The Small Stuff Weekender Thread 06-09 October 2016
Member
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 3,010
I spent the day with my family. As we were out walking my mom told me she had a phone call from one of her sisters during the week. As a result of the trouble over my Grandmothers will, it was mentioned that my mother's brother has been saying things about my parents. Mostly that my mother looked fat at the wedding they went to over the summer. Also that my mother is a "loudmouth" and my father is a "sissy".
When I heard the above I was outraged and wanted to call over to his house and have it out. My dad was laughing at me for being ridiculous. He mentioned a British comedienne he likes. She used to do a skit where she was playing a teenage girl and the catchphrase was "am I bothered?" My dad was repeating "am I bothered? Do I look bothered?"
My dad who is a gentleman and who was so good to my mother's family all through the years. And this is how he is re-paid. By being thrown out of the house and called a "sissy".
My mom told me to let it go. If anything happens - a crisis or whatever we might be grateful of the family support. I have never ever thought of these people as my family. My mother's family perhaps, but not my family. If there was a crisis they would be the last people I would turn to for help.
I have done some terrible things over the years but as it stands right now, the three things that I am most grateful for are: my sobriety, my job and the fact that I am my father's daughter. I hope some of his kindness has rubbed off on me. I am told that I have his looks and mannerisms so hopefully the goodness as well.
Ok rant over.
When I heard the above I was outraged and wanted to call over to his house and have it out. My dad was laughing at me for being ridiculous. He mentioned a British comedienne he likes. She used to do a skit where she was playing a teenage girl and the catchphrase was "am I bothered?" My dad was repeating "am I bothered? Do I look bothered?"
My dad who is a gentleman and who was so good to my mother's family all through the years. And this is how he is re-paid. By being thrown out of the house and called a "sissy".
My mom told me to let it go. If anything happens - a crisis or whatever we might be grateful of the family support. I have never ever thought of these people as my family. My mother's family perhaps, but not my family. If there was a crisis they would be the last people I would turn to for help.
I have done some terrible things over the years but as it stands right now, the three things that I am most grateful for are: my sobriety, my job and the fact that I am my father's daughter. I hope some of his kindness has rubbed off on me. I am told that I have his looks and mannerisms so hopefully the goodness as well.
Ok rant over.
Member
Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 973
Howdy Folks 
Back from the game safe and sound.....it was rainy but sober and PSU won, so all in all I'm calling it a success!
Tetra-I know what you mean about it being your mother's family. We have similar dynamics within our family as well. We're all so different it's hard to believe we come from the same blood line. I've pretty much written them off....not in a mean way but in a you can think what you would like about me and my family way. Its their right to believe whatever it is they want to believe.....that is their opinion. Similarly, it's my right to not give 2 shakes. Shake it off sister and don't let them get you down! You know who you are and who your father is, and that's all that matters.
Back from the game safe and sound.....it was rainy but sober and PSU won, so all in all I'm calling it a success!Tetra-I know what you mean about it being your mother's family. We have similar dynamics within our family as well. We're all so different it's hard to believe we come from the same blood line. I've pretty much written them off....not in a mean way but in a you can think what you would like about me and my family way. Its their right to believe whatever it is they want to believe.....that is their opinion. Similarly, it's my right to not give 2 shakes. Shake it off sister and don't let them get you down! You know who you are and who your father is, and that's all that matters.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,210
Morning everyone
I hope you all make it through Saturday night
It is a fairly pleasant Sunday morning here, I jogged down to the Olympic Stadium and back this morning, not very far, about a three mile round trip. It was built with public money and sold for a pittance to a former pornographer who now owns a football club by a former mayor. So much for the Olympic legacy
Coffee is on, much needed
I hope you all make it through Saturday night
It is a fairly pleasant Sunday morning here, I jogged down to the Olympic Stadium and back this morning, not very far, about a three mile round trip. It was built with public money and sold for a pittance to a former pornographer who now owns a football club by a former mayor. So much for the Olympic legacy
Coffee is on, much needed
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,210
I had breakfast in a place called Bird, eggs and hash browns followed by blueberry pancakes, not bad at all. They do some delicious looking breakfasts here but they look like they contain vast numbers of calories (even more than the blueberry pancakes). I would have to jog all the way to the Midlands to burn those off
I received a phone call from my youngest daughter this morning (I am probably one of the few people that she does something as old fashioned as "phoning" dinosaurs like me are not really "across" social media lol!). She and her boyfriend went to a foam party last night. Clean living after a fashion I suppose
Talking of social media my eldest daughter is a member of a WhatsApp chat group for mums with toddlers, I was kind of watching as she posted some bits and pieces and I noticed that there seemed to be a competitive mum aspect to it "my little Toby has joined the choir" etc. Glad that stuff wasn't around when Mrs Sao and me were parents, would have felt pretty inadequate
I received a phone call from my youngest daughter this morning (I am probably one of the few people that she does something as old fashioned as "phoning" dinosaurs like me are not really "across" social media lol!). She and her boyfriend went to a foam party last night. Clean living after a fashion I suppose
Talking of social media my eldest daughter is a member of a WhatsApp chat group for mums with toddlers, I was kind of watching as she posted some bits and pieces and I noticed that there seemed to be a competitive mum aspect to it "my little Toby has joined the choir" etc. Glad that stuff wasn't around when Mrs Sao and me were parents, would have felt pretty inadequate
Member
Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 973
Morning All!
Babysitting grandchild #2 today! So excited, I don't often get her all to myself!
Wishing y'all a happy & sober Sunday!
