Sweetichicks Accountability Thread
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I woke up after my nap in a state of panic desperately searching for the wine I normally keep beside my bed. It was then I remembered I have given up. I am relieved now that I don't drink. It was a scary thought for a while there.
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Originally Posted by sweetichick 
I wish I could do that. Maybe that is the key.
you havent been able to leave the past in the dust so far so that probably wont work. facing ti and learning from it is awesome- you can learn the why of it all and learn what needs to change in you. without knowing what needs to change, nothing can change.
one of the promises of the 9th step- we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...
they will always materialize IF we WORK for them.
there are promises for EVERY step that will materialize IF you WORK for them.
accountability:the fact of being responsible for what you do ; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions;
thats what we do when we work the steps- we take accountability for our life and accept responsibility for the action required to change.
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Originally Posted by sweetichick
I woke up after my nap in a state of panic desperately searching for the wine I normally keep beside my bed. It was then I remembered I have given up. I am relieved now that I don't drink. It was a scary thought for a while there.
I've also saved so much money for other meaningful things it is ridiculous. Add up how much you spend in a week drinking, multiply by 52, and think about what you could do with all that money.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
i hope you dont mean wishing is the key.
you havent been able to leave the past in the dust so far so that probably wont work. facing ti and learning from it is awesome- you can learn the why of it all and learn what needs to change in you. without knowing what needs to change, nothing can change.
one of the promises of the 9th step- we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...
they will always materialize IF we WORK for them.
there are promises for EVERY step that will materialize IF you WORK for them.
accountability:the fact of being responsible for what you do ; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions;
thats what we do when we work the steps- we take accountability for our life and accept responsibility for the action required to change.
you havent been able to leave the past in the dust so far so that probably wont work. facing ti and learning from it is awesome- you can learn the why of it all and learn what needs to change in you. without knowing what needs to change, nothing can change.
one of the promises of the 9th step- we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...
they will always materialize IF we WORK for them.
there are promises for EVERY step that will materialize IF you WORK for them.
accountability:the fact of being responsible for what you do ; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions;
thats what we do when we work the steps- we take accountability for our life and accept responsibility for the action required to change.
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Originally Posted by tomsteve
i hope you dont mean wishing is the key.
you havent been able to leave the past in the dust so far so that probably wont work. facing ti and learning from it is awesome- you can learn the why of it all and learn what needs to change in you. without knowing what needs to change, nothing can change.
one of the promises of the 9th step- we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...
they will always materialize IF we WORK for them.
there are promises for EVERY step that will materialize IF you WORK for them.
accountability:the fact of being responsible for what you do ; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions;
thats what we do when we work the steps- we take accountability for our life and accept responsibility for the action required to change.
you havent been able to leave the past in the dust so far so that probably wont work. facing ti and learning from it is awesome- you can learn the why of it all and learn what needs to change in you. without knowing what needs to change, nothing can change.
one of the promises of the 9th step- we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it...
they will always materialize IF we WORK for them.
there are promises for EVERY step that will materialize IF you WORK for them.
accountability:the fact of being responsible for what you do ; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions;
thats what we do when we work the steps- we take accountability for our life and accept responsibility for the action required to change.
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I think the only way to put the past in the past is to face it and deal with it once and for all. The more we try to bury things, the more they push to surface anyway--and usually in ways we don't suspect, and that are inappropriate. It is scary but afterwards there is a sense of freedom like no other.
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Sweeti -
Will you promise me and the rest of us right now that you will post here FIRST if you think you are going to drink? I have noticed from reading your threads that you never do that. And that you seem like a whole different person when you are drinking vs. not drinking. The "not drinking" you seems rational, thoughtful, and open to suggestion.
Please go to a meeting as soon as you can. Keep an open mind. Get a sponsor, even if it's only a temporary one. REALLY GET Step 1 before you even THINK about the following steps. If you really work those first 3 steps, you will be ready to begin working on step 4 (and 5). Then down the road, you'll be ready for step 8 and 9. And I PROMISE you, if you do that, and complete those sort of intimidating steps, you will feel a sense of relief you never believed possible. Yeah, It's not a lot of fun to recall the past, BUT the whole point is to write it down, tell someone, and LET IT GO. If you don't do it (when you are ready) it's all just going to stay stuffed up in your head and haunt you.
But first things first - post here if you think you're going to drink. Don't drink. Get to a meeting. Work those first 3 steps. Do the rest later.
Will you promise me and the rest of us right now that you will post here FIRST if you think you are going to drink? I have noticed from reading your threads that you never do that. And that you seem like a whole different person when you are drinking vs. not drinking. The "not drinking" you seems rational, thoughtful, and open to suggestion.
Please go to a meeting as soon as you can. Keep an open mind. Get a sponsor, even if it's only a temporary one. REALLY GET Step 1 before you even THINK about the following steps. If you really work those first 3 steps, you will be ready to begin working on step 4 (and 5). Then down the road, you'll be ready for step 8 and 9. And I PROMISE you, if you do that, and complete those sort of intimidating steps, you will feel a sense of relief you never believed possible. Yeah, It's not a lot of fun to recall the past, BUT the whole point is to write it down, tell someone, and LET IT GO. If you don't do it (when you are ready) it's all just going to stay stuffed up in your head and haunt you.
But first things first - post here if you think you're going to drink. Don't drink. Get to a meeting. Work those first 3 steps. Do the rest later.
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Thanks MLD. I needed to hear that before I went to bed. I am still fearful of getting involved with AA again but feel like it is a matter of life or death. I will definitely post even if I am out in the car 9r at the shops.
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Originally Posted by sweetichick
I am still fearful of getting involved with AA again but feel like it is a matter of life or death.
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running hasnt worked too good,eh?
Giving up is NOT an option.
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It very well could be a matter of life or death. Please choose life. You can do it. I got to a point where I didn't think I could do it, either, but I was desperate and had no options, really. I chose life, and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Give yourself that gift. It's also a great gift to those around you who care about you.
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Thinking of you today sober buddy! We can do this! Keep posting and post when you feel urges or want to go to the shop. We are all here for you! I guarantee if I had posted before I picked up last Saturday, I would have poured out the bottle. But I knew everyone would talk me out of it and I made up my mind. That's the problem! We need to surrender and ask for help.
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Originally Posted by sweetichick
I don’t see how dredging up the past will help me.
I'm glad you’re here and seeking sobriety.
as for the past - without dredging I was unable to move forward free of tethers that tied me to alcohol.
The know the steps are scary..... but in one form or another they describe precisely what we must do to escape.
maybe there’s an ‘easier, softer way’
if there is - I’m not sure what it would be.
im glad I took the time to use counseling, steps, men’s work, therapy and group work to work through all I had to do to forgive myself and be free.
may you find your path as well.
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Originally Posted by sweetichick
Thanks MLD. I needed to hear that before I went to bed. I am still fearful of getting involved with AA again but feel like it is a matter of life or death. I will definitely post even if I am out in the car 9r at the shops.
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