Class of October 2010 Sobriety Group
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Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: The Mitten, USA
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With these shades I still remain anonymous! Like Clark Kent. Alcoholic by day, superhero at night.
I put up another picture before this one. A rather stupid gaff on my part. It was a sort of a joke/pun on drug use. All these years in recovery and I still have trouble realizing that other people have triggers. Eh well, it's gone.
And I'm still curious and a little worried about ViciousCircle's cryptic message. :\
I put up another picture before this one. A rather stupid gaff on my part. It was a sort of a joke/pun on drug use. All these years in recovery and I still have trouble realizing that other people have triggers. Eh well, it's gone.
And I'm still curious and a little worried about ViciousCircle's cryptic message. :\
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Scotland
Posts: 1,490
Originally Posted by Moo Moos 
Hi folks, Day17 but I had a terrible day!! Really upset most of the day over something that happened in our office, not my fault, numerous people could see into my office and see how upset I was and when I left work I sat in my car in the carpark and cried hysterically and then cried all the way home. I really feel low, its not the lack of drink, its just physically I feel poorly with no enthusiam for anything. I have had a really bad headache and just feel so disconnected today. I dont want to participate in it all. It is only 7.12pm and I just want to curl up in bed. I feel I have been so positive for the last week but now feel so different. I want to reassure you that I will not drink, just feel really sad 
I don't like and don't deal with work stress very well and I often feel like I have a lot of it.
I hope you went to bed early with a nice cup of tea - that's what I do when I really need to and I just leave hubbie with the mess downstairs - lol.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: uk
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Nearly 2 weeks in this sat..had a real heavy like flu/cold, weather pretty icy here,it dont help, though think am detoxing somewhat..a lot of afternoon naps after work, par for the course i guess, early in again, i did buy a 4 pack of cobra zero % beer, the old friday night curry an lager night needs adjusting somewhat...so its the alternative to the real deal..works for me jus now, alls well though sober and gonna stay so, have a good day all.
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Land of Cotton
Posts: 3,433
This has absolutely NOTHING to do with recovery, except that maybe we can enjoy things like this just a bit more since we're clear-headed! I just had to share this pic with someone!... I thought it was stunning! It's from the National Geographic website and taken in the Bahamas in an underwater cave. Check out that water visibility!!! OMG It looks like they're floating in air!
ANewBeginning
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,822
Wow... one could tell it's getting near a full moon - you guys gave me a good snicker 
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I'm still a little hesitant about this birthday party tomorrow night, but I'll go early and leave early - and my husband will be with me. I'm even more hesitant because I have to leave town for work Sunday night until Tuesday afternoon and will basically be alone in the evenings out of town. Used to be a great time to drink a few or several.
VC - I agree with everyone else - why wait? Come join us
Have a good sober weekend everyone.
.I'm still a little hesitant about this birthday party tomorrow night, but I'll go early and leave early - and my husband will be with me. I'm even more hesitant because I have to leave town for work Sunday night until Tuesday afternoon and will basically be alone in the evenings out of town. Used to be a great time to drink a few or several.
VC - I agree with everyone else - why wait? Come join us
Have a good sober weekend everyone.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 72
Sober for 3 days now
Hi, I am new here.
I decided recently that I need to quit drinking. My health has deteriorated as a result of drinking. I have a good job, I haven't been arrested for drunk driving and I am pretty lucky in that respect. But it could've gone badly very quickly.
I got tired of waking up hungover and spending the day at work drinking lots of fluids and so on... I am tired of looking at all the weight I have gained, being out of breath easily and just feeling really bloody awful.
I have now been "sober" for nearly three days. I still feel awful and I wish I was drinking. It's hard to find things to do when your evenings were 100% devoted to getting wasted and laughing at stupid facebook posts. I want to get back to the gym but I think I first need to detox a little before hitting the hard exercise.
I just want to know when or if I will ever feel good again? I miss being drunk, it was my happy time and now I need to find another thing to make me happy. It's hard but I know I need to give up the alcohol before it destroys my life and my health.
Well, I felt like I needed to get that off my chest.
I decided recently that I need to quit drinking. My health has deteriorated as a result of drinking. I have a good job, I haven't been arrested for drunk driving and I am pretty lucky in that respect. But it could've gone badly very quickly.
I got tired of waking up hungover and spending the day at work drinking lots of fluids and so on... I am tired of looking at all the weight I have gained, being out of breath easily and just feeling really bloody awful.
