When it’s so bad only a drink will do-what can I do? Weekenders 29 April - 02 May 2022
Good Morning Weekenders
Its a rainy (well needed) morning.
Hope you’re all well!
Great posts and songs.
Itsmaria, lovely that you’re going to foster some cats/dogs. It’s good to know you’ll be helping the animals and maybe someone’s pets whilst they’re unable to.
I’m feeling guilty because I’ve run out of bird food, there’s a few nuts left and suet squares so the squirrel, robin and blackbird are happy. I’ll pop to shop at 10 when they open and get more food for them.
My head has been a shed since we are getting a new place to live. (It’s going to take a few months for the conveyancing and legal stuff). So much to do and think of and all I can think of is that I would like to plant a Japanese Acer in the front and I’ll be able to get a shoe storage cupboard as the hall is quite wide. Well, wider than the one here. I’m writing lists in my head but I need to transfer them on paper. Get all the rubbish out of there. Whereas Mr. Mags has different priorities such as, storing his fishing gear!
Have a good day! Lots of love xxxx
Its a rainy (well needed) morning.
Hope you’re all well!
Great posts and songs.
Itsmaria, lovely that you’re going to foster some cats/dogs. It’s good to know you’ll be helping the animals and maybe someone’s pets whilst they’re unable to.
I’m feeling guilty because I’ve run out of bird food, there’s a few nuts left and suet squares so the squirrel, robin and blackbird are happy. I’ll pop to shop at 10 when they open and get more food for them.
My head has been a shed since we are getting a new place to live. (It’s going to take a few months for the conveyancing and legal stuff). So much to do and think of and all I can think of is that I would like to plant a Japanese Acer in the front and I’ll be able to get a shoe storage cupboard as the hall is quite wide. Well, wider than the one here. I’m writing lists in my head but I need to transfer them on paper. Get all the rubbish out of there. Whereas Mr. Mags has different priorities such as, storing his fishing gear!
Have a good day! Lots of love xxxx
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End of Day 168. Congrats to everyone who is staying sober.
Thought of the day: The exits on the alcohol highway keep reducing as we continue to drink increasing quantities.
Let us take the exit now when the next one comes. Let us not worry as to when we can join the freeway again, because there's no need to.
Good night from Seattle.
Thought of the day: The exits on the alcohol highway keep reducing as we continue to drink increasing quantities.
Let us take the exit now when the next one comes. Let us not worry as to when we can join the freeway again, because there's no need to.
Good night from Seattle.
Mags, I feel guilty about having run out of fish food. Perhaps I can stop by the feed store tomorrow.
I think about the old weekends occasionally. The automatic drinking mentality with minimal productivity around the house.
I think about the old weekends occasionally. The automatic drinking mentality with minimal productivity around the house.
I'm still amazed I am sober. Most days I don't think about it but when it hits me I can't help but just sit here in awe.
We are having a house built and we were watching them frame it up this weekend. Of course this is a stressful endeavor as is life itself.
Both days after lunch they bring back some beer. They have one every hour or so. They are working sun up to sun down and are not over doing it so it is OK with me.
Well I used to do this type of work and I too would drink if I could while working. Of course I would drink 2 or 3 to everyone else's 1. Of course my work would suffer also.
Well sitting in the shade with my buddy who has a beer in a glass OF COURSE the AV has to chime in.
"Man! Remember those days?!" "Smell the fresh wood!" " Ice cold beer". "Wouldn't it be great to have a beer and drive some nails?"
I think about it for a few minutes, Way longer than I ever let my AV hang around normally. I did not get a real craving for alcohol itself. More like a desire for relaxation. Nostalgia for the younger stronger me. My AV had those rose colored glasses on but me, the Real fish, had his magnifying glasses on. He could see past the rosey picture painted by the AV. It was pretty easy to see through. Same old same old. The Real fish made a quick and easy decision to ignore the rest of that conversation.
On the way home the wife spots a sign, Fresh Homestyle Ice Cream!!!!
(Sound of tires screeching into parking lot) LOL
Ahhh peace and relaxation. And ice cream. THIS is life. The GOOD life.
Had I decided to drink it would have been all I wanted to do. Instead I had some excellent ice cream and went home to relax some more. Not get sloshed and feel like ass today.
