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Old 10-19-2017, 06:47 AM
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Beautiful OP Vinny, thank you!
Staying mindful and in the moment is the only way I live my life now.
Anything else invites an anxiety attack and many regrets.
I can't undo the past and I can't foresee the future. Here's to today.
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Old 10-19-2017, 07:04 AM
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Joe its nice to see you outside the 24h recovery thread
Hello SS ( view of Deer out the office window, wow )
Nice to see you too Bandi
Gilmer, sober maturity. Its my aim.
Bimini, when im not in the present or in the "illusion" its bad news.
Joe I hope you feel better later on today

Later gang
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Old 10-19-2017, 07:15 AM
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First time posting on this thread, I always seem to be the one who shows up late to the party, so to speak.

I am working on the "in the moment" process, good project for me this weekend that I won't be drinking!

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Old 10-19-2017, 08:21 AM
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Welcome to the weekender badgerden.
Its great to have you on board
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Old 10-19-2017, 08:23 AM
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Count me in for the beautiful life stuff, baby! A beautiful weekend thread by my friend Vman.
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Old 10-19-2017, 08:42 AM
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Thanks Snazzy. Your in
Time to hit the road home.
See you all later.
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Old 10-19-2017, 10:55 AM
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Welcome to Weekenders to all the newcomers, good to see you.

Joandmelandhan I sure hope you feel better soon. Even normal drinkers don't have all that stuff worked out so your not alone.

Nearly 7pm here and i'm just leaving work.meh.
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Old 10-19-2017, 11:32 AM
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great opening post Vman!

I was very good at being in the moment when I was drinking. now I "play the tape" forward to the ensuing hangover, guilt & shame.

by the end of my drinking, that day's alcohol was only providing a brief respite from the effects of the previous day's; rinse & repeat ad infinitum. <shudders at memory>
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Old 10-19-2017, 11:52 AM
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Good evening Andy !
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Old 10-19-2017, 12:05 PM
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Vman, great post. I remember a motivational speaker at work years ago. He talked about 'being in the room'. From what I remember he said, if I am at work, I can't be anywhere else but there, so I have to be there 100 percent. Same if I'm on the golf course, I can't do work while I golf, or tend to my family. I'm there to golf, so I am there 100 percent. Whatever room I happen to be in I have to be fully present in that room because I can't physically be anywhere else.

This was years ago a and I hadn't even heard of mindfulness back then but I always remembered it. Whatever moment you are in, be in it 100 percent and give it all your attention. Not always easy but it definitely resonates and makes a lot of sense. Fine work classmate!
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Old 10-19-2017, 12:19 PM
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Nice to hear from you Lily

Agree totally. Reminds me of when I do DIY around the house. When you give your all and concentrate on the job in hand it can be very rewarding experience.
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Old 10-19-2017, 12:34 PM
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Thank you V for the great post. Count me in for the weekend. I am trying to live in the present......failing miserably most of the time.

I know in my soul I can't be a normal drinker so my AV doesn't try that one. Instead it creeps about with the incessant whisper that I could keep it to one binge a year. Just one. Sounds mad when I type it, but it is so convincing in my head.
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Old 10-19-2017, 12:47 PM
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Thank you V for the great post. Count me in for the weekend. I am trying to live in the present......failing miserably most of the time.

I know in my soul I can't be a normal drinker so my AV doesn't try that one. Instead it creeps about with the incessant whisper that I could keep it to one binge a year. Just one. Sounds mad when I type it, but it is so convincing in my head.
Here's what my mind would do with that one.

"One binge a year!!"
*goes ahead and does one*

*Five days later-*
"Well, that wasn't so bad! Maybe one binge a month. Yeah."

*December rolls around-*
"Golly, so many parties! I'll just drink through the holidays, but only at parties."

*In May-*
"When was the last time I wasn't hungover?"

*Next September.. I'm going to go back to Sober Recovery-*
"Hi, everyone! What a horrible year, but I'm back! I think I'll try one binge a year. Yeah."
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Old 10-19-2017, 01:02 PM
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Got you down for the weekend DS.
I was there too... one 10 day bender became months, then sick leave, then doctor, tablets....then tears...... and then back to Day 1 a broken down wreck.
Tomorrow doesn’t exist yet, yesterday ceased to exist, only now matters....

Sounding like a budhist again bimini ?
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Old 10-19-2017, 01:07 PM
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Vman, great post. I remember a motivational speaker at work years ago. He talked about 'being in the room'. From what I remember he said, if I am at work, I can't be anywhere else but there, so I have to be there 100 percent. Same if I'm on the golf course, I can't do work while I golf, or tend to my family. I'm there to golf, so I am there 100 percent. Whatever room I happen to be in I have to be fully present in that room because I can't physically be anywhere else.
Thanks for sharing this, Lilymaz! I’d never heard of “being in the room.” That’s an excellent way to approach it!
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Old 10-19-2017, 08:24 PM
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Good morning all.

So today I am going back to Ireland for a week to see my mom family and friends. We are all going mrs Vman and little miss vman (avatar)
My mom was saying that they were flooding at the moment. Good old ireland. Still cant wait though
Take care and watch out for the friday feeling !
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Old 10-19-2017, 10:23 PM
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Morning everyone, dreading going to work today, I will be glad when this week is over.
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Old 10-19-2017, 11:50 PM
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Sao you will have a great weekend ahead.
Wishing you strength and courage today.
Thanks for all the great weekenders
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Old 10-20-2017, 01:46 AM
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Hi, everyone.

I am in the process of ordering items from Ikea to finally organize my working space. I just can't wait to put a proper desk together. Considering I am working from home all this mess just drives me crazy and hinders my productivity.

Of course, there will be a challenge to assemble all this...

But one step at a time)

Have a good one, weekenders)
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