I have now been "sober" for nearly three days. I still feel awful and I wish I was drinking. It's hard to find things to do when your evenings were 100% devoted to getting wasted and laughing at stupid facebook posts. I want to get back to the gym but I think I first need to detox a little before hitting the hard exercise.
I just want to know when or if I will ever feel good again? I miss being drunk, it was my happy time and now I need to find another thing to make me happy. It's hard but I know I need to give up the alcohol before it destroys my life and my health.
Well, I felt like I needed to get that off my chest.
ANewBeginning
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,822
PS..... nice pic TJP. Always wanted to go diving... oh well, someday - right up there with jumping out of an airplane.
Welcome Jhay - we've all been there. I had close to two years once. You're back on the right track.
Welcome Jhay - we've all been there. I had close to two years once. You're back on the right track.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 72
Thanks Really4Real
It seems very strange tonight, it is Friday, but no bottle of wine and/or whiskeys waiting for me. It's funny how I always had an excuse to drink. Oh, it's Friday, oh my boss is an ass, oh I'm celebrating, oh I'm depressed, oh look the house is a mess, let me drink it away.
I can even feel my mind ticking over now with excuses to drink. I don't need to get up early tomorrow for work... blah blah blah...
It seems very strange tonight, it is Friday, but no bottle of wine and/or whiskeys waiting for me. It's funny how I always had an excuse to drink. Oh, it's Friday, oh my boss is an ass, oh I'm celebrating, oh I'm depressed, oh look the house is a mess, let me drink it away.
I can even feel my mind ticking over now with excuses to drink. I don't need to get up early tomorrow for work... blah blah blah...
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Join Date: May 2009
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Originally Posted by 30Sober
Thanks Really4Real
It seems very strange tonight, it is Friday, but no bottle of wine and/or whiskeys waiting for me. It's funny how I always had an excuse to drink. Oh, it's Friday, oh my boss is an ass, oh I'm celebrating, oh I'm depressed, oh look the house is a mess, let me drink it away.
I can even feel my mind ticking over now with excuses to drink. I don't need to get up early tomorrow for work... blah blah blah...
It seems very strange tonight, it is Friday, but no bottle of wine and/or whiskeys waiting for me. It's funny how I always had an excuse to drink. Oh, it's Friday, oh my boss is an ass, oh I'm celebrating, oh I'm depressed, oh look the house is a mess, let me drink it away.
I can even feel my mind ticking over now with excuses to drink. I don't need to get up early tomorrow for work... blah blah blah...
Bob
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Cleveland, Ohio
Posts: 41
Welcome to all of the newbies that I've missed over the past week or so. We're turning into a nice sized class... I hope to see each and every one of you in our class come next year!!
As for me, this third week has been the first week where I haven't had a strong craving for alcohol.
Last night was a good test... I came home and another family had stopped over to visit... my wife and the other couple were already drinking... just a couple of drinks each. The old me would have happily joined right in... nothing like cracking a beer open while walking in the door after work, and putting dinner off until after midnight.
But last night I grabbed a pop, snacked on chips, drank two or three more pops, actually ate dinner before the guests left, and felt like I was pretty sociable even though I always said I needed a beer or three to overcome my shyness.
My wife was concerned how I would be... I had her hide a full case of beer that I had stocked in the garage fridge when I first stopped, and yesterday I told her to put a few back in the fridge for the guests. I admit, it was a bit odd to see "my" beer sitting there, but I was never tempted to pop one open. She is quite proud of me, and has cut her drinking way down too, even though she was never close to having a problem drinking like me.
Tomorrow is another test... I'm going out of town for a night with a friend to a casino for gambling and a poker tourney. The good thing is that this friend never drank much, and won't drink a drop while with me since he knows I've been sober for almost 3 weeks.
Hopefully I'll do better at poker since I won't be drinking, I suspect that will be the case. I always seemed to go downhill as the empty beer cans piled up.
As for me, this third week has been the first week where I haven't had a strong craving for alcohol.
Last night was a good test... I came home and another family had stopped over to visit... my wife and the other couple were already drinking... just a couple of drinks each. The old me would have happily joined right in... nothing like cracking a beer open while walking in the door after work, and putting dinner off until after midnight.
But last night I grabbed a pop, snacked on chips, drank two or three more pops, actually ate dinner before the guests left, and felt like I was pretty sociable even though I always said I needed a beer or three to overcome my shyness.