Dee always stresses building a life you love to remove the desire for alcohol. I could not agree more. I wasn't sure if I would ever get there but I think I'm coming around.
People count on me 24/7 now, not only before I start drinking. Stressful at times but I Love it. I can count on myself 24/7 and I love it.
So when times get bad and you "Think" only a drink will do I got news for ya. Ice cream works Much Much better.
We are having a house built and we were watching them frame it up this weekend. Of course this is a stressful endeavor as is life itself.
Both days after lunch they bring back some beer. They have one every hour or so. They are working sun up to sun down and are not over doing it so it is OK with me.
Well I used to do this type of work and I too would drink if I could while working. Of course I would drink 2 or 3 to everyone else's 1. Of course my work would suffer also.
Well sitting in the shade with my buddy who has a beer in a glass OF COURSE the AV has to chime in.
"Man! Remember those days?!" "Smell the fresh wood!" " Ice cold beer". "Wouldn't it be great to have a beer and drive some nails?"
I think about it for a few minutes, Way longer than I ever let my AV hang around normally. I did not get a real craving for alcohol itself. More like a desire for relaxation. Nostalgia for the younger stronger me. My AV had those rose colored glasses on but me, the Real fish, had his magnifying glasses on. He could see past the rosey picture painted by the AV. It was pretty easy to see through. Same old same old. The Real fish made a quick and easy decision to ignore the rest of that conversation.
On the way home the wife spots a sign, Fresh Homestyle Ice Cream!!!!
(Sound of tires screeching into parking lot) LOL
Ahhh peace and relaxation. And ice cream. THIS is life. The GOOD life.
Had I decided to drink it would have been all I wanted to do. Instead I had some excellent ice cream and went home to relax some more. Not get sloshed and feel like ass today.
Dee always stresses building a life you love to remove the desire for alcohol. I could not agree more. I wasn't sure if I would ever get there but I think I'm coming around.
People count on me 24/7 now, not only before I start drinking. Stressful at times but I Love it. I can count on myself 24/7 and I love it.
So when times get bad and you "Think" only a drink will do I got news for ya. Ice cream works Much Much better.
Good post fishkiller
The first thing I noticed when I found this website is that everyone at SR eats ice cream! Or drinks coffee. Yes to the first (ice cream, I love it) but a definite no to the latter. I'm a cup of tea person, not a coffee person.
How long will it take for your house to be built?
The first thing I noticed when I found this website is that everyone at SR eats ice cream! Or drinks coffee. Yes to the first (ice cream, I love it) but a definite no to the latter. I'm a cup of tea person, not a coffee person.
How long will it take for your house to be built?
Physical work was about the only thing I could never drink while doing, but would often have two or three empties by the time things were put away in the truck. I still occasionally find screw ups from when I would begin drinking early while doing office work. The additional risk that came from drinking while doing various things always seemed like a worthy calculation because the drinking was thought of as being necessary.
Speaking of physical work...
Speaking of physical work...
Good post fishkiller
The first thing I noticed when I found this website is that everyone at SR eats ice cream! Or drinks coffee. Yes to the first (ice cream, I love it) but a definite no to the latter. I'm a cup of tea person, not a coffee person.
How long will it take for your house to be built?
The first thing I noticed when I found this website is that everyone at SR eats ice cream! Or drinks coffee. Yes to the first (ice cream, I love it) but a definite no to the latter. I'm a cup of tea person, not a coffee person.
How long will it take for your house to be built?
We gotta have some kind of vice right? 😀 ice cream, coffee, tea, Yes.
Hopefully 5 more months we will move in. Supply chain dependant of course.
Physical work was about the only thing I could never drink while doing, but would often have two or three empties by the time things were put away in the truck. I still occasionally find screw ups from when I would begin drinking early while doing office work. The additional risk that came from drinking while doing various things always seemed like a worthy calculation because the drinking was thought of as being necessary.
Speaking of physical work...
Speaking of physical work...
I was thinking like you that drinking Had to be a part of it.
Blah
BS
Ice cream and hard work is where it's at.
disclaimer: I recently had blood work done and occasional ice cream has been approved.
I always drank in the evenings (and all day on weekends) till pass-out. We had a fellow at work get let go because he'd drink before and during office hours. Because of that guy, I would tell myself that I'm not an alcoholic, my drinking was OK because I didn't drink while working. Of course, I was hung over every day at work, but in my addled mind, that didn't count.
