Originally Posted by SnoozyQ

Hi everyone.

Crois, I'm sorry for your distress re your first real argument with your partner,
The first one is by far the most upsetting as it breaks all our illusions of the perfect relationship.
When in fact , this is a real relationship. Try not to question it too much in your head. It only hurts so much because you really love him. We are always hurt more by the ones we love.

Add to the fact he has a child that has to fit into the dynamics of your relationship. It's bound to be fraught with challenges.

I know this was the hardest part when I started seeing Shaun, when they are not your own children it's different. But it's workable.

I agree with what Gilmer said. He was probably hurting too.

It's hard to know just what to do and how to react .

You just need to address it and hopefully you will both be on the same page.im positive you will get past this and move on. Try not to dwell.

Let us know how you go lovely xxx

Ladybug , I'm thinking of you honey

Suze I hope you're feeling better too love xxx

Thinking of all my beautiful Julyers..... newbies & oldies xxxx

Haven't been too well over the weekend & couldn't go to work Sat. Was very nauseous & dizzy.
I think I just got a bit run down. I'm feeling much better today but I'm taking it easy and spending the day in bed.

We still don't have a definitive answer re Shaun's cancer.

We had apts every day last week with so many tests .
He is booked in to have a mediastinoscopy on 13 th he will be in hospital a couple of days as they have to make an incision in his throat to get to his chest and take a biopsy of his lung .

It's getting quite exhausting but what can ya do ?

Originally Posted by Dee74

I'm sorry Crois.

I still hope you can work it out tho.

When I had my first real argument with Mrs Dee I thought it was over, but I learned that people can have differences and still work it out - wishing you the best

Wishing you and Shaun the best too Wendy - I'm not well at all today so I empathise - and with you too Bob

winter is really here.

Hi Leigh Gilmer Leshar Mags Suze, Croutie Lulu and anyone I missed. Early night and hopefully I'll be ticketyboo tomorrow

D

Originally Posted by Croissant

Thanks so much, everyone. I really needed to see your words of reassurance and comfort. Leshar, yes, it's hard to compromise at times, and I'm here of course catastropising at times. It's what us alcoholics do well under stress. :/

Bob and Dee, your manly advice is most welcome, and thank you. Yes, time out Bob, might be the trick. I must say, he has not contacted me again today. I drove to work and thought I'd have to stop the car a few times to vomit, I feel so sick inside and hurt.

Dear Snooze. Exactly what you said too. The first fight is the hardest, and knowing he's not contacted me, has made me so sad as the day wore on today. I feel it's a bit passive-aggressive though. Am I supposed to sit here and wonder....that part has actually hurt more than him walking away from me when I got upset about something.

I feel like not giving anything of myself anymore. In myself I can feel myself shutting down. Not wanting to trust again.

I almost broke down at work in tears in the bathroom. And I can tell you, that is huge for me to cry at work.

Originally Posted by Leshar

All the cast and crew sent in suggestions for the play title and we had to vote. There was a tie between two titles, mine was one of them! So, the director/writer has combined the two! I'm pleased!
But you know, life is just life, sober is better, but I'm still subject to the vagaries of my mood disorder and have to actively do something when I get to brooding, lost love, lost profession, pondering my usefulness, and purpose in the world. Like last night. The dark creeps in and I get brooding. A bit worried about visiting my bro who is so self centred and who drinks a lot. So I will stay close here.
Oh, my chippie is visiting! Off to feed him and cop a feel! The only one I'll be getting from a guy for sometime me thinks! I think he's a guy!
Love to all.

Originally Posted by Croutie

Hope you are feeling better Snoozy...
Hope Shaun gets some answers from this next procedure. You are quite right; what can you do? It is very frustrating and exhausting waiting for answers.
Take care of yourself Honey.

Sending healing wishes your way Dee. Ihope you are better today.

Much love and support to all of you wonderful Julyers.
Thinking of you all and hoping your week is a good one.

Croutie

Originally Posted by Gilmer

When I was growing up, a "chippie" was slang for a little hussy (at least according to my dad).