24Hour Recovery Connections Part 362
Member
Join Date: Aug 2017
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,837
Originally Posted by venuscat 
So I feel a bit dumb.....I should have read everything first. 
So glad you told us all of this love.....OMG.....what a lot of stress and pressure.
Not sure what the answer is re moving or staying but I am sure you and your husband can work out a solution together. One step at a time. There is no point trying to think though everything when you feel crummy after a rough night....just know that you will find the answers.
With help....from us, and with your husband.
More love. ♥♥
PS....I would love to talk to you and go through every single thing you just said. Available if you want. ♥♥
So glad you told us all of this love.....OMG.....what a lot of stress and pressure.
Not sure what the answer is re moving or staying but I am sure you and your husband can work out a solution together. One step at a time. There is no point trying to think though everything when you feel crummy after a rough night....just know that you will find the answers.
With help....from us, and with your husband.
More love.
♥♥PS....I would love to talk to you and go through every single thing you just said. Available if you want.
♥♥I've managed to work a bit on my mindset too. I was really hating myself today but I decided NO MORE. If we can show this much love and care to one another then I can start showing myself some love and compassion. I feel much better. It's the right place to start. I can't carry on bullying myself like this and I know that drinking is a symptom of how I feel about myself. I deserve better than that. It's been some day. I'll PM you later.
Love you and I think you are totally awesome. I understand why you all invest so heavily in this thread, it can change your life if you let it. Gabe xx
tgirl!!!!! ❤️ 
. congrats, again!!!!! ❤️
Member
Join Date: Aug 2017
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,837
Originally Posted by Delilah1
Hi Gabe,
First, I am so glad you are here posting. This is not easy, especially in the beginning, but I can promise you as you get further into your sobriety some of those emotions around failure, and anxiety will start to fade, and you will have found healthier ways to deal with them.
There are some wonderful podcasts, and videos around mindfulness, particularly the fear of failure that may be helpful to listen to.
I can hear myself in some of your inner conversations: maybe I'm not an alcoholic, maybe I can have a drink every now and then... I tried this unsuccessfully for several years. I would alternate between periods of sobriety, and then convince myself I was fine tinmiderste, but the drinking always crept back up on me.
Try logging in here as soon as you think about drinking, the fact that you are here this morning sends a clear message that you really do want to stop.
Have an honest conversation with your husband about drinking, both his and yours, share how you are feeling. Let him share how he is feeling about living there, and how it may be affecting him. Consider talking to a counselor together, or on your own.
You need to start the hard work of early sobriety again today, but it can be the last day one for you, and I promise in a few months you will feel a new energy, and when you hit that one year mark you will feel like you can do anything, and it keeps getting better.
You've got this my friend!!!
❤️Delilah
First, I am so glad you are here posting. This is not easy, especially in the beginning, but I can promise you as you get further into your sobriety some of those emotions around failure, and anxiety will start to fade, and you will have found healthier ways to deal with them.
There are some wonderful podcasts, and videos around mindfulness, particularly the fear of failure that may be helpful to listen to.
I can hear myself in some of your inner conversations: maybe I'm not an alcoholic, maybe I can have a drink every now and then... I tried this unsuccessfully for several years. I would alternate between periods of sobriety, and then convince myself I was fine tinmiderste, but the drinking always crept back up on me.
Try logging in here as soon as you think about drinking, the fact that you are here this morning sends a clear message that you really do want to stop.
Have an honest conversation with your husband about drinking, both his and yours, share how you are feeling. Let him share how he is feeling about living there, and how it may be affecting him. Consider talking to a counselor together, or on your own.
You need to start the hard work of early sobriety again today, but it can be the last day one for you, and I promise in a few months you will feel a new energy, and when you hit that one year mark you will feel like you can do anything, and it keeps getting better.
You've got this my friend!!!
❤️Delilah
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by Gabe1980
I'm really sorry but I just can't do this anymore. I feel like I'm bouncing off the walls of a tiny room and I just want to scream. Everyone is so supportive here and have been so wonderful to me but I just don't think I'm strong enough. It's having to socialise sober. It's terrifying. All I do is think of drinking, all day every day. I'm done.
Thank you for all your help. You all incredible. Gabe x
Thank you for all your help. You all incredible. Gabe x
No.
You can do this.
Early times can be so tough with so many ups and downs and doubts.
Please hang in; sobriety and recovery are so very incredible.
Socializing is different in sobriety; it is one of those things to which we have learn to adjust (and mostly from within). We have to examine that issue and resolve the underlying cause. For me, it was a feeling of inadequacy. I never looked to what I liked myself only what I perceived were imperfections. Some of those 'imperfections' were what (as it turns out) I actually liked about myself - the rest of the world, shoo.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by WeaverBird
Hi Gabe 😕 I sent you a pm. Keep Going.
Weav in for 24 more at 9:05 working on accepting I’m snowed in for the day. Otherwise, I’ll still be snowed in but I’ll have cabin fever on top of it.
Will go on a rescue mission for my little chickadees in a bit. Water is quite important for them when it freezes hard, I think.
Pure grace for you all today and my prayer is that we never lose a person to alcohol ever again. I wouldn’t wish this disease on a politician.
Weav in for 24 more at 9:05 working on accepting I’m snowed in for the day. Otherwise, I’ll still be snowed in but I’ll have cabin fever on top of it.
Will go on a rescue mission for my little chickadees in a bit. Water is quite important for them when it freezes hard, I think.
Pure grace for you all today and my prayer is that we never lose a person to alcohol ever again. I wouldn’t wish this disease on a politician.
Kneeling beside you in that prayer.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2017
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,837
Originally Posted by joandmelandhan
Oh Gabe ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm gutted for you sweetheart.
We are your sober family.
We care more than you know
You are not alone through this.
PLEASE stay close to is and reach out day or night.
Take care today xxxxx
I'm gutted for you sweetheart.
We are your sober family.
We care more than you know
You are not alone through this.
PLEASE stay close to is and reach out day or night.
Take care today xxxxx
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by tomls
Gabe,do you have to socialize? I had to stop doing that when I first got sober. I was willing to do whatever it took to stop drinking. I knew that I was not going to live very long if I didn't and I would have been miserable until it happened. You certainly have a choice but a blind person could see the right one. Best wishes for you.
, tomls
for being here, tomls.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by julietUK
Gabe, please please hang in there. It will pass. This feeling will pass and you will feel good again. As tomls says you don't have to socialise til you feel you can. And lots of socialising does not involve drinking; a nice walk, afternoon tea, the cinema. Please stay close to us and ride this feeling out.
Its 9.20am here in the UK. Please count me in for another 24 hour sober and clean.
Its 9.20am here in the UK. Please count me in for another 24 hour sober and clean.
, juliet
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by Gabe1980
I'm sorry I should have been clear, I'm already back at day one. I'm so ill I can't get up. I can't do the day 1 thing or the recovery thing. I'm just going to lay here. Thank you so much for the PM's. Don't worry I'll be ok.
Hugs, honey.
Be gentle with yourself. Stay hydrated; just sip on the water for today but take lots of sips.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,886
Originally Posted by joandmelandhan
Oh Gabe ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm gutted for you sweetheart.
We are your sober family.
We care more than you know
You are not alone through this.
PLEASE stay close to is and reach out day or night.
Take care today xxxxx
I'm gutted for you sweetheart.
We are your sober family.
We care more than you know
You are not alone through this.
PLEASE stay close to is and reach out day or night.
Take care today xxxxx
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
