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Old 12-15-2017, 07:12 AM
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Your recovery and recovery plan has to be your priority for things to work.

You are worth it--the drama with these people is not
It's a distractor and too easily used as an excuse.

You deserve more--please focus on your recovery 100% with the tools
you need to make it work -who cares what that jerk did / does?
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Old 12-15-2017, 09:05 AM
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You can pass judgment. He was a boyfriend till I ended it due to my conscience. He is in a sexless marriage. Hes into kink. Anyway who is knocking on whose door? She is frigid due to his kinky taste.
Hon, every trolling married guy says he’s in a “sexless marriage.”

And it sounds kinda judgmental of you to call her “frigid.” Just saying.

Regardless, that’s not your mess and it’s not good for you or your sobriety.

Leave them by the side of the road and on.
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Old 12-15-2017, 10:46 AM
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so he was ALWAYS married, this whole time?

huh.
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Old 12-15-2017, 11:49 AM
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I would be frigid too if my husband was an abusive cheat.

Let them go they serve you no purpose.
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Old 12-15-2017, 04:35 PM
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Hows it going in terms of your recovery, sweetichick?

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Old 12-15-2017, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain View Post
Hon, every trolling married guy says he’s in a “sexless marriage.”

And it sounds kinda judgmental of you to call her “frigid.” Just saying.

Regardless, that’s not your mess and it’s not good for you or your sobriety.

Leave them by the side of the road and on.
I didn't call her frigid. He did. I can understand why. He almost sent me frigid.
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Old 12-15-2017, 04:43 PM
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On a more positive note. I saw my shrink today about my severe panic attacks. He is seeing me again in ten days instead of 2 months. He is not sure if it is just Christmas setting me off. He gave me valium to help.
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Old 12-15-2017, 05:49 PM
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I've been following your posts/threads for a while now and from what I remember you own the house you live in? that would make things more difficult but the only answer I can see at this point would be to put some distance between you and them and I mean that literally. the drama won't end until you make some drastic changes in your thinking if it means calling the police or doing whatever it takes to get sober. I had to do it as hard as it was because I had reached my bottom. I guess it maybe boils down to what is most important...
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Old 12-15-2017, 05:57 PM
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just saw your last post. I doubt Christmas is setting you off any more than valium is going to help. that's why I don't go to shrinks
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:02 PM
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Originally Posted by sweetichick View Post
On a more positive note. I saw my shrink today about my severe panic attacks. He is seeing me again in ten days instead of 2 months. He is not sure if it is just Christmas setting me off. He gave me valium to help.
its untreated alcoholism setting you off.
valium now. oh......boy........
please dont go down that road. i lost a friend to a valium addiction- the lights were on but noone was home until the lights were turned off.
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:05 PM
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Whatever. Hes a professional wh o are you

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Please please be careful with drinking and a benzo
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:10 PM
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Whatever. Hes a professional wh o are you
someone who cares enough to say what i know and hopes you decide to not use pill form alcohol.
good luck onyour journey

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Please please be careful with drinking and a benzo
This cannot be emphasized enough!!
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:17 PM
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I've taken no benzos so far. I was shaking so much I couldn't walk. I have no hot water. Plus its my daughter birthday tomorrow. This is. A terrible time of year for me. If you don't get it then ignore the thread. Don't abuse me
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:20 PM
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I just have to wonder. are you being honest with the dr about your personal situation and your drinking ?
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:52 PM
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Old 12-15-2017, 07:23 PM
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Big warm hug to you, sweetichick

I bring no judgement, only compassion and support. I understand panic attacks, as I have them as well. I'm sending you big hugs, if that is comforting to you. Whatever soothes you that is healthy, think of those things.

My little dog loves to burrow into the pile of warm towels I lay on the couch. EVERY time I do laundry, the moment they are hot out of the dryer, she's there, seeking out her cozy spot. I'm learning to seek out what is soothing to me, like my little dog does. It's hard for me to try to relax myself but I've found new ways: warm bath with Epsom salts, ocean wave music, listening to the fan blow, doing light stretching, and closing my eyes and imagining something that gives me joy. You deserve these things too.

Find your cozy spot to soothe you, sweetichick. I'll keep doing so, too!
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Old 12-15-2017, 07:36 PM
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He is not sure if it is just Christmas setting me off.

or..................?
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Old 12-15-2017, 08:05 PM
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Thanks Anna. Maybe I am just too honest. Thanks for removing posts. My life is hard enough.
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