Sober tools for the festivities.Weekenders 17-20 December 2021
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London, England
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Happy Birthday LoveHateWine.
Sorry to read you have to change your plans MLD. A very wise decision though and you can look forward to the Birthday party next year.
Well done Willow, 7 months is great, a drink isn't worth giving that up. My AV was relentless for a very long time and still lets me know it is alive now and again. Less often but huge when it does strike. Never give up fighting it. I try and accept that it is part of my life and there is not much I can do about it.
Sao fingers crossed you don't get it at all. Just don't go clubbing
Least so sorry you are in the wars. You really have had a rough few months. Hopefully things will take a turn for the better very soon.
Happy Friday everyone.
Sorry to read you have to change your plans MLD. A very wise decision though and you can look forward to the Birthday party next year.
Well done Willow, 7 months is great, a drink isn't worth giving that up. My AV was relentless for a very long time and still lets me know it is alive now and again. Less often but huge when it does strike. Never give up fighting it. I try and accept that it is part of my life and there is not much I can do about it.
Sao fingers crossed you don't get it at all. Just don't go clubbing
Least so sorry you are in the wars. You really have had a rough few months. Hopefully things will take a turn for the better very soon.
Happy Friday everyone.
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Join Date: Jan 2021
Location: NC
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Thanks Mags. I am in for another sober weekend.
I have one more day with my mom here in Florida. We still don't have a diagnosis. Most likely cancer but don't know where. Still waiting on her getting a PET scan that cannot be done where she is. She has to be discharged to another rehab facility that is affiliated with her retirement community and then she can hopefully get the scan. We have been visiting her everyday day and sometimes twice. I am concerned about leaving tomorrow because my siblings that are down here are not as reliable about visiting and her partner is 90 and get there by himself. I am going to have to be assertive to the point of being rude with my siblings that they need to coordinate and see her every day once I leave. She has dementia and needs an advocate there. I love my sibs but they are just not proactive about this sort of thing.
Today is my one year sober date but it is hard to celebrate right now with my mother's illness. I am also overwhelmed because we are going to have to come back to Florida to clean out her house as she will not be able to return home. Her partner is going to be moved to assisted living and my mom will go to a rehab facility and then maybe skilled nursing with hospice care.
I am grateful to be one year sober. But things are really tough between my mom and PAWS. The past few days I have wanted to drink more than any other time in my sobriety. I am around my sibs and in a town where I used to party a lot. Add in the stress and worry about my mother and the AV has been roaring. But I have not come close to picking up. But every time we pass a bar or I see alcohol I long for it. I will continue to put one foot in front of the other.
I have one more day with my mom here in Florida. We still don't have a diagnosis. Most likely cancer but don't know where. Still waiting on her getting a PET scan that cannot be done where she is. She has to be discharged to another rehab facility that is affiliated with her retirement community and then she can hopefully get the scan. We have been visiting her everyday day and sometimes twice. I am concerned about leaving tomorrow because my siblings that are down here are not as reliable about visiting and her partner is 90 and get there by himself. I am going to have to be assertive to the point of being rude with my siblings that they need to coordinate and see her every day once I leave. She has dementia and needs an advocate there. I love my sibs but they are just not proactive about this sort of thing.
Today is my one year sober date but it is hard to celebrate right now with my mother's illness. I am also overwhelmed because we are going to have to come back to Florida to clean out her house as she will not be able to return home. Her partner is going to be moved to assisted living and my mom will go to a rehab facility and then maybe skilled nursing with hospice care.
I am grateful to be one year sober. But things are really tough between my mom and PAWS. The past few days I have wanted to drink more than any other time in my sobriety. I am around my sibs and in a town where I used to party a lot. Add in the stress and worry about my mother and the AV has been roaring. But I have not come close to picking up. But every time we pass a bar or I see alcohol I long for it. I will continue to put one foot in front of the other.
Giving up is NOT an option.
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Location: Western Wisconsin
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That's a lot of your plate, CBS. I can understand wanting to drink to get some relief from all of that. Congratulations on your one year, even if you don't feel like celebrating right now, it's a fantastic accomplishment, and we celebrate you! Can you get yourself a piece of cake or something?
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
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CBS, you are dealing with so much; my heart goes out to you. Caring for an aging parent takes all we have. Lean on us; many of us have been where you are.
Congratulations on your sober date.
Sao; stay safe. Omicron was found here (both in diagnosis and in tested wastewater) about 10 days and, already, our daily cases have more than doubled.
Stay save, EVERYONE.
Congratulations on your sober date.
Sao; stay safe. Omicron was found here (both in diagnosis and in tested wastewater) about 10 days and, already, our daily cases have more than doubled.
Stay save, EVERYONE.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,205
I actually left work at 3pm today, did some shopping and now I'm home, I might not come out until April
Thanks Canadian Koala - Shonen Knife were Kirk Cobain's favourites. Not sure if that's a good or a bad thing but I like them.
Congratulations on a year sober CBS! I'm sorry you are having a tough time of things right now but not drinking through them is DEFINITELY the right thing.