Sao-You've officially inspired me to get off my lazy kick and resume my daily runs. I think it does more for my head than my body honestly. Love hearing where you're off too....no where glamorous to run here. Enjoy that breakfast, you've earned it
Babysitting grandchild #2 today! So excited, I don't often get her all to myself!
Wishing y'all a happy & sober Sunday!
Sao-You've officially inspired me to get off my lazy kick and resume my daily runs. I think it does more for my head than my body honestly. Love hearing where you're off too....no where glamorous to run here. Enjoy that breakfast, you've earned it
Guest
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Ashburn, VA
Posts: 30,196
I've been eating like a horse all month, and I've put on a few of the pounds I had lost in the spring.
I'm trying to gen up some firm resolve to get back on my treadmill routine. I have to do it soon after I wake up, or I won't manage to get to it.
I haven't done it since last March, when our tenants moved in. The excuse is, "I don't want to disturb them!"
But they've always said it's no problem--and the treadmill isn't directly over their bedroom, so it's mostly just plain old avoidance!
I am determined to do it as soon as I finish my morning SR surf in five
minutes. Hold me to it!
I'm trying to gen up some firm resolve to get back on my treadmill routine. I have to do it soon after I wake up, or I won't manage to get to it.
I haven't done it since last March, when our tenants moved in. The excuse is, "I don't want to disturb them!"
But they've always said it's no problem--and the treadmill isn't directly over their bedroom, so it's mostly just plain old avoidance!
I am determined to do it as soon as I finish my morning SR surf in five
minutes. Hold me to it!
Member
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: PA
Posts: 12,000
Since I took a break after my summer of constant going, I put on a few pounds too... the chocolate candy didn't help. But I started going to the gym again... my goal is still 180, but I took a slight detour on the way...
glad the trip to happy valley was a success Sim... it could take years for them to get back what they once had...
Sao, a breakfast place called the Bird, eggs and hashbrowns? Peculiar name.
I'm eating at the LBrainian this morning
Oats with honey, walnuts and a berry mix..
it looks exactly like this:
glad the trip to happy valley was a success Sim... it could take years for them to get back what they once had...
Sao, a breakfast place called the Bird, eggs and hashbrowns? Peculiar name.
I'm eating at the LBrainian this morning
Oats with honey, walnuts and a berry mix..
it looks exactly like this:
Sober since October
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: In the world in my eyes...Somewhere I've never been before...
Posts: 7,355
Originally Posted by Gilmer 
I am determined to do it as soon as I finish my morning SR surf in five
minutes. Hold me to it!
minutes. Hold me to it!
Member
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: PA
Posts: 12,000
yeah, get on the treadmill... my neighbor across the street has a speedbag mounted in the corner of spare bedroom that shares a wall with the adjoined half of the duplex... I can hear it in my house across the street. Imagine what it must sound like living next door to it. Every day it sounds like ... it sounds like somebody hitting a speed bag - more like ten roofers hammering nails in unison...
Member
Join Date: Aug 2016
Location: Ohio
Posts: 420
Sao - that social media competitive stuff can be really rough on moms! Especially when we only tend to see others' "highlights". I've stayed off of it all so much since being sober. I can lean towards taking all of it too personally though I wouldn't want to admit it!
Spam scares me.
The next Sunday that I have the kids I need to get back to going to church regularly and need to make my kids go to the kids/teen programs. It's going to be a struggle so I'm dreading it but I think it's the best thing for them. (and me).
Upset that our town changed trick-or-treat times to when i'll be working. I don't have many years left of them doing this so I am really bummed about it.
Going to get caught up and regroup today to get ready for the week ahead.
-J
Spam scares me.
The next Sunday that I have the kids I need to get back to going to church regularly and need to make my kids go to the kids/teen programs. It's going to be a struggle so I'm dreading it but I think it's the best thing for them. (and me).
Upset that our town changed trick-or-treat times to when i'll be working. I don't have many years left of them doing this so I am really bummed about it.
Going to get caught up and regroup today to get ready for the week ahead.
-J
Member
Join Date: May 2014
Location: usa
Posts: 3,938
Good morning eveyone!
Hangover free Sunday mornings are the best....I don't take them for granted.
time for my morning walk with the doggies. Then football, football, and some more football. My kind of Sunday.
Hangover free Sunday mornings are the best....I don't take them for granted.
time for my morning walk with the doggies. Then football, football, and some more football. My kind of Sunday.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,210
Glad you are well JF, enjoy Sunday
Well done Gilmer
Julia8 I agree, kids always seem to have to be doing some structured activity these days. It must be really stressful being a mum
Spam?
This is not my pic but it is the inside of Bird, nothing special but good breakfasts
Well done Gilmer
Julia8 I agree, kids always seem to have to be doing some structured activity these days. It must be really stressful being a mum
Spam?
This is not my pic but it is the inside of Bird, nothing special but good breakfasts
Member
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Midwest
Posts: 9,029
Everyone sounds so Serene this morning.
I had s donut for breakfast. I should join Gilmer on the treadmill. Never had to watch what I ate but now I find I must. The joy of getting older.
Glorious fall weather here today. Bright sun and cool breeze. Church then visiting my parents. They just returned from a road trip. The return sounds like it was really difficult as my mother's sister went nuts in the van about everything. It's not just your family, Tetra.
I had s donut for breakfast. I should join Gilmer on the treadmill. Never had to watch what I ate but now I find I must. The joy of getting older.
Glorious fall weather here today. Bright sun and cool breeze. Church then visiting my parents. They just returned from a road trip. The return sounds like it was really difficult as my mother's sister went nuts in the van about everything. It's not just your family, Tetra.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