My wife was concerned how I would be... I had her hide a full case of beer that I had stocked in the garage fridge when I first stopped, and yesterday I told her to put a few back in the fridge for the guests. I admit, it was a bit odd to see "my" beer sitting there, but I was never tempted to pop one open. She is quite proud of me, and has cut her drinking way down too, even though she was never close to having a problem drinking like me.
Tomorrow is another test... I'm going out of town for a night with a friend to a casino for gambling and a poker tourney. The good thing is that this friend never drank much, and won't drink a drop while with me since he knows I've been sober for almost 3 weeks.
Hopefully I'll do better at poker since I won't be drinking, I suspect that will be the case. I always seemed to go downhill as the empty beer cans piled up.
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welcome jhay and 30sober 
Things do getter and sobriety does get easier 30, but it took a lot longer than 3 days for me
I figure I drank for 20 years - it was reasonable to expect it would take weeks or even months to feel like I knew what I was doing and to feel 'good'...and that was the case for me.
That was hard to do for someone as used to instant gratification as I was, but I trusted the folks here @ SR who said hang in there, stay focused, work hard...and I did...and things got better
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Things do getter and sobriety does get easier 30, but it took a lot longer than 3 days for me
I figure I drank for 20 years - it was reasonable to expect it would take weeks or even months to feel like I knew what I was doing and to feel 'good'...and that was the case for me.
That was hard to do for someone as used to instant gratification as I was, but I trusted the folks here @ SR who said hang in there, stay focused, work hard...and I did...and things got better
D
Drunk in Recovery
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 143
Adding my voice to the welcome committee. Dee has the right attitude -- it took a little while to get in this deep; I know I'm not going to get out of it in a matter of days.
That said, I definitely think my first week sober (out of 22 days so far) was the hardest. Mostly because everything was new and not-drinking was always at the forefront of my mind. It's like telling a child not to think about an elephant for five minutes -- think about anything but an elephant. Of course all the kid can suddenly think about is elephants!!
I'm on my way out to my Friday meeting. Wishing all of you a very happy weekend!
That said, I definitely think my first week sober (out of 22 days so far) was the hardest. Mostly because everything was new and not-drinking was always at the forefront of my mind. It's like telling a child not to think about an elephant for five minutes -- think about anything but an elephant. Of course all the kid can suddenly think about is elephants!!
I'm on my way out to my Friday meeting. Wishing all of you a very happy weekend!
Sept 30, 2010
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Southern California
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Hi jhay... et al
Stopping is easy.... I have done it a thousand times.... I too went seven months this year before relapsing. I drank on and off for 5 weeks after that, then I stopped for 30 days, relapsed again for one vicious week and here I am again...day 23 I believe. I have actually been sober 10 times to 1 drunk for the past three years. Somehow I loose it after going 6 or 7 months.
I feel great this week, but I need to develop a mechanism to deal with relapses. In another thread someone talked about a tightening spring. In my case it is like a pressure cooker where the steam inside of me builds up so much that I just loose track and pick up just "one" glass of wine at a dinner party or just "one" scotch at a weddings reception and three or four weeks later I am closet drinking everything in my way until I get a hold of myself and stop.
I feel I am 1000% committed to stop this time around.
Stopping is easy.... I have done it a thousand times.... I too went seven months this year before relapsing. I drank on and off for 5 weeks after that, then I stopped for 30 days, relapsed again for one vicious week and here I am again...day 23 I believe. I have actually been sober 10 times to 1 drunk for the past three years. Somehow I loose it after going 6 or 7 months.
I feel great this week, but I need to develop a mechanism to deal with relapses. In another thread someone talked about a tightening spring. In my case it is like a pressure cooker where the steam inside of me builds up so much that I just loose track and pick up just "one" glass of wine at a dinner party or just "one" scotch at a weddings reception and three or four weeks later I am closet drinking everything in my way until I get a hold of myself and stop.
I feel I am 1000% committed to stop this time around.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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Hwy 30, day 12 for me. First 3 days of withdrawal were terrible, felt awful probably shoulda seen a doc but I'm insane so thats the way I roll. Day 4 started to feel better, actually ate something. Day 5 better. Day 6 awesome, started working out again. Been to the gym the past 6 days in a row and feel like a champion, loving feeling so powerful and good. I was a bodybuilder but haven't lifted for 4 months due to my binging, lost 20 lbs of muscle that the alchohol just destroyed. This feels so good I am not going back.
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