Congratulations on you 7 months too Willow.
Thanks Canadian Koala - Shonen Knife were Kirk Cobain's favourites. Not sure if that's a good or a bad thing but I like them.
Congratulations on a year sober CBS! I'm sorry you are having a tough time of things right now but not drinking through them is DEFINITELY the right thing.
Congratulations on you 7 months too Willow.
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CBS, Sorry for everything you’re going through with your mom and her home 
The av always likes to rear it’s head when things are tough. Hang in there, you’ll get through better sober. Congratulations on a year sober too.
The av always likes to rear it’s head when things are tough. Hang in there, you’ll get through better sober. Congratulations on a year sober too.
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Originally Posted by CBS62 
Thanks Mags. I am in for another sober weekend.
I have one more day with my mom here in Florida. We still don't have a diagnosis. Most likely cancer but don't know where. Still waiting on her getting a PET scan that cannot be done where she is. She has to be discharged to another rehab facility that is affiliated with her retirement community and then she can hopefully get the scan. We have been visiting her everyday day and sometimes twice. I am concerned about leaving tomorrow because my siblings that are down here are not as reliable about visiting and her partner is 90 and get there by himself. I am going to have to be assertive to the point of being rude with my siblings that they need to coordinate and see her every day once I leave. She has dementia and needs an advocate there. I love my sibs but they are just not proactive about this sort of thing.
Today is my one year sober date but it is hard to celebrate right now with my mother's illness. I am also overwhelmed because we are going to have to come back to Florida to clean out her house as she will not be able to return home. Her partner is going to be moved to assisted living and my mom will go to a rehab facility and then maybe skilled nursing with hospice care.
I am grateful to be one year sober. But things are really tough between my mom and PAWS. The past few days I have wanted to drink more than any other time in my sobriety. I am around my sibs and in a town where I used to party a lot. Add in the stress and worry about my mother and the AV has been roaring. But I have not come close to picking up. But every time we pass a bar or I see alcohol I long for it. I will continue to put one foot in front of the other.
I have one more day with my mom here in Florida. We still don't have a diagnosis. Most likely cancer but don't know where. Still waiting on her getting a PET scan that cannot be done where she is. She has to be discharged to another rehab facility that is affiliated with her retirement community and then she can hopefully get the scan. We have been visiting her everyday day and sometimes twice. I am concerned about leaving tomorrow because my siblings that are down here are not as reliable about visiting and her partner is 90 and get there by himself. I am going to have to be assertive to the point of being rude with my siblings that they need to coordinate and see her every day once I leave. She has dementia and needs an advocate there. I love my sibs but they are just not proactive about this sort of thing.
Today is my one year sober date but it is hard to celebrate right now with my mother's illness. I am also overwhelmed because we are going to have to come back to Florida to clean out her house as she will not be able to return home. Her partner is going to be moved to assisted living and my mom will go to a rehab facility and then maybe skilled nursing with hospice care.
I am grateful to be one year sober. But things are really tough between my mom and PAWS. The past few days I have wanted to drink more than any other time in my sobriety. I am around my sibs and in a town where I used to party a lot. Add in the stress and worry about my mother and the AV has been roaring. But I have not come close to picking up. But every time we pass a bar or I see alcohol I long for it. I will continue to put one foot in front of the other.
My siblings basically look after my folks. They drive I don’t and my folks are a couple of hours away.
I had great trouble entrusting the job to them when my folks moved…but they picked up the ball pretty well.
I hope it will be the same for you
D
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
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Originally Posted by Mags1
Saou, are they expecting a full lockdown in your area?
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The other half seem to be partying like it's 1999 which is a shame 'cos Prince did it better.
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Thanks everyone 
Mags and Kaily, I will take your advice and try to ignore the AV over Christmas, I don’t think it’s going away. Kaily I think that like you, the AV still has a loud voice. Even when I’m was sober for about 18 months the first time around, it was a relentless beast. I have to learn to live with it, and not give it air space. Ignore ignore ignore….
CBS well done on a year! Even though you don’t feel like celebrating in the circumstances with your Mom, we acknowledge what a fantastic achievement 1 year sober is. Sending you a big cyber hug of support, and prayers for your Mom ❤️
Stay safe Sao.
happy birthday LHW
Mags and Kaily, I will take your advice and try to ignore the AV over Christmas, I don’t think it’s going away. Kaily I think that like you, the AV still has a loud voice. Even when I’m was sober for about 18 months the first time around, it was a relentless beast. I have to learn to live with it, and not give it air space. Ignore ignore ignore….
CBS well done on a year! Even though you don’t feel like celebrating in the circumstances with your Mom, we acknowledge what a fantastic achievement 1 year sober is. Sending you a big cyber hug of support, and prayers for your Mom ❤️
Stay safe Sao.
happy birthday LHW
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That song reminds me of all the Y2K paranoia. Don't know if it was such a big deal elsewhere. Many here were petrified that there would be a catastrophic failure of all electronics at the stroke of midnight on December 31, 1999. Many were stockpiling like six months worth of nonperishable food and whatever.
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