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[T]he main problem of the alcoholic centers in his mind, rather than in his body. If you ask him why he started on that last bender, the chances are he will offer you any one of a hundred alibis. Sometimes these excuses have a certain plausibility, but none of them really makes sense in the light of the havoc an alcoholic's drinking bout creates. They sound like the philosophy of the man who, having a headache, beats himself on the head with a hammer so that he can't feel the ache....
There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it. When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. (BB, pp. 23 & 25.)
There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it. When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet. (BB, pp. 23 & 25.)
Great post Fishkiller, good luck with the house. Like Dragon I work in an office and also like him I did not drink at work but was hungover most days. Crazy.
Good luck with your move too Mags. An Acer will look great, we have a lot of them near me (there is even an Acer Road just north of the canal) Fantastic Autumn colours especially.
Welcome to Weekenders novips.
All the best least, I hope you get a break from the pain soon.
Good luck with your move too Mags. An Acer will look great, we have a lot of them near me (there is even an Acer Road just north of the canal) Fantastic Autumn colours especially.
Welcome to Weekenders novips.
All the best least, I hope you get a break from the pain soon.
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I built this Solar Retirement House with a constant buzz going while living for Weeks alone here in a decent Trailer. No yuge mistakes, actually; everything turned out OK, and to Plan.
I've known at least 6 Folks in our Circle that killed themselves via Drink. One phenom labeled 'Late Stage Alcoholism' keeps many from having Sobriety stick after Rehab, or Hospitalization. Or, Jail. Significant physical side-effects notwithstanding, Sobriety simply doesn't feel 'normal'. So, it is not automatically a desirable State to be in, or worth exerting effort to stay in. It feels very alien. There was an intense attraction to return to the familiar. Not drinking while building was not an option, I found. At the end of the Day, I was simply one more Person drinking on the Job. Very common.
One effect I got very familiar with is 'Persistent Stupor'. You're not really 'all there'. Just surviving, and maintaining some partial Consciousness. Life with a hidden, partial Black-Out going on. I had to move well beyond that State for Months to realize in retrospect where I had trapped myself, and to appreciate The New Normal of continuous Sobriety.
I *lived* it. I get it...
I built this Solar Retirement House with a constant buzz going while living for Weeks alone here in a decent Trailer. No yuge mistakes, actually; everything turned out OK, and to Plan.
I've known at least 6 Folks in our Circle that killed themselves via Drink. One phenom labeled 'Late Stage Alcoholism' keeps many from having Sobriety stick after Rehab, or Hospitalization. Or, Jail. Significant physical side-effects notwithstanding, Sobriety simply doesn't feel 'normal'. So, it is not automatically a desirable State to be in, or worth exerting effort to stay in. It feels very alien. There was an intense attraction to return to the familiar. Not drinking while building was not an option, I found. At the end of the Day, I was simply one more Person drinking on the Job. Very common.
One effect I got very familiar with is 'Persistent Stupor'. You're not really 'all there'. Just surviving, and maintaining some partial Consciousness. Life with a hidden, partial Black-Out going on. I had to move well beyond that State for Months to realize in retrospect where I had trapped myself, and to appreciate The New Normal of continuous Sobriety.
I *lived* it. I get it...
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I'm still amazed I am sober. Most days I don't think about it but when it hits me I can't help but just sit here in awe.
We are having a house built and we were watching them frame it up this weekend. Of course this is a stressful endeavor as is life itself.
Both days after lunch they bring back some beer. They have one every hour or so. They are working sun up to sun down and are not over doing it so it is OK with me.
Well I used to do this type of work and I too would drink if I could while working. Of course I would drink 2 or 3 to everyone else's 1. Of course my work would suffer also.
Well sitting in the shade with my buddy who has a beer in a glass OF COURSE the AV has to chime in.
"Man! Remember those days?!" "Smell the fresh wood!" " Ice cold beer". "Wouldn't it be great to have a beer and drive some nails?"
I think about it for a few minutes, Way longer than I ever let my AV hang around normally. I did not get a real craving for alcohol itself. More like a desire for relaxation. Nostalgia for the younger stronger me. My AV had those rose colored glasses on but me, the Real fish, had his magnifying glasses on. He could see past the rosey picture painted by the AV. It was pretty easy to see through. Same old same old. The Real fish made a quick and easy decision to ignore the rest of that conversation.
