Hawkeye13

Your recovery and recovery plan has to be your priority for things to work.

You are worth it--the drama with these people is not
It's a distractor and too easily used as an excuse.

You deserve more--please focus on your recovery 100% with the tools
you need to make it work -who cares what that jerk did / does?

Ariesagain

Hon, every trolling married guy says he’s in a “sexless marriage.”

And it sounds kinda judgmental of you to call her “frigid.” Just saying.

Regardless, that’s not your mess and it’s not good for you or your sobriety.

Leave them by the side of the road and on.

AnvilheadII

so he was ALWAYS married, this whole time?

huh.

Della1968

I would be frigid too if my husband was an abusive cheat.

Let them go they serve you no purpose.

Dee74

Hows it going in terms of your recovery, sweetichick?

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sweetichick

I didn't call her frigid. He did. I can understand why. He almost sent me frigid.

sweetichick

On a more positive note. I saw my shrink today about my severe panic attacks. He is seeing me again in ten days instead of 2 months. He is not sure if it is just Christmas setting me off. He gave me valium to help.

markinny

I've been following your posts/threads for a while now and from what I remember you own the house you live in? that would make things more difficult but the only answer I can see at this point would be to put some distance between you and them and I mean that literally. the drama won't end until you make some drastic changes in your thinking if it means calling the police or doing whatever it takes to get sober. I had to do it as hard as it was because I had reached my bottom. I guess it maybe boils down to what is most important...

markinny

just saw your last post. I doubt Christmas is setting you off any more than valium is going to help. that's why I don't go to shrinks

tomsteve

its untreated alcoholism setting you off.
valium now. oh......boy........
please dont go down that road. i lost a friend to a valium addiction- the lights were on but noone was home until the lights were turned off.

sweetichick

Whatever. Hes a professional wh o are you

Della1968

Please please be careful with drinking and a benzo

tomsteve

someone who cares enough to say what i know and hopes you decide to not use pill form alcohol.
good luck onyour journey

least

This cannot be emphasized enough!!

sweetichick

I've taken no benzos so far. I was shaking so much I couldn't walk. I have no hot water. Plus its my daughter birthday tomorrow. This is. A terrible time of year for me. If you don't get it then ignore the thread. Don't abuse me

markinny

I just have to wonder. are you being honest with the dr about your personal situation and your drinking ?

Anna

This thread has had multiple posts removed.

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SportsFan15

I bring no judgement, only compassion and support. I understand panic attacks, as I have them as well. I'm sending you big hugs, if that is comforting to you. Whatever soothes you that is healthy, think of those things.

My little dog loves to burrow into the pile of warm towels I lay on the couch. EVERY time I do laundry, the moment they are hot out of the dryer, she's there, seeking out her cozy spot. I'm learning to seek out what is soothing to me, like my little dog does. It's hard for me to try to relax myself but I've found new ways: warm bath with Epsom salts, ocean wave music, listening to the fan blow, doing light stretching, and closing my eyes and imagining something that gives me joy. You deserve these things too.

Find your cozy spot to soothe you, sweetichick. I'll keep doing so, too!

AnvilheadII

He is not sure if it is just Christmas setting me off.

or..................?

sweetichick

Thanks Anna. Maybe I am just too honest. Thanks for removing posts. My life is hard enough.