Class of December 2021 Part 2
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Originally Posted by samwitch 
Hi all-
I'm feeling a bit wobbly now. Really fighting the drinking urges. Figured I'd come on here and post instead of giving in to the AV which is telling me--I'm super worried about a friend with health issues and a doc appointment tomorrow--that wine will help me calm down and relax. And one more night can't hurt, I can always quit tomorrow after the "stress" is over. But that's the thing isn't it? It's never over, there are always going to be challenges. I'm holding strong--actually just writing this helps.
I'm feeling a bit wobbly now. Really fighting the drinking urges. Figured I'd come on here and post instead of giving in to the AV which is telling me--I'm super worried about a friend with health issues and a doc appointment tomorrow--that wine will help me calm down and relax. And one more night can't hurt, I can always quit tomorrow after the "stress" is over. But that's the thing isn't it? It's never over, there are always going to be challenges. I'm holding strong--actually just writing this helps.
Not worth it, stay strong there!
s ❤️
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Originally Posted by samwitch
Hi all-
I'm feeling a bit wobbly now. Really fighting the drinking urges. Figured I'd come on here and post instead of giving in to the AV which is telling me--I'm super worried about a friend with health issues and a doc appointment tomorrow--that wine will help me calm down and relax. And one more night can't hurt, I can always quit tomorrow after the "stress" is over. But that's the thing isn't it? It's never over, there are always going to be challenges. I'm holding strong--actually just writing this helps.
I'm feeling a bit wobbly now. Really fighting the drinking urges. Figured I'd come on here and post instead of giving in to the AV which is telling me--I'm super worried about a friend with health issues and a doc appointment tomorrow--that wine will help me calm down and relax. And one more night can't hurt, I can always quit tomorrow after the "stress" is over. But that's the thing isn't it? It's never over, there are always going to be challenges. I'm holding strong--actually just writing this helps.
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5 days in. Just had a call from a friend who spent the day at the bar yesterday for football. He says his car was parked sideways in the spot and he is embarrassed because this is a condo community at the beach (I also own a condo in same community, but it is a second home so I'm not there currently). He is my drinking friend. But I love him also like family. But our common connection is partien. I've told him I'm not drinking but I think he forgets because he is already asking me if we go get drinks as soon as I get back to my own condo at the beach in the same community. My instinct goes to the good times we have. It is so much fun and I still want to maintain our friendship but it won't be the same. I feel a loss and sadness like someone is dying because I can't seem to think it will be the same if I'm not also drinking. This isn't my first rodeo I know how it goes. Am I really missing out? Maybe he wants to change and I can be the beacon of light? This is going to get really difficult when I get down there. Everyone is my age, no kids or empty nest and care free beach bums... (Although, we are all smart property owners so not really bums).
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I lost a lot of drinking buddies Misc but my true friends understood if I kept drinking I would die.
Time will tell which camp this guy is in.
Fun and friendship do not vanish when we get sober, it's often a little different maybe but it's definitely not a loss in my experience.
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Time will tell which camp this guy is in.
Fun and friendship do not vanish when we get sober, it's often a little different maybe but it's definitely not a loss in my experience.
D
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best wishes for a good result for your friend Sam - and no, I think drinking would ramp up your anxiety probably.
You can only do what you think is best Red - try and not write yourself off today tho.
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You can only do what you think is best Red - try and not write yourself off today tho.
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Originally Posted by freedomfries
Hooked up to an IV again as I'm trying to sleep. Oh, I hate hospitals. Oh well, Wednesday isn't too far away and I'll be free. And I never have to wind up here because of alcohol again.
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Originally Posted by Misc72
5 days in. Just had a call from a friend who spent the day at the bar yesterday for football. He says his car was parked sideways in the spot and he is embarrassed because this is a condo community at the beach (I also own a condo in same community, but it is a second home so I'm not there currently). He is my drinking friend. But I love him also like family. But our common connection is partien. I've told him I'm not drinking but I think he forgets because he is already asking me if we go get drinks as soon as I get back to my own condo at the beach in the same community. My instinct goes to the good times we have. It is so much fun and I still want to maintain our friendship but it won't be the same. I feel a loss and sadness like someone is dying because I can't seem to think it will be the same if I'm not also drinking. This isn't my first rodeo I know how it goes. Am I really missing out? Maybe he wants to change and I can be the beacon of light? This is going to get really difficult when I get down there. Everyone is my age, no kids or empty nest and care free beach bums... (Although, we are all smart property owners so not really bums).
I'm sure hearing this from someone who 3 hours ago was wavering about having a drink seems ridiculous, but I do really believe you could be the the one who forges the path.
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Originally Posted by freedomfries
Yeah I might do some sort of group, maybe SMART. AA was never a great fit for me, I tried it on and off for a few years.
Originally Posted by freedomfries
Hooked up to an IV again as I'm trying to sleep. Oh, I hate hospitals. Oh well, Wednesday isn't too far away and I'll be free. And I never have to wind up here because of alcohol again.
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I had a nice date night with my husband tonight. We got fondue from a local old tavern. Really cozy place with a fire. I’m not going to lie I did get an urge or 2, but I quickly squashed them out. I was able to enjoy a decaf cappuccino and one of their speciality desserts (will have to run that one off later)
Now we’re relaxing on the couch and I’m about to make another cup of tea. Tomorrow I start a new role at the company I work for. It’s a whole new world and I’m excited for all the new things to learn.
much love to you all especially to those who just joined. Welcome!
Now we’re relaxing on the couch and I’m about to make another cup of tea. Tomorrow I start a new role at the company I work for. It’s a whole new world and I’m excited for all the new things to learn.
much love to you all especially to those who just joined. Welcome!
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