Leshar

Dear Croissant,
I am so sorry that you feel so disheartened. Relationships are so difficult at times. I don't know if I would be able for it anymore. But loneliness is hard to bear too. I think a little time and distance as the others say may bring some clarity. I imagine your partner must be torn, trying to accommodate both you and his child. I'm sorry you have a tough time ahead this week. Perhaps, though, it's better to be busy atm?
I'm just not busy enough with too much time alone to brood. There's no real answer, is there? I suppose we just have to eke out moments of joy in the day, or at the very least moments of freedom from dreariness and sadness.
A quote from a new book I just began: "Life is but a day at most". Robert Burns.
Thinking of you and also love to this special group.

SoberLeigh

resolute50

Hello gang.

Sorry Crois, but perhaps "absence will make the heart grow fonder".
Sometimes it's good to be alone. Wise men say, only fools rush in.
Love can make a short time feel like eternity. I trust that if he is a wise man and knows you like we do, he would do best to stay close by you.

It started out a nice Sunday here with abundant sunshine. And ended the day with rain again. I don't think there' a muscle in my body that doesn't hurt.
I think I overdid it yesterday cutting wood. This 50+ yo. guy needs to slow down some. Even though my 70+ yo dad was working with me.
But, I was the one hooking chains to logs and running the saw. Oh well, maybe I'll get in shape again.

My wife has a meeting with the radiologist on Wed.
I will take some time off to go with her for a couple hours.
It's always a challenge.But, with God's grace we will get through this.
Love you all.

Gilmer

Hope you get a good, long rest tonight, Bob.

SoberLeigh

A very long, hot bath might help with the aches, Bob.

Hope the appointment with the radiologist goes well on Wednesday. Prayers, as always, for a full recovery.

SoberLeigh

Hi, Gilmer.

SoberLeigh

Goodnight,mood morning, Julyers.

Sleep well; enjoy the day.

SoberLeigh

Wishing you love and praying for peace.

Gilmer

Good night, Leigh.

resolute50

Not really a bath person. I'm more of a lay on the bed and complain guy.lol
Thanks for the prayer SoberL.
And thanks for making our little class so much brighter with your caring post.

Thanks Gilmer.
I'll probably have no issues sleeping. It's getting up that seems to be my problem.

SoberLeigh

Night-night; a very tired Leigh is about to head off.

Croutie

Thank you ...
so sad.
So much love to all....

SnoozyQ

Hi everyone.

Crois, I'm sorry for your distress re your first real argument with your partner,
The first one is by far the most upsetting as it breaks all our illusions of the perfect relationship.
When in fact , this is a real relationship. Try not to question it too much in your head. It only hurts so much because you really love him. We are always hurt more by the ones we love.

Add to the fact he has a child that has to fit into the dynamics of your relationship. It's bound to be fraught with challenges.

I know this was the hardest part when I started seeing Shaun, when they are not your own children it's different. But it's workable.

I agree with what Gilmer said. He was probably hurting too.

It's hard to know just what to do and how to react .

You just need to address it and hopefully you will both be on the same page.im positive you will get past this and move on. Try not to dwell.

Let us know how you go lovely xxx

Ladybug , I'm thinking of you honey

Suze I hope you're feeling better too love xxx

Thinking of all my beautiful Julyers..... newbies & oldies xxxx

Haven't been too well over the weekend & couldn't go to work Sat. Was very nauseous & dizzy.
I think I just got a bit run down. I'm feeling much better today but I'm taking it easy and spending the day in bed.

We still don't have a definitive answer re Shaun's cancer.

We had apts every day last week with so many tests .
He is booked in to have a mediastinoscopy on 13 th he will be in hospital a couple of days as they have to make an incision in his throat to get to his chest and take a biopsy of his lung .

It's getting quite exhausting but what can ya do ?

Dee74

I'm sorry Crois.

I still hope you can work it out tho.

When I had my first real argument with Mrs Dee I thought it was over, but I learned that people can have differences and still work it out - wishing you the best

Wishing you and Shaun the best too Wendy - I'm not well at all today so I empathise - and with you too Bob

winter is really here.

Hi Leigh Gilmer Leshar Mags Suze, Croutie Lulu and anyone I missed. Early night and hopefully I'll be ticketyboo tomorrow

D

SnoozyQ

Dee so hope you feel better tomorrow love xxxx

Dee74

Thanks Wendy

D

Gilmer

(((Dee and Snooz)))

((((((((Shaun))))))))

Croissant

Thanks so much, everyone. I really needed to see your words of reassurance and comfort. Leshar, yes, it's hard to compromise at times, and I'm here of course catastropising at times. It's what us alcoholics do well under stress. :/

Bob and Dee, your manly advice is most welcome, and thank you. Yes, time out Bob, might be the trick. I must say, he has not contacted me again today. I drove to work and thought I'd have to stop the car a few times to vomit, I feel so sick inside and hurt.

Dear Snooze. Exactly what you said too. The first fight is the hardest, and knowing he's not contacted me, has made me so sad as the day wore on today. I feel it's a bit passive-aggressive though. Am I supposed to sit here and wonder....that part has actually hurt more than him walking away from me when I got upset about something.

I feel like not giving anything of myself anymore. In myself I can feel myself shutting down. Not wanting to trust again.

I almost broke down at work in tears in the bathroom. And I can tell you, that is huge for me to cry at work.

Gilmer

(((((Croissant)))))

Leshar

Thinking of you Snoozy and Dee. I hope whatever it is that ails you both will not be long lasting.

Dear Croissant
I am so sorry you feel so awful. Only you can decide how much of yourself you are willing to give. But the silent treatment, for want of a better term is horrible. Thinking of you. I really hope matters will resolve. You are very brave to have opened yourself up to a relationship in the first place. Perhaps it's another hurdle to negotiate, this disagreement. I wouldn't shut down though, I mean walk away.
The joys of a loving companion are so worth the struggles. As long as you feel loved and cherished and respected. I think too many women just will accept rubbish from a partner, for fear of being alone. I don't see you like this at all though.
Anyway, much love and hope to you.

Snoozy, dear, I hope Shaun's procedure goes well and that it will yield some answers. How's his mood?