On the way home the wife spots a sign, Fresh Homestyle Ice Cream!!!!
(Sound of tires screeching into parking lot) LOL
Ahhh peace and relaxation. And ice cream. THIS is life. The GOOD life.
Had I decided to drink it would have been all I wanted to do. Instead I had some excellent ice cream and went home to relax some more. Not get sloshed and feel like ass today.
Dee always stresses building a life you love to remove the desire for alcohol. I could not agree more. I wasn't sure if I would ever get there but I think I'm coming around.
People count on me 24/7 now, not only before I start drinking. Stressful at times but I Love it. I can count on myself 24/7 and I love it.
So when times get bad and you "Think" only a drink will do I got news for ya. Ice cream works Much Much better.
We are having a house built and we were watching them frame it up this weekend. Of course this is a stressful endeavor as is life itself.
Both days after lunch they bring back some beer. They have one every hour or so. They are working sun up to sun down and are not over doing it so it is OK with me.
Well I used to do this type of work and I too would drink if I could while working. Of course I would drink 2 or 3 to everyone else's 1. Of course my work would suffer also.
Well sitting in the shade with my buddy who has a beer in a glass OF COURSE the AV has to chime in.
"Man! Remember those days?!" "Smell the fresh wood!" " Ice cold beer". "Wouldn't it be great to have a beer and drive some nails?"
I think about it for a few minutes, Way longer than I ever let my AV hang around normally. I did not get a real craving for alcohol itself. More like a desire for relaxation. Nostalgia for the younger stronger me. My AV had those rose colored glasses on but me, the Real fish, had his magnifying glasses on. He could see past the rosey picture painted by the AV. It was pretty easy to see through. Same old same old. The Real fish made a quick and easy decision to ignore the rest of that conversation.
On the way home the wife spots a sign, Fresh Homestyle Ice Cream!!!!
(Sound of tires screeching into parking lot) LOL
Ahhh peace and relaxation. And ice cream. THIS is life. The GOOD life.
Had I decided to drink it would have been all I wanted to do. Instead I had some excellent ice cream and went home to relax some more. Not get sloshed and feel like ass today.
Dee always stresses building a life you love to remove the desire for alcohol. I could not agree more. I wasn't sure if I would ever get there but I think I'm coming around.
People count on me 24/7 now, not only before I start drinking. Stressful at times but I Love it. I can count on myself 24/7 and I love it.
So when times get bad and you "Think" only a drink will do I got news for ya. Ice cream works Much Much better.
Good Morning Weekenders (my clock says ‘pre-dawn’), it’s still dark.
I think when I was in the throes of boozing I put on a front! Of course I didn’t want anyone to find out, I didn’t want to lose my job. And I certainly didn’t want anyone to take my alcohol away, so it was a constant game. If I had admitted to it I’d have had to stop my drinking. And sadly that was my number 1 priority back then, drink and have enough drink.
Getting off that crazy ride was the best thing I did for myself. When I glance back I’m so so pleased I closed the door on booze and walk the road of recovery. It was hard for me at first. Forsaking my body of alcohol made it torment me for a while until it actually got used to no booze and eventually liked sobriety.
If you’re thinking you want to stop the boozing, the hangovers, the embarrassment, the expense and every other thing boozing takes from you, give sobriety a go! It may be the best thing you do for yourself…your family…your life.
Love to all Weekenders xxxx
I think when I was in the throes of boozing I put on a front! Of course I didn’t want anyone to find out, I didn’t want to lose my job. And I certainly didn’t want anyone to take my alcohol away, so it was a constant game. If I had admitted to it I’d have had to stop my drinking. And sadly that was my number 1 priority back then, drink and have enough drink.
Getting off that crazy ride was the best thing I did for myself. When I glance back I’m so so pleased I closed the door on booze and walk the road of recovery. It was hard for me at first. Forsaking my body of alcohol made it torment me for a while until it actually got used to no booze and eventually liked sobriety.
If you’re thinking you want to stop the boozing, the hangovers, the embarrassment, the expense and every other thing boozing takes from you, give sobriety a go! It may be the best thing you do for yourself…your family…your life.
Love to all Weekenders xxxx
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