continues with a lecture about how I’m just putting a “bandaid on it”, and I need to set a date to stop the gum. Says it’s just as bad as smoking.
I remained calm, and said that I understood where she was coming from, but that there was a vast difference between the gum, and tobacco smoking. Gum doesn’t deliver tar to my lungs.
I had to reiterate that THESE ONE’S WORK FOR ME! And what works for one, doesn’t necessarily work for another.
She didn’t like it. Insistent.
I felt like smoking 🤯
I didn’t smoke, and feeling happy with myself for not smoking, and not even using much gum.
She’s lucky she didn’t walk out with a “bandaid” on her head. lol
Rant over.
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Not unless you’re coming down through the roof cavity on a rope, Dee. Lol
Of course I never did such a thing, only heard about it.
I know I wasn’t overreacting because an old bloke sitting on a chair waiting for his script kept winking at me in support. 😉
Of course I never did such a thing, only heard about it.
I know I wasn’t overreacting because an old bloke sitting on a chair waiting for his script kept winking at me in support. 😉
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A relapse is planned way in advance
Sunday evening here in Los Angeles, California. It's a beautiful spring day. Spent most of the day walking, walking, walking. Slowly but surely. So, far day 83 is simple and sober. I'm not giving up.
Nice to read everyone's posts. Lixie, if I haven't already, congrats on six months. That is an amazing milestone.
Great to hear how everyone is staying sober, if for a 24 hours or 24 hours more to the number of days you already have.
A pearl of wisdom that I took from an AA meeting last night is: "a relapse doesn't just happen."
" A relapse is planned way in advance before you pick up. A relapse is a faulty mindset."
This was helpful for me to hear because I think I'm trying to give myself an out so that I can go back to drinking. Now that I'm nearing 90 days (which is a miracle for me), I keep thinking about drinking. I'm not acting on that thought. But I'm being honest that it is there.
Of course, I CAN'T DRINK. I went too far in and was in late stage alcoholism. I can't have even one. And if I don't have one, then I won't go back to active alcoholism,
I CAN'T HAVE EVEN ONE.
Nice to read everyone's posts. Lixie, if I haven't already, congrats on six months. That is an amazing milestone.
Great to hear how everyone is staying sober, if for a 24 hours or 24 hours more to the number of days you already have.
A pearl of wisdom that I took from an AA meeting last night is: "a relapse doesn't just happen."
" A relapse is planned way in advance before you pick up. A relapse is a faulty mindset."
This was helpful for me to hear because I think I'm trying to give myself an out so that I can go back to drinking. Now that I'm nearing 90 days (which is a miracle for me), I keep thinking about drinking. I'm not acting on that thought. But I'm being honest that it is there.
Of course, I CAN'T DRINK. I went too far in and was in late stage alcoholism. I can't have even one. And if I don't have one, then I won't go back to active alcoholism,
I CAN'T HAVE EVEN ONE.
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That’s so true listae.
If we want to live an honest life. A life where we become the people we know ourselves to be, we cannot have a single one. I’ll enter into that contract, for sure.
As you get further into your sobriety you’ll appreciate this for what it truly means.
You’ll want it this way, because sobriety has given you so much more than you ever first imagined.
It’s normal for the thoughts to be there listae. They will pass in time.
If we want to live an honest life. A life where we become the people we know ourselves to be, we cannot have a single one. I’ll enter into that contract, for sure.
As you get further into your sobriety you’ll appreciate this for what it truly means.
You’ll want it this way, because sobriety has given you so much more than you ever first imagined.
It’s normal for the thoughts to be there listae. They will pass in time.
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This was helpful for me to hear because I think I'm trying to give myself an out so that I can go back to drinking. Now that I'm nearing 90 days (which is a miracle for me), I keep thinking about drinking. I'm not acting on that thought. But I'm being honest that it is there.
There should be no 'outs' for an addiction that basically wants us dead.
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
Tell your AV you are not going to confuse abstinece for control, Listae.
There should be no 'outs' for an addiction that basically wants us dead.
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There should be no 'outs' for an addiction that basically wants us dead.
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I don't know how many times I told myself, "One drink won't hurt me." The problem is with an alcoholic one drink always leads to many more. Simple truth is its not complicated. The only drink you need to skip is the first one. Step one to quitting is to realize that one drink can kill you.
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I used to think that if I couldn’t stop at 1-2 drinks I must be stupid. Like who couldn’t do that? Turns out it was me.
As soon as I imbibed any amount it was game over.
Thank goodness the game is really over, now.
As soon as I imbibed any amount it was game over.
Thank goodness the game is really over, now.
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Checking in, a busy weekend, feels good to get so much accomplished.
Keep those sober days adding up everyone and kick that life sucking AV to the ground and stomp on it a couple of times while it's down and don't look back as you are walking away from it.
Keep those sober days adding up everyone and kick that life sucking AV to the ground and stomp on it a couple of times while it's down and don't look back as you are walking away from it.
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Good morning. Got a good sleep last night and actually stayed in bed till a reasonable hour of 6am. Study is going pretty well this morning. It's day 5. Weather is nice. Life is good.
It's a bank holiday Monday or I'd have counselling today. Next appt is next Monday. Feels very Sunday ish today. We're having this marinated chicken thing for dinner which looks delicious. Looking forward to that.
It's a bank holiday Monday or I'd have counselling today. Next appt is next Monday. Feels very Sunday ish today. We're having this marinated chicken thing for dinner which looks delicious. Looking forward to that.
Enjoy your day!
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Originally Posted by 424~~ALive
Checking in, a busy weekend, feels good to get so much accomplished.
Keep those sober days adding up everyone and kick that life sucking AV to the ground and stomp on it a couple of times while it's down and don't look back as you are walking away from it.
Keep those sober days adding up everyone and kick that life sucking AV to the ground and stomp on it a couple of times while it's down and don't look back as you are walking away from it.
Put the boot in. Put the slipper in lol
It’s totally gutless, and we’ve got the strength to take it down. 💪
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Morning all
Thanks Dee & BD
Sal - anxiety is something I also suffer with. have done all my life and take daily meds. drinking just makes it so so much worse, even in the early weeks of sobriety it is unstable . probably brain rewiring. But it does pass.
What a rude woman Steely. good on you sticking to your guns and not smoking either.
Very true Listae
Hope evryone has a good day.
Thanks Dee & BD
Sal - anxiety is something I also suffer with. have done all my life and take daily meds. drinking just makes it so so much worse, even in the early weeks of sobriety it is unstable . probably brain rewiring. But it does pass.
What a rude woman Steely. good on you sticking to your guns and not smoking either.
Very true Listae
Hope evryone has a good day.
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